Unobudlelwane ixesha elide.
Kwaye ngaphezu kwelo xesha, uye wazi iqabane lakho ngcono kunaye nabani na. Ubomi bakho bunxibelelene ngokunzulu.
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Awuqinisekanga ukuba ubomi buza kubonakala njani ngaphandle kwabo, kodwa ufike kwisigqibo. Nasiphi na isizathu, uthathe isigqibo sokuba ubudlelwane buqhubekile.
Lixesha lokuba niqhubeke nobabini.
Ukuba ufunda le nto, ke ufuna ukuqiniseka ukuba wahlukana nabo ngentlonipho kwaye ushiye izinto kangangoko unakho.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umthande lo mntu ixesha elide kwaye into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza ibavisa ubuhlungu.
Kodwa ukunyaniseka, awazi ukuba uqale ngaphi. Ungayiphelisa njani into ehlala ixesha elide kunye notshintsha ubomi?
Ngelishwa, akukho fomula yomlingo onokuyisebenzisa ukuqinisekisa ukuba bazithatha kakuhle iindaba.
Kodwa kukho ezinye iingcebiso ezinokukunceda uphelise izinto ngokweyona meko ibalaseleyo.
1. Qiniseka ukuba nobabini ninengqondo efanelekileyo.
Oku kuvakala kusisiseko, kodwa kungenza umohluko omkhulu.
Imeko embi ihlala iqhubeka ukuba mandundu ukuba omnye wabantu ababandakanyeka kwincoko enje ulambile, udiniwe, okanye uxinzelelo.
Ukuba unako, cwangcisa ukwahlukana nabo xa usazi ukuba bakwimeko entle, kwaye nawe xa unjalo. Iya kukwenza ube nengqiqo ngakumbi kwaye uthethe kakuhle, nto leyo eluncedo kakhulu kwiimeko ezinje ngezi.
2. Khetha indawo yakho ngobulumko.
Apho uphelisa khona ubudlelwane yinto ekufuneka uyicingile ngononophelo. Ukuba nihlala kunye, kufanele ukuba kubucala kwikhaya lakho.
Iindawo zikawonke-wonke kunqabile ukuba zibe ngumbono olungileyo, ngakumbi ukuba ucinga ukuba kuya kubakho iimvakalelo zazo zonke iintlobo ezibonisiweyo.
Ukuba ukhetha kwenye indawo esidlangalaleni, zama ukunqanda naphi na apho bathanda khona, ukuze ungabonakalisi loo ndawo. Okanye naphina apho kubonakala ngathi kuthandana, ke abanayo imibono yomhla wothando otyunyuziweyo.
Kufuneka uvolontiye ukuze ube ngulowo uzakushiya emva kokuba uthethile, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba bakhethe ukuba babe ngabo bayahamba, ngoko ke abarhangqwa ziinkumbulo zenu nobabini.
3. Nje ukuba uqiniseke, yenze ngokukhawuleza kunokuba uyenze kamva.
Ukwenza izigqibo ezinje kunzima kakhulu, kwaye uya kutshintsha ingqondo amaxesha asisigidi.
Kodwa xa sele uthathe isigqibo, nzulu ezantsi, ukuba ubudlelwane abunakamva, akukho sizathu sokurhuqa izinto.
Awunakuhlala nolo lwazi, wenze ngathi yonke into ilungile. Akunabubele kubo nakuwe ukubeka isenzo.
Ukuba kukho isiganeko esibalulekileyo esiza kubakho, kunokuba yinto enzima.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, awufuni ukumosha umhla wabo wokuzalwa okanye nantoni na ngokwaphuka nabo ngaphambi nje kwayo, okanye ngosuku.
Kodwa awufuni ukwahlukana nabo nje emva kwayo, njengoko iinkumbulo ezimnandi ziya kutshatyalaliswa xa beqonda ukuba ubuceba ukwahlukana.
