Awutshatanga. Kwaye ukhetha ukungabikho.
Uzifumana uzibuza ukuba kutheni le nto wonke umntu omaziyo kubonakala ukuba ufumene umntu abafuna ukuchitha naye ubomi bakhe bonke, ngelixa usakhangela.
Izinto zokuqala kuqala. Phambi kokuba sijonge ezinye zezizathu zokuba ungatshati, kubalulekile ukuba uqiniseke ukuba awukho phantsi kwenkohliso ongasokuze ugqibelele de ufumane 'esinye isiqingatha' sakho.
Ngenxa yokuba ezinye iihafu azikho.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubudlelwane buyinto entle. Banokufezekisa ngokumangalisayo kwaye bakulethele isixa esikhulu sovuyo, kwaye kuthetha ukuba uhlala unomntu oza kulwa nekona yakho, nokuba ungathini.
Ininzi into embi onokuyizuza ngokuba kubudlelwane ... xa ikunye nomntu ofanelekileyo.
Kodwa ukuthandana akuyondlela yomlingo yokusombulula zonke iingxaki zakho, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo awudingi enye ebalulekileyo ukuze uphile ubomi obupheleleyo.
Zininzi izibonelelo zokuba ungatshatanga, kananjalo, ubuncinci inkululeko kunye nokuzimela ngokungabinalo iqabane lokucwangcisa ubomi bakho.
Ulonwabo lokwenene lunokwenzeka ngokupheleleyo xa ungatshatanga, ngokuchasene noko uninzi lwabantu lunokukukholelwa, kwaye nangona umbono we-singledom othengiselwe kuthi ngamajelo eendaba kunye nazo zonke ezo rom-com zingapheliyo.
Kwaye abantu abaninzi, abathengisiwe kwimbono yokuba ukuhlala nabani kungcono kunokuba wedwa, baphela kubudlelwane obungaphantsi-kokugqibeleleyo, kude nokubenza bonwabe, eneneni zibenza babe lusizi.
Kodwa, ukuba ungathanda ukufumana umntu olungileyo oza kwabelana naye ngobomi bakho kwaye uyazibuza ukuba kutheni bengekafiki, mhlawumbi ufuna iimpendulo, kwaye ndiyathemba ukuba uyabafumana apha ngezantsi.
Oku kulandelayo luluhlu lokugqibela lwezizathu zokuba kutheni umntu esenokungatshati.
Ezinye zazo zinokuba ziyinyani kwimeko yakho, okanye ungafunda enye yazo kwaye ngequbuliso uqaphele ukuba yile nto, ngokuthe ngqo, ebikubambe.
Kwaye ezinye zazo ziya kuba zizikhumbuzo zokuba isizathu awukalufumani uthando okwangoku kungenxa yokuba umhle kakhulu.
Ke, kutheni ungatshatanga? Makhe siqwalasele zonke izizathu ezinokubakho.
1. Awuzange udibane nomntu olungileyo.
Phambi kokuba uqengqe amehlo akho ekucaceni kwesi sizathu, thatha umzuzwana ukuba ucinge ngokuchanekileyo ngawo.
Ndiyazi ukuba kuyakhathaza ukuva ukuba umntu olungileyo akafikanga, kodwa inyani.
Okwangoku awuzukuwela iindlela nomntu onokuba ngumdlalo ofanelekileyo kuwe. Kwaye kulungile kakhulu.
Unokuqiniseka ukuba kungekudala okanye kamva, kwindawo ethile kule ndlela imangalisayo siyibiza ngokuba bubomi, uya kuza ubuso ngobuso nomntu olungileyo.
Umonde yinto elungileyo, mhlobo wam. Ndiyayazi indlela okucaphuka ngayo oko kuvakala, kodwa kuyinyani.
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2. Awukakulungeli.
Andikhathali nokuba uneminyaka engama-22 okanye engama-52, kusenokwenzeka ukuba awuzange ufike kwindawo apho ukwindawo efanelekileyo yokucinga ukuvuleleka eluthandweni ...
… Okanye ukulungele ukujongana nemiceli mngeni oza kuyifumana xa udibana nomntu.
Ndiyazi ukuba yinto nje, kodwa ukuba awuzithandi ngaphandle kwemiqathango, uyakufumanisa kunzima ukuthanda omnye umntu,kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uyakufumana kunzima ukuqonda ukuba kutheni emhlabeni bekuthanda.
Kwaye, uya kuthi uvumele umdla wothando ukuba ukukuphathe kakubi, kuba ukuzihlonipha kwakho kululwalwa.
Abanye abantu bafumanisa ukuba bakwindawo efanelekileyo yolwalamano xa besebancinci ngokumangalisayo, kodwa uninzi lwethu luyangxama kubudlelwane kwakude kudala ngaphambi kokuba sikulungele ukuba sinye.
