Ukuzungeza ngabantu abaxhasayo yenye yezona zinto zibalulekileyo zokuba sempilweni kwaye wonwabe. Ngokuqinisekileyo, nangona kunjalo, uya kujongana nabantu abohlukeneyo abakudelela ukhetho lwakho lobomi kwaye bakudelele.
Unokwaneliseka ngokugqibeleleyo ngobomi bakho, kodwa kuyakuhlala kukho umntu okuxelela ukuba wenze okungakumbi, ungcono, kwaye uzityhalele phambili.
Ezi ntlobo zincinci zinolwazi oluncinci nge- uxolo lwangaphakathi noxolo oluzayo ukuba nombulelo into osele unayo. Endaweni yoko, bagculela abo bababona ngathi 'bazinza' ebomini.
Nazi iingcebiso ezi-5 eziluncedo zokukugcina upholile kwaye ujongane nokungakhathaleli…
1. Fumana i-Outlet
Izinto zokuqala kuqala, kuya kufuneka ufunde indlela yokujongana nokungakhathali kunye noxinzelelo, njengoko unyanzelekile ukuba ube namava awohlukeneyo ebomini bakho.
Ukuba nendawo yokuyila uxinzelelo lwakho kunokuba luncedo kakhulu- Ijenali , Zilolonge, okanye uthathe iiseramikhi… nantoni na ekusebenzela!
Nokuba wonwabile kangakanani kukhetho lwakho, kuyakubakho umntu okulalelayo ezithunzini, ekulungele ukukubeka. Oku kunokusikhathaza kwaye sihlala sivumela ezi mvakalelo ukuba ziphele ixesha elide.
Ukufumana indlela yokukhupha ezi mvakalelo zingathandekiyo, endaweni yokuba uziyeke ekugqibeleni, kubaluleke kakhulu kwimpilo yakho.
Yiba nomkhwa wokwenza izinto ezikwenza ukuba uzive ulungile, kokubini engqondweni nasemzimbeni.
Ukuba nezi zinto zokuzonwabisa kukubeka kakuhle ebomini ngokubanzi, kwaye unokuba yindlela efanelekileyo yokujongana neemeko xa uthe wawa kumaxesha anzima.
Awungekhe ukwazi ukukhwaza abantu abathile ngokukubeka phantsi, kodwa ungawukhupha wonke umsindo wakho kwingxowa yepunch kwindawo yokuzivocavoca.
2. Gxila
Kunokudinisa xa abanye abantu behlala bebuza izigqibo zakho kwaye begxeka kakhulu, kwaye kunokubakhokelela kwingxaki yesazisi.
Oku kuyinto eqhelekileyo, sukuphakuzela! Nangona ukhululekile ukuba unokhetho lwakho, ukubabuza imibuzo ephindaphindiweyo kuya kukwenza ubabuze ngokwakho.
Yenza uluhlu lwezinto ozithandayo ngobomi bakho, nokuba kunjalo ukungatshati kwaye uzimele (ungabi nesithukuthezi kwaye ungathandwa!), Ukuzisebenzela kunye nomphathi wakho (ungonqenayo!), Okanye umzali wokuhlala ekhaya (hayi umntu onikezelweyo!).
Abantu abaphantsi uya kukhetha ukubona icala elingalunganga lemiba ethile yobomi bakho, kwaye kukuwe ukuba uhlale unethemba.
Ukuba noluhlu olusebenzayo lwezinto ozixabisayo malunga nendlela ophila ngayo kuya kwenza kube lula ukuphatha ukugxeka kwabanye abantu.
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Awudingi ukuthethelela ukhetho lwakho kuye nakubani na, kodwa uhlobo lwabantu abakudelelayo baya kukushiya wedwa bakuba beqondile ukuba balwa idabi elilahlekileyo.
Okukhona uqinisekile ngokubonakala ngale nto uyenzayo, kokukhona kuya kuba lula ukuba bayigxeke.
3. Yekela uhambe
Khumbula ukuba ukhululekile kwaye wanelisekile kangakanani (okanye ukuba usebenza nzima kangakanani ukuphucula ubomi bakho ukuba awukho umxholo we-100%) kwaye uyeke ezinye izimvo ezimbi zabanye abantu.
Oku kunokuba ngumceli mngeni maxa wambi, kunjalo, kodwa inxenye yokuphila kobona bomi bakho bungonwabi ngenxa yezimvo zabanye abantu ngawe.
Kungabonakala kungenakwenzeka, ngakumbi ukuba umntu okugxekayo ngumntu ombona ngalo lonke ixesha. Ukuba ngumphathi wakho okanye umntu osebenza naye, hlela umntu ngamnye kwaye usete imida ecacileyo yokuziphatha okuhle, emva koko uqhubeke.
Awudingi ukuba ube kwisiphelo sokufumana ukungakhathali okuninzi, kwaye kuya kugqiba ukukwenza ube lusizi kwaye uxinezeleke. Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ungangenisi kwimeko yokukhohlisa, kuba oku kunokuphela kuphela kakubi.
Eli lelona xesha lilungileyo lokuyeka ukungakhathali kwaye uqhubeke. Ngelixa abanye abantu baya kuhlala benoluvo malunga nento oyenzayo ngobomi bakho-nokuba lilungu losapho okanye umntu ovela emsebenzini-ayisiyonto yabo ngaphandle kokuba iyabachaphazela.
