Xa uMama wam waswelekayo kwaye sasigoduka sibuya esibhedlele, ndikhumbula ndilaqaza ndizibuza ukuba ingaba buqhubeka njani ubomi.
Kwakungexesha lesidlo sangokuhlwa kwaye abantu babeqhubeka ngorhatya lwabo. Ndabona abantu bengena kwiivenkile zokutyela, bencumile kwaye bebambene ngezandla, iipateni zendlela eziqhelekileyo, kunye neendawo zokuthenga ezazizele Abantu bebesiya kudla isidlo sangokuhlwa kwaye bephila ubomi babo. Ndifuna ukukhwaza, 'Ungenza njani ngathi yonke into iqhelekile? