Nokuba utshintsha imisebenzi, uphuma kubudlelwane, okanye usokola nje ukufumana indlela yakho ebomini, ukuba nengxaki yesazisi kuyinto eqhelekileyo!
Kunokuba nzima ukwazi i “Wokwenene” xa uhlala uzama ukwenza into efunwa okanye elindelwe ngabanye abantu kuwe, okanye xa uzama ukukholisa iqabane elitsha okanye umhlobo.
Thatha ixesha lokuhlala nawe, ucinge ngeengcinga kunye nokuziphatha kwakho, kwaye ufumane ukuba ungubani kanye kanye.
Ukubuza le mibuzo kuya kwenza ngokwenene Nceda:
1. Uthanda Ntoni?
Inxalenye yokwazi ukuba ungubani malunga nokwazi ukuba yintoni ekwenza uzive ulungile.
Sonke siyakonwabela izinto ezahlukeneyo, kwaye kubalulekile ukuba ulinge kwaye ufumane ukuba uthanda ntoni.
Ukwazi ukuthi, 'Ndiyayithanda lento,' zenza indawo enkulu yesazisi, ke thatha ixesha lokufumanisa ukuba yintoni ekwenza uzive wonwabile.
Isenokuba kukuzama iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokutya, ukuzilolonga, ukufunda, ukusebenza, ukuhamba… nokuba yintoni!
Yenza uluhlu lwengqondo-okanye olubhaliweyo lwezinto ozithandayo kwizinto ezikuncedayo ekubunjeni njengomntu.
Cinga malunga nokutya okuthandayo ukutya, into othanda ukuyenza xa ungasebenzi, kunye nokonwabela ukuchitha ixesha naye.
Izinto esizithandayo zizinto ezininzi ezithetha ngathi, ke cinga ngendlela olichitha ngayo ixesha lakho elingasetyenziswanga kunye nento enokuyithetha ngawe.
Eli ayiloxesha lokugxeka, kodwa ukubonisa nje.
Ngaba uyakuthanda ukuchitha ixesha elininzi phandle ukhetha ukuba wedwa kunokuba useqeleni uyayithanda imisebenzi yomzimba okanye uhleli ngokuzolileyo nencwadi?
Ukwahlukana kunye nokubuyela umva kumjikelo
Zikhumbuze ngezi zinto rhoqo.
Kulula kakhulu ukubanjiswa kukungasebenzi kakuhle emsebenzini kwaye ungalali ngokwaneleyo kangangokuba, kungekudala, uqala ukuzibuza ukuba yintoni ekwenza uzive ulungile kwaye uyonwabele ntoni!
Ukuba noluhlu olusebenzayo kunokusebenza njengesikhumbuzo esibalulekileyo sokubeka phambili ulonwabo kunye nokuba sempilweni.
2. Yintoni ongayithandiyo?
Ukwazi into ongayithandiyo kubaluleke kakhulu ekufumaneni okungakumbi ngawe.
Sisoloko sizama-okanye sizenza-ukuthanda izinto esingazonwabisiyo ukuze zilunge kwabanye abantu.
Ngokuzama ukuzigoba kwisikhunta, uza kugqiba ungonwabanga kwaye unganyaniseki kuwe, okungonwabisi konke konke!
Endaweni yokuzinyanzela kwiimeko owaziyo ukuba ngekhe uzonwabele, funda ukuthetha xa ungayithandi into.
Le yinxalenye enkulu yobuntu bakho, ke akukho hlazo lokuthi hayi kwimisitho ethile osele uyazi ukuba ngekhe uyithande.
Ukuba awuzange uzame nto ngaphambili, ngokuqinisekileyo yiya kuyo kwaye ugcine eyakho ingqondo ivulekile , kodwa, ukuba sele uyazi ukuba ayizukuba ngamava amahle kuwe, funda ukuthi hayi.
Khululeka kwaye uzithembe kwinto oyithandayo kunye noko ungakonwabeliyo, kwaye wamkele ukuba ezinye izinto azikufanelanga.
Ayenzi ukuba ungathandeki okanye ungonwabi kancinci ukuba phakathi kwakho kuba ungonwabisi yonke into!
Yiba nengqiqo kwaye uqaphele ukuba wonke umntu unento angayithandiyo ukutya okanye ukwenza okanye ukuthetha ngayo.
