Ucinga wena unamandla ulungele ubudlelwane, kodwa awuqinisekanga ngokupheleleyo ukuba ixesha lilungile.
Ukuba ufunda le nto, ke amathuba okuba ube noxinzelelo lwengqondo kwixesha elidlulileyo elingekude kakhulu.
Mhlawumbi wahlukana nomntu ngokuchanekileyo kwaye awukwazi ukugqiba ukuba ukulungele na ukuqhubeka.
Okanye mhlawumbi ulahlekelwe ngumntu omthandayo okanye okhe waba nexesha elinzima ngaso nasiphi na isizathu sezizathu, ubungcali okanye ubuqu.
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, ucinga ukuba uza kuphuma kwelinye icala layo yonke, kodwa ufuna ukuqiniseka.
Emveni kwakho konke, awufuni ukwenzakala, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo awufuni kukhathaza omnye umntu.
Isenokuba sele udibene nomntu ocinga ukuba kunokwenzeka…
… Okanye kusenokwenzeka ukuba ucinga ngokuvula ngokwakho ithuba lokufumana uthando kwaye awuqinisekanga nokuba lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuba uzibeke phaya.
Nokuba zithini na iimeko zakho ngokuchanekileyo, kukho imiqondiso onokujonga kuyo ukuze ubone ukuba lifikile ixesha lokucinga ngokungena kubudlelwane obutsha.
Makhe sijonge kwezinye zeempawu ezibonisa ukuba ulungele ubudlelwane.
Olu ayilo luhlu olupheleleyo, kodwa ukuba ezimbalwa zazo zivakala ngathi, kusenokwenzeka ukuba luphawu olulungileyo lokuba ixesha lifikile lokucinga ngokwamkela umntu omtsha ebomini bakho.
1. Uyonwabile ngokwakho, ngokoqobo nangokufuziselayo.
Inkampani yakho yanele wena. Uyonwabile kwimeko yakho yangoku yokungatshati, kwaye ulungile ukuchitha ixesha ngokwakho, ngokoqobo.
Unokuchitha ixesha upholile ngokwakho kwaye wonwabile, kwaye ungoyiki xa uzifumanisa ungenazicwangciso ngobusuku bangoLwesihlanu.
Ukuba awufumananga iqabane onothando lokwabelana ngobomi bakho ngalo naliphi na ixesha kungekudala, uya kuba ulungile kuloo nto.
2. Unomdla ngaphezu kwento enye.
Xa udibana nezinto ezintsha onomdla kuzo, awucingi nje ngomtsalane oziva kuwo.
Ufuna ukwazi umntu ongaphantsi kwayo yonke loo nto.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, unqwenela ukusebenzisana ngokwesondo, kodwa ayisiyiyo yonke into kwaye iphelele kuwe.
Ufuna unxibelelwano kumanqanaba amaninzi, kwaye awoyiki ukumba nzulu kancinci.
3. Uyekile ukujonga.
Ndiqinisekile ukruqukile kukukuva oku, kodwa kuninzi okuyinyani koluvo lokuba umntu olungileyo ngamanye amaxesha uza nje xa uyekile ukuzikhangela .
Uyonwabile wedwa, ngenxa yoko awukhutheli phaya ngaphandle ufuna umntu oza kuba kubudlelwane naye.
4. Uzimisele ukubeka umsebenzi ukuze ufumane umntu olungileyo.
Oku kuyaphikisana ngokupheleleyo ukuya kwinqanaba elingasentla, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha umqondiso wokuba ukulungele ukufumana ubudlelwane kukuba ubukhangela ngenkuthalo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha kuza umntu olungileyo. Kodwa rhoqo kufuneka uphume uye kuzifumana ngokwakho, kwaye ubeke umsebenzi ngaphakathi.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, indoda okanye umfazi ophuphayo akunyanzelekanga ukuba athi chu ebomini bakho. Baphandle, kodwa kuya kufuneka ubakhangele.
Masijongane nayo, ukuthandana kunzima, ke ukuba uzimisele ukuzibeka phaya kwiindawo zokubonana okanye ubuze abahlobo ukuba bakusete, kwaye ngokubanzi uhambe nge-rigmarole yayo yonke loo nto, luphawu lokuba uzimisele umbono wokufumana umntu omthandayo.
5. Awuyi kuhlala.
Umntu okulungeleyo ubudlelwane ngumntu ongayi kwamkela nantoni na engaphantsi kweyona ilungileyo.
Ukuba ulungele uthando, uyazi ukuba ufanelekile.
Uyazi ukuba ukulungele ukunikela ngako konke, kwaye awuyi kulungela nabani na ongazukuphindisela oko.
Ubambe into emangalisayo, nokuba ithatha ixesha elingakanani.