Umhlobo wam wayenobudlelwane bexesha elide kunye nomfana, kwaye wagqiba kwelokuba alinde kude kube sekupheleni kweholide yokuphupha kunye naye ukuba aphule izinto.
Uthe wayefuna ukuba neenkumbulo zokugqibela, kodwa waziva engcatshiwe, kwaye ngathi ebedlala indima kuyo yonke iholide. Ngaphandle kokuthetha, abahambelani kakuhle. Musa ukuba nguloo mfo.
4. Kwenze ngokwakho.
Lo ngumntu owabelana naye ngobomi bakho iminyaka. Into encinci onokuyenza kukuba nesibindi ngokwaneleyo sokuphelisa izinto ngobuqu.
Okukuphela kwento onokuyenza koku kukuba nobabini niqelelene ngeemayile, kungabikho thuba lokubonana nanini na.
Kwimeko apho, kunokuba yinto enobubele ukuyenza phantse ukuze baqalise ukusebenza ngayo. Ngokukhawuleza bayazi ukuba ubudlelwane buphelile, ngokukhawuleza baya kukwazi ukugqithisa.
5. Hlala uzolile kwaye uqokelele kangangoko unako.
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba uhlale uzolile kangangoko unakho, ngenxa yeemeko. Ukuba uyasebenza, ungathetha izinto ongazithethiyo okanye uzichaze kakubi.
Banokucaphuka okanye babe nomsindo nawe, ke zilungiselele oku. Uyazana kakuhle, kwaye oko kuthetha ukuba uyazi indlela yokubetha omnye nomnye apho kubuhlungu khona.
Yilungele ukuba ikuphose izithonga ezisezantsi, kwaye ungalingwa ngokuziphindezela.
Kwaye nantoni na oyenzayo, musa ukuyenza ibonakale ngathi bayasabela ukuba bayasebenza.
Nokuba kwenzeka ntoni phakathi kwenu, khumbula ukuba ubathande kangakanani kwaye ubaphathe ngononophelo.
6. Thembeka kwaye ube nembeko.
Ulwalamano lwakho, ngethemba, lwakhiwe ngokunyaniseka. Kwaye ngoku ayiloxesha lokuyeka ukunyaniseka kubo.
Bakwazi kakuhle, ke baya kwazi ukuba uyaxoka malunga nokuba kutheni uphelisa izinto, okanye yintoni eyona nto ibangele ukuba ube njalo.
Ukuba uphelelwe luthando, ke kufuneka bayazi loo nto. Kodwa ukuba ingaphezulu koko, zama konke okusemandleni akho ukucacisa.
Qiniseka nje ukuba awupheli ekubeni ukhohlakele. Unokunyaniseka ngaphandle kokulimaza iimvakalelo zabo, nokuba ukuphela kobudlelwane kunento yokwenza nezinto oziva ukuba bazenzile kakubi.
Intlonipho kufuneka ibe ligama lomdlalo ngalo lonke ixesha.
7. Yenze icace imeko.
Ukuba basafuna ukuba kunye nawe, eyona nto imbi kakhulu onokuyenza kukubanika umbono wokuba le inokuba yinto yexeshana, kwaye ungaphinda ubuye kunye ngomnye umhla.
Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi ukuba benikunye ixesha elide kwaye ubunayo yonke into phantsi kwamagama abantwana bakho abakhethiweyo.
Bazise ukuba izinto ziphelile kanye kwaphela. Kuyinto enobubele ekuhambeni kwexesha, njengoko kuya kuthetha ukuba baya kuba nakho ukuqhubeka nobomi babo kunokuba babambe ithemba kwaye bakulambele.
Oko kubonakala ngathi bububele okwangoku kunokuba yinto ekhohlakeleyo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
8. Lumka ngokucela ikhefu, isithuba, okanye ixesha lokucinga.
Xa ubudlelwane buphezu kwamatye, kunokuba lunokuhenda ukucela ikhefu ukuze likunike ixesha lokucinga. Okanye 'indawo.'
