Sonke besikhe sakhona okanye sathuthuzela umhlobo ngayo - umjikelo wokwenza ikhefu.
Ngamanye amaxesha wena kunye ne-ex yakho awukwazi nje ukuyiyeka. Kude kube unako.
… Kwaye omnye wenu atshintshe ingqondo.
Inokudideka kakhulu, kwaye ihlala ikhathaza. Ukungaqiniseki malunga nolwalamano lwakho kunokuthatha umthwalo kubo kwiinkalo ezininzi zobomi bakho kwaye kunokuba nzima ngokwenene.
Eli nqaku liza kujonga indlela abantu ababanjwa ngayo kule loop, kunye nendlela yokuqhekeka kuyo, nokuba kuthetha ntoni!
Sihlala Njani kuMjikelo?
Ukwehlukana:
Ke, wena neqabane lakho niqhawule umtshato. Abantu benza oko ngalo lonke ixesha. Kuyinto eyoyikisayo kwaye iyamoshakala, nokuba nobabini nenza konke okusemandleni ukuphelisa izinto ngokwemiqathango 'yobuhlobo'.
Nithembisa ukunika omnye nomnye indawo efunekayo ukuze uqhubeke, kwaye niyavuma ukudibana njengabahlobo kwikamva elikufutshane.
Ngelixa oku kuvakala kukhulu, maninzi kakhulu amathuba okuba ingasebenzi ngale ndlela.
Ngoba?
Iimvakalelo.
Iimvakalelo zingena endleleni yayo yonke into, ngakumbi ukwahlukana.
Abanye abantu baya kuqhubeka nokuziphilela ubomi babo… emva koko, oko kukuthi, iinyanga ezimbalwa zokuzila nokuzilahla benxilile ukuzama ukuthumela umyalezo kwi-ex yabo ngelixa abahlobo babo besilwa nefowuni ezandleni zabo.
Abanye baya kufumana 'ukunqunyulwa kweenwele,' bajoyine umthambo, kwaye badibane nomntu omtsha kungaphelanga inyanga. Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, abanye abantu bayaphula kwaye banamathele kuyo.
Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni kwi le Umjikelo kukuba ukwahlukana akusebenzi.
Imiyalezo yakho ex ngokungacwangciswanga ikuthumela ngemini apho ubunexesha elibi emsebenzini kwaye uzive ulilolo. Ungqubana ne-ex yakho kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuvuthwa kwaye uthathe ikofu.
Nobabini niyazi ukuba benikhumbula omnye nomnye, kwaye izinto zivakalelwa ngendlela eyahlukileyo ngeli xesha. Uyinika ithuba lesibini .
Ukubuyela Ndawonye:
Izizathu zokuthatha isigqibo sokuzama kwakhona emva kokwahlukana zixhomekeke kubantu ababandakanyekayo- hayi aba bantu babini phakathi ubudlelwane.
Usapho kunye nabahlobo esinabo xa sihamba nokwahlukana kuyichaphazela njani indlela esiziphatha ngayo.
Ukuba abahlobo bakho abasenyongweni bonke bakuxelela ukuba wamkele ukuba kugqityiwe ngokulungileyo, baya kwenza konke okusemandleni abo ukukunceda ugqithise. Bayakuvumela ukuba ukhale kwaye bakuncede ukuba uqhubeke.
Ukuba abahlobo bakho baqhubeka bekuxelela ukuba bacinga ukuba wena okanye iqabane lakho lenze impazamo, uya kuqala ukuzibuza ukuba ungazinika ezinye izinto na.
Xa sele siziva sivakalelwa kwaye sisengozini, siphantse sibathembe abantu esibathandayo kunye nezimvo zabo ngaphezu kokuba sizithemba thina.
Indlela ubudlelwane obuphele ngayo ikwachaphazela indlela esivakalelwa ngayo emva kwayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, izinto azenziwanga zicace gca xa isibini sithatha isigqibo sokuphelisa izinto. Olu luvo loshishino olungasombululwanga lunokusishiya sizibuza ukuba sithathe isigqibo esifanelekileyo na. Oku kungakhokelela kuthi emva koko sifikelele kwi-ex yethu, enokuthi ikhabe iqale yonke inkqubo kwaye isigcine sivaleleke ixesha ngalinye.
Aba bantu babini babandakanyekayo ngokucacileyo banefuthe elikhulu kwinto eyenzekayo emva kokwahlukana. Ukuba nobabini ninabantu abaxhalabileyo, kunokubakho iintlungu kunye nokudideka malunga nokwahlukana, nokuba bekungokufanayo okanye kungalindelekanga.
