Ubomi busithatha kuhambo oluthile olunomdla, kwaye ukuba nabahlobo abahle kunye nathi kuhambo olude kunokwenza awona maxesha mahle kunye namaxesha amabi kakhulu ukuba onwabe ngakumbi.
Oko kwathiwa, ukuba nabahlobo abakhohlakeleyo, abahlobo bobuxoki banokwenza eyona meko intle kakhulu yoyike, kwaye izilingo zobomi ezimbi kakhulu… isihogo.
Abahlobo bokwenyani bakho ukulungiselela wena xa ubadinga, bonwabile kwaye bakuxhasa, kwaye bayakukubiza nge-bullsh * t yakho okanye ukhetho olonwabisayo lobomi kuba bayakuthanda, hayi kuba befuna ukukwenza uzisole.
Apha ngezantsi kukho ezinye zeempawu eziboniswe ngabahlobo bobuxoki: jonga kubo kwaye uzibuze ukuba ngaba nabani na kwisangqa sakho sentlalo ubandakanya ezi mpawu.
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Iimpawu ze-14 zabaHlobo beNkohliso: Ungayibona njani iMayile kwiVidiyo1. Uva Kubo Kuphela Xa Baswele Okanye Bafuna Into
“Hayi, hee… khange ndithethe nawe ngonaphakade, uqhuba njani? Ukhululekile kwimpelaveki ezayo? Yabona, ndiyahamba kwaye ndiza kufuna uncedo kwiibhokisi zokulingisa… ”
Umtsalane, akunjalo?
Kwaye kuqhelekile kunokuba unokuqonda.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba awuzange uve kulo mntu iinyanga ezintandathu okanye nangaphezulu, kodwa uhlekisa ngendlela oza ngayo engqondweni kamsinya nje emva kokuba befuna umsebenzi wezandla.
Ukuba uzibonakalisile ukuba uza kuza kuhlangulo lomntu nanini na xa kufuneka, yindima ekubhale kuyo: umncedisi, umlungisi, lowo banokuxhomekeka kuye.
Bayokuxabisa ngalo mzuzu, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye ndiyabulela nge-pizza kunye nebhiya kwaye yintoni onayo, kodwa emva koko awuzukuva kubo kwakhona ubuncinci iinyanga ezintandathu de kufike enye into abafuna uncedo kuyo.
2. Bakubeka Phantsi
Ubuqhetseba obufihliweyo bokuhlekisa ngokudlala, ubunye, kunye nokuncoma okukhoyo zezinye zeendlela abahlobo bobuxoki abanokuzama ukukubeka phantsi ukuze bazive bebhetele.
Bahlala bekwenza oko kwindawo yeentlungu, njengokuzithemba okuphantsi, okanye ukuveza imiba yabo ngokuphathwa gadalala ngabanye ngendlela efanayo, kodwa ukuqonda ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo ivela kuyo ayikulungeli, kwaye akukho lula ukujongana nayo nge.
Umhlobo obhinqileyo anganika omnye umntu iimpahla, ze xa / xa umamkeli eyizama kwaye evakalisa ukonwaba ngayo, banokuthi bathethe into ngokufanayo: “Ewe, bendicinga ukuba intle ngokwenene, kodwa ibiHUGE on mna… ndicinge ukuba izakulungela endaweni yoko. ”
indlela yokujongana nabahlobo bobuxoki
Okanye, xa wazisiwe kwisithandwa sakho / intombi yakho entsha, umhlobo wobuxoki angahlwayela imbewu yokungazithembi, esithi loo mntu uphume kwiligi yakho kwaye ngokungathandabuzekiyo uza kukushiya umntu ojongeka / osisityebi / ophumelele ngakumbi.
Banokude babethe iqabane lakho elitsha phambi kwakho ukonyusa ukuzithemba kwabo.
3. Uyingxowa yabo yokuBethwa ngumoya
Ngaba uyamazi loo mntu uhlala ekuxelela ngazo zonke izinto ezimbi ezenzekayo ebomini babo?
Ewe. Leya.
Rhoqo, banokuphawulwa njengababuzi, kuba bahlala bebuza uluvo lwakho malunga nokhetho lwabo okanye imeko, kodwa ungaze ulithathe ingcebiso yakho.
Ngapha koko, bahlala besenza ngokuchaseneyo nento obacebisa ukuba bayenze, kwaye bathambekele ekuphindaphindeni iindlela ezoyikisayo zokuziphatha eziphindaphindayo, ngaphandle kokufunda kubo.
