Izinto eziguqukayo kwezentlalo zinokungaqhelekanga ngamanye amaxesha. Kungakuhle ukuba sonke singavana ngendlela eyakhayo, eyakhayo.
Udibana nabahlobo bakho kwaye wonke umntu unexesha elimnandi kuba baphathana ngentlonipho nangesidima.
Ngelishwa, ayisiyiyo indlela ehlala isebenza ngayo.
Abanye abantu bayathanda nje ukutyhala imida, ukwenza iziqhulo ezingafanelekanga, okanye ukuziphakamisa ngokuxhaphaza omnye umntu.
Aba bantu banokukuhlaba inaliti, bakuthobe, okanye bazame nokukuhlaza esidlangalaleni. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abo bantu asingobantu nje oqhelene nabo okanye abahlobo ngamanye amaxesha liqabane lakho okanye ilungu losapho.
Ujongana njani nomntu okuhlazisa esidlangalaleni? Ewe, kuxhomekeke ekubeni ngubani umntu.
Kodwa qonda le nto…
Akukho ngawe.
Abantu abaphilileyo ngokweemvakalelo, abalungeleleneyo abahlazisi abanye abantu esidlangalaleni ngenjongo. Banokukwenza ngempazamo ngokuthetha into engeyiyo okanye benze isenzo esingalunganga.
Kwaye ukuba yinto eyenzekileyo kube kanye engaphandle komlinganiswa emntwini, inokuba iyinto yokuxolela kwaye ulibale emva kokuba uvakalise ukungonwabi kwakho ngenxa yale meko. Amathuba mahle kakhulu khange baqonde ukuba benze impazamo kwaye baya kunika uxolo.
Abantu abenza ngenjongo okanye rhoqo, kwelinye icala, bahlala bezama ukulungisa ukungaphumeleli kwabo.
Banokuziva ngathi abanakulunga ngokwaneleyo okanye abanomdla ngokwaneleyo, ke kufuneka bazame ukuzisa abanye abantu kwinqanaba labo ukuze bazive bonwabile.
Oku kunokujongeka njengokuhlekisa okukhohlakeleyo, kukwenza ube sisiqhulo sabo, okanye ukujongela phantsi into oyithethayo. Aba bantu ngokubanzi banuka ukungakhuseleki.
Emva koko une abantu abakhohlakeleyo kwaye nomsindo. Bafuna ukuthoba abanye abantu kuba bengabantu abalusizi. Ukuba abonwabanga, kutheni kufanele ukuba ube?
Ukuba babona ukuba kukho into ekuzisela uvuyo, banokuyibiza ngokuba bubudenge okanye ukungakhuli ukuze babambe ulonwabo lwakho kwaye bazise ngakumbi kwinqanaba labo. Abanye abantu bayathanda ukutshabalalisa. Abanye bakhunjuzwa ngokungonwabi kwabo ngokuba phakathi kwabantu abonwabileyo, ke bafuna ukuyiphazamisa loo nto.
Ukungqubana kobuntu nako kunokubangela ukungazinzi koluntu obekungayi kubakho kwiqela elihambelanayo. Abanye abantu bakugqala ukosa okanye ukuzonwabisa ngathi yiglue ebambe ubuhlobo babo kunye. Kwaye ukuba ungumntu onovakalelo okhubekisayo kolo hlobo lwento, unokufumanisa ukuba ayibobuntu obulungileyo obukufaneleyo.
Umntu onobuthathaka unokufumana ukugcoba okungaqhelekanga njengento ekhubekisayo, engonwabisiyo, okanye ehlazo-kwaye kulungile. Uvumelekile ukuba ube nemida kwindlela abantu abakuphatha ngayo. Kuya kufuneka ulunge kunye nemida yabanye.
Usebenzisana njani nomntu ofuna ukukuhlaza phambi kwabanye?
Ngoku siyicacisile into yokuba indlela aziphethe ngayo lomntu ayibonakalisi kuwe kodwa kukungazithembi kwabo, makhe sijonge ukuba yintoni onokuyenza xa isenzeka.