6. Uvulekile ukudibana nabantu abanganyanzelekanga ukuba babe 'luhlobo' lwakho.
Ukuba unamathela ngokusondeleyo kwiingcamango zento ocinga ukuba iqabane lakho elifanelekileyo liya kubonakala okanye lifane nalo, kwaye unomdla kakhulu malunga nokwandisa iphuli yakho, kunokubonisa ukuba awukakulungeli ukuthandwa.
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Kodwa ukuba uzimisele ukuzivulela abantu abahluke kancinane kukhangelo lwakho lothando, luphawu oluhle kakhulu olo.
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7. Udlulile kwisigaba sokubuyisa.
Akuyonyani ukuba lonke ubudlelwane obuqala xa 'ukwisaphulelo' kunokwenzeka ukuba busilele.
Kodwa ukuba ungena kubudlelwane xa usabuyela kwenye, kufuneka wamkele ukuba kuya kuthatha umonde omkhulu kunye nomzamo wezinto eziza kusebenza nomdla wakho omtsha wothando.
Awunakuze uxele kwangaphambili ukuba umntu olungileyo uza kuhamba nini ebomini bakho, kodwa ukuba usakrelekrele kubudlelwane bangaphambili, kuya kufuneka uzame ukunqanda ukungena nantoni na enzulu nomnye umntu omtsha.
Ukuba udibana nomntu, kufuneka thatha izinto kancinci .
Kodwa ukuba ezo mvakalelo ziphelile, kusenokwenzeka ukuba lixesha.
Abanye abantu abanokuthatha iiveki, iinyanga ezithile, kwaye abanye kusenokwenzeka ukuba kuthiwe bakwiphindayo nokuba unyaka uqhubeke.
Uyakwazi nzulu ezantsi ukuba udlule kwisigaba esibuhlungu.
8. Ungacinga nge ex yakho ngaphandle komsindo.
Ukuba kutshanje uye waqhekeka okanye iqabane lakho langaphambili lenza into ekhokelele ekuphelisweni kobudlelwane, uya kuba unomsindo omkhulu kubo.
Uyazi ukuba ukulungele ukuqhubekeka xa ezo mvakalelo zomsindo ziqala ukuphela kwinto esondela ngokungakhathali.
Akukho mntu ulindele ukuba wonwabe malunga noko kwenzekileyo, kodwa kuya kufuneka ukwazi ukucinga ngento eyenziwa liqabane lakho langaphambili kwaye liphele kanjani ngaphandle kwegazi lakho elibilayo.
Ukuba ufikelele kwinqanaba lokwamkelwa, unokulungela ubudlelwane obutsha.
9. Uzimisele ukuthatha umngcipheko.
Ukuwa eluthandweni kuhlala kuyingozi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, akukho ziqinisekiso ebomini.
Ukuba kubudlelwane kungokwamkela ukuba nantoni na enokwenzeka, kwaye ungonzakala.
Ukuba ulungile kuloo nto, unokuba ulungele uhlobo lokusondelana kunye nokuba sesichengeni kolwalamano kubandakanya.
10. Uzimisele ukuvumela umntu ukuba aphule iindonga zakho.
Ukuba wenzakele kwixa elidlulileyo, mhlawumbi uye wakha ezinye iindonga ezinobunzima obujikeleze intliziyo yakho.
Kuphela xa uziva ngathi ungakulungela ukuvumela umntu olungileyo ukuba awaphule xa ucinga ngobudlelwane.
11. Uzimisele ukwenza indawo yomntu.
Masijongane nayo, ukungena kubudlelwane kuya kutshintsha ubomi bakho.
Ukuba uqhele ukungatshati kwaye wenza izinto ngendlela yakho, kuya kufuneka uzimisele ukwenza utshintsho ukudala indawo yomntu omtsha ebomini bakho.
Kuya kufuneka uyazi ukuba oku kuya kubandakanya ukulalanisa.
12. Uzimisele ukubeka omnye umntu kuqala.
Kubudlelwane, kuya kubakho amaxesha apho kuya kufuneka ubeke iimfuno zomlingane wakho ngaphambi kwezakho. Kanye njengokuba kuya kubakho amaxesha apho kuya kufuneka ukuba ubeke iimfuno zakho kuqala.
Yiloo ndlela kanye.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuzibona usenza oko, isenokungabi lixesha elifanelekileyo kuwe okwangoku.
13. Kodwa uyazi ukuba iphi imida yakho.
Kwelinye icala, ngelixa kufuneka uzimisele ukwehlisa ulindelo lwakho, wenze indawo yeqabane lakho elitsha, kwaye uzibeke phambili xa kufanelekile, kufuneka ucace ukuba uphi umgca, kwaye ungavumeli iqabane elitsha bulldoze ukuqonda kwakho.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba ukwindawo enokukuthetha zilahlekele kubudlelwane , Kungangcono ulinde de ukhuseleke ngakumbi kuwe ngaphambi kokuba umeme umntu ebomini bakho.
