Ilungu losapho elinetyhefu linokubangela zonke iintlobo zeengxaki kwimpilo yakho yengqondo nakwimpilo yonke.
Ngelishwa, akufuneki sikhethe usapho esizalelwe kulo. Into esiza kuyikhetha bubukho kunye nendima abanayo aba bantu ebomini bethu.
Akukho nto igwenxa ngokusika amaqhina namalungu osapho anetyhefu angakuhloneliyo okanye angakuphathi ngendlela onqwenela ukuphathwa ngayo. Ngapha koko, kunokuba yimfuneko ukugcina impilo yakho yengqondo kunye nokuzazi kwakho.
Isenzo sokusika ubudlelwane kunye nosapho olunetyhefu okanye ilungu losapho kunokuba ngumceli mngeni. Kukho izinto ekufuneka uziqwalasele kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ulungile phambi kokuba wenze ukhetho.
Nje ukuba wenze, ezo bhondi ziya kutshintshwa ngonaphakade, kwaye ngekhe ube nakho ukuzibuyisa kamva. Ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba eli linyathelo ofuna ukulithatha ngaphambi kokuba ulithathe.
Singacebisa nokuba uthethe nomcebisi ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isigqibo sokuthatha inyathelo lokuqinisekisa ukuba uyibona ngokucacileyo imeko (eli khonkco liya kukunceda ufumane elinye).
Kodwa, ukuba uqinisekile ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ukusika ubudlelwane kunye nosapho lwakho olunetyhefu yinto elungileyo yokwenza, nanga amanyathelo athile ekufuneka uwathathe.
1. Ngaba ukusika amaqhina kuyafuneka? Okanye ufuna umgama nje?
Ngamanye amaxesha amalungu osapho adibanisa njengeoyile namanzi. Ubuntu bunokungqubana nzima, kudala uxinzelelo kunye nokungonwabi kusapho olunamandla.
Ngamanye amaxesha loo miba inamandla nokuba uphume nini xa ubeka umgama phakathi kwakho nelungu lakho losapho.
Unokufumanisa ukuba uyavana kakhulu nalawo malungu osapho ngeedosi ezincinci, kunye nexesha elininzi kunye nendawo phakathi kwakho. Akuqhelekanga ukuba umntwana axabane nabazali bakhe njengoko bekhula bekhulile kwaye baqala ukuzama ukubeka iinyawo zabo phantsi kwabo, umzekelo.
Umntwana unokucaphuka phantsi kwezithintelo ahlala phantsi kwazo okanye ubuntu babazali, kodwa afumanise ukuba bayavana ngakumbi xa sele bephumile bebodwa.
Oku kunokuba yinto enokwenzeka ukuba usapho lwakho ngabantu abalungileyo ngokubanzi, kodwa musa ukusoloko usenza ezona zigqibo zibalaseleyo okanye uchaphazele ubukrakra bobomi.
Banokuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo, bacinga ukuba benza into elungileyo, bazame ukuba nothando kunye nenkxaso, kodwa eyabo imiba iya endleleni.
2. Cinga ngendlela isigqibo sakho esiya kuwachaphazela ngayo amanye amalungu osapho.
Isigqibo sokusika ubudlelwane kunye nosapho olunetyhefu siza kuba neziphumo ezibi oya kuthi ujongane nazo.
Kuya kufuneka ujongane nabantu abathatha icala, becinga ukuba awunabulungisa, okanye ukuba nomsindo kwaye ukunqumle kubomi babo. Cinga ngale meko.
Umama wakho ungumntu othandekayo, kodwa utata wakho uyityhefu. Umama wakho uyamthanda utata wakho, kodwa awufuni ukuvumela utata wakho ukuba akwenzele ingozi engakumbi kunangaphambili. Ngoku, ungamsika utata wakho ebomini bakho, kodwa lonto iyakubeka umama wakho kwindawo apho kufuneka akhethe phakathi kwakho nomyeni wakhe. Kwaye ngelixa usenokucinga ukuba umama wakho kufuneka enze isigqibo osithathileyo, usenokungakulungeli okanye angakulungeli.
Ezi ntlobo zeziphumo ziya kuvezwa kulo lonke usapho lwakho, kwaye kuya kufuneka ulunge ngokulahlekelwa ngabantu abaninzi kunaleyo ugqibe ekubeni uyinqumle.
3. Qwalasela ukubuyela umva kwesigqibo.
Mhlawumbi usapho lwakho ngabantu aboyikekayo ngokubanzi, yiyo loo nto ufuna ukubaleka kubo. Uya kudinga ukulungela nabuphi na ubutshaba okanye ukubuyela umva kwabo abaphose kuwe kuba uthathe isigqibo sokususa.
Ukulawula okanye abantu abanobutshaba ngokubanzi abayithandi xa ujoliso lokuxhatshazwa kwabo luzama ukuphuma. Ke ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba uphuma ngokukhuselekileyo ukuze bangabinakho ukukwenzakalisa.
Ukuba uyaphuma, fumana utshintsho kwidilesi kunye nokuthumela iposi ukuseta, nokuba kuya kufuneka usebenzise ibhokisi yeposi.