Ukuba ngenene, ucinga ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ukuba nexesha elithile ungahlukani kunokwenza uqonde ukuba uyabathanda kwaye ufuna ukwenza izinto zisebenze, mhlawumbi ukubabeka ekuqinisekeni ngekhefu kunokuba kufanelekile.
Kodwa ukuba, nzulu ezantsi, uyazi ukuba kuya kuba kukubeka nje into engenakuphepheka, ungangeni kuloo mgibe. Sukusebenzisa ikhefu njengohlobo lwendlu enesiqingatha. Ayibayekeli phantsi ngobunono iyazidibanisa.
9. Cebisa ukuba ungaqhakamshelani okwexeshana.
Emva kokwahlukana, kubalulekile ukuba nobabini nibe nendawo ethile engqondweni nasemzimbeni ukuze nisebenze ngeengcinga neemvakalelo zenu.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka konke (awabelani nabantwana, okanye ishishini, kwaye anihlali kunye okanye ninayo enye indawo yokuhlala) bacebiseni ukuba bobabini banqamle unxibelelwano okwethutyana.
Thatha ixesha lokuqhubekeka ngokwenzekileyo kwaye ubanike indawo abayifunayo ukuze beze nayo.
Kufuneka ulinde umntu ixesha elingakanani
Ukuba aniphili kunye, ninokude nitshintshisane ngezinto zenu ningabonani, ngokuzishiya nomhlobo wakho.
Ngubani owaziyo, nobabini ninokwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo kwixa elizayo, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba nibe neli xesha lahlukene ngaphambi kokuba niqale ukucinga ngaloo nto.
10. Mabakhokele.
Ukuba nobabini kudala nindawonye, awunokwazi ukuphuma ngomnyango ulibale konke ngabo. Ubomi bakho kufuneka bungaphazanyiswa, kwaye oko kunokuba nzima, kukhohlise kwaye kubhideke.
Aba babini kufuneka nize nohlobo oluthile lwesicwangciso, kodwa kungcono kungcono ukubavumela ukuba bachaze ukuba konke oku kuyakwenzeka njani, ngelixesha, kunjalo, ungabavumeli ukuba bahambe phezu kwakho.
11. Cinga ngezinto eziluncedo.
Mhlawumbi nihlala kunye, nto leyo ethetha ukuba omnye kuni nobabini kuya kufuneka nihambe.
Ukuba ungumnikazi wendawo okanye usayine isivumelwano soqeshiso lwexesha elide, kuya kuba nzima ukuba nobabini niqhubeke.
Kuya kufuneka ucinge ngezinto ezinje ngokwahlulahlula izinto zakho, ke kuya kufuneka ucace malunga nokuba yeyiphi / yeyakho, kunye nokuba uthenge ntoni kunye. Zilungiselele ukuba uxolelanise izinto ezithile ukuba awufuni ukuba zifumane izinto ezincinci.
Khumbula ukuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba ungabi sahlala kunye emva kokwahlukana. Ukuba kunjalo, ke xoxa ngemithetho engqonge imfihlo kunye nokuhlala kunye. Ukuba ufumene indawo, ukulala ngaphandle kukhetha.
Unokuseta nemigaqo malunga nezinto ezinokuxoxwa kwaye ezingenakuxoxwa ngazo ukunqanda iingxoxo ezibuhlungu ezingenantsingiselo.
Ukuba nobabini ninabantwana, okanye ninempahla yenu kunye, kungafuneka nifune ingcebiso yezomthetho yokukunceda ubone ukuba zizakusebenza njani izinto ukuya phambili.
Nantoni na oyenzayo, yiba nobumnene kwaye ulunge kubo bobabini kunye nabo. Oku akuyi kuba lula nakubani na, kodwa kokona kulungileyo.
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