Ukuba ukhe wehla ngokwahlukana, uya kube uqhelene neentlungu eziphantse zibekho ezihlala zihamba nazo.
Ukudakumba, ukuqaqanjelwa sisifuba sakho kunye nokungakwazi kwakho ukutya nantoni na ngaphandle kokutya okungenampilo kunye nokudinwa okupheleleyo kokuba uphile…
…ngokwakho.
Kuyothusa, kodwa kutheni kusenzeka?
UJohn cena vs kathathu hhh
Sijonga ngasemva kweziqabu zentliziyo ukuze siqonde ukuba kutheni kubuhlungu kangaka.
I-Psychology yoQhawulo mtshato
Ukwahlukana kwezinto kuyafana ngeendlela ezininzi nokufa komntu omthandayo.
Ayisiyiyo kuphela ukuba ulahlekelwe yinxalenye yobomi bakho, awusenaye loo mntu nawe kwakhona.
Akunjalo kangako bona usweleke, kodwa loo nto ubunayo ihambile kwaye ayibuyi.
Ukwajongana nokulahleka kwembono yethemba eliza nayo yonke ubudlelwane, nokuba ihlala ixesha elingakanani.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ube neemvakalelo ezifanayo nezo zibuhlungu ngokwenene - isithukuthezi , umsindo, ukucaphuka.
Uya kuphinda ube neempawu ezimbi zomzimba, ezifana nokungatyi okanye ukulala kunye nokukhala rhoqo!
Nokuba yeyiphi na umbono, ibiya kubakho ukuzisola, nayo.
Uya kuchitha ixesha elininzi uzibuza ukuba iphosakele phi, wenze ntoni ukubatyhalela ngapha nangapha, okanye ingaba kufanelekile ukuzama 'kube kanye.'
Unokuchitha iiyure uzingcungcuthekisa ngento onokuthi uyenze ngokwahlukileyo kwaye nokuba bekungafanelekanga ukuba ulwele nzima kubudlelwane.
Ayisiyiyo ephambili kwiingqondo zabantu abaninzi ngexesha lokuqhekeka ngokutsha, kodwa izinto ezibonakalayo kubomi bakho ziya kutshintsha.
Ngaba uyaphuma okanye uyokungqengqa esofeni?
Ngubani ogcina inja / iakhawunti yeNetflix?
ukuthanda umntu okuthandayo
Ngubani oqhubeka nokuya kwindawo yokupapasha yendawo kunye nabahlobo bakho?
Le miba yokuqhekeka ibonisa kuphela indlela enanidibene ngayo-ukukhetha ubomi obudibeneyo kubuhlungu kwaye sisikhumbuzo semihla ngemihla sezinto eziguqukileyo.
Kungade kube kokona kulungileyo, kodwa wonke umzuzu omnye wosuku lwakho (kunye nobomi) ngoku awunanto kulo mntu kwaye olo lutshintsho olukhulu.
Inokuba yinto encinci njengokuthi ngubani ngoku okhupha imigqomo ngaphandle - ndithembe, okokuqala xa usenza oku endaweni yeqabane lakho, uya kukhala.
Ekupheleni kosuku, utshintsho alukonwabi kwaye ukwahlukana yenye yezona zinto zinkulu, ezixinzelelekileyo nezothusayo apha phandle.
Kulungile ukuba neemvakalelo
Ngaphandle kokuba uyirobhothi, iimvakalelo zakho ziya kuba kuyo yonke indawo ngexesha lokwahlukana.
Khumbula into ebesiyithetha ngentlungu? Ewe, olo luvo luyaqhubeka ngalo lonke ixesha lokwahlukana uya kuziva ngathi kukho umntu olahlekileyo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuziva ukhathazekile kwaye ulusizi malunga noku, kodwa umsindo ukwakulindeleke ukuba uphinde ukhule nawo.
Kuyenzeka ukuba uzive ukhathazekile kwaye wonzakele, kwaye ezi mvakalelo ziya kuziva ungalunganga kakhulu - awufanelanga le nto!
