Ukungcatsha akusoze kube kuhle.
Ithetha ukuthini xa umfana esithi intle
Ugxininiso luye lube kukungcatshwa kubudlelwane bezothando, kodwa inyani kukuba ukungcatshwa ngumhlobo osondeleyo kunokuba yinto ephazamisayo.
Ukuba oku kwenzekile kuwe, ayizukuba yinto elula yokugqitha.
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba ubuhlobo bakho bufikelele esiphelweni, kuya kukuthatha ixesha ukuziqhelanisa nobomi ngaphandle kwabo.
Kodwa ukuba ufuna ukugcina lo mhlobo ebomini bakho, kuyakufuneka ujongane noko kwenzekileyo kwaye usebenze ngeemvakalelo zakho ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukulungisa ubudlelwane kwaye uye phambili.
Nanga amanyathelo ekufuneka uwathathe nangayiphi na indlela.
1. Yamkele into yokuba ukungcatshwa ngumhlobo wakho kubuhlungu.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba ungcatshiwe ngumhlobo, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ukhathazeke yiyo.
Abanye abantu bazama ukulwa nezi mvakalelo, bengasiqondi isizathu sokuba umhlobo abe namandla angaka phezu kwabo, nokuba kutheni ukungcatshwa ngumhlobo kunokushukumisa ilizwe labo.
Oko ubukhulu becala kuxhomekeke ekubeni sihlala sibeka ixabiso kwixabiso lothando kunye nolwalamano phakathi kosapho lwethu kwaye sihlala singawahoyi amandla obuhlobo.
Kodwa ukuba sinyanisekile kuthi malunga neemvakalelo zethu, siqala ukuqonda indlela obubaluleke ngayo ubuhlobo kuthi, kwaye nefuthe elikhulu elinokuba nalo kubomi bethu xa kusonakala.
Abahlobo bethu ngabo bahlala kuthi xa sibadinga kwaye bahlala bekho ebomini bethu.
Lusapho esilukhethayo, kwaye abantu esibathululela uloyiko lwethu lwangaphakathi kunye neminqweno yethu.
Ngelixa singafumani ukukhetha iintsapho zethu, kwaye amaqabane athandanayo ahlala eza kwaye ahambe, abahlobo abalungileyo bahlala ixesha elide.
Bayasibona ngokusemandleni ethu, kwaye okona kubi kwethu, kwaye onke amanyathelo apha endleleni. Kwaye basithanda ngale ndlela siyiyo.
Ke, kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba kusemthethweni ngokupheleleyo ukungcatshwa komhlobo ukuba akunqumle ngokunzulu.
Musa ukuzibetha malunga nayo, kodwa yamkela iimvakalelo, zinike ukubaluleka kwazo kwaye ulungele ukuzihlola kwaye usebenze ngazo.
2. Ukuba unako, thetha ngokunyanisekileyo nomhlobo wakho.
Umhlobo wakho usenokuba wakungcatsha kangangokuba awuzimiselanga ukuthetha nabo ubuso ngobuso (ubuncinane hayi ixesha elide). Kwaye lilungelo lakho elo.
Kodwa ukuba ungazizisela ukuba uthethe nabo, incoko ethembekileyo inokuba lusindiso kubuhlobo bakho, okanye ubuncinci inokukunceda ukuba uqhubeke, nokuba ukhetha ukungabi ngabahlobo kunye nabo ukuya phambili.
Nobabini kufuneka ninyaniseke ngokupheleleyo malunga nezinto, ngaphandle kokuvumela i-ego yenu ukuba ingene endleleni.
Banike ithuba lokuchaza imeko ngokwembono yabo. Nokuba ayenzi ukuba izinto zibengcono phakathi kwenu, ukuva izizathu zabo zokwenza ngale ndlela benze ngayo kunokukunceda uqonde izinto ezenzekileyo.
Oku kunokuba kungafaneleki kwimeko yakho, kodwa unokufuna kwakhona ukuba ubenendima oyidlalayo kwinto eyenzekileyo.
Ukuba ubungenguye umhlobo osenyongweni kubo kumaxesha akutshanje, oko kunokuba negalelo ekuziphatheni kwabo. Esi ayisosizathu sokungcatsha kwabo, kodwa yinto ekufuneka uyikhumbule.
3. Chaza isizathu sokuba uzive ungcatshiwe.
Yintoni kanye kanye le yenziwe ngumhlobo wakho ekukhathazileyo?
Kuya kufuneka uthathe ixesha ngokwakho ukucinga ukuba kutheni le nto ikuvisa kabuhlungu. Zeziphi izinto ezikwenzileyo ezikukhathaze kakhulu?
Ngaba sisenzo sekhonkrithi oziva ngathi kukungcatsha, okanye ngaba bekubambe inyani malunga nento ethile kuwe?
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4. Buza ukuba ingaba ubudlelwane bufuna ukugcinwa.
Ke, ukhe wathetha ngokunyanisekileyo nabo malunga noko kwenzekileyo, kwaye ube nethuba lokuhlalutya indlela ekwenziwe ngayo ukuba uzive.
Lixesha lokuba ujonge kwikamva kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba ingaba ubuhlobo obunabo nabo buyafumaneka na kwaye, ukuba kunjalo, ukuba kufanelekile ngexa ubeka umgudu wokuzihlanganisa nabo.
Zibaluleke kangakanani ebomini bakho? Ngaba ubomi bakho buya kuba buhlwempuzekileyo ngaphandle kwabo? Ngaba uzimisele ukubeka umsebenzi oyimfuneko ekwakheni ubuhlobo kwakhona?
