Umhlaba unokuba yindawo emnyama apho ubuhle kunye nobubele kunzima ukufumana…
… Okwangoku, baninzi abantu abalungileyo abaphaya phandle abazama ukuthatha obo bumnyama ngokukhanyisa ukukhanya kwabo kohlobo lwabo.
Ngumnqweno oncomekayo kunye nomgangatho kuye nawuphi na umntu. Ngelishwa, kukho ukubandezeleka okukhulu, ukungakhathali, kunye nokuzingca kwihlabathi. Abantu bahlala bezikhathalele, hayi abanye abantu.
Umntu olungileyo, olungileyo ongenayo imida eqinileyo yokuzimela ngasemva uya kuzifumana ezibi ngakumbi.
Oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uyeke ukulunga ukuba ulungile, okanye awufanelanga ukuba ulunge kwasekuqaleni, kanye nje kukuba kufuneka wazi ixesha lokuvala umnyango kwimeko engeyiyo enokukulimaza.
Ubuntu kufuneka bujongwe kwimfihlakalo yokuba inobubele nenkohlakalo, inemfesane kwaye iyabanda, inesisa kwaye iyazingca.
Ukukwazi ukuphila, ukukhula, kunye nokuphila ngendlela esempilweni kufumaneka ngokulinganisa ezi nkalo zemeko yomntu.
Ukuba mhle kakhulu kunokubenzakalisa ubomi bakho, kodwa ukuqonda imiceli mngeni ehamba nayo kunokukugcina ungonzakaliswa ngelixa uzama ukubeka into elungileyo emhlabeni.
Ke… yintoni ekufuneka uyazi?
1. Abantu baya kuzama ukukuxhaphaza.
Umntu olungileyo unokuba ngumoya owamkelekileyo womoya omtsha kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo. Kwiimeko ezingalunganga, nangona kunjalo, banokutsala ingqalelo engathandekiyo.
Intle ingangumqobo kwindawo ezinokhuphiswano ezinjengendawo yokusebenzela kunye neshishini, ngakumbi ukuba wenza impazamo yokucinga ukuba umntu ochasene nawe uya kukuphatha ngendlela efanayo yobuntu okanye intlonipho.
umyeni wam akasandithandi
Abantu abafuna i-edge baya kuhlala behlala kubantu abalungileyo, kuba i-nice ihlala ihambelana nokuthamba, ngakumbi ukuba ukwindawo apho okuhle kungangqinelaniyo nokuziphatha okuqhelekileyo kuloo ndawo.
Ungakuthintela oku ngokwazi imeko-bume yakho kwaye uqinisekise ukuba imida yakho iqinile. Kulungile ukuba nembeko, uchubekile, kwaye ube yingcali ukuba nje unokuqinisekisa ukuba umdla wakho ukhuselekile kwaye ukhuselekile.
2. Abantu banokungakuhloniphi okanye bayeke imida yakho.
Abantu bahlala bevavanya imida yakho, betyhalela ukubona ukuba bangaphuma phi kude kube ekugqibeleni ugqibe kwelokuba ubuyisele umva ukuthintela ukuphathwa ngendlela engamkelekanga.
Rhoqo, baya kuthi emva koko bazame ukubuyela emva ekuziphatheni kwabo ngokukuxelela ukuba awuqondanga kakuhle, bebengathethi ukuba yindlela ebebezise ngayo, okanye bebeqhula nje.
Liqhinga eliqhelekileyo lokukhohlisa elikuxelela okuninzi malunga nomntu onxibelelana naye.
Ukungaqondi kakuhle ngokwenyani kuya kubandakanya ukuxolisa kunye nokuzama ukulungisa isimilo.
indoda nomfazi abathandanayo
Abantu abahamba babuya umva bahlala bekhangela ubuthathaka kwimida yakho, abaya kuyifumana kungekudala okanye kamva ukuba ubavumela baqhubeke nokujikeleza.
Aba bantu kufuneka bagcinwe kumgama okhuselekileyo ukuba abasuswanga kubomi bakho ngokupheleleyo.
3. Abantu abayi kuzabalazela ukuhlangabezana neemfuno zakho.
Uninzi lwabantu zizidalwa ezinokuzingca, ezizithandayo eziqhutywa kuphela ziimvakalelo kunye nembono yehlabathi.
