Kuhle ukuba nabantu abakungqongileyo abakulungeleyo ukwabelana ngolwazi lwabo kunye neengcebiso malunga nobomi xa ubufuna, kodwa hayi kangako xa uvela kwindawo yokuzikhukhumeza.
Yazi-konke-konke bacinga ukuba bayayazi yonke into, abathi bayibonise ngokubanzi ngomboniso, icala elinye, kunye neendlela ezingathandekiyo zokuhambisa.
Ngelixa singenakuphinda silawule ngokupheleleyo abanye abantu, akunyanzelekanga ukuba sibayeke bawele imida kwaye basiqhubele ekuphambaneni.
Xa ezo zinto zingafunekiyo zazi-zonke ziqala ukukhulisa iintloko zazo, thina unako zivale.
Nantsi indlela.
1. Babulele Ngengcebiso Zabo
Nokuba igazi lakho liyabila kwaye utyekelo lwakho lukukhawuleza ukwazi konke-konke ekuthethwa ngako, kuhlala kungcono ukuba ungabaniki impendulo yeemvakalelo ekusebenzeni nayo.
Njengokuba isiba mandundu ngeli xesha, ukubabulela nje ngengcebiso zabo yindlela efanelekileyo yokuphelisa incoko ngaphandle kokuzibonela ngathi uyadlala.
Mhlawumbi awufuni ukubanika nayiphi na ikhredithi ngokufaka ebomini bakho, kodwa ukubabulela ukuze uqhubeke akuthethi ukuba ucinga ukuba ingcebiso yabo ibifanelekile.
wazi njani xa uthanda inkwenkwe
Kufana nokuthi 'enkosi ngexesha lakho, ndiye ndaya kwitafile yezibheno ngoku.'
Ukuba ubabetha ngombulelo kwaye uhambe, abanako ngokwenene khalaza.
2. Sebenzisa i 'Ewe, kodwa' iqhinga
Uninzi lwezinto ezaziwayo zii-narcissists ezicacileyo kwaye zilula, nokuba zivela kwindawo yokungazithembi okanye hayi.
Endaweni yokuphikisana ngokungqalileyo nabo, yamkela iqhinga elithi 'ewe, kodwa', elingazukubabeka ngokupheleleyo, kwaye likuvumele ukuba uve olwakho uluvo.
'Ndiyayibona into oyithethayo ngamakhondo obugcisa, kodwa nantsi indlela endibona ngayo…' ngumzekelo omnye.
I-know-it-alls ayithandi ukuba ngabaphulaphuli abalungileyo, kodwa bafuna ngokobuqu ukuba bazive besiva, ke nangayiphi na indlela onokuthi uyiqokelele loo vibe ngaphandle kokugxeka ngokuthe ngqo isebenza ngcono.
3. Phendula ngeendlela ezingezoyongozi
Kunokuba sisilingo ukuphendula kokwazi konke ngokubaxelela ukuba bayaphazama, kodwa loo nto inokubakhuthaza baphikisane nengongoma yabo ngakumbi. (Nokuba abanalo nofifi malunga nokuba bathetha ngantoni.)
Ukuphendula ngaphandle kokubakhuthaza, xela iinyani ezinje 'Ewe, nantsi into endiyivileyo malunga…'
Ukuthetha ngokusuka kumava akho kuya kunceda ukubathoba kancinci, kuba abanakuphika ngokuqinisekileyo oko ukuvileyo okanye into oyicingayo nokuba abavumelani nayo.
4. Vuma ukungavumelani
Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka usonge incoko ngaphandle kokufumana owona mhlaba uphakathi, kwaye kwezo meko kungcono uvume nje ukungavumelani.
'Ewe, ndiyaqonda ukuba sinezimvo ezahlukileyo malunga nokuba kukho ubudala obulungileyo bokuba nabantwana, uMakazi uSally!'
Gcina kukhanya, kwaye kugcine kuhamba.
I-know-it-alls ingacaphukisa ngokumangalisayo, kodwa sesona sizathu sokuba ungazibandakanyi kwiingcinga zabo ezibucala kunye neenkani.