Yindalo ngokugqibeleleyo ukungathandi, kwaye ukufunda ukuba ziyintoni kunceda ekubumbeni ubomi bakho kwizinto ozithandayo.
Ukwahlula phakathi kokulungileyo kunye 'nokubi' (kwakho, ubuncinci), ufunda ngawe kunye nendlela yokondla ngokwenyani ingqondo, umzimba kunye nomoya wakho.
Ngaba ukhe wacinga ngokwenza uluhlu lwezinto ongazithandiyo - oku akukho kubi njengoko kuvakala kwaye kunokuba luncedo ekuqinisekiseni ubuntu bakho kuwe.
Endaweni yokuzama ukuba ngulomntu ungeyiyo, funda ukulunga ungubani, ungathandi kwaye konke…
3. Yintoni ebalulekileyo kuwe?
Sonke sikhula sineseti yeenkolelo kunye neenqobo ezisemgangathweni ezifakwe kuthi ngabazali bethu okanye abantu abasikhathalelayo, izikolo zethu kunye nabahlobo bethu.
Njengathi ukhule , kunokuba lula kakhulu ukunamathela kwezi zixabiso ngokungagqibekanga kwaye ungaze ucinge ukuba usakholelwa kuzo.
Ukuzazi akuthethi ukwamkela yonke into ocinga ukuba uyakholelwa kuyo.
Funda ukucela umngeni kwezakho izimvo, ngakumbi ezo zingene nje ebomini bakho ngokukhula kwakho.
Uninzi lwethu luneseti yeenqobo ezichaphazeleke kakhulu kubuntwana bethu kwaye ezinokuthi zingasasebenzi kuthi.
Cinga ngezinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe kwaye ujonge ukuba amaxabiso aqondakeleyo asasebenza kwindlela ophila ngayo ubomi bakho ngoku, umdala.
Njengomntwana, usenokuba wawucinga ukuba ufuna ukutshata kwaye ube nabantwana, kodwa ngoku kunokuba ngathi uxinzelelo luza kuwe njengomntu omkhulu.
Ukuba iseyile nto uyifunayo ebomini, yiya kuyo! Ukuba akunjalo, funda ukubumba ngokutsha amaxabiso akho ukuze ulungele oko ukuko ngoku, hayi ukuba wawungubani ngelo xesha.
Unokufuna ukugxila kwikhondo lakho kwaye ungabinabo abantwana, ke yeka ukuvumela izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka ukuba zixhomekeke kuwe.
Ngokwazi, la maxabiso adlulileyo aphikisanayo neenkolelo zakho zangoku anokukwenza uzive ungonelanga, ke yigxothe engqondweni yakho.
Fumana amaxabiso amatsha ahambelana nobomi bakho ngoku kwaye usebenze ngokubaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Qhubeka, zibuze ukuba yintoni eyona nto ibalulekileyo kuwe.
Bhala phantsi uluhlu lwezinto ozibeka phambili ebomini kwaye ucinge ukuba kutheni zibaluleke kangaka kuwe.
4. Yintoni olungileyo kuyo?
Le yinxalenye enkulu kakhulu yokuba ungumntu onjani, ke thatha ixesha kwaye uqiniseke ukuba uzithatha ngokungathí sina.
Ukuziva uphumelele kuza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo kuye wonke umntu, ke sukucinga ukuba impendulo yakho kufuneka inxulumene nomsebenzi wakho okanye ubutyebi bakho!
Cinga ngento oyenza kakuhle, abantu bakuncome, kwaye zeziphi iimeko ophumelela kuzo.
Ukwazi into oyenzayo kakuhle kuyinxalenye enkulu yesazisi sakho, ke zibuze ukuba yintoni eyenza ukuba uzenze ngcono.
Ungaqala ukufumanise kunzima ukucinga ngezinto olunge kuzo , kodwa ukuba uyanyamezela, ngokuqinisekileyo kuyakubakho uluhlu olude kunokuba ubucinga.
kutheni abafana behlehla xa bekuthanda
Abanye abantu, ukulunga emsebenzini wabo kuya kuba phezulu kuluhlu.
Kwabanye, ukuba ngumphulaphuli olungileyo kwaye ukuba nemfesane iya kuba yile nto bacinga ngayo kuqala.
Hlala phantsi uthathe ixesha lokuvavanya ubomi bakho kunye nawe, ukusuka kwinto oyenzayo, kwiimpawu zakho zobuntu, kwindlela oqhuba ngayo ujikeleze abanye.
