Imithombo yeendaba zentlalo inokuba yinto eyoyikisayo ngamanye amaxesha - kwaye akukho mntu ukhuselekile kwiziphumo ezibi.
Kubonakala ngathi kuyo yonke indawo esijika kuyo, sigutyungelwe yintlungu yentliziyo, ukwenzakala, kunye nengqondo iyonke yokuba umhlaba uya esihogweni kwibhasikithi yesandla.
Abantu abachitha ixesha labo elininzi kwiindawo ezinjenge-Facebook, i-Instagram, kunye ne-Twitter bahlala bexela inani elifanelekileyo loxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.
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Kwaye, ngokwenene, ungabagxeka?
Xa uskrolela ukutya kwakho, ngokungathandabuzekiyo uza kudibana nemifanekiso okanye iividiyo ongenakuzibona, iiposti ezibangela iimvakalelo, kunye nezaziso ezikwenza uzive ungonelanga.
Nazi ezinye zezibonelelo eziphambili ezivela ekuthatheni ikhefu kwimidiya yoluntu, okanye ukuyeka ngokupheleleyo.
1. Awuyi kuba nakho ukuzithelekisa ngokungalunganga kwizithuba zabanye.
Kubalulekile ukugcina engqondweni ukuba abantu abaninzi banonophele kakhulu malunga nezinto abazithumelayo kwiiprofayili zabo zeendaba zoluntu.
Banqwenela kuphela ukwabelana ngeyona miba mihle ebomini babo.
I-selfie ebonakala ngathi ayinangxaki yokuba umntu athumele izinto-ezinokwenza ukuba abanye bazive bebi kwaye bengonelanga emva koko-inokuba yenye ye-100 abayikhuphileyo.
Kwaye kwenziwa ngobuqhophololo ngokwamanani ngezihluzi ezahlukeneyo de kwaba kujongeka kumangalisa ngokupheleleyo.
Iifoto ezithandekayo zohlobo lomhlobo wakho owonwabileyo, olele kamnandi, onelisekile ngokupheleleyo umntwana okwenza uzive ungumzali owoyikekayo?
Ewe, zezona zibalaseleyo kwezona zibalaseleyo: kunokwenzeka ukuba amawaka ambalwa athathwe xa umntu ekhala, ekhupha, kwaye egcina usapho luvukile kangangeentsuku.
Abantu abaninzi abaskrola nge-Instagram ngenkuthazo bayalibala ukuba ingakanani imigudu eyenziwayo yokwenza loo mifanekiso ijongeka ilungile.
Ngapha koko, ngokubanzi abacingi ngalo lonke ixesha kunye nezixhobo eziya kwiiprojekthi ezahlukeneyo.
Oku kungakhokelela kwiimvakalelo ezichazwe ngasentla zokungoneliseki- ukuba ubuchule babo bokuyila, amalungiselelo okupheka, ukusebenza komzimba, njl.njl.
Bazokonakalisa iinzame zabo okanye bayeke ukuzonwabisa ababathandayo kuba ngokwenene, yeyiphi inqaku xa wonke umntu elunge kakhulu kunabo?
Yeka.
Yima yeka ima. Ngoku.
Ukuba le ibiyinto yakho yokucinga konke konke, thatha inyathelo elikhulu ubuye umva kwaye ukhumbule ukuba uyintoni na umhle, unetalente, inkwenkwezi ekhanyayo.
Awunakho ukuba nesiphako okanye 'awonelanga ngokwaneleyo' kuba inye kuphela nina.
Kananjalo, awungekhe uthelekiswe nomnye umntu: uyaxhuzula eyoyikekayo kwaye ugqibelele ngokuchanekileyo ngenxa yokuba ungubani okanye unjani ngoku.
Beka ifowuni yakho phantsi uhambe uhambe, coca intloko, kwaye ungaze uyikhathalele into ayenzayo omnye umntu, ukunxiba, ukucinga okanye ukuthetha.
Vela nje wena okwethutyana, kulungile? Kulungile.
Intetho entle.
2. Ungaziva ulilolo kancinci kwaye unxunguphele.
Uphononongo olupapashwe kwiJenali yezeNtlalontle kunye neKlinikhi yezeMpilo ubonise ikhonkco phakathi kokusetyenziswa kweendaba zosasazo kunye nesizungu kunye noxinzelelo.
Unokuziva ngathi uyaphoswa kukwazi zonke iinkcukacha malunga nokwenzekayo kubomi babanye abantu, kodwa ekugqibeleni, ngaba ngokwenene kufuneka uyazi yonke loo nto?
Uninzi lwabantu luhlala kwimidiya yoluntu ngenxa yeFOMO: F indlebe OKANYE f M ikhupha OKANYE ngaphandle.
Banexhala lokuba ukuba abagcinwanga kwilogu, baya kuphelela ekude noluntu lwabo, bengamenywanga kwimisebenzi, njl.
Abanye abantu badandatheka ukuba babona iifoto zeendibano abangamenywanga kuzo.
Baziva bedanile kwaye belahliwe kuba beshiywe ngaphandle, okanye abanye baziva ngathi 'abalunganga ngokwaneleyo' ukubamema.
Ngoku, okuninzi koku kunento yokwenza nolindelo olungeyonyani.
Asisoloko simenyelwa kuwo wonke umsebenzi osingathwa ngumntu wonke kwizangqa zethu zoluntu.
Kungenxa yokuba singabahlobo nomntu othile kuFacebook, oko akuthethi ukuba banyanzelekile ukuba basimemele emtshatweni wabo.
Abanye abantu baphinde babe noxinzelelo xa abo kumaqela abo entlalontle bonke babelana ngamava obomi angenawo, okanye angenakuba nawo.
Umzekelo, umfazi onobunzima bokukhulelwa unokufumana uxinzelelo lokuba angayi kumaqela oomama kunye nabo babesakuba ngabahlobo bakhe abasenyongweni.
Ayisiyiyo nje kuphela into yokuba alwe nohambo lwakhe lokuchuma, kodwa uziva eshiywe ngaphandle ngabo wayecinga ukuba unobuhlobo obomeleleyo.
Into kukuba, abantu bayatshintsha kakhulu ngokuhamba kwexesha, kwaye ubuhlobo buyehla kwaye bugeleze ngokwamava ethu obomi.
Ukuba uziva ngathi ushiywe ngaphandle kwesangqa sakho sentlalo, zama ukujoyina entsha.
Kukho iitoni zamaqela e-Meetup phantse kuyo yonke into onokucinga ngayo, ukusuka ekutyeni kwasendle ukuya kwimpahla emnyama, i-LARPing, i-winemaking, kunye nokunye.
Zizame, kwaye ungafumanisa ukuba unokonwaba ngakumbi kunye nokuzaliseka kobuqu kunokuba wawunako ngelixa uchitha iiyure uskrolela ukutya kwakho kwe-IG.
3. Uyazikhulula kwintetho enenzondo.
Inqaku elinye elibi kakhulu kwimidiya yoluntu yintetho enenzondo ngakumbi yokuyila ejikelezwe macala onke.
Abantu abaninzi-ngakumbi abo bane-akhawunti yemithombo yeendaba engaziwayo- babona kufanelekile ukuba bakhuphe izinto ezoyikeka ngokwenene kubantu abakwi-Intanethi abangaze baphinde bathi ebusweni babo.
Oku kunokuhluka ngokuhlekisa ngomntu ngenxa yokhetho lwabo lobuqu, ngokubasongela ngogonyamelo.
Abantu abaninzi abanobuganga bokuvakalisa izimvo eziphambukayo kwingxelo enyanzelekileyo yangoku bayazifumana ' dxxx ” : iinkcukacha zabo zenziwa zaziwe, kunye nefowuni yokuziphindezela esenzweni sokuba abanye banxibelelane nendawo yoshishino yaloo mntu, okanye isikolo, njl.njl.
