Kukangaphi Ufanele Uyibone iNkwenkwe Othandana Nayo?

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Akukho mpendulo ichazayo ukuba lingakanani ixesha elifanele lichithwe zizibini ezitshatileyo.



Nokuba uye waba yedwa okanye benikunye kunye iinyanga ezininzi, kunokuba kukukhohlisa ukwazi ukuba ungalubetha phi ulungelelwano phakathi kokubona nokwenza into yakho.

Kungenxa yoko le nto silophule ngenxa yakho kwaye senze umsebenzi onzima.



Siza kubaleka kangaphi xa ubona isithandwa / intombi yakho entsha, indlela yokwenza ulwalamano lusebenze, kunye nendlela yokuthetha ngayo ukuba uziva ngathi ubonana kakhulu.

Kwiintsuku zokuqala zobudlelwane.

Inokuba yinkohliso yokwenene xa uqala ukudibana nomntu ukuze wazi ukuba yintoni ekufuneka uyenzile.

Uninzi lwethu lunexhala lokuthumela imiyalezo ebhaliweyo kabini, kungasathethwa ke ngokusebenza ukuba singabona kangaphi amaqabane ethu.

Ngelixa kungekho mpendulo iqinisekileyo kule, Amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki sisikhokelo esihle sokuqalisa.

Oku akubangelwa kukuba akufanele ubonane ngakumbi, kodwa ukubeka umda kukunceda ukuba uhambe ngokukhawuleza.

Kunokuba lula xa uqala ukudibana nomntu ukuba ungxamile ungene kuyo. Kuyavakala ukuba phakathi kwabo, kwaye kuyonwabisa kwaye intsha.

Ufuna ukuchitha lonke ixesha lakho nalo mntu mtsha owenza uzive umhle, othandekayo, kodwa awufuni ukubeka emngciphekweni ngokungxama.

Kukho ingozi yokuba ungalonakalisa ulwalamano ngaphambi kokuba luqhubeke…

Kuhle ukuba ufumene umntu ofuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye naye, kodwa kukwalicebo elihle ukuba ulumke kancinci malunga nokubonana kakhulu.

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Ukuba niyabonana ngalo lonke ixesha, niyaphoswa lulonwabo Isigaba sasemva komtshato sokuthandana ngaphambi komtshato kunye novuyo lokwazi umntu kancinci kancinci.

Ukubona umntu okuninzi kumanqanaba okuqala obudlelwane kunokuba nomtsalane ngokwenene, kodwa ufuna ukonwabela olo lonwabo, inkalo elula yokuba kunye ngaphambi kokuba ube sisibini 'sokwenene'.

Eli linqanaba lokuba nazane kwaye nifunde malunga nendlela enilunga ngayo kunye. Ungafumanisa ukuba ingaba yinto enzulu ngakumbi, okanye ukuba iyonwabisa nje ngelixa ihlala.

Ukuba uba sisibini ngokukhawuleza, ubeka emngciphekweni wokuphela kobudlelwane nomntu ongamazi kakuhle.

Sonke senza ngendlela eyahlukileyo xa siqala ukuthandana nomntu xa sithandana…

Uninzi lwabantu ludla ngokuziphatha kakuhle xa beqala ukubona umntu, ukuze ungasoloko ufumana umfanekiso ochanekileyo, onyanisekileyo womntu ochitha ixesha naye.

Yinto eqhelekileyo leyo, kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba kufuneka ninikezane ixesha lokuba nikhululeke kwaye nibe nokunyaniseka ngakumbi phakathi kwenu.

Kulapho umcimbi wexesha ungena khona.

Zilungiselele - amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki yindlela entle yokuchitha ixesha kunye kunye kwaye nikhululeke ngokwaneleyo ukuba nibanqumle oonogada.

Ikwanika ithuba lokuphosa omnye komnye phakathi kwamaxesha. Oku kunokwenza ukuba iintsuku ozichitha kunye zibaluleke ngakumbi.