Ezo mvakalelo zinengqiqo ngokupheleleyo, kwaye zonke ziyinxalenye yenkqubo yokulila.
Ngokuqinisekileyo uza kuchitha ixesha elininzi uzigaxa kwaye unamandla amaninzi unqwenela ukuba ungatshintsha izinto.
Eli candelo lokwahlukana liyadinisa liziva lingapheliyo kwaye libuhlungu kabuhlungu.
Uza kuchitha ixesha elide usiya ngaphaya koko kwenzekileyo.
Kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uvuke uzive uqhelekile kwaye emva koko ube namava okukrazula, ubambe iintlungu zokukhumbula eyona nto uyiyo ngoku.
Kuya kuthatha ixesha ukuba loo nto itshone ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ngalo lonke ixesha ukhumbula okanye ukhumbula ukwahlukana, kuya kukwenzakalisa konke kwakhona njengesilonda esitsha kraca.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- How To Be Single And Happy After A Long Relationship Ends
- Ukuba izinto azisebenzi, Le yeyona Ndlela ilungileyo yokuQhawuka noMntu
- Ukuqonda amanqanaba osizi kunye nendlela yokubuhlungu ngokulahleka kwakho
- Ungamnceda njani uMhlobo ngokuQhekeka (+ Yintoni / ukuba ungathethi)
- Ulwalamano oluphindaphindwayo: Iimpawu zokujonga
- Iindlela ezili-13 zokuba iintlungu eziMvakalelo zimbi kakhulu kuneNtlungu yomzimba
Intlungu yomzimba yoqhawulo mtshato
Njengoko sele sitshilo, iimpawu zomzimba zixhaphake kakhulu nangaliphi na ixesha lokwahlukana.
Yilapho igama elithi 'intlungu' liqala ukuzibonakalisa. Intlungu yentliziyo yinxalenye yokwenene yokuba nentliziyo yaphukile - isifuba sakho sinokwenzakala ngamanye amaxesha.
Oku ikakhulu kungenxa yoxinzelelo olukhulu (kunye noxinzelelo) umzimba wakho uphantsi.
Imizimba yethu inxibelelene neengqondo zethu , ukuba nomsindo kungakhokelela ukuba isisu esibuhlungu-yep, ayisiyonto intle ukucinga ngayo, kodwa imeko yethu yengqondo idlala indima enkulu kwindlela esebenza ngayo inkqubo yokwetyisa.
ndiyamthanda nyani lomfo
Ixhala kusenokwenzeka ukuba lihlale lihle ngoku, kananjalo, ayimangalisi into yokuba izifuba zethu ziya kupompa ngathi zigeza kwaye siziva sinqabile.
Intloko kunye noxinzelelo kumabunzi ethu ziqhelekile. Oku kuhlala kungenxa yokuba singazijonganga ngokwethu ngokufanelekileyo ngexesha lokwahlukana.
Ukutya okwahlukileyo kunqabile ukuba kubonakalise ukuxabiseka kwemini epheleleyo kunye nenqanaba elaneleyo leziqhamo ezitsha kunye nemifuno.
Iimpawu zakho zomzimba kunokwenzeka ukuba zibe phantsi kotshintsho kwindlela otya ngayo nakwindlela ophila ngayo, kunye noxinzelelo kunye nomsindo.
Sikwanamathuba amahle okuba singakhathaleli kuphela impilo-ntle yethu, kodwa sizibandakanye ngokuzimisela iindlela zokuzitshabalalisa .
Ingavakala ngokungathi akukho sizathu sokuzikhathalela xa usiya koqhawulo-mtshato…
… Oko kunokuthetha ukuya kubusuku basendle uphume, usela kakhulu kunokuba kufanele, kwaye ungakhathali kakhulu xa kufikwa kukhetho lokutya.
Ukutya okwahlukileyo komnye umntu kubandakanya i-tequila, uBen noJerry, kunye nokuthatha amaTshayina?
