Ungamthanda umfana, kodwa ungafuni kuza ngathi 'unomdla kakhulu.'
Okanye mhlawumbi uziva ebumnyameni malunga nokuba uyakuthanda nawe.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, uthatha isigqibo sokuba eyona ndlela yokufumana ingqalelo kukuyidlala ipholile kwaye ungayihoyi de ekugqibeleni ithumele imiyalezo.
Iphupha lokuba uyanikhumbula, ucela ukukubona, akubuze ukuba ube naye njengoko nikhwela niye kutshona kunye, akunjalo? Akulunganga.
Ukungahoyi indoda ukuze imenze akufune ngumdlalo wamandla ongayi kukufumanela ukonwaba…
Kodwa, kwezinye iimeko, ukungahoyi ukufumana ingqwalaselo yakhe kungakuyekisa ukutsiba ungene kwinto ngokukhawuleza kwaye uncede ufumanise ukuba yeyona nto iyiyo na.
Ayikuko ukumhoya ngethemba lokuba uyakuleqa. Olu hlobo lonyango alunambeko kwaye luyalawula ngexesha lakhe kunye neemvakalelo, kwaye ayizisi eyona nto intle nakubani na.
Kodwa kukho amaxesha apho ugxila kumandla akho kwezinye izinto, kude nobudlelwane bakho obuhlumayo, yinto esempilweni yokwenza.
Inokuba lithuba lokuba umazi kakuhle umfana ngaphambi kokuba utyale ngokweemvakalelo, ngelixa uqinisekisa ukuba unika ixesha kwiimfuno zakho kunye neemfuno zakho.
Nazi ezinye zezinto ekufuneka uzithathele ingqalelo xa uzama ukungahoyi umfana ukuze ajonge indlela 'elungileyo'.
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1. Ungayinanzi imiyalezo yakhe uze ‘ungabikho.’
Eziluncedo: Awufuni kulahlekelwa yimincili kunye nolindelo lokubonana 'ngokufumaneka kakhulu.' Ukudlala nzima ukufumana umbonisa ukuba unobomi bakho kunye nomdla kude nokuthandana. Kubalulekile ukugcina unika ixesha kwisangqa sakho sabahlobo kunye nezinto ozithandayo ngaphandle kolwalamano lwakho kwaye utyale ixesha elithile 'kum'.
Bendlela: Kukho umgca ococekileyo phakathi kokufumaneka kunye nokungafumaneki. Kuya kufuneka nibonane rhoqo ngokwaneleyo ngenxa yokuba, ukuba niqhubeka nimhoya, uya kuphulukana nomdla ndiyeke ukuzama.
Kwiintsuku zokuqala zokuthandana nomfana kunokuba lula ukuba uzisongele kwezothando kwaye ufuna ukuchitha lonke ixesha lakho kunye. Kodwa kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba wawunobomi ngaphambi kokuba eze kunye nemisebenzi kunye nobuhlobo obuzalise oko kufanele ukuba kusekho kuqala.
Ukuba ucebisa ukudibana kwaye sele unezinye izicwangciso, musa ukoyika ukuthi hayi kwaye ucebise ngelinye ixesha. Ukuba uphumile kwaye malunga nesidlo sangokuhlwa nabahlobo kwaye uthumela imiyalezo, akukhathazi ukuphendula emva kweeyure ezimbalwa xa sele ukulungele, ukuba nje uyazi ukuba unomdla.
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Zama ukuba ungabutshintshi ubomi bakho ukuze ulingane naye kunye nobomi bakhe, kodwa kungcono ufumane indlela yokwazisa ixesha lokuchitha kunye naye kuyo yonke into osele uqhubeka nayo.
Ulwalamano aluyi kuma ukuvavanywa kwexesha ukuba akanako ukukwazi ngokupheleleyo kunye nazo zonke iindawo zobomi ezenza ukuba ube ngubani.
2. Ungayihoyi onke amaqonga akhe onxibelelwano.
Eziluncedo: Uyamazi lo mfo ukuba ungubani kanye kanye kwaye ayisiyiyo ecetyiswa yiprofayili yakhe. Awutsibeli kwizigqibo kwangoko kwaye kusekho izinto onokuzifumanisa ngaye njengoko nisazana.
Bendlela: Siphila kuluntu lwanamhlanje apho ukuthandana kwi-intanethi kwakhiwe malunga nento owabelana ngayo kwiprofayili yakho. Inokuba yindlela elungileyo yokufumana naziphi na iiflegi ezibomvu ngaphambi kokuba uzibandakanye kwaye usenokuhamba.
