I-diplomacy iyancipha ekusebenziseni kwale mihla. Ixhomekeke ekubeni sisicaka esincinci kwezopolitiko, ngelixa kufanele ukuba ibe yeyona nto iphambili engqondweni yomntu wonke. Ayisiyonto yokuba nobuqili, inkohliso, okanye ukuthanda kakhulu. I-diplomacy imalunga nokunxibelelana nabanye kwiinjongo ezamkelweyo.
Inokuguqulela njani le nto kubomi bemihla ngemihla? Elula: sinokunyaniseka njengoko sixoxa ngomsebenzi wethu, ikhaya kunye nobomi boluntu.
Singakwenza oku. Siyazi ukuba sazi njani phantse kwasekuzalweni. Kukho intetho Yonke into ebendifuna ukuyazi ngobomi ndiyifunde kwisikolo sabantwana abancinci. Ngelishwa, njengoko sikhula ebomini bethu, sihlala silibale iziseko. Endaweni yoko, sifundiswa yimithombo eyahlukeneyo yokungathembeki ukuba sikholelwe ukuba ubomi, ukuba buza kuthathwa njengomntu omdala kwaye aqolileyo , mayibe inzima Unxibelelwano kufuneka lube ii-webs ezixineneyo ukuba kufuneka idabi , kufuneke si Zabalaza , kufuneke si phumelela , kufuneke si phumelela , Zonke ziziboleka kwitoni yokungeva kwizakhono zonxibelelwano kunye nobudlelwane.
Kwaye emva koko siyazibuza ukuba yintoni le singalunganga ngayo.
“Mamela. Yibanenceba. Yiba nembeko kwaye ube luncedo. Nyaniseka . Yabelana. ”
La ngamagama ahlala elityalwa, kodwa aluncedo olukhulu. Kwilizwe lethu elihlala liguquka lomsebenzi, ubudlelwane, kunye namandla okuphila, mhlawumbi ukuvuselelwa kwezi ndawo ayisiyombono imbi.
1. Izakhono zokuphulaphula
Kukangaphi sijongana nengxoxo engapheliyo, nokuba kusemsebenzini okanye ekhaya okanye ngezenzo okanye ngamazwi? Lowo uzijikeleza nje ngokungathi uyabhonga enomsindo rhoqo ephindaphindeka phaya. Silibele ukuba kufanelekile ukuba simamele abantu.
Into yokuqala esiyifundiswayo esikolweni okanye ekhaya kuhlala kukumamela, apho zonke ezinye izibonelelo zonxibelelwano zihamba: mamela isikhokelo (sebenza), mamela ukuqonda (uthando, ubuhlobo, imfesane), mamela ulwazi (ukukhula komntu ), mamela ngenxa yokhuseleko (ubomi).
Amaxesha amaninzi, nangona kunjalo, sifuna yethu ilizwi ukuba liviwe, nokuba akukho ncoko yokwenyani ibanjiweyo. Ukunyanzelwa unayo Ukubeka izimvo, ukungenelela, okanye ngandlela thile sizenze isikhungo sokuqwalaselwa ngamaxesha onke kuye kwaba kukugula. Akukho ndawo ixhaphake ngaphezu kwe-intanethi, apho i-ego kunye ne-Id ibhengeza ecaleni into engaqondakaliyo ukumamela ngokuthanda i-quip yamva nje, beka phantsi, okanye ususe uluvo.
Kodwa ukuba singamamela phambi kokuba 'imilomo' yethu ivuleke, sinokufumanisa ukuba akufuneki ukuba siyivule loo milomo rhoqo emva kwayo yonke loo nto. Kukho into yomlingo eneneni ukuva into ethethwa ngomnye umntu, kunye nenyaniso yokuba umntu othile ufuna ukufikelela kuthi ngendlela ethembekileyo neyinyani kufuneka ibangele ukuba kuhlonitshwe ukudibana ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo kweengqondo ezithetha ngegama elithi 'unxibelelwano.' Uluntu. Yiba kunye. Ukuba sinako Linda kwaye simamele, sinokufunda into eyenza unxibelelwano lwethu nehlabathi lube ngcono kakhulu.
2. Ukuba Nobubele
Ngaba kubonakala ngathi ububele buye baba yinto engaqhelekanga? Okanye ukuba uye wehliselwa kweli lizwe lokutya-inja kwilizwe lobuthathaka?
Ingabonakala ngaloo ndlela njengoko sihamba ngengxolo yemihla ngemihla ephoswayo, kodwa ayiyonyani. Sibona ubungqina bamandla ayo kunye nokuvakala kwayo ngaphakathi kuthi ngalo lonke ixesha, ngeendlela ezinkulu nezincinci.
Kuyamangalisa ukuba le ngxelo ilula ifuna ukuvuselelwa, kodwa: ububele buhamba indlela ende. Sonke sibonile imbaleki inceda umntu okhuphisana naye owileyo, abathi emva koko bobabini baqhubeke nokufumana ukwamkelwa nokugqwesa kunoyena mntu uphumelele ugqatso. Siyazi ukuba isisa sexesha, isiqu sakho, kunye nomoya ubuyela kuthi kabini, kwaye ukungazicingeli kunye / okanye ukwenza into elungileyo kusenza sikhanye emehlweni abanye.
Umzuzu wobubele yeyona nto ibalaseleyo yoluntu enokuchithwa kwisenzo esilula. Ububele buqinisa iibhondi kwaye buvula amathuba amnandi okukhula. Bonke ubudlelwane, nokuba luhlobo luni, buxhomekeke kolo hlobo lomlingo.