Eyona nto iphambili apha kukwamkela inyani yokuba awukulungelanga, kwaye ungazibethi ngokwakho.
Ukufika kwindawo apho uya khona are ukulungela uthando kuya kubandakanya ukuzonwabisa okwaneleyo kunye nokuzazisa, kwaye kungathatha iminyaka okanye nangaphezulu.
Kodwa loo minyaka ingazaliswa kukonwaba, ukuzonwabisa, kunye nokuzifumanisa ngokwakho, ukukhula njengomntu ngaphambi kokuba ulungele ukuzibophelela ngentliziyo epheleleyo emntwini xa ixesha lilungile.
ukuthatha ikhefu kubudlelwane ukuze uzifumanele
3. Babengakulungelanga.
Ithatha ezimbini ukuya kwi-tango. Abanye abantu bathatha ixesha ngaphandle ukuthandana ukusebenza ngokwabo kwaye uqinisekise ukuba bakulungele ngokwenene ukufumana uthando.
Kodwa xa bethatha isigqibo sokuba lifikile ixesha lokuba baqale ukuthandana kwakhona, bayakhathazeka kakhulu xa beqonda ukuba abantu abadibana nabo basasebenza kwimicimbi yabo.
Aba bantu abanyanzelekanga ukuba babe kwindawo efanelekileyo yentloko ukuze bakwazi ukwenza ubudlelwane bexesha elide lisebenze.
Ke, isizathu sokuba ungalufumani uthando oluhlala luhleli isenokungabi nanto ingako yokwenza nawe konke konke, kunye nokunye okuninzi okunokwenza namadoda okanye abafazi obukhe wabandakanyeka kwezothando kunye nabo kutshanje.
Amathuba kukuba, ngaphezulu kokudityaniswa kwezi zimbini.
4. Ubeke phambili ezinye izinto.
Uthando akufuneki lube sisixa samabhongo ethu ebomini.
Ngoku, ndinoluvo lokuba, xa isiza kuwo, ubudlelwane esakha nabo nabanye abantu bubaluleke kakhulu ebomini.
Kodwa andizukukhathalela ukubheja ukuba sele ufumene ubudlelwane obuninzi obungenakho ukuthandana ebomini bakho, ke uthando oluthandanayo alubalulekanga kulonwabo lwakho.
Usenokuba nezinye izinto ezininzi ezenzekayo kangangokuba awuzange wenze ezothando zize kuqala.
Unokuba ukhethe ngokuzikhethela okanye ngokungaqondi ukubeka umsebenzi wakho kuqala.
Okanye, endaweni yomsebenzi wakho, isenokuba yinto oyithandayo oyithandayo, umnqweno wakho wokuhamba, okanye abahlobo bakho kunye nosapho oluhlala luza kuqala kuwe.
Kwaye oko kumnandi.
Ngaba wakhe waphelisa ubudlelwane kuba ibikumgama omde?
Ngaba umsebenzi wakhe wafika phakathi kwakho neqabane, okanye iqabane elinokubakho?
Ngaba ubudlelwane bakho nosapho lwakho bukhe bachaphazela uthando?
Thatha okomzuzwana uqwalasele ukuba kungenzeka ukuba ulubekile uthando kuye ezantsi kuluhlu lwakho oluphambili.
Ayisiyonto imbi leyo, nangayiphi na indlela elula yokucinga, kodwa isenokuba yinyani.
Usenokungamfumani umntu ozimisele ukumhlengahlengisa izinto eziphambili ngokubaluleka.
5. Uxakekile.
Uthando ludla ixesha. Kufuneka ubeke iiyure.
Isizathu sokuba ungekwenzi ubudlelwane obunokuhlala ngokulula kukuba awukhululanga xesha lalo.
Ukuba ufumene ishedyuli exakekileyo kwaye uyayithanda loo ndlela, ugcwalisa ixesha lakho ngezinto ezikonwabisa kunye nabantu ababalulekileyo kuwe, ke kunzima ukulingana nothando ngaphakathi.
Kunokubakho, kwixa elidlulileyo, ukuba kwakho umntu obumthanda kakhulu, okanye onokuthi ukhule umthanda, kodwa izinto zangxola ngenxa yokuba ungafumani xesha laneleyo lokuchitha kunye nabo kwaye ufumane ukuba ibhola iqengqeleka.
Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka uyeke ukwenza lento uyenzayo. Qhubeka usenza into oyithandayo, kwaye ekugqibeleni, uya kufumana umntu onokuqhubeka nawe, okanye ozimisele ukuzincama ezimbalwa kwishedyuli yakho.
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6. Awuxakekanga ngokwaneleyo.
Kwelinye icala, ingxaki isenokuba kukuba awuzibeki ngokwaneleyo apho.