Okukhona nibonana ixesha elide, kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba nazane ngokwenene kwinqanaba elinzulu, eliyinyani…

… Kwaye ukhetho oluthe kratya oza kulwenza ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokungenisa ubudlelwane obuzinikeleyo.

Emva kweenyanga ezininzi zobudlelwane.

Ukuba ubukhe wahlala neqabane lakho iinyanga ezininzi (kodwa anikahlali kunye), mhlawumbi niyavumelana kwaye nisebenza nobabini.

Ke umbuzo wokuba lingakanani ixesha enilichitha kunye iba yimeko yokuvavanya imikhwa yakho esele ikho kwaye ubone ukuba isavumelana na nobabini niyifunayo kwaye niyifunayo.

Xa ubunomntu okwethutyana, ungena kumkhwa wokubonana ngamaxesha athile nangendlela ethile, kwaye lo mkhwa kunokuba nzima ukuwutshintsha.

Usenokungakhange ucinge nokuba ubonana kangaphi kuba ninjalo isetyenzisiwe kuyo kuba injani.

Kungenxa yoko le nto kulungile ukuba ucinge malunga nokuba ubudlelwane bakho buthetha ntoni kwaye uziva njani ngayo.

Mhlawumbi ninomkhwa wokubonana yonke imihla ngenxa yokuba nisebenza kunye okanye nihlala kufutshane ...

… Kodwa cinga malunga nokuba uyawuthanda na umba wobudlelwane bakho okanye ngamanye amaxesha uyakucaphukela ukungabi naxesha lakho wedwa?

Ngokulinganayo, mhlawumbi nibonana kuphela kwiintsuku ezibekiweyo zeveki kuba benidla ngokuba nezinye izicwangciso ngeentsuku ezithile.

Ukuba ezo zicwangciso azisekho ebomini bakho, ngaba ufuna ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye neqabane lakho okanye uyakonwabela 'iintsuku zakho zokuphumla,' ngokungathi kunjalo?

Khumbula ukuba akukho mpendulo iphosakeleyo!

Nantoni na evakala ilungile kuni nobabini yeyona ndawo ilungileyo yokuqala.

Ukuqwalasela into enokuba ngumkhwa kunye nokuba yintoni enokukhetha esebenzayo yindlela elungileyo yokuqinisekisa ukuba nobabini kwiphepha elinye.

Unokuvula kwaye uqaphele ukuba ufuna izinto ezahlukeneyo okwahlukileyo (zilungile kwaye kufanelekile ukuba zisebenze ukugqitha , hayi ngokuchasene !).

Unokuqonda ukuba uyayithanda ingcinga yosuku olongezelelekileyo kuwe kunye nezinto ozithandayo, okanye unokuthatha isigqibo sokuncama okunye ukuzibophelela ukuze ube nesoka lakho okanye intombi yakho ngakumbi.

Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, hamba nento evakala ilungile kwaye ubone ukuba izitshintsha njani izinto.

Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):

Ukuba ulwalamano olude.

Ubudlelwane obukude bunokukhohlisa, iya ngaphandle kokutsho.

Nangona kunjalo, oko kungasoloko kuthethwa kukuba bakhulu kangakanani!

Ukuba ukwenye, uyakuba nolwakho uluvo ngayo, kodwa ukuba ungene nje kwenye, sukuyiswa yinto abantu abanokukuxelela yona ...

Ukuba uthandana nomgama omde, kunokubakho uxinzelelo ngakumbi ngelixa nisazana.

Kusenokufuneka uququzelele uhambo, kungabiza kakhulu kunokuthandana nomntu othile esixekweni sakho, kwaye usenokuziva ngathi uzibophelela kwinto entle kwangethuba.

Akukho nanye kule nto imbi, nangona kunjalo!

Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukho umaleko owongezelelweyo wokuthandana, kodwa usenokuba mnandi kwaye ukhululeke.