Ngokusisiseko, ukuba nembono engavumelaniyo kwi-Intanethi kunokubeka wonke umsebenzi wakho, nkqu nakubomi bakho engozini.
Kokubini kuyadandathekisa kwaye kuyadandathekisa ukuziva ukuba awukwazi ukuveza iinkolelo zakho ngokukhululekileyo ngaphandle koloyiko lwesiphumo esiqatha.
Kananjalo, ayisiyiyo le kutsiba ukubona ukuba umntu ofaka amangqina anje njani kwaye enayo i-vitriol kwi-intanethi anganalo ixhala elininzi malunga nokuba kungenzeka ukuba abe kwisiphelo sokufumana.
Okubi nangakumbi kukuba abantu abanolwazelelelo babone intiyo enkulu ejikelezayo, kwaye baziva ngathi ilizwe liphela liyipessessit enqabileyo.
Njengoko unokuthelekelela, oku kunokuba nzima ngakumbi kulutsha nakwishumi elivisayo.
Ayisiyiyo nje kuphela ukuba bajongana ne-maesltroms yabo yeemvakalelo, kodwa xa bejamelene nolwandle lwenkohlakalo kunye nokuxhatshazwa kwi-Intanethi, banokuziva ngathi ubukho apha buhlungu kakhulu ukuba ungaphikisana nabo.
Cinga ngeziphumo Ukurhoxa kulwazi oluninzi malunga nayo yonke into eyothusayo eqhubeka kumawakawaka eekhilomitha kude nawe, kwaye ujonge kwindawo ohlala kuyo. Ziphi iindawo ezinzima? Athini amandla akho? Unganceda njani? Ukujongana nemicimbi yendawo kunye neeprojekthi apho igalelo namandla akho anokusetyenziselwa ukusebenza kakuhle. Ngokwenza njalo, uya kuba nakho ukubona utshintsho lokwenyani lusenzeka, kwaye wenze ifuthe elihle kwabo bakwisangqa sakho esandisiweyo. Iziphumo ezibi ziya kuba banzi, njengoko wonke umntu oziva ebhetele kwaye exhotyisiwe ukukunceda uya kunceda uxhobise kwaye uncede nabanye. Kwaye yindlela imizamo emincinci ekhokelela kutshintsho olukhulu, oluhlala ixesha elide, oluqinisekileyo. Kuyamangalisa ukuba lula ukugweba umntu ngento abelana ngayo kwimidiya yoluntu. Uluvo, ifoto, isiqwenga seendaba… kwanokusetyenziswa kwazo (okanye ukusetyenziswa gwenxa kwee-hashtag) - zonke zinako ukusenza sicinge kakubi malunga naloo mntu. Sinokukhawuleza sivumele iiposti zabanye ukuba zibe nefuthe kwindlela esicinga ngayo kwaye siziva ngayo ngabo. Kwaye oku kulihlazo xa sinokuthi ngandlela thile sithande umntu kwaye sonwabe kunye nabo. Kungenxa yokuba bavakalise ukuxhasa injongo okanye umbutho wezopolitiko ongavumelani nawo, awubenzi babe ngumntu ombi. Kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba awusakwazi ukuqhubeka ulunge nabo kwihlabathi lokwenyani. Ukuyeka imidiya yokuncokola kuthetha ukuba awusenalo ithuba lokwakha ezi mbono zimbi malunga nabahlobo, amalungu osapho, okanye abantu osebenza nabo. Kwaye oku kunokuphucula ubudlelwane bakho nabo ngobuqu. Ngaphambi kokuba imithombo yeendaba yoluntu isuswe, abantu banxibelelana nabahlobo kunye neentsapho zabo nge-imeyile, izicatshulwa kunye neefowuni. Ngoku, uninzi lwabantu lusebenzisa amaqonga abo akwi-Intanethi ukunxibelelana nabanye ngobuninzi, kunokuba babodwa. Xa uyeka imithombo yeendaba zentlalo, ngokusisiseko uphumile. Ukuba uyemka kula maqonga, akunakulindeleka ukuba uninzi lwabantu