Ukuba unengxaki yokwenene, cela uncedo kumhlobo osondeleyo okanye othandekayo. Khumbula ukuba lo msebenzi wenzelwe ukuba ube nethemba!
Zibuze ukuba zeziphi iimpawu zobuntu onazo ezibambe ixabiso kuwe.
Cinga ngezinto ezithandwa ngabantu kuwe, ezinje ngokuba umhlobo olungile , inelizwi elikhulu lokucula, okanye inokuthenjwa kwaye inokuthenjwa.
Yenza uluhlu olude njengoko unokuzibonakalisa kuwo xa unosuku olubi okanye xa uzifumanisa ubuza ukuba ungubani kanye kanye!
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5. Yintoni oyithandayo kwabanye?
Ndiyazi, ndiyazi, sithetha ngawe, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha indlela esibona ngayo abanye abantu inokutshintsha ngokwenene indlela esizibona ngayo.
Kwilizwe leendaba zosasazo kunye neefoto zebrunch ezikhuphisanayo, sihlala sihlala ukuzithelekisa nobomi bethu kwabanye .
Kungaba lula kakhulu ukusongelwa ngokuzibuza ukuba kutheni singenomdla okanye sinomdla njengabo bonke abantu esibalandelayo kwi-Instagram, kodwa yindlela eyingozi yokucinga.
Uninzi lwethu ndiziva ndingakhuselekanga okanye sisongelwe ngabanye abantu abakwenzayo ngobomi babo, kwaye ayisiyiyo nje ngokusebenzisa izikrini zefowuni zethu.
Sibuza ukuba kutheni omnye umntu efumene inkuthazo ebesiyifuna…
… Kutheni umntu oneemvakalelo zokukhetha omnye umntu.
… Kutheni singenakubonakala ngathi ukunciphisa umzimba ngokukhawuleza njengaye wonke umntu.
Inxalenye yokuzazi ngokwakho kukuyeka ukulindela okungenampilo kunye noxinzelelo kwaye ubhiyozele nje indlela oyiyo.
Yeka ukuzama ukuba ngumntu ocinga ukuba abanye bafuna okanye balindele ukuba ube, kwaye uze kummiselo wokuba ungubani, ngoku, ngalo mzuzu.
Kulula ukubanjwa kubomi babanye abantu, kodwa sebenzisa oku ukuze ulunge - sebenza yintoni, ukuba kukho nantoni na, uyabamonela kwaye mhlawumbi usebenzele ukufezekisa into efanayo, okanye funda ukuyishiya.
Ukuba ukufumana olo nyuselo kubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, thetha nomphathi wakho kwaye ucele ingxelo ukuze ulungele ixesha elizayo, kunokuba uzisizele. Fumana iindlela zokuguqula umona ube yinto eyakhayo!
Ukwenza uluhlu luyindlela elungileyo yokunxibelelana nawe, ke cinga ngemibuzo esiye sahamba kuyo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku kwaye ubhiyozele yonke imiba yobuntu bakho kunye nobomi obuthandayo.
Zinike amandla okuzithemba kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba kutheni ugqibelele njengokuba unjalo.
6. Uqhuba ntoni?
Indlela esenza ngayo ixhomekeke kwizinto ezininzi, kwaye ibumba ubukhulu becala ukuba singabantu abanjani.
Cinga ngento ekukhuthazayo ukuba wenze ngeendlela ezithile- ngaba zezemali, zezokukwenza ngovelwano, okanye ngumnqweno wobuqu wokugqwesa?
Nokuba yeyiphi na into eqhubela phambili ebomini bakho, funda ukuyixabisa kwaye ucamngce ngayo.
Ngokufunda ukuba yintoni ekuqhubela phambili, unokufumana iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokuzikhuthaza kwimisebenzi emitsha okanye kwiiprojekthi.
Cinga ngendlela yakho yesiqhelo yemihla ngemihla kunye nezinto ezikukhuthazayo.
Uya vuka kwakusasa yonke imihla okanye ngaba ulangazelela ‘ulalisa’ ialam yakho de kube ngumzuzu wokugqibela?
Ngaba usebenza kakuhle phantsi koxinzelelo, okanye ngaba uyisicwangcisi sokucwangcisa?
Ngaba wanelisekile ngokulula okanye ngaba kuthatha into eninzi ukuze uzive ngathi wenze kakuhle?