Endaweni yokuba ube nokuzazisa nokuzazi, kwaye mhlawumbi wenze umlinganiso othile wokukhula njengesiphumo sokuqhuba i-gauntlet efanayo amatyeli aliqela ngaphezulu, bathulula konke ukukhathazeka kunye nokungakhathali kuwe.
Bayakunyanzela ukuba ubasebenzele ngokweemvakalelo, kwaye baya kukuxelela malunga nendlela abaziva ngcono ngayo emva kokuthetha nawe.
Umzekelo ingangumntu ohlukunyezwa liqabane lakhe, akuxelele zonke izinto ezimbi ezenzeka emfihlakalweni, kodwa ahlale naloo qabane ngenxa yokucinga into engekhoyo 'yothando' kunye 'nokunyaniseka.'
Ke nguwe umntu ophunga etafileni ngexesha elizayo xa begqibile ukutya isidlo sangokuhlwa kuba uyazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, kodwa umntu obizwa ngokuba ngumhlobo wakho uyavuya njengepunch kuba abanaxinzelelo konke konke: Ndikunike konke okungathandekiyo kuwe ukuba ujongane nako, ke iintliziyo zabo zilula.
4. Bahamba ngeBallistic Ukuba ubabiza ukuba baziphathe kakubi okanye ukuba nehambo ebuhlungu
Ukuba uxelela umhlobo wenene ukuba uthethile okanye wenze into ekucaphukisayo, baya kucela uxolo bazame ukulungisa izinto.
Ukuba uxelela umhlobo wenkohliso into efanayo, baya kuthi bazikhusele, baphulukane ne-sh * t yakho kuwe, baqale ngokuqamba ubuxoki ukuze bazive ukuba nguwe ongalunganga, kwaye uyeke ukuthetha nawe ixehsa elide.
Okanye ngokungapheliyo.
Yabona, eyona nto kukuba, xa umntu ekukhathalele ngokwenene, baya kwenza konke okusemandleni abo ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buyimpazamo.
Ukuba bazikhathalele ngakumbi iziqu zabo, iimfuno zabo, kunye neemfuno zabo, ke bayayeka ukukubona njengomntu ofanelwe kukuhlonitshwa nokukhathalelwa: ukhona ngenxa yenzuzo yabo, kwaye nangenxa yabo.
Ukubabizela ngaphandle kwe-bullsh * t yabo kuyaphula loo ngcamango, kwaye baya kuthukuthela malunga nayo.
5. Ziyanyamalala Xa Uzifuna
Uhlekisa ngendlela onokuhlala uhlala ubakho ngayo kumhlobo wakho xa bekufuna, kodwa xa ufuna into ngokulandelelana, abafumaneki.
Ewe, ayingomhlobo wokwenene kwaphela.
Ukuba kwenzeka nje ukuba uxakeke ngalo lonke ixesha ufuna, okanye ukuba banesiporho kuwe kwaye abanako ukugcina isithembiso esinye abakwenzileyo, kukho ithuba elihle lokuba bakugcine kuphela uncedo lwakho.
Oku kukwaluphawu oluqhelekileyo koonokresa, ke lumka: ukuba umntu uthatha isigqibo sokuba ungoyena mntu amthandayo, ungabakho kwilizwe elibi lonke.
Kuya kuba nzima ukubalahla, njengoko beya kukuziva benetyala kwaye bakwenze uzive ungoyena mntu ungathandekiyo kwiplanethi ngokungabambeleli kubo xa bebuthathaka kwaye benosizi.
6. Uziva ngathi kufuneka uhambe kwiiqanda zamaqanda kunye nabo
Abahlobo benyani balindele ukuba ube sisidima esixhasayo, esinqwalayo, esimomothekayo esivumelana nayo yonke into abayithethayo, kwaye bayakhawuleza ukutsala umdla kwaye baqale umlo omkhulu ukuba unoluvo okanye umbono ohlukile kowabo.
Banokuphefumla malunga nemicimbi yezopolitiko okanye yezentlalo, belindele ukuba uphonononge iingcinga zabo, kwaye bakubethe phantsi ukuba ungavumi ukungavumelani.
Ukuba wenza njalo, banokuhlekisa esidlangalaleni ngokwenza njalo, bakuxelele indlela abadane ngayo ngenxa yokungayiboni 'inyani,' banqumle unxibelelwano nawe de uvuke ubone umhlaba ngokwembono yabo.