Ukuba sele ungaqinisekanga ngento eyenzekayo kwaye unenkxalabo ngexesha lobudlelwane, ukwahlukana kunokukwenza ubuze yonke into. Ngamanye amaxesha iimvakalelo zethu eziphazamisayo kunye neparanoia zisibuyisela kwi-ex kuba sinexhala lokuba khange senze ukhetho olululo.
Ubulolo buhlala budlala indima enkulu kwizibini ezibuyayo nazo. Nangona kunjalo uqinisekile ukuba ubukwisigqibo sakho ngelo xesha, umothuko kunye neentlungu zokuba ungatshatanga ngesiquphe zinokukwenza ufune ukufikelela kwi-ex yakho.
Ukuzithemba okuphantsi kuya kudlala apha-ukungatshati kunokusenza sizive, ngokungothusayo, singathandwa. Oku kusikhokelela ekucingeni ukuba asithandeki kwaye siyadika, kunye nawo onke amanye amagama amabi esiwasebenzisayo ukuzichaza ngamanye amaxesha!
Ewe, ukuba bobabini abantu ababandakanyekayo baziva ngendlela efanayo, bayatsaleleka komnye nomnye kuba kuyathuthuzela ukuba kunye nomntu okwaziyo kwaye wakwenza waziva ulungile ngesiqu sakho sangaphambili.
Ukubuyela kunye emva koqhawulo-mtshato kuyinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye inokuba nangalo naliphi na inani lezizathu.
Ngamanye amaxesha kuba ngenxa yokuba nobabini niqondile ukuba wenze impazamo kwaye ufuna ukubuyela kwinto esebenzayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, luhlobo nje… olwenzekayo.
Ithetha Ntoni Kubudlelwane?
Ukuba nguwe ophelise ubudlelwane, uya kuqala ukuqaphela zonke izinto ezincinci ezikugxothileyo kwindawo yokuqala.
Ukuba iqabane lakho liphelise izinto okokuqala ngqa, uyakube usazi kakhulu ngayo yonke into oyenzayo.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba kutheni izinto ziphelile, uya kuba nolwazi malunga nokuziphatha kwakho kwaye uya kujonga iqabane lakho kwiimpawu zokucaphuka.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba kutheni bayigqibile (umzekelo, 'ubencamathele'), uyakuqala ukuzikhwebula kwaye uzosebenza nzima kakhulu ukubonisa ukuba utshintshile.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, niya kunyathela nobabini kwiigobolondo zamaqanda kwaye kuya kuba buhlungu ukuba kunye.
Enye into eniza kuyenza kukuba nobabini niya kuba nenkani kangangokuba ibingeyonto yenu ukuba nibe nesibindi kwaye nizithembe. Oku kuyakukhawuleza ukunxunguphala kuni nobabini kwaye izinto zinokuphuma kungekudala.
Nobabini ninokukhetha ukungayihoyi inyani yokuba wakhe wahlukana, nto leyo ngokufanayo ingenampilo.
indlela yokufumana umdla wakhe ngokungamhoyi
Ngokuzenza ngathi akukho maqhuqhuva endlela, uyakuhlala kwihlabathi lamaphupha - nobabini niya kukhupha imikhwa emibi omnye komnye kuphephe ukuxambulisana kuba ufuna izinto zigqibelele.
Ngelishwa, oku kuhlala kukhokelela kuxinzelelo ngakumbi kwimpikiswano enkulu ekugqibeleni.
Nobabini ninenjongo ezilungileyo engqondweni, kodwa kulungile akukho ngqiqweni ukulindela ukuba izinto zifezeke ngequbuliso .
Ewe, enye into enokwenzeka kukuba nobabini niya kubambelela kakhulu kulwalamano oludlulileyo.
Sonke sineenjongo ezintle xa kuziwa ekuqhubekeni-siyavuma ukuqala ngokutsha kwaye silibale okwenzekileyo.
Ngaba oku kunokwenzeka ukuba kusebenze? Mhlawumbi akunjalo.
Ngaba sizoqhubeka nokuqhubeka sizama kaninzi kwakhona? Ewe siyavuma.
Ungawuphula njani uMjikelo?
Ukuba sele ukude ngeli nqaku, uyazi ukuba izinto kufuneka zitshintshe.