Unokwenza zombini umzamo wokugcina izinto zisezantsi kwisitshixo kumanqanaba okuqala.

Endaweni yokwenza izicwangciso ezinkulu zomhla ngamnye, yenza nje izinto ezintle, 'eziqhelekileyo' kwaye ugcine uxinzelelo kuni nobabini.

Kukho iindlela zokuqinisekisa ukuba nobabini niyonwaba xa nithandana nomgama omde, kwaye unxibelelwano yenye yezona zibalulekileyo.

Kunokuba nzima ngenene ukucwangcisa umhla kwaye uye kumzamo owongezelelweyo owenziweyo ukuthandana nomnye umntu kwesinye isixeko xa kuthelekiswa nomntu onokuthi ubambe nje isiselo ngesaziso esifutshane.

Kunjalo ngoba ukunyaniseka kubalulekile - ukuba awuyiva ngalo mhla, kubalulekile ukuba uzive ukhululekile ukuthetha oku.

Akukho sizathu sokuzinyanzela nayiphi na umhla, nokuba uhlawule itikiti likaloliwe okanye ubhukishe impelaveki ukuze ubone iqabane lakho!

Kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokuyiphatha njengokuthandana okuqhelekileyo - ibheyile ukuba awukho kwimeko, thatha umoya ukuba uziva ngathi kuninzi, kwaye unyaniseke kwindlela oziva ngayo.

Ukuthandana kunokuba yinkohliso, njengoko inyathelo elilandelayo. Ngamanye amaxesha, iimvakalelo zakho zinokudideka xa ungamboni umntu rhoqo, ke unokuziva ungaqinisekanga kwaye usoyika ngayo yonke loo nto.

Umhla zonke iiveki ezimbalwa unokuziva ukuba unyanisile, kwaye kuyindalo ukuba ufuna ukuwenza uninzi.

Kukho uxinzelelo olukhulu lokwenza ukuba 'iphelele' kuba kunqabile ukuchitha ixesha kunye, kwaye ngenxa yokuba nobabini nityale ixesha elininzi, amandla, kunye nemali ngomhla kunokuba ninokuba ngenye indlela.

Ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba uziva njani ngomntu othile, zama ukubonakala ngathi kancinci kancinci rhoqo. Oku kunokuba sisikhumbuzo sendlela oziva ngayo ngenene ngabo.

Ukuba ubona umntu kube kanye ngenyanga, unokuzenzela ingxelo ngokusekwe kwiinkumbulo zakho kwaye unokuphoxeka xa ingeyiyo 'efanelekileyo' isoka / intombi oyenzileyo entlokweni yakho.

Ukuba unako, kanye ngeveki okanye kwiiveki ezimbini ezikwinqanaba elilungileyo lokusebenza ukusuka kubudlelwane obude.

Khumbula ukuba umgama othile ayisoloko iyinto embi…

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Ukubaluleka kwexesha nendawo.

Ukuthetha ngomgama, masithethe ngendawo.

Ukungaboni iqabane lakho ngalo lonke ixesha kunempilo kakhulu!

Kungaziva kumangalisa ukuchitha lonke ixesha lakho kunye nabo kwaye ubanjwe ngokupheleleyo kwiimvakalelo zakho omnye komnye, kodwa kubalulekile ukuzenzela indawo ngokwakho rhoqo.

Isizathu sokuba sicebise ukuba ubuye umva kwaye ubone iqabane lakho amatyeli aliqela ngeveki oza kuqala ngalo kukukunceda ukuba uzihambise, njengoko kuxoxiwe, kodwa uqiniseke ukuba unento eyeyakho!

Kulula kakhulu kwaye kuyalingana (kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, kuyathandeka ngokwenene) ukulahleka ngokwakho komnye umntu, kodwa inokuba ngumngcipheko omkhulu.

Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba unobomi bakho ukuze uphephe ukuxhomekeka kubambisene nawe. Le yinto eyenzekayo xa uthembela komnye umntu.