Ukuba lo mntu ngowasemzini okanye umqhelene…
Akukho mntu uthanda ukuphazanyiswa ngumntu ongamaziyo, umhlobo oqhelekileyo, okanye umhlobo womhlobo.
Ziyaphuma emlonyeni, zibangele iingxaki kuwe, kwaye ngokucacileyo kufuneka yimela ngokwakho ! Kunene?
Ewe, oko kuxhomekeke.
Umntu owenza into enobutshaba kwabanye abantu angabaziyo likhadi lasendle. Kunzima ukuxelela ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kanye entlokweni yaloo mntu.
Mhlawumbi baneengxaki zengqondo ezibangela ukuba benze ngokungalunganga. Mhlawumbi bakwiziyobisi okanye banxilile, kunye nokuthintela kwabo phantsi kwaye ukungxamiseka kwabo kulungisiwe.
inkosi yeringi wwe
Awunakuze uqiniseke ngokwenyani ngokwenzekayo entlokweni yomnye umntu, kodwa ukuba bayazenza okanye banobutshaba, akunakulunga.
Jonga i-ego yakho kunye neqhayiya. Ukuba kukho umntu okubangela iingxaki okanye ozama ukuza kuwe, yishiye loo ndawo ngokukhawuleza. Kukhetho olungcono kakhulu kunokudutyulwa okanye kuhlatywa kuba bengazinzanga, bephakamileyo, okanye benxilile.
Ukuba zinokungalawuleki okumangalisayo, umnxeba oya emapoliseni emva kokuba ukhuselekile kunokuba yinto ebhetele.
Ukuba loo mntu ngumhlobo wakho…
Abantu bathetha kwaye benze izinto ezizizimumu ngamanye amaxesha. Banokuthetha ngokungakhathali okanye bangaqondi ukuba bayenzakalisa. Kulapho imida isebenza indima yayo.
Biza isenzo ngokuthe ngqo ngolwimi oluthe ngqo, “Hei. Andikuxabisi xa usithi i-XYZ ngam. Iyenzakalisa. ”
Emva koko ulinganise indlela abasabela ngayo.
Ngaba basithatha nzulu isikhalazo sakho? Okanye ngaba ngandlela thile bazama ukuyiphephetha?
Ndiyathemba ukuba bazasithathela ingqalelo isikhalazo sakho, kuba oko kuthetha ukuba bayaluhlonipha uluvo lwakho kunye nomda wakho.
Kodwa abanakho. Banokukuphephetha, bakuxelele ukuba ubuthathaka kakhulu, okanye ungakhathali ungakuhoyi. Kwimeko enjalo, kunokuba kungcono ukushiya kwaye ubaleke emntwini.
Kodwa ikwalixesha lokuba uphinde uphonononge ubuhlobo obunzulu ukuze uqiniseke ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ukwiphepha elinye naloo mntu.
Ngaba ubuxabise ubuhlobo? Ngaba loo mntu ungumhlobo wakho? Ngaba bakho kuwe xa benokubakho? Ngaba zinegalelo ngokuqinisekileyo kubuhlobo nakubomi bakho? Ngaba ubenzela into efanayo?
Kwaye ukuba izinto ezilungileyo zigqithile kububi, kunokuba luncedo ukuba nengxoxo yabucala nomntu malunga nokuziphatha okanye isenzo sabo.
Mhlawumbi bayaxolisa mhlawumbi lixesha lokwakha umda omtsha. Mhlawumbi umntu ngumntu obalaseleyo ixesha elininzi kodwa ajike abe yirakhi xa enxilile. Kulungile ukuba ungafuni ukuba kufutshane nomntu ngelixa esela kuloo meko.
Okanye mhlawumbi batyhafile nje kunoko, kwaye uyaqonda ukuba abangabo abahlobo bakho bokwenene. Inokuba lixesha lokuphelisa ubuhlobo ukuba basebenzisa nje wena ukuzikhulisa ngeendleko zakho.
Ukuba umntu uliqabane lakho…
Iqabane ekuhlazisa esidlangalaleni yingxaki enkulu kuba ibonisa ukungabikho kwembeko.