Kunzima ukuvuma ukuba indlela oziphethe ngayo iyazonakalisa, kwaye kunzima ukucinga ngomntu omthandayo edlala indima enetyhefu ebomini bakho. Into ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba akukho namnye kuni onetyala.
Ininzi imbali kunye nothando oluninzi phakathi kwenu nobabini- kutheni ungafuni ukuqhubeka noku?
Kubuhlungu ukuyeka uthando, kodwa kubuhlungu nokuzigcina ubambekile kumjikelo ongenampilo. Kukho enkulu Umahluko phakathi kothando lokwenene kunye nokuncamathisela .
Izinto zokuqala kuqala - nxibelelana.
Ngokuchanekileyo.
Hayi ngombhalo okanye ngefowuni. Hlala phantsi neqabane lakho nijongane nixoxe ngento eniyifunayo nobabini.
Xa ubanjiwe kulo mjikelo, kunokuba nzima ukukhumbula eyona nto uyifunayo kulwalamano.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ufuna umntu phaya kuba uqhele kakhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha, uyaliphosa iqabane lakho kwaye ufuna ukulenza lisebenze.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ufuna ukugcwalisa ukungabikho kwesondo kunye nokusondelelana okungaphephekiyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kukudityaniswa kwezi zinto kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ungazi ukuba yintoni.
Ngokuthetha ngento eniyifunayo nobabini, uya kube uxhobiseke ngakumbi ukwenza isigqibo malunga nokuhlala kunye izinto ezilungileyo okanye zokuphelisa izinto kube kanye.
Ukuba oku kuvakalelwa njengenyathelo elikhulu okanye elinzima ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane bakho buphazamisekile okanye unxibelelwano aluyona ngongoma yakho eqinileyo, kuhlala kukho indlela yokucebisa ubudlelwane.
Ngapha koko, izibini ezininzi zifumanisa ukuba le yeyona ndlela ingcono yokuthetha malunga nokujongana nemicimbi efana nale ujongene nayo kuba iyanceda ukucacisa imeko, ukufumana isisombululo, kwaye ikwenze konke ngaphandle kokubhenela kwiingxoxo ezincinci.
Ingcebiso yethu yoku yinkonzo ekwi-Intanethi ukusuka. Ngokudibanisa nenye yeengcali zabo, uyakuma ithuba elingcono kakhulu lokuba ungene ezantsi kwesizathu sokuba ubudlelwane bakho bujikeleze ngendlela obenza ngayo kunye nendlela yokubaleka umjikelo ngenye indlela.
ukuba ungathanda ukuncokola nomntu ngoku okanye ulungiselele iseshoni yexesha kunye nomhla ukuze zilungele nina nobabini.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokujongana nani nobabini, lixesha lokuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba ...
Zibophelele
Ugqibe kwelokuba uzinikele ngokwenene kwizinto - eli lixesha lokugqibela nibuyelana kuba nobabini niya kunamathela ngokwenene ekuhlaleni kunye.
Sineengcebiso ezimbalwa ukuba le yindlela ohamba ngayo.
Zibophelele! Xelela abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho. Eli linyathelo abantu abadla ngokutsiba xa bevaleleke kumjikelo, kuba abayazi i-100% into abayifunayo.
Mhlawumbi ubufuna ukuyigcina iyimfihlo kuba uneentloni mhlawumbi ubusazi nzulu ukuba awufuni ukuba ihlale.
Khawukhumbule oko ubudlelwane bunzima kwaye kuya kufuneka ubeke umsebenzi ukuze ugqibe. Ngena kuyo ngesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo.
Xolela. Usenokungakwazi ukulibala izinto ezenzekileyo kubudlelwane bakho bokuqala kunye neqabane lakho, okanye ama-5 'aphakathi' phakathi, kodwa kufuneka uqale ukuxolela.
Lixolele iqabane lakho ngezinto ezenzeke kwixesha elidlulileyo. Ukuba abangaxoleleki, awufanele nokuba ucinga ukuzibophelela kubo.
Ukuba ujonga ngaphaya kweempazamo kunye nokusilela kwabo kwaye usafuna ukwenza lo msebenzi, kuya kufuneka unamathele kuloo nto.
Awunakho ukuzisa into abayenzileyo ngaphambili kwaye uyibambe ngokuchasene nabo. Oko kuyakwenza kuphela ukungathembani kunye noxinzelelo, ezingasoze ziphele kakuhle.
Nxibelelana. Ezinye izibini ezikulo mjikelo zivaliwe kuba zoyika ukubangela ezinye iingxaki.
