Kudala nibonana okwangoku, kwaye niqala ndiyamthanda lomfana .
Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uzivumele ukuba uqhutywe kwaye uqalise ukufanisa ikamva kunye, kufuneka ube nalo ‘Intetho’ naye.
Abanye abatshatileyo abatsha abasive isidingo sokuhlala phantsi bathethe malunga nokuba izinto zihamba phi phakathi kwabo, kuba icace gca kubo bobabini kwasekuqaleni kwaye bahlala bevulekile kwaye benyanisekile ngeemvakalelo zabo.
Kodwa ke ngaphandle komgaqo!
Uninzi lwabantu oluhluma nolwalamano luya kulwela ukwazi ukuba omnye umntu ucinga ntoni, uziva njani okanye ucwangcisa ntoni.
Kwaye ukuba ufunda le nto, mhlawumbi ungomnye wabo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, impumelelo yobudlelwane ayixhomekekanga kuphela kwikhemistri phakathi kwakho…
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Unokuba yintloko phezu kwesinye kodwa unezicwangciso zekamva ezingenziwa ngomnye umntu, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ngekhe zingene.
Kwaye awusoze wazi ukuba kunjalo ngaphandle kokuba ubuze.
Njengokuba kunzima njengoko ezi ncoko zinokuba njalo, kungcono ukuba ubeke amakhadi akho etafileni kwaye uthethe ngokunyaniseka nomntu omkhulisa iimvakalelo.
Ngale ndlela unokuqinisekisa ukuba nobabini kwiphepha elinye kwaye akukho namnye kuni uchitha ixesha lakho.
Ukuba ucinga kungalixesha lokuba ube 'Uyaphi lo?' thetha nomfo obukade umbona, Nazi ezinye iingcebiso zendlela yokwenza ngayo.
1. Sukwenza kwasekuqaleni kakhulu.
Mhlawumbi ubumbona nje lo mfo umba weentsuku okanye iiveki, kodwa sele uziva ulingeka ukuba umjikele ekhoneni kwaye ubuze ukuba uyalibona ikamva nobabini.
Ngaphandle kokuba uchithe yonke imizuzwana yokuvuka kunye kunye nexesha eliqhelekileyo lobudlelwane sele likhawulezile, kungcono kungcono ukulinda ithutyana ukuze ube Nencoko.
Kodwa akukho mgaqo unzima kwaye ukhawulezayo malunga nokuba kufanele ukuba nini.
Musa ukumamela nabani na othi kufuneka uthethe nabo malunga nokuba bazibona phi izinto zihamba ngomhla wesithandathu okanye ngosuku olusemva kwenyanga yesibini epheleleyo.
Linda nje de uqale ukukhululeka kwaye uzive ukhululekile xa ukunye nabo kwaye ngokwenene ubazi.
Oko kuya kukunika ithuba lokufumanisa ukuba uziva njani ngabo kwaye ukuba wena unokubona ikamva.
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2. Kodwa musa ukuwushiya emva kwexesha.
Kwelinye icala, sukuhendeka ukuba ugcine le nto inokuba nzima - kodwa kubalulekile - incoko ixesha elide.
Ndiyazi, ndiyazi. Oku akunakunceda. Kuya kufuneka uyazi njani owona mzuzu ulungileyo, ngelixa ungakwenzi ngokukhawuleza okanye ungashiyi mva kakhulu?
Xa wayesemhlabeni ngu ixesha elifanelekileyo?
Njengamaxesha onke kobu bomi, konke kuxhomekeke.
Ngaphakathi ezantsi, kuyakufika ixesha laxa usazi nje ukuba awukhululekanga ngokuqhubeka nezinto njengoko zinjalo.
Nje ukuba uqale uziva ngaloo ndlela, kuya kufuneka ulume imbumbulu kwaye ube nale ncoko kungekudala.
3. Qiniseka ukuba nobabini ninengqondo efanelekileyo.
Njengakuyo nayiphi na intetho yobudlelwane, kubalulekile ukuba nobabini nibe nemood xa ninayo.
Akukho namnye kuni omele ukuba udiniwe, ulambile, okanye uxakeke ngumsebenzi, ngokungathi izinto azihambi ngendlela obucinga ngayo, omnye okanye bobabini banokuqala ukuthetha izinto ongazithethanga.
Nangona kunokuhenda, kokona kulungileyo ukuba ungabinazo ezi ngxoxo emva kokuba usondele kuye , njengoko zonke iihormoni zinokudlala konakalisa amandla akho okucinga ngokuthe tye.
Nobabini ninamathuba okuba nithwale izinto phakathi kwenu nobabini ngamaxesha anje, nokuba ngekhe nibe nomdla kumbono ukuba khange nikhutshwe ngalo mzuzu.
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Awufuni ukuba akuxelele ukuba kukho ikamva phakathi kwakho ngenxa yokuba ethabathe icala lezinto ezibonakalayo, akunjalo?
