Sonke sinaye umhlobo omnye esimthandayo kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi… kancinci.
Ngaba uhlala uziva ukuba abakuthandi ngokwenene, okanye awuzange ube yinto ephambili kubo?
Ungaqala ukuqaphela imikhwa eyahlukeneyo yokuziphatha esikushiya ubuza ukuba ingaba ingabahlobo ngokwenene na, yindlela entle yenkunkuma yokuziva ngomntu omthandayo!
Ukuba uyazibuza ukuba umhlobo wakho akakuhloniphi, sinemiqondiso embalwa onokuyijonga…
1. Usoloko usenza le nto bayifunayo.
Ukuba ungumntu ohleli ebuyile umva, isenokungavakali njengengxaki ukuba umhlobo wakho nguye obiza zonke izithonga.
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Ngamanye amaxesha kumnandi ukuba nomntu akwenzele izigqibo, ngakumbi ukuba awunguye loo fussy.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umhlobo wakho esenza izigqibo ngalo lonke ixesha kwaye engalimameli igalelo lakho, kukho ithuba lokuba abakuhloneli kakhulu.
Ubuhlobo kufuneka bulungelelaniswe, kwaye kufanelekile ukuba uveze into oyifunayo / oyifunayo komnye nomnye, ngaphakathi kwesizathu, kunjalo!
Ungahamba nokuhambahamba kwaye wenze izinto abazonwabelayo, kodwa uphawu lwentlonipho ngaphakathi kobuhlobo kukuqinisekisa ukuba zimbini iindlela kwaye izinto zisebenza kuni nobabini ngokulinganayo.
2. Bayazikhupha iimvakalelo zakho.
Abanye abahlobo bakho abayihloneli nje indlela oziva ngayo. Basenokukuxelela ukuba iimvakalelo zakho ngokubanzi zibubudenge okanye azidingeki, okanye zinokukwenza uzive ngathi 'uphawuleka kakhulu' okanye wenza isivumelwano esikhulu sezinto ezincinci ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Ngokulinganayo, banokukuxelela loo nto eyakho iimvakalelo ngeenxa zonke yabo iintshukumo azisebenzi. Bayakwenza oku kuba bengafuni ukuba iboniswe kubo ukuba baneempazamo konke konke.
3. Banomona ngempumelelo yakho.
Kuqhelekile ukuba nomona kancinci ngempumelelo yabanye, kodwa kuphela kwinqanaba. Nangona bephila ubomi obunqwenela ukuba ube nabo (bafumana isithandwa / intombi / ukunyuswa, njl.), Uya kubaxhasa abahlobo bakho kwaye uyonwabile.
Ungaziva uphantsi kwaye unomona ngasese, kodwa kuya kufuneka ubahloniphe kwaye ubathande abahlobo bakho ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungabhiyoza kunye nabo kwaye ubancome ngempumelelo yabo!
Umqondiso omkhulu umhlobo wakho akakuhloniphi kakhulu kukuba ngekhe bakwazi ukubhiyozela nawe - kuba baya kuba bexakeke kakhulu ukuba nomona ngawe.
4. Bakucaphukisa besazi.
Sonke siye sabacaphukisa abo sibathandayo ngaxa lithile - yinxalenye yobuntu! Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umhlobo wakho uphuma ecaleni ukwenza ukuba uzive ungalunganga, okanye uyayazi indlela abakwenza uzive ngayo kwaye uqhubeka njalo, abakuhloneli ngokwaneleyo.
Ubuhlobo bokwenyani buquka ukukhathalelana nokufunelana okona kulungileyo omnye nomnye (nokuba zikhona iiplip ezimbalwa ngamanye amaxesha!), Ke nabani na ongayiboniyo loo nto okanye okuvisa ubuhlungu ngabom akanguye umhlobo olungileyo kwaye akanantlonipho. yeyakho.
5. Yonke into ikwimiqathango yabo.
Uhlala ubonakala uhlala kwiindawo abafuna ukuya kuzo, kwaye ngabo abakhetha xa nichitha ixesha kunye.
Uyaxhoma xa ba simahla kwaye uhlala ushiyeka ujinga xa befumana into engcono yokwenza.
Isenokuqalisa ukuziva ngathi ungumhlobo wabo kuphela xa kufanelekile kubo, kwaye ngokungathi abakuhloniphi okanye bangakuxabisi kakhulu. Oku mhlawumbi kungenxa yokuba aba…
6. Bayakuthoba esidlangalaleni.
Ukujongela phantsi yindlela ekuvakala ngayo - 'yiba mncinci' - imalunga nokukwenza uzive umncinci kwaye ungezantsi.
I-Belittling inokujongeka ngathi ngumntu ozichasayo izimvo zakho, yonke indlela yokukuhlazisa nokukubeka phantsi, uhlala esidlangalaleni.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho ekwenza uzive usisiyolo okanye umncinci phambi kwabanye abantu, luphawu lokuba abakuhloniphi. Ngekhe bayenze lento ukuba bayenzile!
Basenokuba bazama ukukwenza ubonakale usisiyatha okanye ungaphantsi ngenxa yokungaqiniseki kwabo, kodwa akulunganga kuwe kwaye ufanelwe ngcono kunokuba uphathwe ngale ndlela.
7 Bazaphula izithembiso zakho kuwe;
Sonke sibheyile kwizinto okanye senza iimpazamo eziye zalimaza abantu esibathandayo, kodwa bathanda ukuba ngumntu omnye.
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Ukuba uqala ukuqonda ukuba umhlobo wakho uhlala ekuyekisa okanye ephula izithembiso abazenzileyo kuwe, ayingomhlobo omkhulu.