Isenokungabi ngabo bonke abanovelwano okanye abanovelwano kwiimfuno zabanye. Banokungaqapheli ngokwenyani kwindlela abaziphethe ngayo okanye bangakhathali.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, uyakufumanisa ukuba abantu abangakhathaliyo ngabantu abakhe bakwenza kodwa babe nobuhle babo kunye nobubele babo bathatha ithuba.
Abantu abahle kufuneka qiniseka . Kufuneka banxibelelane nabantu ababangqongileyo ukuba zeziphi iimfuno kunye nolindelo lwabo.
Uninzi lwabantu abalungileyo alufuni kuthathwa njenge ukhohlakele, ukhohlakele okanye akanabubele , ke bayakwamkela ukuphathwa kakubi okanye ngaphandle kokuqwalaselwa ukuze bangaphazamisi.
Ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka wenze ukuphazamiseka ukuba oko kuthetha ukuba awuphathwa ngembeko.
4. Ungalibala ukuziphatha kakuhle.
Asinguye wonke umntu olungileyo emhlabeni olungileyo kuba yile nto ayiyo. Kukho abo banikezela ngamandla amaninzi ukuba babe mnandi kwabanye abantu njengendlela yokuzinyanga ukuze baphephe ukujongana neengxaki zabo.
Banokuphosa ixesha labo elininzi kunye namandla kubuhle obubanika abanye ukuba bangabinako ukulungisa okanye ukuzinyamekela iimfuno zabo.
Ubomi bunamaxhala kwaye bunoxinzelelo. Abantu baya kudlula kwiimeko ezininzi ezintle nezingalunganga.
Kulula kakhulu ukutshayelwa kukungakhathali kunye neengxaki zabanye abantu kwaye utsalwe kunye nabo.
Into elandelayo uyazi, ungajonga ujonge kwaye ubone ukuba iminyaka ihambile ngaphandle kokwenza inkqubela phambili ebonakalayo kwiingxaki zakho ezinokukuvumela ukuba ufumane uxolo lwengqondo kunye nolonwabo.
Yiba mnandi kwihlabathi, ukuba yile nto ufuna ukuyifaka kuyo, kodwa ungalibali ukuziphatha ngendlela ophatha ngayo abanye.
5. Abantu baya kukujonga ngokungathandabuzeki kunye nokungathembani.
Akuqhelekanga kubantu ukuba jonga ubumnandi obungenasizathu njengehambo ekrokrisayo .
Umhlaba unokuba yindawo engenabubele apho ubumnandi obungalindelekanga bunokubangela ingozi yomntu ongayilindelanga… ngakumbi ukuba abakwazi kuchonga ukuba zeziphi iinjongo onazo.
Abantu banokucinga ukuba kukho into engalunganga kuwe, ukuba ulungile kuphela ukuba uzisebenzise okanye ukufihla iinjongo ezingalunganga.
Oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uyeke ukuba muhle!
Endaweni yoko, yazi ukuba unokufumana olu hlobo lwempendulo kwaye ulungele ukujongana nayo ngaphambi kwexesha.
Veza iinjongo zakho, ukuba unayo, ngomnye umntu. Kwaye ukuba awenzi njalo, Linda nomntu ukuze bafumane ithuba lokuziva uphumile kwaye bafike kwinqanaba labo lokuthuthuzela.
Oko kungathatha ixesha de omnye umntu abone ukuba unyanisekile kwizenzo nakwindlela oziphethe ngayo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Indlela yokuZimela ngokwakho
- Oonobangela, imikhwa, kunye neentlobo zokuziphatha okuZenzakalisayo
- Imizekelo eli-12 yokuZiphatha okuKhangela ukuVunywa (+ Indlela yokuShiya iMfuno yakho yoQinisekiso)
- Ungayibonisa njani intlonipho kwabanye (+ Kutheni ibalulekile ebomini)
- Ungatsho njani ukuba hayi ebantwini (kwaye ungaziva buhlungu ngayo)
6. Unokuzigqwetha iingcinga zakho zehlabathi.
Umbono ozinzileyo kwihlabathi esiphila kulo liyimfuneko ukuqinisekisa ukuba sigcina impilo esempilweni, nengqondo elungeleleneyo.