onxibelelana nabo mihla le baya kuphuma kwindlela yabo ukuze bakwazise ngayo yonke into eyenzekayo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kulula ukupapasha iposti kwaye uphendule kumagqabantshintshi, kuba zonke zikwindawo enye kwaye zinokuqwalaselwa kube kanye. Oku kunokuba yinzuzo enkulu kwimpilo yakho yonke kunye nokuba sempilweni. Ukuba uzama ukuzihlukanisa nabantu abanetyhefu, ikhefu kwimidiya yoluntu inokuzikhulula kubo okwethutyana. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuthatha ixesha elongezelelekileyo lokugcina ubandakanyeka kwidrama yabo kunokuba nzima kakhulu kubo, ke kuya kuba lula ukushiya wedwa. Oku kusebenza ngakumbi ngokuchanekileyo kunye ne-narcissists, njengoko baya kulandela emva kweethagethi ezilula zokuzalisa ingqalelo kunye nokudumisa! Musa nje ukubazisa kubo ukuba uyayeka, njengoko baya kuyithatha buqu, okanye bakuthathe njengomceli mngeni ukukugcina / uzibandakanya nemicimbi yabo yobuqu. Ke, ngaba ukulungele ukuyeka imidiya yokuncokola? Njengoko ubonile apha, zininzi izizathu ezilungileyo zokuyeka (okanye ubuncinci uthathe ikhefu elongeziweyo kuyo). Qala ngokuzicwangcisa ixesha ukuze ubone ukuba lingakanani ixesha olichithayo kwimidiya yoluntu ngosuku oluqhelekileyo. Emva koko setha ixesha lokunciphisa umda ekusebenziseni kwakho. Nciphisa elo xesha yonke imihla, okanye zonke iintsuku ezimbalwa - nantoni na ekusebenzela kakuhle. Ngokuqinisekileyo uyakufumanisa ukuba unexesha elaneleyo lokusebenza, ngoku awushukumi ngokungapheliyo. Eli xesha lelokuba ugcwalise ngezinto ezikonwabisa. Thatha loo projekthi yoyilo uzibekele ecaleni kwiminyaka eyadlulayo. Thatha uhambo olude okanye ukhwele ibhayisekile. Tyala igadi. Kukho amawaka ezinto onokuzenza ezinokusebenza ngokumangalisayo kwimpilo yakho ngokwasemzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo. Xa ulungele, zive ukhululekile ukwenza isibhengezo kwiindawo zakho zosasazo zasekuhlaleni ukwazisa abantu ukuba uthatha i-hiatus. Banike ezinye iindlela zokugcina unxibelelwano nawe, njengedilesi ye-imeyile okanye inombolo yefowuni, kwaye ubone okwenzekayo. Abantu abakukhathalele ngokwenene baya kwenza inqaku lokugcina ukunxibelelana nawe. Ngokubhekisele kwabanye, ewe, eli lithuba elifanelekileyo lokunciphisa inethiwekhi yakho yokuncipha ukuya kwizinto eziyimfuneko, akunjalo? Njengenqaku lokugqibela, khumbula ukuba awunyanzelekanga ukuba uyeke ngokupheleleyo ukuba uziva ungonwabanga ngokwenza njalo, kwaye ungasoloko ubuyela umva ukuba uziva ufuna okanye ufuna njalo. Yenza oku kwenzeke ngokwemigaqo yakho, ukuba kwaye ulungele ukwenza njalo. Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):indlela yokufuna intlonipho kubudlelwane
5. Awuyi kubagweba ngokuqatha abantu ngezinto abazithumelayo.
6. Abantu abanetyhefu banokuyeka ukuzama ukutyhefa ubomi bakho.
Ungayishiya Njani Imidiya yokuncokola, Xa ukulungele ukwenza njalo
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