Ukuphela kobudlelwane kunzima ngokwaneleyo, kodwa xa umntu ephela ngaphandle kokuvalwa kwakho, kunokuba yinto embi.
Kunzima kakhulu ukungazi ukuba kutheni umntu ekhethe ukuphelisa izinto kunye nawe.
Ungazithuthumbisa uzama ukufumanisa oko.
Ngaba babeqhatha?
Ngaba bakuthanda ngokwenene?
Ngaba omnye umntu uya kukuthanda nyani ukuba kukho into engalunganga kuwe engade ikubalisele i-ex yakho?
Ukuba unqwala ngokunqamlezayo koku, uyadakasa kwaye kufuneka uzincothule emhlabeni. Le ngcebiso kufuneka incede…
1. Fikelela.
Ngokwesiqhelo, sicebisa ukuba kucace ukunxibelelana neqabane lakho langaphambili emva kokuqhekeka, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka wazi.
Umyalezo olula, onyanisekileyo kufuneka usebenze: “Hee, ndicela uxolo ngokuthumela umyalezo kuwe, kodwa ndifuna ukuvalwa. Andikuceli ukuba nibuye nibuyelene, kodwa ndifuna ukwazi ukuba kutheni niyigqibile. ”
Akukho nto ifuna kakhulu kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ungaphindi kabini!
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Kulungile ukuvuma ukuba wenzakele kwaye kulungile ukuba ufuna ukunikwa ukucaca okuthile.
Asinakuthembisa ukuba baya kuphendula, kodwa ukubuza yinto yokuqala ukuzama - kwaye kuphela kolu luhlu olubandakanya ukuthetha ne-ex yakho, uya konwaba ukwazi.
2. Zijikele kobutsha.
Ukuvalwa yile nto kufuneka siqhubele phambili ukusuka kwimeko, ke ukungabikho kokuvalwa kunokwenza ukuba kube ngathi akunakwenzeka ukuya phambili.
Kule meko, kuya kufuneka unyanzelise utshintsho.
Oko kuthetha ukwamkela ikamva kwaye uziphose kulo. Okukhona unokutshintsha izinto ezikungqongileyo, kokukhona ubomi bakho buya kuziva butsha kwaye bohlukile.
Guqula indlela yakho yesiqhelo, useto lwakho, imisebenzi yakho kwaye awuzukuziva unamathele kubomi obudala, obuqhelekileyo obubandakanya umntu wakho wakudala.
3. Xakeka.
Akukho nto imbi kakhulu kunokuhlala uzisizela (nangona iyinxalenye yokuphilisa ngamanye amaxesha), kwaye ihlala ikhokelela ekucingeni ngokugqithileyo.
Ukuba nexesha elininzi lokuhlala kunye nokuzonwabisa ngokwakho kwiqela elinosizi kunokuhlala ixesha elide, ke kuya kufuneka uzame ukuzinyanzela ukuba uxakeke.
Ukungabikho kokuvalwa kunokunyusa kuphela iimvakalelo ezinje emva kokuhlukana, kwaye ukugcina ingqondo nomzimba wakho kunokukunceda ujongane nazo.
Ukuzivocavoca kuya kuyinika ingqondo yakho ukungxama okukhulu kwee-endorphins- iihormone ezikwenza uzive ulungile- kwaye iya kunceda ingqondo yakho ijolise kwenye into ngaphandle kwento ebuhlungu ukuba ungatshatanga.
4. Phuma uye phaya.
Ngoku, le ithatha ixesha kwaye ayifanele ingxanyisiswe, kodwa ukuthandana kwakhona kunokuba yindlela elungileyo yokufumana umntu.
Zombini zezona ngcebiso zibalaseleyo nezona zimbi phaya, ngoko yenza ngako oko uya kuthanda!
Abanye bethu kufuneka baqhubeke ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye bazonwabise ngomntu omtsha ukuze balibale ngomntu indala .
Abanye bethu badinga ixesha lokuqhubekeka kwaye baphilise, kwaye ukuthandana nomntu omtsha kuya kuba yintlekele epheleleyo.
Jonga indlela oziva ngayo kwaye ubuze ukuba ufuna ukuphazamiseka okanye ufuna ukuhlala ujongane neemvakalelo zakho okwexeshana.
5. Yenza into entsha.
Kuya kufuneka ufumane uninzi lobomi ngokwakho kwaye uyeke ukuhlala kwindlela izinto ezazingayo kwi-ex yakho. Ngqwabalala, kodwa kuyinyani- kwaye akukho luthando luthando olunzima.
Ukwenza into entsha kuya kukunyanzela ukuba uphume kwindawo yokuthuthuzela oyenzileyo kwaye kuya kukwenza wenze izinto ezingahambelani ne-ex yakho.