Abahlobo bokwenene banokuvuma ukungavumelani, kwaye bahloniphe izimvo kunye neenkolelo zomnye nomnye. Ukuphela kwe-.
7. Banokuloba ulwazi
Abanye abantu baya kuza ebomini bakho kwaye bazame ukuba ngabahlobo bakho kuphela ukuze zilungele injongo yomnye umntu.
Kuyahlekisa kwaye kulutsha, kodwa kuyamangalisa ngokwenene ukuba bangaphi abantu ekuthiwa ngabantu abadala eneneni abanakubonakala ngathi baziphethe kakuhle nangokukhula.
Umntu omtsha angangena ebomini bakho (ngesiqhelo kwimithombo yeendaba zentlalo) kwaye ngokukhawuleza uyancokola kwaye uzimisele ukukwazi.
Ngaphandle kwexesha, banokuqalisa ukubuza imibuzo yobuqu malunga nabanye abantu abakwisangqa sakho, kwaye ukuba wenza ukumba kancinci, uyakufumanisa ukuba unabantu oqhelene nabo - ngesiqhelo umntu okhe waxabana naye .
Ukhe wohlukana nomntu kutshanje? Lo 'mhlobo' omtsha unokuba ekuhlolele bona ukuze babone ukuba uphi ukuze bakwazi ukunika ingxelo.
Okanye mhlawumbi umntu osebenza naye ongakuthandiyo uzama ukumba ukungcola kuwe ukuze ugxothwe.
Unokuhleka kwezi meko, kodwa uya kumangaliswa ukuba zenzeka kangaphi, ngaphandle kwento yokuba zihlekisa kwaphela.
Ngaba udaniel bryan uza kubuya
8. Abayikulwa Ikona Yakho
Umhlobo ongenguye akazukuyikhupha intamo yakhe kwaye akuncede ukuba kukho impikiswano phakathi kwakho nomnye umntu.
Abayi kukumela kwaye baqinisekise ubungqina bakho kuba oko kuya kuthetha ukuba basengozini yokungathandwa ngabo ungavumelani nabo.
Endaweni yokuba bajonge bethule, bakuyeke ulwe wedwa.
Kangangoko banokufumana okuthile ekubeni nawe ebomini babo, akonelanga ukuba bathathe inyathelo egameni lakho. Banokukhetha ukuphulukana nawe kunokuba bathathe icala lakho.
9. Bayakwazi Wena kuphela kwinqanaba elingaphezulu
Bayalazi igama lakho, apho uhlala khona, mhlawumbi luhlobo luni lokutya oluthandayo, kodwa loo nto iphantse yafikelela nje.
Abayazi eyona nto ikwenza ukhathaze. Akukho ukuqonda okunzulu ngawe njengomntu owahlukileyo, inqanaba nje elingaphezulu leenkcukacha ezingabalulekanga.
Kwaye kungenxa yokuba kunqabile ukuba babuze imibuzo enomdla ngakumbi ebuzwa ngabahlobo bokwenene. Abazange baqalise iincoko ezinomdla ngokumangalisayo ngobomi nangaphezulu.
Kwaye ababuzi malunga nezinto ezinkulu eziqhubekayo ebomini bakho. Ngaba wayenomntwana? Abazange baqaphele ukuba ukhulelwe. Ulahlekelwe ngumntu omthandayo? Musa ukulindela ukuba bathumele iintyatyambo.
Ngokwenyani, abakukhathalelanga ukunxibelelana nawe kwinqanaba elinentsingiselo kuba abakuboni okanye bangakuxabisi njengenxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi babo.
yenza ixesha lihambe ngokukhawuleza emsebenzini
Kwaye ikakhulu kungenxa…
10. Bathetha Ngabo Ngokwabo
Xa kuziwa kwincoko, isihloko sabo abasithandayo ngabo.
Bangama-narcissist ancokolayo abachitha ixesha labo elininzi bexoxa ngobomi babo kwaye, njengoko besesitshilo apha ngasentla, iingxaki zabo.
Bakubuyisela amabali malunga nendlela ababekhe badibana ngayo nomntu odumileyo okanye iihambo zabo. Kwaye oku kunokuba ngamabali owakhe weva amaxesha amaninzi ngaphambili.