Ndiyazi ukuba kunokuba nzima. Emva kosuku olunzima lomsebenzi, into yokugqibela onokuziva ngathi kukuzama iklasi yangokuhlwa okanye ukuqala umdlalo omtsha.
ukuba nzima kanjani ukufumana umfana
Kodwa ukuba uzimisele ngokufumana uthando, Kuya kufuneka uphume uhambe uye kufunda izinto ezintsha, ukwenza abahlobo abatsha , kwaye uzivulele nje ithuba lokuba inokwenzeka.
Ngenye into, kodwa ukujoyina iklasi yeebumbi akuyi kuba yindawo entle yokuyila, kodwa inokuba lithuba lokudibana nomntu omnandi.
Sukuchitha ixesha lakho ujinga ulinde uthando ukuba luze kuwe. Phuma apho, uhlale uxakekile, kwaye wonwabele ubomi, kwaye ngekhe wazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni.
7. Akukho ntlanzi zininzi kulwandle lwakho oluthile.
Mhlawumbi uninzi lwabahlobo bakho badityanisiwe okanye batshatile kwaye abasenamaqabane angatshatanga.
Mhlawumbi usebenza ekhaya, okanye unabalingane kuphela abesini esifanayo nawe (ucinga ukuba ayisosondo esikutsalayo).
Mhlawumbi uhlala kwidolophana encinci okanye ngaphandle kweentonga, kwaye akukho baninzi abantu abafanelekileyo abakufutshane.
Nokuba zithini na iimeko zakho, kubalulekile ukuzamkela, kwaye ucinge ngezinto onokuzenza ukwandisa iphuli yakho yemihla enokubakho.
8. Awuyithandi imbono yokuthandana kwi-Intanethi.
Abanye abantu bane-chip yokwenyani emagxeni abo malunga nokuthandana kwi-Intanethi.
Banolu luvo lokuba bafuna elinye lala mabali akudala othando aqala ngo'hlangana kamnandi, 'ngamehlo abo ehlangana kwigumbi elinabantu abaninzi.
Ndinomhlobo oqinisekileyo ukuba ukuthandana kwi-intanethi 'ayinguye' ukuba akazange anikwe naliphi na kubafana adibana nalo kwi-intanethi ithuba lokwenyani.
Ubambe ibali lothando kwaye unembono elolo hlobo ngokuthandana kwi-Intanethi kangangokuba wandixelela ukuba akacingi ukuba naluphi na ubudlelwane obuqale kwi-intanethi bungahlala.
Ukungakhathali kancinci kuthathelwa ingqalelo okwangoku kubudlelwane obuqale kwi-app.
Kodwa ndiyaphuma.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyamangalisa ukukwazi ukubalisa ibali lendlela enadibana ngayo xa nobabini nifikelela kwi-croissant efanayo kwindawo yokutyela eParis,kodwa ngenxa yokuba ibali lothando liqala kwi-intanethi, ayenzi ukuba ibe yinto engaphantsi.
Ukuthandana kwi-Intanethi ayisiyonto yabantu bonke, kodwa akufuneki uyinkqonkqoze ide izame.
Yindlela yokuhlangana nabantu onomdla kubo kwaye uhambelana nayo ngekhe ungadibani nayo ebomini bokwenyani. Inokukukhokelela kubantu abakholekayo.
Kwaye kukunika ithuba lokuqinisekisa ukuba unezinto ezifanayo nomnye umntu ngaphambi kokuba uvume dibana nabo kubomi bokwenyani .
Kwaye, unokuqinisekisa ukuba banomdla wokwenene ekufumaneni ubudlelwane obukhulu.
Ingxaki onayo kude kube ngoku kunokuba kukuba awuzange udibanise iinzwane zakho kwihlabathi lokuthandana kwi-Intanethi.
9. Awungeneki.
Ukuba ukufumanisa kunzima ukudibana nabantu, kunokuba nento yokwenza nendlela ozibonakalisa ngayo kwabanye.
Kunzima ukutshintsha oku, ngakumbi ukuba uneentloni, kodwa qaphela ulwimi lwakho lomzimba xa ukunye nomntu onomdla kuye, kwaye ukuba inokuchazwa njengokuba uvaliwe kwaye ungabinamdla.
Eyona ndlela ilula yokulungisa le nto kukukhumbula nje ukuphumla, ukuphefumla, kunye nokuncuma.
10. Usoyikisa.
Oku kunokuvakala ngathi yinto embi, kodwa ayisiyiyo kwaphela.
Unento embi eqhubekayo ebomini bakho, kunye nomsebenzi owuthandayo, kwaye inyani ebuhlungu yeyokuba abantu abaninzi banokukufumanisa kuyinto eyoyikisayo, ngakumbi ukuba ungumfazi.
Kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka utshintshe. Umntu olungileyo uya kukuthanda ngamabhongo kunye nomnqweno wakho.
Andisabathandi abahlobo bam
11. Uthandane kakhulu.
Kwezi ntsuku, kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukubona abantu abangaphezu komnye ngexesha elinye xa ungatshatanga.
Kodwa ukuba ubusoloko uthandana nabantu abaninzi ngaxeshanye okwethutyana ngoku, usenokuba ujadedelwe kancinci.
Ufika kwinqanaba apho ungalindelanga ukuba nantoni na izakufika kwimihla yakho, ke uvele uhambe kwaye uyeke ukuzivula ngokwakho ukuba unganxibelelana kakuhle nomntu.
Ukuba kunjalo, cinga ukunciphisa izinto kancinane.
Zama ukuthandana nomntu omnye ngexesha, kwaye xa ukunye nabo, qiniseka ukuba ukhona ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ubanike ithuba, kwaye ungatshintshi ngengqondo kwiTinder.
12. Unemigangatho ephezulu.
Usenokungalufumani uthando ngenxa nje yokuba ungazimiselanga kulungelwa nantoni na engamangalisiyo, ngelixa abanye abantu benjalo.
Kwaye kulungile. Qhubeleka nomsebenzi omhle.
13. Uthanda ukugqibelela.
Elinye icala lengqekembe inokuba ikukukhetha nje kancinci.
imiqondiso isoka lakho ayikho phezu ex yakhe
Ngokuqinisekileyo, imigangatho ephezulu ibaluleke ngokwenene, kodwa abanye abantu bayala ukunika nabani na ongalufanelanga uluvo lwabo ngendoda okanye umfazi ogqibeleleyo.
Ungacinga ukuba uyazi ukuba uthanda ntoni kwaye ufuna ntoni kwiqabane lakho, kodwa kuya kufuneka uvuleke kwimbono yokuba umntu angaza aze akuthusele.
14. Ingqondo yakho iyaxhuma emtshatweni.
Xa udibana nomntu omtsha, into yokuqala ocinga ngayo kukuba ingaba banokutshata.
Kwaye ukuba awucingi ukuba zikhona, awuzikhathazi ngokubuya umva ngomhla wesibini.
Usenokuba uphulukene nazo zonke iintlobo zamathuba okwakha ubudlelwane nabantu abonwabisayo, abanomdla kuba ugqiba kwelokuba ngekhe babe luhlobo lokuhamba ezantsi ngalo naliphi na ixesha kungekudala.
15. Ufundile kwiimpazamo zabanye abantu.
Ukhe wabukela abahlobo bakho bengena kubudlelwane owaziyo ukuba abulungelanga bona, kwaye ukubabukela besokola kukufundise into embi ngento oyifunayo ngothando (kwaye awufuni).
Oko kuthetha ukuba kuncinci kakhulu ukuba uchithe ixesha lakho kubantu abangakulungelanga.
16. Wenzakaliswe ngaphambili.
Wenzakaliswe kakhulu ngumntu obukhe wabandakanyeka naye ngaphambili, ngenxa yoko awuzimiselanga ukuyeka ukulinda kwakho.
Kodwa kufuneka wamkele ukuba uthando luhlala lungumngcipheko.Ngokuzibeka phaya, uhlala usengozini yokuphuka kwentliziyo, kodwa unokufumana uthando lobomi bakho.
17. Ungathanda ukuba wedwa kunokuba ube kubudlelwane obungalunganga.
Uyazi ukuba ukungatshati kunokuba yinto emangalisayo ngokupheleleyo, kwaye ungcono kakhulu xa uzimele ngeenyawo zakho kunokuzibandakanya nomntu ongakulungelanga.
18. Awufuni nyani ubudlelwane ngoku.
Ukuba unyanisekile kuwe, uyabuthanda ubomi bakho obungatshatanga ngoku.
Awunomdla ekuyekiseni ixesha lakho wedwa kunye nabahlobo bakho, kwaye unazo zonke iintlobo zemidla kunye nemiceli mngeni ekugcina uzibandakanya kwaye uxakekile.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba kufike ixesha apho unomdla wokwenene ekufumaneni umntu, kodwa elo xesha alikho ngoku.
Hlala ukhumbula…
Ziphose ebomini bakho, thanda abantu abakungqongileyo ngentliziyo yakho yonke, zivulele amava amatsha, kwaye ngubani owaziyo ukuba kunokwenzeka ntoni?
Inokuba yile veki izayo, okanye isenokuba yiminyaka ukusukela ngoku, kodwa uyakuba nexesha elimnandi kude kube lelo xesha, kwaye xa udibana nomntu olungileyo, uyakulungela uthando lwenene kunye nokuzinikela.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba kutheni ungatshatanga? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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