Ukuba kukho into ekucaphukisayo, thetha ngayo. Ekuphela kwendlela olu lwalamano oluza kusebenza ngayo kukuba wenza ngathi kunjalo nje - ubudlelwane.
Usadinga izinto ezifanayo kuyo: ukhuseleko, ulwalamano , inkxaso, nothando.
Sukuyiphatha njengelithuba lakho lokugqibela kuba uya kuqala ukuzama ukuzenza ugqibelele kwaye ayizukusebenza ixesha elide.
Vulani kwaye ninyaniseke - nobabini nidlule kwizinto ezifanayo omnye komnye, ngoko ke akufuneki ukuba nenze ngathi okanye nifihle into eniyenzayo omnye komnye.
Okanye uyiPhelise
Ukuba ugqiba izinto ngokulungileyo, kuya kufuneka uyenze loo nto. Akukho ndawo yokuphelisa izinto ukuba nobabini ninayo ngasemva ezingqondweni zenu ukuba niya kubuya nibuyelane kwakhona kungekudala.
Ukuba kusekho ishishini elininzi elingagqitywanga kunye nokungaqiniseki, kufuneka nincokole ixesha elide kunye.
Ukuba uyaqhekeka kwaye uqhekeza umjikelo, landela la manyathelo:
Xelela abantu. Kwakhona, ukuphendula ngezenzo zakho kubaluleke kakhulu malunga nenkqubela phambili.
Abahlobo bakho banokuba sele beqhelile kulwalamano lwakho lokucima / lokucima, ngenxa yoko banokubrasha nje indlela oziphethe ngayo.
wenzeni xa usekhaya uwedwa imini yonke
Ukususela ngoku, kufuneka bazi ukuba ugqibile. Ngokusemthethweni. Baza kukuxhasa ngaphezulu kokucinga kwakho, ke sebenzisa ezabo ukunyaniseka kunye nobuhlobo ukukutyhala.
Yibhale phantsi. Bhala uluhlu lwezizathu zokuba ekugqibeleni wahlukane nomntu owawumdala.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uthethe kakubi, kodwa ufuna uluhlu oluqinileyo lwezizathu zokuba uphelise izinto ngokulungileyo.
Inxalenye yakho mhlawumbi ngekhe ikholelwe ekuqaleni, njengoko uqhele ukuthi uyayiqeda kwaye emva koko ungayenzi ngokwenyani!
Jonga uluhlu lwakho ngalo lonke ixesha uziva ngathi uyathandabuza, iya kukunceda kakhulu.
Lindela kwangaphambili. Oku kuya kuba yinto embi, masithembeke.
Iya kuba lolona qhawulo lomtshato lunzima okhe wadlula kulo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, kuba ekugqibeleni uyamyeka umntu kunye nethemba lokuba inokusebenza.
Kuya kufuneka uzinike ixesha elininzi lokulila nokuzonwabisa. Wena Ngaba Yigqibe le nto kwaye uyakuqonda ukuba ibisisigqibo esifanelekileyo, kodwa kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba kungathatha ithutyana ukuya kwinqanaba.
Yiba nobumnene nesiqu sakho ekuqaleni - yenza oko kukwenza uzive ulungile, nokuba kukucamngca, iyoga, iibinki zeNetflix, okanye ukuhlala ebhafini kwaye ukhale ngokungakhathali. Uyakwenza.
Emva koko, yiba nzima kuwe. Lo ibingenguye umntu wakho kwaye oku kwahlukana akuchazi. Kuya kufuneka usebenze kwaye uthathe ulawulo lobomi bakho.
Uzigqibile izinto ngesizathu, kwaye kufuneka wenze imali ngalo nto - ufuna inkululeko engakumbi, ufuna inkululeko engakumbi, awufuni ukuba yinxalenye yento enetyhefu, ufuna ukubuyela ekubeni nguwe.
Qalisa ke.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni malunga nolwalamano lwakho lokucima / ukuvala?Le meko yenye yezokuxhamla kakhulu kwiingcebiso zengcali yobudlelwane. Nokuba ufuna ukuxoxa ngalo mbandela uwedwa okanye njengesibini, kulungile ukuvakalisa iingcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho kumntu wesithathu ongathathi cala onokuthi emva koko anike iingcebiso.Ke kutheni ungaxoxi kwi-Intanethi kwenye yeengcali ezivela kwiHelshipship Hero ezingakunceda ubone izinto ngandlela thile. Ngokulula.
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