Kodwa abadli ngokubuza ukuba uqhuba njani okanye kwenzeka ntoni ebomini bakho. Kwaye ukuba bayayenza, kuphela kwexesha lakho kunye xa begqibe isihloko ngasinye esibabandakanya.
Kwaye emva koko, xa bephelelwe zizinto abanokuzithetha ngazo…
11. Basasaza amarhe nokuhleba
Ukuba bavile i-nugget yolwazi enamanzi, unokuqiniseka ukuba wonke umntu abaziyo uya kube sele eyivile loo nto nasekupheleni kosuku.
Bayaluthanda uvuyo lokuva nokusasaza intlebendwane malunga nabanye abantu. Uyayiva ngalo lonke ixesha njengoko bethula 'iinyani' ngokungacwangciswanga abazikhethileyo ezipholileyo emanzini.
Uzenza ngathi unomdla, kodwa awazi nje isiqingatha sabantu abathetha ngabo. Abakhathali, nangona kunjalo, ukuba nje banokuqhubeka beva isandi selizwi labo.
Kwaye ukungxama kwabo njengomhlobo kuyakhaba xa bethetha ngawe kwabanye abantu. Banokuthatha enye yezinto ezimbalwa abazifundileyo kuwe ngexesha leencoko zakho kwaye bayisebenzise njengemali yentlalo ukuphumelela ukuhoywa nokuthandwa ngabanye.
Iimfihlo zakho azikho mfihlo kubo.
12. Bayayikhathaza impumelelo yakho okanye ulonwabo
Kanye njengokuba usenokuba wenza emsebenzini wakho okanye wonwabile njengoko unokuba kho kubudlelwane bakho bobuntu, ngekhe bonwabe kuwe.
Oku kunxulumene # 2 kunye nomkhwa wabo wokukubeka phantsi. Abathandi ukubona abanye abantu besenza kakuhle ebomini kuba oku kukhanyisa ukukhanya kwinto abayibona ngathi kukusilela kwabo.
Abanye babahlobo bobuxoki baya kuthi bade badibanise umntu obomi bakhe buhamba bhetele kunobabo kuba kubuhlungu kakhulu kubo ukuba bakuvume.
Abayi kukuhalalisela okanye bavuye ngawe baya kuthi cwaka kwaye banyamalale ebomini bakho okwethutyana (okanye ngokusisigxina).
Kodwa ukuba izinto zingaze zikuhambe kakubi…
13. Bayokuzigweba iimpazamo zakho, ukusilela, kunye nezigwebo ezibi
'Ndikuxelele' yinto oza kuyiva lukhulu kumhlobo wobuxoki.
Bayakhawuleza ukugweba nokukugxeka kwaye bakhombe zonke izinto ozenzileyo. Babanga ukuba bazithetha zonke ezi zinto ngenjongo yakho ... ukunqanda ukuba ungaphinde wenze okufanayo kwixa elizayo.
Kodwa, enyanisweni, bayakonwabela ukuziva bebhetele kunawe.
Kunqabile ukuba bakuthuthuzele okanye baboleke indlebe kuwe ukuba uthethe ngeengxaki zakho. Bayakhawuleza ukubonelela ngezisombululo kuyo yonke into, nangona kunjalo, kuba bazi ngcono emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
Rhoqo, baya kubonelela ngezisombululo nokuba ubuzicelile okanye hayi. Bafuna ukuba ngumsindisi wakho ukuze unetyala kubo, nokuba bayanceda kodwa.
14.Babambe iinzondo kwaye bangaze balibale (okanye mabalibale)
Ukuba ukhe wenza into ekuthiwa ngumhlobo wakho, baya kuyibamba ixesha eliseleyo.
Basenokuthi bayakuxolela, kodwa abasayi kwenza njengoko benjalo.
Kwaye banemigangatho emibini. Ke ukuba uyabaleka emva kwexesha ukudibana nabo, baya kukungxolisa ngayo. Kodwa ukuba bafika emva kwexesha ukudibana nawe, baya kulindela ukuba uhambe lula kubo kuba 'akunakuncedakala.'
Kwiinyanga okanye kwiminyaka kamva, ngakumbi ukuba bafuna ukuba wenze into okanye ngenxa yokuba befuna ukukulimaza ngesizathu esithile, baya kuthi, 'Uyakhumbula xa u…?'
Le khowudi ithi, 'Ungumntu ombi kwaye ndifuna uyikhumbule lonto.' Okanye mhlawumbi, 'Unetyala elikhulu kum ngenxa yoko.'
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