Ukuzimela ngokwakho kuvakala ngathi yinto ethe tye apho uyazi ukuba ungubani na, usete umda kubani kwaye uza kunyamezela ntoni, ukhethe amadabi akho, kwaye ungaqali iimfazwe.
Kodwa xa imvumelwano yangoku isitsho ukuba kufuneka 'ume umhlaba' okanye 'uzenze mkhulu kwakhona,' kujongeka njani ukuzimela kwakho?
Nye. Zazi ukuba Ungubani
Umele bani? Ukuba bekunyanzelekile zichaze kwaye isimilo sakho sangaphakathi kumntu ongamaziyo, ngaba baya kufumana ukuqonda ukuba ungubani?
Kwangoko kwilulwane, kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba uluvo aluyonyani. Sishukunyiswa kukucinga ngandlela thile kwaye, ngenxa yentsomi yomntu ombi, silawula lula ukuziqinisekisa ukuba iingcinga zezethu.
Khusela okwakho, akunjalo?
Ngaphandle, rhoqo, izimvo zethu azihlali kakuhle neziqu zethu.
Ngaba ayibobudenge ukuma ngefadade?
Endaweni yoko, ziqhelanise nengqondo. Kukho iincwadi ezikhoyo, iividiyo kunye neewebhusayithi ukuze uqalise.
Ukuqonda kusinceda sizikhulule kwi-Id esebenzayo, kwaye ngokwenza njalo kusivumela ukuba sibone-kwaye siyixabise-eyona nto siyiyo.
Xa uzixabisa, uyimela eyakho isiqu sakho , hayi ingxelo enamathiselwe kuwe.
2. Misela imida
Nokuba uluncedo kangakanani, uyakuhlala ekhona umntu ocinga ukuba angakwazi ukungcungcuthekisa wena Ukwenza okungakumbi, ukunika ngaphezulu, kunye nokuba ngaphezulu.
Ukuzimela ngokwakho kuthetha ukuseta imida ukuze ungabi yingxowa yokuphela, enokukhokelela ekubeni yingxowa yomsindo.
Ukuba ungumsebenzi wasekhaya owusoloko uphazanyiswa ngabantu bekubuza ukuba awunakukhathazeka na ngokubenzela izinto ezithile (kuba awukho 'emsebenzini'), ubazise iiyure zakho zeofisi zinje-kwaye- Ezi zinto ziya kusebenza ngokumangalisayo kwimpilo yomqolo wakho.
Vumela abathandi bazi into oyithandayo nongayithandiyo. Yazisa abahlobo bakho ukuba yeyiphi na nengamkelekanga.
Uninzi lwabantu kwizangqa zakho zangaphakathi bayakwamkela ukuba ixesha lakho alinasiphelo, kwaye nezixhobo zakho azinakuphela.
Ukuthi hayi kwabanye asilophawu lokuzingca okanye ubundlongondlongo, kanti nabani na olindele ukuba u-ewe ngalo lonke ixesha abonakalise into engathandekiyo.
3. Ziqhelise, Ziqhelise, Ziqhelise
Njengazo zonke izinto, kokukhona uyenza ngakumbi, kokukhona ufika kuyo. Ukuzimela ngokwakho akukho kwahlukile.
Kuyanceda nokuqala kumthombo: wena.
Ukuzimela ngokwakho kuthetha ukwenza itango enobuso esipilini. Ukuma kunokuba lula njengokugqitha kwelizwi elibi elithi 'Kutheni uzikhathaza?' xa unemincili kwaye ukhuthazeka ukwenza utshintsho olulungileyo.
Yitya eso siqhamo endaweni yesandla esineebhere!
Jonga iimfuno ezingapheliyo zemidiya yoluntu ukonwaba ngokuzolileyo ngexesha kunye nencwadi!
Ukuma ngokwakho kukunceda uphakame ye ngokwakho.
4. Wazi amalungelo akho
Kuba amazwe awachaza ngokungaqondakaliyo amalungelo ngokungathi iingxelo zefashoni (yintoni, yintoni eshushu, yintoni icouture!), Siza kuyicacisa le nto ngokuthi 'Amalungelo akho oLuntu.'