Unxibelelwano lokwenyani lunokuba ngaphandle komda wabo wangoku, ke gcina amandla akho kwimeko ethile apho unokuzuza khona ngokuyisebenzisa.
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5. Yazisa ngezinye iingcinga
Endaweni yokubonelela ngombono othi 'mna ndiphikisana nawe', unokubafumana ukuba baqwalasele indlela enye Abantu banokucinga ngesihloko esikufutshane.
Yiya nento enje ngo 'Hmm, sonke sinemibono eyahlukileyo malunga neyona ndlela yokunciphisa umzimba Ndiyazibuza ukuba ingaba abanye abantu abafana neengcali zezondlo bazijonga njani nokuba iswekile yeziqhamo iyakutyeba na.'
Le ndlela inokwanela ukubakhumbuza ukuba abekho kwiziko elipheleleyo lendalo yonke, kwaye ezinye izimvo zinokubakho… ubuncinci okwangoku.
6. Qala ngokubabuza imibuzo endaweni yoko
Ukuba ukwimeko apho ukwazi-konke kuza kuwe kunye neenyaniso (eziyinyani okanye ezingeyonyani), ungazicothisa ngokubabuza imibuzo elandelayo.
Sukuyibuza imibuzo efana nokuba ucela umngeni kuyo yonke into ngeenzame zokuyithatha, kodwa bacele ukuba bakuchaze ukuba awuyiqondi into abayithethayo.
'Ungacacisa ukuba ufunda phi ngokuninzi ngokunitha, bendingazi ukuba uyaluka ngokwakho ...'
Eyona nto icacisiwe kwaye ineenkcukacha zemibuzo yakho, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba baqonde ukuba mhlawumbi abanazo zonke iinyani zabo ezimiselweyo emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
7. Khokela ngomzekelo
Ngamanye amaxesha wena ngokwenene Kuya kufuneka ubandakanyeke kukwazi konke, njengaxa usebenza naye kwaye usebenza kwiqela elinye.
Kwezo meko, ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka uliginye ikratshi lakho kwaye ukhokele ngomzekelo ngethemba lokuba baya kubamba.
Ukuvuma ukuba awunazo zonke iimpendulo kunokubabonisa ukuba kulungile ukuba ungazi yonke into, kodwa sekunjalo uzithembe kwaye usebenze kwinto oyenzayo.
Oku akunakulindeleka ukuba kutshintshe indlela abaziphethe ngayo ngobusuku obunye, kodwa umntu kufuneka atyale loo mbewu ukuba ingaze ihlume.
iingcebiso ngokuba yintombi elungileyo
8. Gcina Ismor Of Ukuhlekisa
Nanini na apho unako, gcina uburharha bakho ngelixa ujongene nokwazi konke kuya kukhupha uxinzelelo olukhulu kuye wonke umntu.
Ukuba bathetha into egwenxa, ungasoloko uhleka uburharha bayo kwaye uqhubeke.
Nokuba baphendula ngokungakhathali, ungabaphosa nje 'uyifumene' okanye 'kulungile' kwaye uqhubeke nokonwabela icala lakho kwincoko.
Zikhumbuze ukuba abanabungozi kwaphela kwaye nokuba ukucaphukisa indlela abaziphethe ngayo akujoliswanga ekukuqhubeni ngobuhlanya.
9. Yiyeke ihambe
Eyona ndlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba i-know-it-all ayikuqhubeli ekuphambaneni kukufumana indlela yokuyeka nje.
Oku kunokufuna ukuba usebenzise monologue yakho yangaphakathi ukuzinzisa kwaye uphinde ufumane iziko lakho, kodwa ihlala iyindlela elungileyo yokuzibamba kunxunguphalo lomzuzu.
Ukuba i-know-it-all ayinakufumana ukuphuma kuwe, banokudikwa kwaye baqhubele phambili komnye umntu oya kuthi abanike isinongo esincinci kwincoko.
Hlala uzolile nokuba ungaziva njani ngaphakathi, hamba ukuba kunyanzelekile, emva koko yiyeke incoko ihambe.