4. Yenza kwindawo oziva ukhululekile kuyo.
Ukuba uza kubahlalisa phantsi i-The Talk, kuhlala kungcono ukuyenza kwi-turf yakho, okanye kumhlaba ongathathi cala.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba incoko ayihambi ngendlela ocinga ngayo, uya kuziva ukhuselekile kwaye ukwazi ukunamathela kwimipu yakho kwezi ndawo zingqonge kunokuba ubungumzekelo, kwindawo yakhe.
5. Nyusa ukuzithemba kwakho.
Ngaphambi kokuba ube nale ncoko kunye nomfana ombonayo, licebo elihle ukuzikhumbuza ukuba ufanelwe kokona kulungileyo, ukuze ungazifumani uhlala ungaphantsi.
Indlela elungileyo yokwenza oku kukuchitha ixesha nabahlobo okanye usapho oluthandayo noluxabisekileyo kuwe okanye lokuzonwabisa.
Chitha ixesha usenza into oyithandayo, uziphathe ngokwenwele entsha, okanye uthathe ixesha lakho uzonwabele, ukonwabele inkampani yakho, kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba ngelixa ubudlelwane obunothando bunokuba mnandi, ubomi bungaphezulu kakhulu kunoko.
6. Cacisa malunga neemvakalelo zakho, izinto ozilindeleyo kunye nokujongana neziqhekeza.
Akukho sizathu sokuba nale ntetho malunga nokuba uphi bona cinga ubudlelwane buhamba ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba yintoni wena ndifuna kubo.
Unokuba uzama ukuzikhusela kwintlungu ngokungaphandi okanye ukuvuma iimvakalelo zakho de uyazi ukuba zinzulu na.
Kodwa ukuba ubalindele ukuba bathembeke kwaye bacace malunga nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo, kufuneka ucace kwindlela oziva ngayo nawe.
Kuya kufuneka uqiniseke malunga nokuba ucinga ukuba iimvakalelo zakho eziqhubayo zalo mntu zinokujika zibe yinto yokwenene, kwaye ulindele ntoni ukuba ubudlelwane bunokuphuhla njani, konke kulungile.
Ewe kunjalo, akunakulindeleka ukuba abe nolindelo olufanayo njengoko usenza, ke kufuneka uzinzise into ovumayo ukulalanisa kuyo kwaye yintoni enokuthi ichaze ukuphela kobudlelwane bakho obutsha.
Ngaba ungavuya ukuhlala ubona abanye abantu okwangoku, ukuba yile nto ebeyifuna? Okanye ungasokola ukuqhubeka nezinto ukuba izinto phakathi kwenu bezingakhethi bodwa?
Ngaba kubalulekile kuwe ukubeka iilebheli kwizinto? Ngaba ufuna ukuba adibane nabahlobo bakho?
Nyaniseka kwisiqu sakho naye nakwizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
Ithetha ukuthini xa umntu ekubiza umhle ngaphezu kwesicatshulwa
7. Cinga ngomgca wakho wokuvula.
Kuhlala kungumbono olungileyo ukucinga ngendlela onokuwuthetha ngayo lo mbandela ngendlela engayi kummangalisa ngokupheleleyo lo mfo okanye imenze azive ngathi umbeka endaweni.
Kodwa ngeli lixa kulungile ukuba unoluvo lokuba ufuna ukuziqala njani izinto kunye nento ofuna ukuyithetha ngexesha lentetho, kukwabalulekile ukuhamba nokuhamba, kwaye umamele kwaye uthathe yonke into ayithethayo.
Zama ukungacingi kakhulu ngendlela incoko enokuthi ivele ngayo ngaphambi kokuba ube nayo, okanye ungaphela uzisola okanye ukhathazeke xa engazithethi izinto obuzilindele.
8. Kodwa sukuyakha kakhulu engqondweni yakho.
Xa ujonga emva kolu luhlu, konke kwangaphambili okujikeleze iNtetho kunokuziva kunzima. Ke, kubalulekile ukugcina izinto ngendlela efanelekileyo.
Lo ingangumzuzu ochazayo kubudlelwane bakho, njengoko inokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngaba nobabini nigqibe ekubeni niqhubele phambili okanye niqonde ukuba anilungelanga omnye komnye.
Kodwa ukuba awuthathi sigqibo sokuqhubeka nezinto, ayisosiphelo sehlabathi.
Ngokukhawuleza ufumanise ukuba ayisiyiyo eyakho, kokukhona uya kwamkela xa kufika indoda elungileyo.
Sondela kule ngxoxo ngokuzolileyo, ngokuqokelelweyo, ngokulindelweyo okucacileyo kunye nokucaca malunga neemvakalelo zakho, kwaye konke kuyakulunga ekugqibeleni.
Kwaye ukuba ayenzi njalo, ayisiyiyo ukuphela.
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