Ewe kunjalo, oku kulungile ukuba kukho izizathu ezifanelekileyo, kodwa ukuba iba ngumkhwa kwaye ababonisi kuzisola okanye benze iinzame zokutshintsha, akunakulindeleka ukuba babambe intlonipho enkulu kuwe.
8. Bakrwada kukhetho lwakho lobomi.
Uninzi lwethu lubukele umhlobo esenza ukhetho esingavumelaniyo nalo 100%, kodwa siya kubonisa kwaye siwaxhase nangayiphi na indlela.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho ugxeka ukhetho olwenzayo ebomini, akubonisi imbeko ekufaneleyo.
Banokuwuthoba umsebenzi wakho omtsha kwaye bakuxelele ukuba ayonto intle okanye kuya kufuneka uqale kwisikhundla esisezantsi njengoko ungekho mkhulu kwinto oyenzayo.
Basenokukuxelela indlela elibi ngayo iqabane lakho nendlela abangabathandi ngayo.
Nokuba yintoni, ukuba umhlobo wakho uzama ukukwenza uzive ungalunganga ngezigqibo ozenzayo, ayingabo abahlobo abakhulu.
Kuya kufuneka bakuhloniphe ngokwaneleyo ukuba baxhase izigqibo zakho, kwaye baqonde ukuba wenza le nto ucinga ukuba ilungile kuwe.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, banokungenelela xa ufuna ingcebiso okanye ukuba wenza ukhetho olungaphilanga okanye olungakhuselekanga- kodwa kufuneka bakuthembe kwaye bakuthande ngokwaneleyo ukuba babekhona ukuxhasa ukhetho olwenzileyo ebomini.
9. Zikhohlakele ngasemva kwakho.
Le yinkunkuma, njengoko ndiqinisekile ukuba wonke umntu ukhe wehlelwa yinto efana naleyo nomhlobo wakhe ngaxa lithile…
Ufumanisa ukuba umhlobo ebethetha kakubi ngawe, usasaza amarhe ngawe, okanye ukhalaza ngawe kwabanye abantu abakwaziyo.
Ngoku, sonke kufuneka siveze ixesha elithile, nangona sibathanda kangakanani abahlobo bethu! Kodwa ngesiqhelo sikhetha ukwenza oku nomntu ongaphandle kwelo qela lobuhlobo, kuba akulunganga ukwenza ukuba umntu azive engonwabanga ngobuhlobo bakhe nomntu ekuthethwa ngaye!
Ukuba uziva ngathi lo mhlobo uya kude kakhulu kwaye ngokunyanisekileyo uthethe kakubi ngawe, endaweni yokuyeka nje umphunga omncinci rhoqo, abakuhloniphi kwaye kufanelekile.
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10. Abaze bafikelele.
Unokuziva ngathi nguwe oza kujonga kunye nomhlobo wakho. Mhlawumbi uvile ukuba kunzima kwaye ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba zilungile. Mhlawumbi khange ubabone okwethutyana kwaye ufuna ukufikelela kwaye ucebise ukuxhoma kungekudala.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ihlala isiza kuwe-kwaye azikaze zibonakale zikwenza into efanayo.
Kuyakhathaza ukuziva ukhathalele umntu ngaphezu kokuba ekukhathalele. Ingaziva ngathi ayiliboni ngokwenene ixabiso lokwenene kubuhlobo bakho, kwaye ngokungathi abayikhathalelanga okanye bakuhloniphe kakhulu.
11. Bakukuziva benetyala.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho uzama ukukukhohlisa ngokweemvakalelo kwizinto, luphawu lokuba abakuhloneli kunye neemvakalelo zakho.
Abahlobo kufuneka bathathele ingqalelo iimvakalelo zomnye nomnye kwaye benze ngokufanelekileyo (kwinqanaba elisempilweni, ewe) kunye nokuba netyala-ukukhubeka entweni luphawu olucacileyo lokuba ayisiyiyo le yenzekayo.
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Ukuba uziva ngathi utyhalelwe kwizigqibo ongavumelani nazo, umhlobo wakho akanantlonelo kuwe kwaye ngokucacileyo akakhathali ngokwaneleyo ukuba angathatha iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani ebhodini okanye azilinganise izenzo zabo ukuze abenovelwano ngakumbi kuwe .
12. Abanangqondo yemida - okanye ukuzibophelela.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela ifuna wena kwaye ungayihloniphi into yokuba unobomi bakho ngaphandle kobuhlobo - okanye abanakuqonda ukuba unemida ethile xa kufikwa kubuhlobo.
Banokuyithatha buqu kwaye bangayihloniphi into yokuba ufuna ixesha lokuba wedwa, okanye awusoloko ufumanekile ukuchitha ixesha kunye nabo.
Banokukuphakamisa kwaye bakulahle, kwaye bangaqondi ukuba ufuna umhlobo ozimisele kuwe ngandlela thile.
Abahlobo kufuneka bathembeke kwaye bathembeke, kwaye banokungaqondi ukuba uyayidinga kubo, okanye bangangakulungeli ukuyinika xa ingafanelanga.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, abahloniphi ukuba u… ungumntu!
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Okulusizi kukuba, uninzi lwethu luza kudlula 'kwisigaba esothusayo' kunye nomhlobo apho siziva singahoywanga kwaye singahlonitshwa.
Isenokuziva ngathi abahlobo bethu abasixabisanga okanye bafuna ukuchitha ixesha kunye nathi. Okanye inokuhamba ngenye indlela kwaye sinokuziva sityhafiswa ngumhlobo ongayiqondiyo into yokuba sinemida kwaye sidinga indawo ethile rhoqo.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, sonke siyakuziva ngathi umhlobo akasihloniphi kakhulu - kuyinto eqhelekileyo, iyasondela, kodwa ihlala isisigaba nje.
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