Sonke siyenzile, kukho umntu omthandayo kwaye ngequbuliso unazo izakhono zokuphanda ukubangisana noSherlock Holmes. Ngaphambi kokuba uyazi, ujonge imifanekiso evela kumatheko abo okuzalwa ebuntwaneni, ubazi bonke abahlobo babo ababalaseleyo ngokubona, kwaye banokuthiya igama losapho lwabo lokuqala - bonke ngaphandle kokudibana nabo.
Nangona kunokuba luncedo ukwazi malunga nokuthanda kwabo okungaqhelekanga ngokunxiba iikati zabo okanye ingqokelela yabo yemifanekiso eqingqiweyo yeStar Wars, kulula kakhulu ukucinga ukuba sele uyazi yonke into ngomntu ngaphambi kokuba ubanike ithuba ngokufanelekileyo.
Ukunikezela kude kakhulu kwiprofayili ye-intanethi yomntu kunokukubeka ecaleni kwimbono yobudlelwane ngaphambi kokuba udibane nabo, okanye ngokulinganayo, kukuqinisekise ukuba luthando lobomi bakho ngaphambi kwesiselo sakho sokuqala.
Zenzele, kunye nabo, ubabalo kwaye uzame ukungahoyi amaqonga abo eendaba ezentlalo. Banike ithuba lokuba bakubonise ukuba bangobani ebomini bokwenyani kunye #nofilter.
3. Ungayihoyi iminqweno yokuzikhethela.
Iinkonzo : Ukugcina amakhadi akho kufutshane nesifuba sakho kukunika ixesha lokuzilolonga ukuba uyamthanda umntu okwaziyo ukuzibophelela ekubeni uvuleke ngakumbi kwaye ubuthathaka kunye naye ngokweemvakalelo.
Bendlela: Kuya kufuneka unike ngokwaneleyo ukuze umazise ukuba unomdla wokuphuhlisa unxibelelwano olunzulu. Ukuba awumkhuthazi, usenokuyeka ukuzama ukukuchukumisa.
Ndakhe ndeva ingcebiso 'Ukuphatha' kuthetha, gcina 'em keen' ? Ewe, ngaphandle kokuyithatha ngokoqobo, eli lizwi lesikolo lisenokuba nendawo yokuhlala kwabantu abadala abathandanayo.
Andikukhuthazi ukuba uyinyani kumhla wakho, kodwa ukugcina umgama weemvakalelo kwiintsuku zokuqala zokuthandana kwaye ungawuthobeli umnqweno wokuba mandundu ngokukhawuleza kunokunika izinto ixesha abalifunayo ukuze bakhule kakuhle.
Ngokuyithatha kancinci, uya kufumanisa kwangethuba ukuba akanamdla kuphuhliso lonxibelelwano olunzulu nawe ngaphambi kokuba utyale kakhulu amandla akho emvakalelo kwaye wenzakaliswe xa eyekile.
Ukuba ufuna izinto zisebenze, kufanele ukuba onwabile ukuthatha izinto ngesantya sakho kwaye uqhubeke usebenza ukuze uzuze ukuthembana kunye nothando. Ukuba oku kuyenzeka, uyazi ukuba unayo elungileyo kwaye kulungile ukuba ukhe uzilinde kancinci.
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Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyijongile kukuba ungabanjiswa kwimeko apho bobabini benqaba ukubonisa indlela oziva ngayo. Ukuba ubuthatha izinto kancinci kwaye nobabini nisanamathele, omnye umntu uzokuthatha aziphose kuyeke ukuwutyeshela umbuzo ubuhlobo buya phi kwaye loo mntu unokufuna ukuba nguwe.
Zityeshele iimfuno zakhe ngenxa yezakho.
Eziluncedo: Zibeke kuqala kubudlelwane kwaye usebenze ukuba yeyona nto ilungileyo kuwe. Qiniseka ukuba lendoda izisa okona kulungileyo kuwe kwaye ungazincami izinto ezikwenza ukuba unguye ukuze umonwabise.
Bendlela: Ubudlelwane bumalunga nokunikwa kwaye kukho ulungelelwaniso phakathi kokubeka iimfuno zakho kuqala xa usazi umntu nokuba ngumntu ozingcayo.