Ukhetho lwakho lokuba nabantwana, okanye ukungabinabo abantwana, ukuhamba, okanye ukuqala ishishini lakho yinto okhetha ukuyenza ngobomi bakho, kwaye ayifuni kugwetywa okanye ibekwe phantsi ngabanye abantu.
Vumela ukungakhathali okukujikelezileyo kwaye wamkele ukuba abanye abantu baya kuhlala benomona, benomsindo, okanye Ubukrwada !
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Ungayiyeka Njani Intukuthelo: Amanqanaba asixhenxe ukusuka kwiRage ukuya kuKhululwa
- Ungabuqonda njani ubunzima bokwenzelwa phantsi (kunye namanyathelo ama-5 okoyisa)
- Izizathu ezi-5 ezilungileyo zokuyeka ukuzithethela phantsi lonke ixesha
- Izizathu ezili-10 zokungabuthathi kakubi ubomi
4. Yiba Novelwano
Oku kunokuvakala kukungaqheleki, xa unokuthi abantu babukele phantsi ukhetho lwakho lobomi banokuziva ngathi kukuhlaselwa buqu!
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba izimvo zabanye abantu ngawe zihlala zibonisa indlela abavakalelwa ngayo ngeziqu zabo.
Abantu abagxeka ubomi bakho mhlawumbi abonwabanga ngobomi babo, ke oku kunokuba sisibonakaliso (okanye ukuthetha ngokwengqondo, a ingqikelelo Ukungaqiniseki kwabo.
Banokude bakucaphukele indlela ophila ngayo, kwaye ukhethe ukuyigxeka kunokuba wamkele ukuba abonwabanga ngobomi babo.
Yiyeke into engasakusebenzeliyo, kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuba uqhubele phambili kubantu ababonakala ngathi bazimisele ukukwenza uzive ungalunganga ngenxa yako.
Ukuba novelwano kwezi meko kunokuba nzima ngokwenene, ngakumbi xa uthe wanyanzelwa kwaye wanyanzelwa ukuba ufike kwinqanaba!
Zama ukuza neempendulo ezifanelekileyo kwangethuba ukuze uzilungiselele ngakumbi - kunokuba lula ukukhupha xa ucatshukiswa.
Yiba nento entle oyithethayo kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukunceda umntu ukuba kuyacaca ukuba kukho into eyenzekayo emva kohlaselo lwabo.
Umsebenzi onzima, kodwa ube ngumntu omkhulu kwaye yiba nemfesane kwabo bakungqongileyo .
5. Cinga
Ukuba abantu abagxeka kangaka ubomi bakho basondele kuwe, kunokuba kufanelekile ukuthatha oko bakutshoyo ebhodini. Ukuba uziva ukuba aba bantu bakukhathalele ngokwenene, banokubonisa inkxalabo efanelekileyo.
Into ebalulekileyo kukuba wonwabile ngobomi bakho, kunye nokukhetha okwenzayo.
Ugqiba njani ukuba ngubani ophumeleleyo
Ukuba ucinga ukuba umntu osondeleyo kuwe uzama ukwakha kunye nokugxeka kwabo, yenza inqaku, uqiniseke ukuba bayakuqonda ukuba banokwenza uzive ungalunganga ngendlela abavakalisa ngayo inkxalabo yabo, kwaye uthathe ixesha lokuyibonisa.
Iimbono ezahlukeneyo zinokuba luncedo - awunayo ufuna ukuqinisekiswa okanye ukuvunywa kwabanye , kodwa kufanelekile ukuthatha ezinye izimvo xa uthemba ukuba abathethi izinto ngochuku.
Qiniseka ukuba abantu abathetha nawe bayayiqonda into yokuba le nto bayithethayo inokudibana ngendlela engalunganga, kwaye unomdla wokuphepha nayiphi na ityhefu okanye ungquzulwano.
Ukuba nomhlobo osenyongweni okanye ilungu losapho elidlala igqwetha likaMtyholi nawe kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokwenyani yeembono kwaye inokuba neziphumo ezilungileyo ngokwenene.
Nokuba loluphi ukhetho olwenzileyo, okanye olwenzileyo, lolwakho. Ngelixa imfesane kunye nokhathalelo zizinto ezibalulekileyo kubuntu bakho, kuya kufuneka uzingce xa kukho imfuneko.
Funda uku zenzele izigqibo kwaye wanelisekile ngabo, okanye ngenkuthalo usebenzele ukuya kwimeko engcono ngokwakho.
Abanye abantu baya kuhlala befumana indlela yokukubeka phantsi kwaye bakwenze uzive ungalunganga ngendlela ophila ngayo ubomi bakho. Le ayisiyonto yabo (ngaphandle kokuba wenza into eyoyikisayo!) Kwaye abanalungelo lakukwenza uzive ungonelanga okanye usisidenge.
Nokuba kwenzeka njani ndalala kwaye ndakhululeka unguye, okanye ungonwaba njani ngobomi bakho, kunzima ukuba ungarhwebi ngamanye amaxesha.
Abantu abancinci bayakuhlala benza konke okusemandleni abo ukuba bahlale bekukhangela kwaye bakubhabha, uhlala ethembeni lokufumana impendulo enkulu kuwe.
Sukuba nomsindo kuwe ukuba oku kuyenzeka, ungumntu kuphela, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kodwa zama ukuba neendlela ezithile zokujongana nezi meko.