Ngaba oku kungcatshwa kwakuphume kwaphela eblowu, kwaye ngaphandle komlingiswa? Okanye ngaba lo mntu akakaze abe luhlobo olufanelekileyo?
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Sukujonga nje ngendlela ekungcatshe ngayo okwangoku, kodwa cinga emva.
Ukuba bebehlala bengabahlobo abalungileyo kuwe kwixa elidlulileyo, bekhona xa ubadinga, bakunika iingcebiso ezilungileyo, unyanisekile, kwaye utyebisa ubomi bakho, emva koko ukungcatshwa omnye akunakwanela ukumelana nako konke oko.
Okanye kunokuba njalo. Isigqibo sakho ngokupheleleyo.
5. Buza ukuba bayaxolisa na.
Ewe, indawo enkulu yokuqhubela phambili iya kuxhomekeka kwindlela umhlobo wakho ajongene ngayo nemeko leyo.
Ukuba abanakuziqonda iimvakalelo zakho zokungcatshwa kwaye abakhange baxolise okanye benze konke abanako ukuphucula imicimbi nokwenza izinto kuwe, oko kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba ubuhlobo abunakamva.
Ukuba, kwelinye icala, babonakalise ukuzisola kwaye benza konke okusemandleni abo ukwenza izinto kuwe, oko kunokuba ngumqondiso wokuba ubuhlobo bakho bunokuphila ekungcatshweni kwabo.
6. Musa ukungxama kwisigqibo.
Xa sinomsindo, sonke senza izigqibo esizisolayo ngazo kamva, kwaye awufuni kuphulukana nomhlobo olungileyo kube sisiphumo sesigqibo esingxamisekileyo osenzileyo kubushushu bomzuzwana.
Zinike ixesha lokuzola kunye nokucinga malunga nemeko phambi kokuba uthathe izigqibo.
Kungangcono ukuba uphephe ukuthetha nomhlobo ekubhekiswa kuye de uphinde ufumane uhlobo lokulingana, ukuze ungathethi nantoni na onokufuna ukuyibuyisa kamva.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba umazi kakuhle umntu othile, uya kwazi ukuba ungambetha njani apho kubuhlungu khona.
Zama ukugxila kwinto yokuba kuya kuba yinto embi ukuncama ubomi bobuhlobo ngokuthetha into ongayithethiyo xa kusiza inkungu ebomvu.
7. Yithi ndlela-ntle.
Ezinye izinto zokungcatsha zizinto onokusebenza zangaphambili kwaye ubuye kuzo. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ukungcatsha kunokubonisa ukuphela kobuhlobo.
Ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba kunjalo ngobu buhlobo, lixesha lokusika intambo.
Sisigqibo sakho ukuba ungathanda ukuba nengxoxo yokwahlukana ngokusesikweni nabo, okanye hayi. Kodwa awungekhe uphelise ubudlelwane obunothando ngaphandle kokwazisa omnye umntu ukuba kuphelile, ke mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka usebenzise ingcinga efanayo apha.
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Ayizukuba yingxoxo elula ukuba nayo, kodwa ungafuna ukuthetha nabo, ubazise ukuba kutheni ungayifumani ngaphakathi kwakho ukuba ubaxolele, kwaye awusafuni ukuba babe yinxalenye yobomi bakho .
Oko kuya kubonelela ngokuvalwa kuni nobabini kwaye kunokubamisa ekuzameni ukunxibelelana nawe ukuba awufuni, kunokwenza kube lula kuwe ukuba uqhubeke.
8. Okanye, baxolele.
Kwelinye icala, ungafikelela ekuqondeni ukuba, ngaphandle kokungcatshwa, lo mntu ubaluleke kakhulu kuwe, kwaye ukulungele ukubaxolela kwaye usebenzele ukwakha ubuhlobo kwakhona.
Ukuze ubenakho ukuba ngumhlobo kwakhona, kuya kufuneka ubaxolele ngento abayenzileyo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ulibale kwaphela, kwaye ngekhe wenze njalo, kodwa kufuneka ubaxolele ngokwenyani entliziyweni yakho.
Nayiphi na ingqumbo ehleliyo iya kupela inkathazo ngakumbi emgceni.
9. Musa ukulindela imimangaliso ngobusuku obunye.
Ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuzama ukwakha ubuhlobo kwakhona, ungalindeli ukuba nobabini nibuyele esiqhelweni ngaphakathi kokuqhwanyaza kweliso. Ubuhlobo bakho buye kwitye lokusila kwaye uza kudinga ixesha elibalulekileyo lokuphola.
Nobabini nidinga ixesha lokuqhubekeka okwenzekileyo kwaye nibone ukuba eli nqanaba litsha lobuhlobo benu liza kujongeka njani njengokuba nisiya phambili.
Yiba nomonde omnye komnye, kwaye nanini na xa ufumana izinto ezinzima, khumbula ukuba kutheni ukhethe ukugcina lo mntu njengenxalenye yobomi bakho.
Kwaye khumbula, njengokuba ingazukukhawuleza, ayizukuba lula. Xa uthatha isigqibo sokuzama ukudibanisa izinto, kuya kufuneka uqaphele ukuba kuya kuthatha umsebenzi kunye nokuzimisela.
10. Khumbula: umhlobo olungileyo bubutyebi.
Ukuba ufuna ukuxolela umhlobo wakho kwaye uqhubeke, kodwa ukufumanisa kunzima, khumbula nje ukuba abahlobo abalungileyo abakhuli emithini, kwaye ubuhlobo bufanele ukulwelwa.
Ukungcatsha kunokuphelisa ukuphela kobuhlobo, kodwa ngokuzinikela kumalungu omabini omtshato kunye nothando kunye nokukhathalelana, abahlobo abalungileyo banokoyisa nantoni na.