3. Izakhono zoNxibelelwano
Ukumamela kunye nobubele buhamba kunye nonxibelelwano, kuba ngaphandle kwezo mpawu zangaphambili, unxibelelwano lokwenyani alunakuqala ukwenzeka kwasekuqaleni. Kukho inqanaba eliphezulu lovelwano olubandakanyekayo ekubeni nakho ukubandakanya abanye kunxibelelwano ngokuchasene nokwenza nje izandi ezichongiweyo. Ukuba asikwazi ukunxibelelana neemfuno zethu, iimfuno zethu, kunye neenjongo zethu, silindele njani ukuba abanye baqale ukuhlangabezana nazo?
Ngokuphucula eyethu izakhono zokunxibelelana , sibonisa ukuba ngubani kwaye siyintoni kubo bonke abaya kuphulaphula. Iingcinga zibonisa indlela esilibona ngayo ilizwe, kwaye zonke iinzame zonxibelelwano zityhila olo luvo. Ukuba eyona njongo yethu iphambili kukutyhala abanye ngamazwi, unxibelelwano aluphumeleli. Akukho bhulorho yakhiwe, akukho bond iqulunqwe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kukufuna kunye nokuhlonipha igalelo lomnye, ukudibanisa iimbono zehlabathi kumava ekwabelwana ngawo, nokuba luthando okanye iprojekthi yeqela, impumelelo ayifumaneki kuphela, kodwa iphantse yaqinisekiswa.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iindlela ezi-6 ezingezizo ezokuxoxa utyhala iqabane lakho kude
- Izinto ezi-7 zabantu abazinzileyo ngokweemvakalelo Benza ngokwahlukileyo
- Kutheni le nto unyango oluthe cwaka lilingana nokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo kunye nendlela yokuphendula
- Indlela yokujongana nabantu abaNgenangqondo
4. Ukuvuma Isiphoso
Mhlawumbi ezona zenzo zonxibelelwano ziintlobo zeencoko esinazo nathi xa siphazamile. Iincoko zangaphakathi zinokuba nzima kakhulu. Kulula kakhulu ukuphinda-phinda ukuzikhusela xa sisenza impazamo, senze into engalunganga, okanye sisilele kwaphela ukwenza oko besiceliwe ukuba sikwenze, kodwa ukukwazi ukuvuma iziphoso zomntu ngaphandle kolo lindelo lokuba kulindeleke ukuba aziphose kuye ikrele-kulapho imfuneko khona Amakhaka okuzikhusela Kuvela - kuthetha ukuba sinokuzibona njengoko sinjalo: lomntu.
Ukuba isiphelo sehlabathi siza kuza ngenxa yesiphoso esizimeleyo, esisodwa esenzekayo, akukho namnye kuthi obeya kuba elapha ngoku. Umhlaba, kunye nobunzima bawo obumangalisayo, uyazi indlela yokuhamba ujikeleze iimpazamo uthando luyakwazi ukuhamba. Kwaye nayiphi na indawo yokusebenza exabisa ixesha lomntu iya kuba ne-ethos efanayo. Akukho mntu uhlala echanekileyo, akukho mntu ongenakusilela. Ukuba nobubugwenxa, kunokuba usitshayele phantsi kombhoxo, kusenza ukuba sibekeke kwaye sibe ngabantu bokwenyani emehlweni abanye.
5. Yabelana ngobutyebi bakho
Inzima, inyani engenakuphepheka: Ukuba asifuni ukwabelana ngeziqu zethu zangaphakathi, asikho kubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Ukuba asizimisele ukwabelana ngamakhono ethu, asikho kwindawo yomsebenzi. Sonke siyazi - kwaye uphephe - abantu abaziphatha ngakumbi njengeTolkien's Gollum ngezixhobo zabo, ezibambekayo nezingaphakathi, kunokuba mhlawumbi nguBilbo, Frodo, okanye uSam. Akukho nto inikiweyo, akukho nto ityhiliweyo. Aba bantu bahlala beyimbambano yokungazithembi, ukungasebenzi, nokungafikeleleki.
'Yabelana nabanye' yenye yezinto zokuqala esizifundiswayo, phantse emva kokuba siqale phantsi kweli hlabathi. Ukwabelana kubandakanya zonke izakhono zokunxibelelana zangaphambili, kodwa kongeza okokugqibela, okutyebisa kakhulu: kudala ngokubanzi 'thina' ngaphandle kwezahlukileyo. Idala uluntu kunye nokuzimisela ukuphonononga kunye, okukhokelela (kubhetele) ukuthanda, inzuzo, ukuvelisa izinto ezintsha, ukufumanisa, ukwanda. Mhlawumbi nosindiso, kuba ukuba asinako ukwabelana ngehlabathi, ngokuqinisekileyo umhlaba uya kuzishukumisa.
Inani lilonke
Akukho geometry inzima ebandakanyekayo ekuqinisekiseni ukuba unxibelelwano lwethu nabanye luluhle kwaye lunesiqhamo kubo bonke ababandakanyekayo kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Siyazi ukuba nobubele, siyazi ukubonisa abanye intlonelo yokubamamela, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo siyazi ukuba akukho mntu ufuna ukudlala nomntwana owoyikayo ebaleni lokudlala.
Kutheni le nto ilizwe lifuna ukuhlaziywa kwakhona? Kungenxa yokuba icandelo elinzima lifikelela kweyakho 'ikhowudi yesiseko' ukufumana umkhondo olungileyo wokuya ebantwini. Oko kungathatha kancinci ukwenza, kodwa kufanelekile, kuba kulapho ke sifikelela kwizinto ezilula, eziya kuthi rhoqo ngoku zisenokufuna le khosi yokuzihlaziya kwizibalo ezisisiseko (enye dibanisa enye sithi), kodwa zihlala zichanekile kwaye ngokuchanekileyo ikhondo lesenzo.