Ukucinga ngezi nkalo zobomi bakho kubaluleke kakhulu, kuba kukuvumela ukuba ubone ukuba ungumntu onjani.
Ikwakunika ithuba lokuba ucamngce ngokukhetha kwakho ubomi ngoku kunye nokuba sempilweni kwabo.
Ukusebenza eyona nto ikukhuthazayo ebomini (nokuba kungasebenza, ubuhlobo, okanye ubudlelwane) kunokuba nefuthe elikhulu kwimpilo yakho, ke kufanelekile ukuba uqwalasele.
Bhala phantsi uluhlu lwezinto ezikuqhubela phambili- inokuba ngumda wakho wokhuphiswano, okanye ukwenza iqabane lakho lonwabe , Nokuba iglasi yewayini uyazinyanga emva kosuku olude!
7. Kutheni usenza into oyenzayo?
Ngubani esiqhele ukuba nefuthe elikhulu kuthi abancinci.
Amava akho ngexesha lobuntwana bakho kunye neminyaka yokufikisa iya kuba nefuthe elikhulu kwindlela olibona ngayo ilizwe ngoku, kunye nendlela owenza ngayo kulo.
umxelela njani umntu ukuba uziva njani
Ubudlelwane bakho nosapho kunye nabahlobo bakho bonke buza kudlala indima enkulu ekubeni ungubani njengomntu omdala.
Oku kunokuba yinto entle (njengokuthi 'utata wam wayenobuchule bokuyila kwaye nam ndinjalo'), kodwa ngokucacileyo inokuba neziphumo ezibi nayo.
Cinga ngendlela oziphethe ngayo ngoku kunye nendlela ezinokubangelwa ngayo yiminyhadala eyadlulayo.
Oku kunokukunceda ukuba udibanise ezinye iziqwenga zepuzzle ezenzayo.
Ukusebenza kwesizathu sokuba senze ngendlela esenza ngayo kungaluhambo olucaphukisayo ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa imibuzo esizibuza yona ethi icaphukise iimvakalelo yeyona idla ngokufuna ukubuzwa.
Ngokutyhila izinto kwixesha lakho elidlulileyo onokuthi uzifihle kwi-subconscious yakho, uya kuba nethuba lokufunda ngakumbi ngawe.
Zama ukushicilela Imephu yeendlela ezithile zokuziphatha kwaye uzame ukufumana amakhonkco kwizehlo ezidlulileyo.
Ukuba oku kuziva kunzima kakhulu, kwenze nomhlobo osenyongweni okanye umntu omthandayo ngokuthetha ngokuvakalayo kwaye usebenze ngento onokuyikhumbula ukusuka ebuntwaneni bakho.
Unokumangaliswa kukufumanisa ukuba zeziphi izityalo!
Zithembe
Ekupheleni kosuku, kufuneka ube nokholo kwisiqu sakho
Ukuzikholelwa kwakho kuhlala kubangelwa kukuxabiseka kwakho jikelele ebomini kunye nento okholelwa ukuba ibalulekile, kunye nento ekwenza uzive ulungile ngesiqu sakho kwaye yintoni ekuqhubela phambili ukuba wenze okungakumbi.
Khumbula ukuba ungumntu onamandla kunye nenkululeko yokutshintsha - 'isiqu sakho' sinamanzi ngeendlela ezininzi kwaye akukaze kube semva kwexesha ukwenza utshintsho kwindlela ophila ngayo ubomi bakho.
Izinto ezisisigxina ebomini bakho ziphantsi kwakho - ungakhetha ukuqhubeka nokukholelwa kwinkolo yakho, okanye ukuleqa iphupha lokuba neshishini lakho ngenye imini, okanye ukhethe ukugcwalisa ixesha lakho lokuzilolonga ngokwenza umthambo endaweni yokupeyinta!
Inxalenye yokwazi ngokwakho uziva wanelisekile kwaye wanelisekile kukhetho olwenzayo, kwaye oku kuza nokuvuma ukuba yonke into yeyokwexeshana ngaphandle kokuba ukhetha ukuyenza ibe sisigxina.
Ngokuzibuza kwaye Ukucinga ngento oyenzayo ngobomi bakho , Uya kuba uzivulela ngokwakho ukuba kunokwenzeka utshintsho.
Ungahlala usete kwiindlela zakho okanye utshintshele kukhetho olusempilweni ukuba uyafuna-bubuhle bobomi.