Unayo ilungelo lokuhlonitshwa . Yazi loo nto.
Unelungelo lokukhathalelwa nokuthandwa. Yazi loo nto.
Unelungelo lokuqonda kunye novelwano.
Unelungelo lokusilela.
Unelungelo lokuphumelela.
Unelungelo lokuthula.
Wazalwa unelungelo lokonwaba.
Singaqhubeka nokuqhubeka. Akukho mntu unelungelo lokukuphatha kakubi. Akukho mntu unelungelo lokukukhathaza. Akukho mntu kufuneka afune ukukuqulatha, abe naye, okanye akutyeshele.
Singabantu, akukho namnye kuthi onobuntu ngaphezu komnye. Lumkela abo baphila ubomi babo ngokungathi kukubetha ngenqindi ibheji yembeko.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ungakholelwa Njani Kuwe Kwaye Woyike Ukungaqiniseki
- Uthetha Njani Ngokucacileyo, Yeka ukuMmumba, kwaye uve amaxesha onke
- Yitsho ezi ziQinisekiso ezi-6 eziqinisekileyo zemihla ngemihla ukuzakhela ukuzithemba nokuzithemba
- Ungazinqoba njani iimvakalelo zokungazithembi kwaye ujongane nezizathu
- Iindlela ezi-5 eziMnandi zokuHamba abaNtu abangaThathi ntweni Abathobela uKhetho lwakho loBomi
5. Funda Ixabiso Lokuthula
Uyayazi intetho yakudala ethi 'Thetha uthambe kwaye uphathe intonga enkulu'? Thatha eli nyathelo ukuqhubekeka: thetha kancinci-kwaye ngamanye amaxesha hayi kwaphela-kwaye abantu banokuza bayihloniphe kwaye bancome ukuzibamba kwakho.
Kukho into emayithethwe malunga negorha elingaphosi, okanye isellii ikrele laso elingasuki kwi-scabbard yaso, okanye laa mntwana uthuleyo esikolweni ongazange athathwe kuba abantu bemxabisile ethe cwaka ekwenzeni into yakhe.
Baye bazimela ngaphandle komzamo owongezelelekileyo kuba abantu bebengazi ukubacaphukisa.
Nawe, unokuba nguwe.
6. ULwimi loMzimba
Ukuzimela ngokwakho kunokuba lula njengokuma ngokoqobo… nkqo!
Ulwimi lomzimba ludlala indima enkulu kwindlela abantu abakhetha ukunxibelelana nathi. Ukulala, ukusonga ngesandla, kunzima ukunxibelelana nabanye - Zonke zinegalelo kwiimeko apho unokuphathwa ngendlela enokuthi uzimele.
Into elungileyo malunga nolwimi lomzimba kukuba ezi ziimpendulo eziqhelekileyo, ezingagxili. Unokuziqeqesha uphume kuzo ukubonisa ukuzithemba ngakumbi, ukuzimisela.
7. Khetha amadabi akho
Njengoko kuchaziwe ekuvuleni, ubomi bunokubonakala ngathi ngumnxeba ovulekileyo kubavuseleli bemfazwe. Wonke umntu ulwa nokuba yimfazwe yakudala okanye imfazwe yomnye umntu.
Ayisiyo yonke indibaniselwano kwindawo apho ubugorha bakho bubuzwa. Abo baziva kufanele ukuba bazikhusele ngokungapheziyo ngokwabo okanye kwisikhundla abasibambeleyo ukuze bacinge ukuba bayaziqinisa, kanti enyanisweni bangamajezi.
Musa ukuba ngundabamlonyeni. Sukuziva isidingo sokutsiba ngeenyawo zakho, 'spella, pontificate, refute, kunye / okanye isifuba sokubetha ngawo onke amathuba. Uya kuphuma ungakhuselekanga xa ucinga ukuba awunakuchaphazeleka ngokuthe ngqo xa uziva ukuba ufake inqaku lomntu.