Ngokufanelekileyo, njengomntu olungileyo, uya kuzifumana ujikelezwe ngabanye abantu abalungileyo nabanobubele njengoko umi kwaye unyanzelisa imida yakho kakuhle. Abaxhamli kunye nabasebenzisi bahlala behlazo kubantu abangazivumeli ukuba baqhathwe.
Nangona kunjalo, kunokuba lula ukuphulukana nokubona umhlaba wonke ukuba isangqa sakho sivalekile kakhulu.
Sinokuwela kwimeko yokuziva sinqabisekile kwaye sinelisekile, sinikezela kakhulu ebantwini abangayihloniphiyo okanye abangabuyisiyo ubumnandi obufanayo, kwaye sizifumane senzakele kwinkqubo.
Kulungile ukuba ungqongwe ngabantu abalungileyo nabalungileyo, kodwa akulunganga kangako ukuba ungalahli umbono wobunzima boluntu kunye nehlabathi liphela.
Ayikuko ukuba umhlaba uyindawo eyoyikekayo okanye akukho ndawo yobumnandi. Kungakumbi ukuba uninzi lwabantu luzikhathalele ngokwenene iimfuno zabo okanye ukuzikhusela.
Abantu abahle kufuneka bazenzele ngokwabo kwinqanaba elithile, nabo.
7. Ungaqala ukubacaphukisa abantu olungileyo kubo.
Inzondo yimvakalelo enetyhefu enokuthi icothise isiseko sobuhlobo kunye nokuthembana. Ihlala iqala ngotshintshiselwano olungalinganiyo phakathi kwamaqela achaphazelekayo.
Kwimeko yobuhle, ingaqala ukukhula ukuba umntu olungileyo uziphalazela kakhulu komnye umntu ngaphandle kwembuyekezo efanelekileyo.
wazi njani ukuba umfazi uyakuthanda ngokwenene
Oko kuxhomekeke kwimeko yemeko. Mhlawumbi awunabahlobo naloo mntu. Mhlawumbi bangumntu onengxaki yokuba uzama ukubaphakamisa kwaye ubaxhase.
Awulindelanga ukuba bubuhle okanye ububele kubo ngoku kuba bayasokola kwaye bazama ukugcina iintloko zabo ngaphezulu kwamanzi.
Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa ekugqibeleni behambisa iingqondo zabo kwindawo ebhetele kwaye bathathe isigqibo sokungabuyiseli xa umntu olungileyo efuna inkxaso?
Emva koko unenzondo.
wenzeni xa abahlobo bakho bekushiya ngaphandle
Ubuhlobo kunye nobudlelwane yinto eyahlukileyo iyonke. Zifanele ukuba ziphindaphindeke kwaye zincedisane ngandlela thile.
Awunakuhlala uthulula ubumnandi kunye nobubele kwiikomityi zabanye ngaphandle kokuzigqibela. Le nkqubo yokupheliswa ikhawuleza kakhulu ukuba umntu ungumhlobo okanye omnye obalulekileyo ongagaleliyo kuwe.
Inzondo iya kwakha kwaye olo lwalamano luya kuqhawuka.
8. Ungazifumana ucela uxolo kwizinto ezingezizo ezakho.
Abantu abahle abayithandi into yokubona abanye abantu becaphuka okanye becaphukisa abanye abantu. Oko kunokujika kube yingxaki kumntu olungileyo ukuba baqala ukuthwala iingxaki kunye neemvakalelo ezingezizo ezabo.
Yinto enye ukubakhona komntu onobunzima, ukunika inkxaso kunye nobubele kumzuzu wokuzama. Umntu olungileyo kufuneka alumke ngomnye umntu ozama ukutyhala uxanduva lwabo lweemvakalelo kubo.
Umntu olungileyo kufuneka alilumkele eli binzana, 'ndiyaxolisa,' ukuqinisekisa ukuba kunjalo ndingaxolisi kwizinto ezingezizo iziphoso zabo kunye nokuzilolonga iimvakalelo zokuba omnye umntu ebefanele ukuzisebenzela.
Kulungile yamkela uxanduva lokukhetha kunye nezenzo zakho , ezilungileyo nezingalunganga, kodwa abantu abalungileyo kufuneka bakulumkele ukungathathi uxanduva lweemvakalelo ezingezizo ezabo.
Ngandlela yonke, xolisa xa wenze into engalunganga okanye ukuzisola , kodwa musa ukuxolisa ngezinto ezingezizo iziphoso zakho okanye uxanduva.