Umzekelo, unokulibona iqabane lakho yonke imihla, kodwa ukuba ugqiba kwelokuba abone abahlobo bakhe ngobunye ubusuku endaweni yoko, unokuziva ngesiquphe ulahliwe kwaye ulilolo.

Ngelixa lempendulo iqhelekileyo, ayisiyonto isempilweni kakhulu.

Iziqhoboshelo zinokuba phantse zinetyhefu ukuba ziyekwe ukuphuma kulawulo. Ngokuthatha ixesha kunye nendawo kuwe rhoqo, unokuqinisekisa ukuba unezinto ozithandayo kunye nezinto onokuzenza ngokwahlukeneyo.

Yenza ukuzibophelela kuwe kwaye unamathele kuyo - incwadi yeklasi yeyoga rhoqo ngolwe-Lwesibini kwaye ugcine olo suku lukhululekile.

Lungiselela iminyhadala yempelaveki engabandakanyi iqabane lakho kwaye ungangikhiphi ibheyile.

Qiniseka ukuba uzenzela obakho ubomi, kunye nobomntu umthandayo, kwaye uya kuziva ukhululeke ngakumbi kulwalamano. Ingavakala kancinci ngasemva, kodwa ndithembe, iyasebenza.

Okukhona uchitha ebomini bakho, uya konwaba ngakumbi xa usonke.

Asikukhuthazi ukuba uxakeke ngokungummangaliso kwaye ungaze ube nexesha leqabane lakho, ewe, kodwa ukucwangcisa ixesha ngaphandle kunokuba yeyona ndlela isempilweni yokujonga ubudlelwane bakho.

Uya kuziva ungonwabanga xa izicwangciso kunye nesoka / intombi yakho zitshintsha, kuba uyazi wena unako yiba wedwa kwaye ubomi bakho abujikelezi kubo.

Ukubona iqabane lakho iintsuku ezimbalwa evekini kukhulula ixesha elininzi ukonwabela ubomi bakho- kwaye yeyiphi indlela efanelekileyo yokuchitha ixesha lakho!

Kwaye, iya kukunika izinto ezingakumbi ukuba wabelane neqabane lakho xa uzibona.

Soloko ujonge unxibelelwano olucacileyo noluthembekileyo.

Ke, kuthekani ukuba ufunda le nto kwaye uyayiqonda into yokuba unokufuna ukubuyela umva kancinci?

Okokuqala, cinga malunga nokuba kutheni ungafuna ukubona umntu othandana naye / umntu othandana naye rhoqo.

Ngaba kungenxa yendlela abenza uzive ngayo, okanye ngenxa yokuba usoyika kancinci uxhomekeke kakhulu kubo?

Ngaba kungenxa yokuba umntu ebeke wagqabaza ngayo ngaphambili, okanye ngenxa yokuba usandula ukuqonda ukuba ungathanda ixesha lokuzibophelela kwezemidlalo okanye kwinto oyithandayo?

Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho malunga nokuba kutheni uziva ngolu hlobo kwaye khumbula ukuba ayisiyonto imbi leyo!

Uninzi lwethu luziva lunetyala ngokufuna indawo ethile kuthi, kodwa eneneni le iyinto emangalisayo - kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uzazi kwaye ulungelelanise nezinto ozifunayo.

Ukuba kukho into ekuxelela ukuba ufuna ixesha elingakumbi wedwa ,imamele.

Kungenzeka ukuba impilo yakho yengqondo iyachaphazeleka, okanye ukuba uziva uxinezelekile xa kukho uxinzelelo lokuchitha lonke ixesha lakho kunye neqabane lakho.

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ubatyeshele abahlobo bakho kancinane kwaye usandul 'ukubanjiswa kukuthandana.

Ezi ziqhelekileyo, iimvakalelo ezinengqiqo, kodwa zifuna ukwamkelwa.