Kuya kukhulisa nokuzithemba kwakho, usazi ukuba unolwazi kwaye unakho ngokwaneleyo ukwenza izinto ngokwakho.
njani ukuxelela ngasese umfana omthandayo
Oko kunokuvakala kungumnqa, unikwe ukuba umdala, kodwa kunokuba lula kakhulu ukuba ungene kumkhwa wokuthembela kwiqabane lakho kwaye wenze izinto nabo.
Cinga ukuba kudala kangakanani wenza into ngokwenyani. Ngokuchanekileyo. Ngoku phuma uye kuphaya.
6. Hlaziya inkqubo yakho yesiqhelo.
Yeka ukuya kwiindawo ezikukhumbuza nge-ex yakho!
Kukho uhlobo oluthile lokuhlushwa olubandakanya ukutyumza umphefumlo wakho ngokupheleleyo kunye nokufumana loo mvakalelo yoyikekayo yokuziva ulusu. Oku kubandakanya ukubamba i-ex yakho kwi-Instagram kunye nokuziva ugula ngalo lonke ixesha ubona ubuso bakhe-nangona ubusazi ukuba uya kuthanda.
Kububudenge kwaye ukanti uninzi lwethu luyayenza kwaye luzive lumangalisiwe ukuba siziva inkunkuma emva koko.
Kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokuphila ezingabandakanyi i-ex yakho-oko kuthetha ukuba akukho intanethi-ukunyathela, kwaye akukho ukuya kwi-pub / bar yendawo yakho kwaye unethemba lokuba ungena kuye (kodwa ukwesaba ungamngena kuye).
Okukhona uhlala ebomini owawunabo kwaye ukhumbula ixesha lakho kunye (kodwa uwedwa), kuya kuthatha ixesha elide ukuba uqhubeke.
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7. Zisuse ebomini bakho.
Yenza utshintsho emzimbeni ukutshintsha imo ukuba uyasokola ukuqhubeka ngaphandle kokuvalwa.
Lahla iimpahla zakhe nayo yonke into ayishiye endlwini yakho. Cima iifoto zakhe - ukuba oku kunzima kakhulu, thumela i-imeyile kubo bonke kwaye uzigcine kwifolda ongayijonganga.
Ingabonakala ingaqhelekanga, kodwa iyandisebenzela- bendibuhlungu kakhulu ukwamkela ukuba iphelile, kodwa bendisazi ukuba ndiza kuqhubeka nokuhamba kwiifoto ezindala. Bendingafuni ukuzicima njengoko bendiziva ngathi ngokwamkela ngokwenene asisekho kunye, ndiye ndazigcina zikhuselekile kwikhompyuter yam kunefowuni yam.
Ndenze njalo ngemibhalo kunye nemiyalezo yeWhatsApp- ungathumela ngaphandle incoko, ugcine endaweni apho ungayi kujonga kwaye ube nefowuni entle ecocekileyo engenazinto ezinokuthi zivele kwaye zikunike olo luvo lubi.
Elula.
Ayisiyo ncam 'isiphelo,' ngenxa yoko akufuneki ukuba usebenze ngaphezulu kwayo, zonke zikhona ukuba ukhe wafuna okanye ufuna ukujonga emva kuzo. Kodwa awuyi kuba nefowuni kwifowuni yakho eya kukukhathaza.
Kwaye, ndinokuqinisekisa ukuba awusoze uyivule loo folda…
8. Thetha phandle.
Thetha ukuvala usapho kunye nabahlobo kwaye uyikhuphe yonke.
indlela yokugqitha kumntu ongakuthandi ubuye
Ukuthetha yinxalenye enkulu yokulungisa indlela oziva ngayo, kwaye kulungile ukukhupha iimvakalelo zakho kunye neengcinga zakho.
Kwiiveki zokuqala ezimbalwa, uya kuba uhamba phezu kwento enye-ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
Abahlobo bakho bayakwamkela ukuba uyalungisa, ke musa ukuziva unetyala ngokuthetha nabo ngeemvakalelo zakho! Yiloo nto bayile kwaye baya kufuna ukukunceda.
Kuhle ukuthetha ngezinto ezikwenza uzive ungonwabanga, nokuba zineentloni.
Abantu obathandayo baya kuba nakho ukuthetha nawe ngayo, bakuqinisekise ukuba akukho nto iphosakeleyo uyenzileyo kwaye baya kukunceda uyigqibe.
Bayakubakhona ukuze bakuthathe ngobusuku bamantombazana xa sele ukulungele ukonwaba kwakhona!
9. Yamkele into yokuba unokulufuna uncedo.
Le yinto ekhohlisayo njengoko singacebisi ukuba ugqirha wakho ukhona ukukunceda ukuba ugqithe kwi-ex-kodwa kubalulekile ukufuna uncedo ukuba unengxaki yokwenene.