9. Usenokuzifumanisa usindwa luxanduva olongezelelekileyo.
Ukuba mnandi kakhulu yindlela ekhawulezayo yokuntywiliselwa ngenani elingenakulawuleka loxanduva olubonakalayo.
Kwaye ngoxanduva olubambekayo, sithetha ngezinto eziqhubekayo ebomini bakho, ngokuzithandela kwimisebenzi ngaphandle kokubonisana nawe kuba becinga ukuba uya kuyivuma, okanye wamkele ngaphezulu kwesabelo sakho esifanelekileyo somsebenzi.
Abantu abalunge kakhulu kwaye abanemfesane banokuxhatshazwa ngabantu abangakhathaliyo ngeemvakalelo zabo, abalihloneli ixesha labo, okanye uxanduva lwabo.
'Hayi.' Isivakalisi esipheleleyo ekufuneka sifundwe ngabantu abalungileyo.
Kukho amaxesha apho kulungile okanye kufanelekile ukubonelela ngesizathu esongezelelweyo, ngakumbi ukuba uzama ukufumana umhlaba ophakathi nabantu osondele kubo.
Nangona kunjalo, abantu ongasondelanga apho kungafuneki kulungelelwaniso, okanye abo bakusebenzisayo akufuneki bafumane ngaphezulu kuka 'hayi.'
Ukuzithethelela kunika umntu onobuqhetseba obunokubangelwa kukungazithembi nokujongela phantsi u 'hayi' wakho.
10. Uba nomtsalane kubatshutshisi, abaxhaphazi, kunye nabasebenzisi.
Abantu abalungileyo batsala ii-narcissists, i-manipulators kunye nabasebenzisi.
Ngoba?
Kungenxa yokuba izibini ezintle ezingenalwazi zihlala zanele ukuba yinto yokungcakaza ekhuselekileyo. Abantu abalungileyo nabangenangqondo bahlala befuna ukubona okuhle kwabanye abantu, nditsho nabantu apho okusemandleni abo kungasondeli ekugubungeleni izinto ezimbi.
Izidlakudla ziya kubantu abalungileyo kuba zihlala zilula ukuhamba ngeenyawo, zisebenzisa ubuqhetseba, azibuzi imibuzo eyiyo, azimiseli mida kwaye ziyinyanzelise, kwaye kunzima ukubukela abanye abantu besokola.
Ukubandezeleka kunantoni yakwenza nayo? Indlela eqhele ukwenziwa yokukhohlisa kukuzipeyinta njengexhoba kweli hlabathi likhohlakeleyo.
“Umphathi ubenomdla ngam!”
lil uzi vert umhla wokufa
“Bonke abantu endandikade ndisebenza nabo babephambene!”
'Wonke umntu uchasene nam kwaye akukho namnye undixhasayo!'
Isiphathamandla sithanda ukushiya indima yabo kuzo zonke ezi zinto, indlela abaziphatha ngayo kwabanye abantu, nokuba babebonisa kwaye bewenza umsebenzi wabo, ukuba banikezela ngalo naluphi na uhlobo lwenkxaso okanye uncedo kubahlobo babo.
Umntu ongenamava uya kuziva kakubi ngalomntu ngaphandle kokujongwa, angabuzi izizathu zabo okanye ukungangqinelani. Oku kubabeka kwindawo yokuchaphazeleka.
Eyona ndlela ilula yokulwa oku kukuthathela ingqalelo, ukumamela ukungangqinelani, kunye nokubabuza. Unokuvelana nebali lomnye umntu, kodwa ungavumeli iimvakalelo zakho zisithe umgwebo wakho.
Ubumnandi luphawu oludingwa kakhulu leli lizwe, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo lunokubangela iingxaki ezingafunekiyo ebomini bakho.
Ubomi bumalunga nokulingana. Kukho amaxesha apho into entle ingeyiyo into efanelekileyo, ngakumbi xa kufikwa ekugcineni ubungcwele bendawo yakho, uxolo lwengqondo kunye nolonwabo.
Sonke singazama ukuba sihle kwaye sibubeke obububele emhlabeni, kodwa kufuneka sikulinganise oko nokuqinisekisa ukuba asiphathwa kakubi kwinkqubo.