Cinga ngokuba kutheni uziva nje. Kwaye ke unyaniseke ngayo.

Ukuba ukunye neqabane elifanelekileyo, bayakuhlonipha oku kwaye banombulelo ngokuthembeka kwakho.

Basenokungavakalelwa ngendlela efanayo, kwaye bangasokola ukuqonda ukuba kutheni uziva ngolu hlobo, kodwa kufuneka bakumamele.

Khumbula ukuba oku kunokuziva kungathandeki kwiqabane lakho, ke qaphela indlela othetha ngayo ngesi sihloko.

Awufuni ukuba bazive bengakhathalelwanga okanye belahliwe, okanye bakhubekisiwe kwaye bacaphukiswe kukuba ungasabathandi!

Sonke siyayazi imeko eyoyikekayo 'besikwikhefu', ke thintela oku ngokwenza kucace ukuba usabathanda, usafuna ukubabona, kodwa ufuna nje ixesha elithe kratya kuwe.

Le isenokuba yingxoxo enzima ngenene ukuyibhengeza, ke thatha ixesha lakho, thetha ngokuzolileyo kwaye uzilungiselele ukuthula okungavakaliyo.

Kwakhona, umntu olungileyo kuwe uyakwamkela ukuba ufuna indawo ethe qatha kuwe-kusenokwenzeka ukuba babecinga ngokufanayo nawe!

Thengisa oku kubo ngokuqaqambisa ukuba nobabini niya kuba nexesha lokugxila kwizinto enizithandayo.

Mhlawumbi bayakuthanda ukudlala iFantasy yeBhola ekhatywayo, kodwa ungaze uyenze kuba uyithiyile! Esi sithuba songezelelweyo siza kubanika ixesha lokwenza oko- ukwenza nje le nto bayifunayo ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ngawe.

Kukunika ixesha lokujonga izinto ozithandayo onokuthi uzibambe kuzo naziphi na izizathu, nazo.

Nizakuba nokuninzi eninokwabelana ngako nize nibambe xa nibonana, kunokuba ningenazo iindaba kuba nobabini nisoloko nikunye nisenza into enye.

Ukungabikho kwenza intliziyo ikhule ithandeka, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ke ungoyiki ukucebisa ukuba ubone isithandwa sakho / intombi yakho encinci kwaye wonwabele ixesha lakho ngokwakho.

Ubomi bumalunga nokulingana, ke yamkela oku kwaye wenze okona kuziva kulungile.

Ukuba oko kuthetha ukuzingca, yiya kuko - musa ukulilimaza ngabom iqabane lakho, kodwa uzive ukhululekile ukuvakalisa nayiphi na into oyifunayo, iimfuno, okanye imiba onokuba nayo kubudlelwane bakho.

Ukubona umntu ongaphantsi akuyinciphisi indlela obathanda ngayo okanye obakhathalele ngayo, kuthetha nje ukuba nawe uzenzela into ephambili, eyona nto isempilweni onokuyenza.

Fumana oko uziva ulungile.

Njengoko besesitshilo ngaphambilana, akukho mpendulo ichanekileyo kulo mbuzo, kwaye ungathatha ixesha ukufumana eyona ilungele wena.

Kuhlobo olufanelekileyo lobudlelwane, kukho indawo ethile yotshintsho - ngaphandle koloyiko.

Zama kancinci kwaye ukhumbule ukuba akukho nto igqibeleleyo apha - ukuba uqala ukubona enye nenye kwaye uziva ukoyikeka, unjalo kuvunyelwe ukubuyela kwinto owawunayo ngaphambili.

Ukuba ulahla amaxesha ambalwa ngenyanga kwaye uziva woyikeka, jonga enye nenye kwakhona!

Inqaku elipheleleyo lobudlelwane kukuziva ukhululekile kunye nomntu owenza ubomi bakho bube ngcono-nokuba oko kuthetha ukubabona bengaphantsi kunokuba uzibona.

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