Ukudibana nomntu omtsha onamava ahlukeneyo lithuba elinomdla.
Ngokwendalo, kufuneka siqale ngokuvutha umzila ehlathini lentetho encinci njengoko sisenza ubudlelwane.
Nje ukuba kwenziwe oko, yeyiphi imibuzo embalwa elungileyo yokwazi umntu?
Emva kokuba siseke ubuhlobo obuqhelekileyo, sifika njani ngokwenene kwinyama yokuba ngubani lo mntu mtsha?
Indlela esebenzayo yokungena kwiqabane lokuncokola kukubuza imibuzo eya kukunceda ubone ubomi balomntu kunye namava ngamehlo abo.
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Kukho umgca wokuhambahamba apho imibuzo inokuba yeyakho buqu. Ayisiyiyo kuphela loo layini kunzima ukuyibona, kodwa inokuba kwiindawo ezahlukeneyo ngokuxhomekeke kwinqanaba lokuthuthuzela lomntu othetha naye.
Injongo kukujolisa kwimibuzo eya kuthi incede umntu ukuba avule, kodwa anganyatheli kwizihloko ezikhathazayo- ezinje ngezopolitiko, inkolo kunye nemali.
Nazi ezinye zeengcebiso kwimibuzo enokuthi isebenze njengesitshixo sokuvula iincoko ezinzulu.
1.… kutheni…?
Igama 'kutheni' yindlela elula nefanelekileyo yokufumana ukujonga ngaphantsi komhlaba.
Incoko ingaqhubeka kwaye iphononongwe ngokubuza ukuba kutheni umntu evakalelwa ngale ndlela avakalelwa ngayo ngoluvo okanye isihloko sengxoxo.
Kutheni lencwadi uyithandayo? Kutheni uyithanda kakhulu le ngoma? Kutheni le nto uphumelele kwesi sifundo? Kutheni uthathe isigqibo sokufunda phesheya?
Indawo ebekwe kakuhle 'kutheni' inokugcina ngokulula ukuhamba kunye nokuqalisa incoko eye yafa.
Inika intabalala yemibuzo yokwazi umntu ngeleta ezintathu, kulula ukuyikhumbula iphakheji.
Jonga ngokulula indlela yokubuza ukuba kutheni umbuzo ubalulekile.
2. Yintoni enika umdla kuyo?
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantu bayathanda ukuthetha ngeziqu zabo.
Ayinguye wonke umntu, khumbula wena. Abanye abantu bayasokola ngemicimbi yokuhlalisana eyenza kube nzima kubo ukuba bazive bekhululekile kwaye bevulekile xa bencokola.
Umbuzo onje, 'yintoni oyifumana inomdla?' inika umntu umnyango ovulekileyo ukuba aphumeze malunga nomxholo awuthandayo.
Into emnandi ngalo mbuzo kukuba unethuba lokuphonononga ulwazi kunye namava omhlobo omtsha.
Sonke sineeyure ezifanayo ezingamashumi amabini anesine kumhla wethu. Sonke asinakuba phaya sigqibe yonke into eyaziwayo. Ukukwazi ukungena ngaphakathi kunye nokuxabisa ukuthanda omnye umntu kunokuvula iingcango kwimidla emitsha kunye nemibono onokuthi ungazange ube nayo.
3. Yintoni eyona nto uyixabise kakhulu?
Umntu namhlanje litotali lilonke lamava abo obomi kunye nemibono.
Ukuqonda eyona nto ayixabise kakhulu umntu ebomini kunokunika ukuqonda ukuba bangumntu onjani kwaye kwandise ubungakanani bengxoxo.
Umntu okuxabisileyo ukufunda okanye imfundo angakuxabisa ukuba nomzimba obanzi wolwazi lokufunda anokulufumana kuye.
Mhlawumbi baluxabisile uthando kunye noxabiso lobomi basekhaya boxolo nosapho lwabo.
Okanye mhlawumbi ziqhutywa ngumsebenzi kwaye zixabise ukufezekiswa ziingcali ngaphambi kwayo yonke enye into.
Akukho mpendulo iphosakeleyo, kwaye ngumbuzo omkhulu ukwazi umntu othile kuba unokulandela, 'Kutheni uyixabisa kangaka?'
4. Yintoni oyifumana ikhuthaza?
Yinto enomdla ukubona ukuba yintoni eshukumisela abantu ukuba benze izinto abazenzayo.
Abantu baya kuhamba ubude ngenxa yezinto ezihambelana nomphefumlo wabo kwaye zibakhuthaze. Oku kunokuba kukukhuthazwa okukhulu okanye kunokuba kuncinci kwaye kuthule.
Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyigcinile ukuphatha ukuphefumlelwa kwalowo mntu kubalulekile - kuba kunjalo!
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Nokuba kubonakala ngathi kusisiyatha okanye kukuhlekisa, kubaluleke ngokubonakalayo kuloo mntu.
Abantu bahlala belindele iingxelo ezinkulu xa kuziwa kwinto efana nenkuthazo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ukuphefumlela kuthe cwaka.