Ungalirhola ityala lakho ngee-bureau zekhredithi simahla, ngenxa yoko abakwazi ukuzama ukuthatha imigca emitsha yamatyala ngolwazi lwakho.
izinto ezintle zokwenza intombazana
Susa igama lakho nakweyiphi na iakhawunti edibeneyo yebhanki kwaye uvule eyakho ukuba awunayo.
Qiniseka ukuba ulwazi lwakho buqu luhlaziywa kunye nawaphi na amaziko anokuthumela iposi okanye enze iifowuni kwindawo ehlala usapho lwakho.
Qiniseka ukuba wenza indawo phakathi kwakho nosapho lwakho olunetyhefu ukuze bangakwenzakalisi. Lindela ukuba bathethe ubuxoki malunga nemeko kuye nakubani na oya kumamela kwaye baqwalasele indlela enokubuyela ngayo kuwe.
Ukuba uyasebenza kwaye ucinga ukuba usapho lwakho lunokuza kwindawo osebenza kuyo okanye lufake izikhalazo ezingeyonyani malunga nokwenzakalisa, qiniseka ukuba umphathi wakho usengxakini malunga nale meko.
Abahlukumezi kunye nabantu abanetyhefu banokuba mbi xa bephulukana nolawulo.
4. Musa ukuphinda ungene kumdlalo weqonga okanye usetyenziswe ngobuqhetseba.
Lindela ubuxoki. Lindela amalungu osapho lwakho anetyhefu ukuba azame ukuziva unetyala okanye akuqhubele ukuba usenokudibana nabo konke konke.
Umama wakho othandekayo, ukusuka kumzekelo wangaphambili, usenokungazami ukukukhohlisa xa ekuxelela ukuba bakukhumbula kangakanani kwaye bafuna ukuba ubuye ebomini babo. Oko kunokuba yinyani ngokupheleleyo, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba indlela yokuziphatha kukatata wakho engeyiyo eyonakalisayo okanye eyenzakalisayo.
Hlala kude nabahlebi abathanda idrama kusapho lwakho. Ayizukuphelela nje ekuyilungiseni inyani okanye ubuxoki obucacileyo, kodwa banokuyivusa imbiza ukuze babone ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Ungazishiyi usengozini kwaba bantu ngokuthatha inxaxheba kwintlebendwane.
Khumbula, umntu oza kuhleba nawe uya kuhleba ngawe. Kuphephe ukuhleba xa ufuna ukuhlala ngoxolo.
5. Thatha isigqibo sokuba uza kusiqala njani isifundo kwangaphambili.
Kukho iimeko ezahlukeneyo apho ukusika ubudlelwane kunye nelungu losapho elinetyhefu kunokuba yimfuneko. Ezinye zinokuba zilungile, ezinye zinokuba yingozi. Cinga ngendlela, kwaye ukuba uza kulazisa ilungu losapho ukuba uyarhoxa kubo.
Kungalunga ukuxoxa ubuso ngobuso nalo mntu. Kungangcono ukuba nencoko emnxebeni ukuba oko kukwenza uzive ukhululekile.
Ukubazisa ngesicatshulwa okanye nge-imeyile kunokuba lukhetho olungcono ukuba banomkhwa wokujija amagama okanye ukuxoka. Ungayigcina incoko ukuba ufuna ubungqina kamva ukuphikisa ubuxoki.
Okokugqibela, mhlawumbi awufuni ukubazisa konke konke ngenxa yokuba ziguquguqukayo kwaye zinokuba nobundlobongela. Kulungile, nayo. Awunatyala nabani na. Soloko uphazama kwicala lokhuseleko lwakho.
Kwaye ukuba awuqinisekanga, xoxa ngale meko nengcali yezempilo yengqondo ngaphambi kokuba wenze naziphi na izigqibo okanye uthathe amanyathelo.
Ukuba uza kubazisa, yenza ingxelo ecacileyo nengqalileyo. 'Andivani ukuba ubudlelwane bethu busempilweni, kwaye andisafuni ukuthetha nawe kwakhona.' okanye 'Impilo yam yengqondo ifuna ukuba sibe nexesha elingakumbi ngaphandle komgama.'
6. Sebenzela ukuphilisa nawuphina umonzakalo owakha weva kuwo.
Kukho ithuba elihle lokuba kukho ingozi oya kuyidinga ukuphilisa ukusuka kubudlelwane. Ukuphathwa gadalala kunye nokuziphatha gwenxa kwilungu losapho kunokushiya ingozi ehlala ihleli njengokuzithemba okanye eminye imicimbi yezempilo yengqondo ekuvukeni kwabo.
Ezi zinto azihambi nje zodwa. Kuya kufuneka bajongane kwaye baphiliswe ukuze benze olona tshintsho lunamandla olukhethileyo ukuphucula ubomi bakho.
Cinga ukuba ingaba eli linyathelo ekufuneka ulithathile kunye nomcebisi ecaleni kwakho ukuze uphile ubomi obonwabisayo nobusempilweni (cofa kwikhonkco ukudibanisa nelinye).
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