Umlingane wakho kufuneka abe ngumntu okuhloniphayo kwaye akuphathe ngentlonipho phambi kwabanye abantu.
Kwakhona, kuyehla kwiinjongo kunye nokuziphatha komntu. Ngaba le yimpazamo? Okanye ngaba le yinto ephindaphindwayo? Zeziphi iimeko ezenza ukungabi nantlonelo?
Abanye abantu bayitshintsha ngokupheleleyo indlela abanxibelelana ngayo xa bebodwa kunye nabo xa behleli nabahlobo babo kunye nosapho.
Ukuba bakuphatha kakubi phambi kwabahlobo kunye nosapho, olo luphawu olubi kuba lukuxelela ukuba abahlobo babo kunye nosapho balungile ngokuziphatha kwabo (becinga ukuba abakhange bamkhalimele iqabane lakho). Awufuni ukutsalwa kwisangqa esinetyhefu okanye esonakalisayo onokuba nzima ukuphuma kuso.
Ukuzibekela umda, ongazukuvuma ukuphathwa ngokungenantlonelo, sesinye sezona zipho zibalaseleyo onokuzinika zona. Ngokuyicwangcisa, uya kufumanisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba ngubani ohloniphayo kwaye kufanelekile ukuba phakathi, kwaye ngubani ongekhoyo.
Sukuchitha ixesha lakho elixabisekileyo kubantu abangakuphathi ngentlonipho- nokuba oku kuthetha ukubuphelisa ubudlelwane nomntu omthandayo umkhathaleleyo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngokucacileyo abavakalelwa ngendlela efanayo ngawe okanye ngekhe bakuphathe kakubi.
Ewe, ngamanye amaxesha abantu bathetha into engalunganga okanye bahlekise ngesiqhulo esingakhathaliyo. Kodwa ukuthotywa okuphindiweyo kunye nentlonelo ayisiyonto ekufuneka uyinyamezele nakubani na.
Ukuba loo mntu ulilungu losapho…
Izinto zinokuba nzima kakhulu apho usapho luchaphazelekayo. Imida ihlala iphantsi phakathi kwamalungu osapho kwaye abantu baziva bekwazi ukuthetha kakubi omnye komnye.
Khawukhumbule nje ukuba oku akukwenzi ukuhlazeka nokuhlekisa ngakumbi.
Ukuba umntu kusapho lwakho uthetha okanye esenza kakubi kuwe phambi kwamanye amalungu osapho lwakho, kuya kufuneka ungqale ngqo nabo kwaye ulungise umba. Kwaye kungcono ukukwenza oku ngokukhawuleza kunokuba kamva ukuze omnye umntu angakholelwa kwinto abayenzayo ilungile.
Kodwa sixhathise isilingo sokubandakanya amanye amalungu osapho akhoyo kwimbambano (yile nto iyiyo). Akuhlawuli ukuzama ukufumana abanye kwicala lakho kuba abanako ukuthatha icala lakho ngesizathu esithile okanye esinye.
Mhlawumbi bacinga ukuba unjalo nje uMalume uJoe, umzekelo, kwaye kufuneka umamkele kunye nezimvo zakhe eziphosakeleyo nezithobayo ngenxa yokuba ebehlala enjalo kwaye engathethi kwanto ngayo.
Ngelishwa, amanye amalungu osapho akanakukwazi ukuqhubeka. Isenokuba kukungqubana okwenyani kobuntu, okanye banokusebenza rhoqo ngendlela eyityhefu (nakwabanye abantu).
Ukusika amaqhina nosapho olunetyhefu Kunzima kuba kuya kubakho iziphumo kulwalamano lwakho namanye amalungu osapho lwakho.
Kodwa kunokuba sisiqalo sokugqibela sokuthatha ukuba omnye umntu akayeki ukukuhlazisa, okanye awukwazi ukukhula isikhumba esityebileyo xa ujongene nabo (ongafanele uzive kufuneka uyenze ukuba ungathanda ungajongani nazo konke konke.)
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