Uya kuthi mhlawumbi uthathe ikhefu ekusebenzeni, nawe, ngaphandle kokuba utsibe ngqo kwinqanaba 'lomzimba wokuziphindezela' kwaye ubetha umthambo njengembaleki yemedali yegolide.
Olu tshintsho kwindlela yakho yesiqhelo kunokukushiya uziva ngathi 'ucimile' kwaye unokutshintsha iihomoni kwinkqubo yakho.
Ukuba uqhele ukufumana ukulungiswa kwee-endorphins (iihormoni ezikhuphayo), akusekho kusiwa kwiklasi ejikelezayo kunokubangela ukwehla kwezi.
Oko kuthetha ukuba ushiywe kukuziva ungaphandle kweentlobo, udiniwe, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ufumane iintlungu ngokubanzi.
Ukuphulukana nomntu ebomini bakho, nokuba kungokwahlukana, unokuziva ngathi kukuphela kwehlabathi.
Ngokwenzululwazi, nawe uhlangabezana neenguqu ezininzi. Ngaphandle kokungena kuyo kakhulu, imichiza okanye amanqanaba ehomoni kwingqondo yakho atshintsha xa uthandana .
Xa ezi ziguquka ngexesha lokwahlukana, unokufumana utshintsho lomzimba kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu.
uyandithanda okanye isex nje
Ngendlela efanayo yokuba abantu bafumane 'ukubuyela' okanye iimpawu zokurhoxa kwiziyobisi, uhamba ngokutshintsha kwemichiza.
Ngokwendalo ufumana ukonyusa okukhulu kwe-dopamine kunye ne-oxytocin-ezimbini zehomoni eziphambili ezinoxanduva lwayo yonke icephe kunye nokudimazeka-xa ukunye nomntu omkhathaleleyo.
Xa ungasadibaniselwanga, ezi hormone ziyehla kakhulu kwaye ushiyeke uziva woyikeka.
Ngapha koko, kunokwenzeka ukuba ube namava ngendlela efanayo neentlungu zomzimba.
Iingqondo zethu zinokude ziphazamise ezi meko, oko kuthetha ukuba sinethamsanqa elaneleyo lokuba sishiyeke sinentloko yoxinzelelo, ukubetha, kunye neempawu ezinje ngomkhuhlane.
Ukwahlukana kunokuba yinto ebuhlungu, akukhathaleki nokuba bobabini bayathandana kangakanani, okanye nobabini niyavuma ukuba nihlale nabahlobo.
Ngenxa yoxinzelelo lwasemphefumlweni kunye neemvakalelo ezigqithileyo oya kuzenza, ingqondo yakho inokuphantse icime.
Hayi ngokupheleleyo, kunjalo, kodwa iyatshintsha ukuba isebenza njani.
Njengenxalenye yendlela yokuzikhusela, ingqondo yakho inokuvala iimvakalelo ezithile ezibona zibuhlungu.
Oko kuchaza ukuba ndindisholo, emva koko…
Ke, apho sinayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ayizukuzenza ezo blues zentliziyo inyamalale, kodwa kunokuba kuhle ukuba ubuncinci uqonde ukuba ingqondo yakho nomzimba wakho kuhamba ntoni.
into onokuyilindela ukuthandana notata ongatshatanga
Oku kusebenza kwi wena , nokuba uluhlobo luni lokwahlukana ohamba kulo.
Usenokuba uyivile into yokuba isiphelo sikufuphi, okanye ubusizicwangcisela ngokwakho, kodwa umzimba nengqondo yakho azinakuze zikulungele ngokwenyani okuya kwenzeka xa kusenzeka.
Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyisusile kuyo yonke le nto kukuba uza kubuyela esiqhelweni!
Ukuba bomelele ngokwaneleyo ukuba bakuncede uhlale kwii-romcoms ezingenakubalwa, biza abahlobo bakho kwilizwe liphela kwaye ufumane ubunzima obuninzi bokuqhekeka, ingqondo nomzimba wakho womelele ngokwaneleyo ukuba ukufumane konke, nako.