Ingangathi cwaka okanye yabucala njengokufuna ukuba ngcono kuwe okanye kusapho.
Mhlawumbi babona umntu eqhuba kakuhle kwaye bacinga, 'Nam ndingayenza lonto.'
Mhlawumbi yayiliqhekeza lobugcisa, ukuthanda omnye umntu, okanye isenzo esilula sobubele.
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5. Ngaba unazo naziphi na iinjongo okanye amaphupha exesha elide?
Abaphambili beengcinga liqela elinomdla lokuzibandakanya nabo.
Batyekele ekucingeni ngeendlela ezibanzi, benze uphando ngeendlela zabo, kunye neendlela ezivuthayo kumava amatsha anomdla.
Ukubonisa umdla kwiinjongo zomntu namaphupha akhe kubanika ithuba lokwabelana ngesiqwenga sabo esingasoloko sihlola.
Oko kuthethiweyo, ayinguye wonke umntu onentambo ngale ndlela.
Ngamanye amaxesha umntu usenokuba unengxaki yokuhamba ngemini, ngamanye amaxesha banokonwaba ngendlela abaphila ngayo ngoku kwaye bafune ukugcina le nto banayo ngoku.
Ifuna zonke iintlobo ezahlukeneyo ukugcina umhlaba ushukuma emva kwako konke.
6. Yintoni ekuzisela uxolo okanye uvuyo?
Inani labantu emhlabeni elwa nobomi bokulayisha lubeke emagxeni abo.
Ukunikezela ii-prong ezimbini zalo mbuzo kuvumela umphulaphuli ukuba akhethe indlela efanelekileyo kubo.
Unokukhetha ukushiya enye ukuba umazi ngokwaneleyo umntu, ungaziva ngathi izakuhamba kakuhle, okanye inokubetha kufutshane kakhulu nomxholo obuthathaka.
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Ukuqonda ukuba yintoni ezisa umntu eluxolweni okanye eluvuyweni kunokunceda ukuzoba umfanekiso ocacileyo wento ayithandayo.
Kwaye ibonelela ngenye indlela yokwandisa incoko.
Ngaba yindalo? Ngaba bayathanda ukunyuka okanye ukumisa inkampu?
Ngaba zizilwanyana zasekhaya? Zeziphi iintlobo? Banexesha elingakanani benazo?
Ngaba lixesha nosapho?
Zeziphi izinto abazithandayo? Ngaba ngumdlalo webhola? Ngaba zincinci iibhiya? Mhlawumbi yimizuzu embalwa yoxolo nokuzola ngelixa behleli kwitrone ye-porcelain, beskrola kwifowuni yabo.
Isenokungabonakali iyinto enzima kakhulu okanye inzima.
7. Ubuya kwenza ntoni ngobomi bakho ukuba bekungekho zithintelo?
Uhlobo lweempendulo ozifumanayo ngalo mbuzo lunokukhomba kwithemba, amaphupha, kunye neenjongo kumntu othetha naye.
Isenokuthetha kakhulu malunga nokuba bangabantu abanjani.
Ngaba bakhethe into enobubele nenobubele? Into yokuzingca? Into engaqhelekanga okanye engaqhelekanga?
Buza, kutheni bayikhethile into abayenzileyo?
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Owu! Kwaye ungothusi kakhulu ngempendulo 'yendawo yokugcina izilwanyana okanye ukuhlangulwa.' Yinto eqhelekileyo!
Ukuvala ...
Ezi kodwa zimbalwa iingcebiso zemibuzo yokunceda ukuqhuba incoko, kodwa imibuzo ayibalulekanga njengomphulaphuli olungileyo, okhutheleyo.
Ngaba uyafuna nyani ukuba umntu avule kwaye akubonise ukuba bangobani? Cima umabonwakude, beka ifowuni kude, kwaye ulahle iziphazamiso.
Yenza loo mntu kugxilwe kuye ngelixa udilika phantsi komgangatho wentlalontle ngokubanzi.
Incoko inokutshintsha kakhulu xa ujolisa ingqalelo yakho komnye umntu, zibambe ngamehlo , uze umnike uncumo olumemelelayo.
Abantu baphendula kakuhle xa ulwimi lomzimba wakho lubonisa ukuba uyakhathala ngento abayithethayo.
Akwanelanga ukubuza imibuzo efanelekileyo apha naphaya. Akukho mntu ufuna ukuziva ngathi ucinga emva kwexesha okanye ukuba akakufanelanga ukugxila!
Kwaye ukulungele ukuphendula nayiphi na imibuzo oyibuzayo kumhlobo omtsha.
Incoko emileyo, esecaleni inika umbono wokuba awukhathali ngokwenyani ukuba ube nobuhlobo obuzuzisayo, obunempilo.
Ukwakha ubuhlobo obunempilo kufuna inqanaba lokuba sesichengeni phakathi kwabantu. Ngaphandle koko, nayiphi na imibuzo yokwazi umntu inokuwa phantsi kuba kuncinci ukunyaniseka.