Ukuzikhusela akubonakalisi, nokuba ungafuna kangakanani na ukuzinxibisa 'ngokuzimela'.
Ukucaphuka kubi kabini.
8. Nyaniseka
Abantu abathembekileyo Ngokuqhelekileyo banexesha elilula lokuzimela ngenxa yokuba abachithi amandla axabisekileyo okukhusela ii-facade eziphambili.
Oku kubalwa kubudlelwane, oku kubalwa emsebenzini, kwanaxa udibana nabantu ongabaziyo ekuphumeni kokutya.
Ukuba unyanisekile kwinkolelo yakho nakwindlela ohamba ngayo kwihlabathi, ukuzimela ngokwakho ngumcimbi wokuchaza i-XY kwaye ushiye abanye ukuba benze ngayo into abaya kuyenza.
Awuzukuziva unesidingo sokujija ukuze uzive umkhulu ekuthetheni umntu ngaphandle ukuze ubathobe isidima nokuba ungaziqinisekisi ukuze abanye bangabinakho ukukuxhaphaza.
Njengomntu ongathethiyo, uyakufumanisa ukuba phantsi kwesambulela sokunyaniseka awuzukuchasana neziganeko ezininzi apho abantu bathatha isigqibo sokusebenzisa ii-whims zabo njengeendlela zokukuwisa.
9. Hlafuna, Musa ukuginya
Kukangaphi uluma ulwimi lwakho kunokuba uvakalise ingqondo yakho? Oku akunampilo ngeendlela ezininzi, kodwa ngeenjongo zokuzibamba, kukuzibetha.
Ukuba uluhlobo lokuginya amagama akho kunokuba uhlafune kwaye ugaye inyama yokunxibelelana, thatha umoya ophefumlayo, uqonde ukuba akukho nto ifanelekileyo ephuma emlonyeni wakho inokuthi ihlangane noloyiko, kwaye uthethe.
Izinto ezishiyiweyo zingathethwanga zezona zinombolo zokuzibamba ngokwahlukileyo kokunxibelelana okunempilo, okuqhelekileyo, kubandakanya ukungavisisani.
Thetha kwaye uzimele ngokwakho ngokufumana iindlela zokuthetha okusengqondweni yakho okukufaneleyo kunye neemfuno zakho.
Oku kwenziwa ngokumamela endaweni yokuphendula ukwetyisa endaweni yokuzama ukubamba kakhulu kangangokuba ekugqibeleni-kwaye, ngokufuthi, ngokungathandekiyo-kuphuma njengokugabha njengokuthetha kunye nokuziva uvakalelo.
'Kodwa khawume ngomzuzu,' ndikuva ukhala, 'watsho ngaphambili ukuba ukwamkele ukuthula. Yiphi na? ”
Umbuzo olungileyo. Ewe, kwimeko yangaphambili, ibikukubonisa amandla ngaphandle kokuya kwizinyeliso zomlomo.
Apha, oko kuthetha ukuba uzimisele kwaye uyakwazi ukuthetha ngokungagungqiyo ukuze wenze iminqweno okanye izimvo zakho zaziwe ngabanye. Imalunga nokukwazi ukunxibelelana ngokufanelekileyo nabanye ukuze kuthintelwe ukudideka okanye ukungaqondani.
Umahluko omkhulu.
Ukuzimela ngokwakho akuyomfuneko ukuba ube ngumsebenzi weHerculean. Ngokwenyani, ayifanelanga ukuba njalo, kuba ukuba injalo, kukho into engaphandle komkhondo wobomi bakho.
Kuya kuhlala kukho amaxesha kunye nabantu abasivavanya thina bantu abakhupha ubuthathaka kwaye bahlasele.
Kodwa ukuqaphela kuqala kwaye okuphambili ukuba awutyali mntu kuwe kunokuba uzimisele ukunika yindlela yokuzinika ukuma okukhulu, kunye nokwehla okumangalisayo kwinani lamaxesha osenokuhlaselwa ngawo.
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