Ukubeka iimfuno zakho kuqala xa uthandana kukungavumeli umtsalane wakho emntwini ukukuyekise ekubeni ungubani.
Kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukuqhubeka nokuzonwabisa kunye nabahlobo bakho ngaphandle kobudlelwane bakho kwaye ungaziva ngathi kufuneka unikele ngenxalenye yobomi bakho ukuze wenze umntu onwabile. Awungekhe wonwabe kubudlelwane ukuba awonwabanga kwisiqu sakho.
Ukuba ucela ukuba uzincame kakhulu, kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba uyakuthanda ngokwenene ngenxa yento oyiyo okanye nokuba uzama ukukutshintsha ube ngumntu afuna ukuba nguye.
Kwiintsuku zokuqala zokuthandana, khumbula ukuba uyakuxhasa na ukuthanda kwakho kunye nokuzibophelela. Ukuba uziva ungakhululekanga ukwabelana naye ngezinto ezithile okanye ekunyanzela ukuba unikezele ngento ethile, cinga malunga nokuba ingaba yinto oyifunayo ngokwenene na le, okanye ukuba wenza oku nje ukubakholisa.
5. Ungamhoyi ukuba akakuhoyi.
Eziluncedo: Ukungahoyi umnqweno wokuphendula kumyekisa ukulawula iimvakalelo zakho.
uxelele njani ukuba uyandithanda
Bendlela: Kungakuhle ukuba umnike ithuba lokuthandabuza.
Ungazifumana ukwimeko apho ucinga ukuba umntu othandana naye akakuhoyi ngabom.
Ukuba oku kunjalo kwaye uphakame uye kwisithiyelo, inokujika ibe kukuma okunetyhefu phakathi kwenu nobabini, elowo engavumi ukunxibelelana esoyika ukuba ‘ngoyena unomdla.’
Ukuzifumana kule meko akuyona indawo esempilweni kwaye ubudlelwane bakho abuzukuya ndawo ukuba awufiki emazantsi wokuba kutheni ucinga ukuba akakunaki.
Okokuqala, ngaba ukudlala imidlalo yengqondo nawe kwaye iyasebenza? Ubudlelwane akufuneki bakhelwe kumntu odlala neemvakalelo zakho ngolu hlobo. Ukuba ufuna ukuthetha nomntu, thetha naye, ukuba ufuna ukumbona, cebisa umhla. Zibuze ukuba uyamthanda ngokwaneleyo ukuba angayilandela okanye ngaba ubonakalisa imibala yakhe yokwenyani kwaye uyakhohlisa?
Okwesibini, ngaba unomdla wokwenene? Nguwe kuphela oya kuba nakho ukuxelela ukuba kukho into enokubakho apho, kodwa ukuba ubudlelwane phantse kuphela ngokuthumela imiyalezo rhoqo kwaye akayikubuyeka kunye nemihla yesiqhelo, ke lixesha lokuba ubuze ukuba ingaba iya ngaphi na.
Okokugqibela, ngaba akakuhoyi ngabom okanye ngaba unabahlobo bakhe kunye nemisebenzi ayenzayo ixesha. Ukuba uvumela ixesha lezinto zakhe, nawe ke, kwaye ungazivumeli ukuba ukhathazeke okanye uswele ngenxa yokuba enobomi kude nawe.
Xoxa malunga nento nobabini ukuya kuyo xa nibonana kwaye nisazi ezi ndawo zobomi bakhe ukuze nimazi ngcono. Ukuba uyakuthanda, kungekudala uza kukwenza ixesha elingakumbi.
Ukungahoyi mfo ukuze ufumane ingqwalaselo yakhe malunga nokunganikeli ixesha lakho kunye nezinto ezikwenza wonwabe. Ikwanokunika ubudlelwane ixesha lokukhula ngesantya salo sendalo.
Umntu unomtsalane xa bonwabile. Awungekhe wonwabe ukuba uyayeka ukwenza izinto ozithandayo okanye awuzenzi ixesha lakho kuba uxakekile unika lonke ixesha lakho komnye umntu.
Ukuba ukunye nendoda obekufanele ukuba uyiyo, uyakuxhasa kwaye akhuphe okungcono kuwe, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuchitha ixesha ukude naye. Ukuba ilungile, uya kufumana indlela yokusebenza kwendalo ebomini bomnye nomnye. Oku kuza nexesha kunye nomonde, kodwa yintoni le ingxamisekileyo ukuba ingunaphakade?
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