Isenokubonakala iyothusa kwaye ‘inosizi,’ kodwa kufuneka uzihlonele iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ufumane uncedo xa ulufuna.
Abanye abantu bakufumanisa kunzima ngenene ukujongana nokwahlukana, kwaye abanakulala okanye ukutya ngokufanelekileyo.
Leyo yindalo, impendulo yomntu yokuziva uxinezelekile kwaye ayiyonto uneentloni ngayo. Abanye bethu banobunzima ngokubanzi, kwaye ukwahlukana kunye neziganeko zoxinzelelo kunokubangela kwaye kubenze mandundu.
Kungenzeka ukuba uziva uxhalabile kubomi obuqhelekileyo kwaye ukwahlukana kukutyhalela ngaphaya komda ukuya kuphazamiseka kwemithambo-luvo, okanye kwi-paranoia okanye kuxinzelelo.
Oku kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukumelana nako, ngakumbi xa umntu lowo ofuna ukukuthuthuzela engasekho ebomini bakho.
Eli lixesha lokuba ufikelele kwaye ufumane uncedo - kufuneka ukwazi ukulala nokutya, kufuneka ukwazi ukuqhubeka nomsebenzi kwaye ube nobomi boluntu-kwaye kufanelekile.
Ukufumana uncedo linyathelo elikhulu kwaye mhlawumbi kukudlula ixesha elide ukuba ubunezinto eziphantsi koxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo okwethutyana-zivuyisane nawe ngokwenza okusemandleni akho nokwamkela ukuba ufuna inkxaso eyongezelelweyo.
Akukho hlazo ekufuneni, okanye ekufuneni, uncedo.
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10. Zilinganisele.
Njengoko sele kukhankanyiwe apha ngasentla, ukuthetha ngayo yindlela elungileyo yokuqhubekeka neemvakalelo zakho kwaye uqhubeke kubudlelwane ngaphandle kokuvalwa.
Oko kuthethiweyo, kuyeza ixesha xa ufuna njalo yeka ndiyithetha. Kukho umgca ococekileyo phakathi kokucutshungulwa kunye nokugqithisa, ke khumbula ukuba uthetha kangakanani nge-ex yakho - kaninzi kangakanani, ixesha elingakanani, kwaye bangaphi abantu obathumela itekisi efanayo xa uziva ulusizi.
Bendihlala ndithumela umyalezo ofanayo, okhalayo kubantu abamalunga nesi-8 ndize ndibeneengxoxo ezisi-8 ezahlukeneyo malunga nendlela endiziva ngayo inkunkuma. Abanye babephendula kwangoko kwaye abanye babephendula emva kweeyure ezimbalwa, ke yonke loo nto yayitsaliwe.
Thetha nomntu omnye malunga nengcinga enye okanye imvakalelo enye kwaye.
Sukwenza kubi ngakumbi kuwe kwaye uzame ukunqanda ukungena kumkhwa wokuzibamba, okanye ukugoduka ulile ngokukhawuleza xa ungena emnyango. Inokuba luncedo ekuqaleni ukuba ubuyibhotile emsebenzini, kodwa ayinampilo xa iba ngumkhwa kunokuba ibe yinto eyenzekileyo.
11. Yamkela ukuba kuthatha ixesha.
Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu apha kukwamkela ukuba kuya kuthatha ixesha. Ungazigcwalisa iintsuku zakho kangangoko ufuna kwaye uchithe lonke ixesha lakho kwi-tinder, kodwa kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba kusenamaxesha apho uziva inkunkuma.
Oku kuqhelekile esiphelweni sayo nantoni na - ubudlelwane, ubuhlobo, ukushiya umsebenzi wakho, nkqu!
Luhlobo lwentlungu kwaye luyacaphukisa ukuva, kodwa ixesha liyaphilisa, nokuba kuthabatha ixesha elide xa ungenakho ukuvalwa okufanelekileyo okudingayo.
Zinike ikhefu kwaye ungazohlwayi ngenxa yokucaphuka nangoku.
Uyakulunga kwakhona, kwaye uyakufumana omnye umntu, kodwa kuya kufuneka uzinike indawo kwaye uvume ukuba intliziyo yakho ayinakulungiswa ngobusuku obunye.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungaqhubeka njani usuka komnye umntu ngaphandle kokuvalwa?Unokuziva ngathi le yinto ekufuneka uyenzile ngokwakho, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba uyenze wedwa. Indlebe yokumamela kunye neengcebiso eziqwalaselwe kakuhle zobuchwephesha bobuhlobo zinokukunceda ubeke ulwalamano lwakho lwangaphambili ebhedini kube kanye.Ke kutheni ungaxoxi kwi-Intanethi nengcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda kule nto. Ngokulula.
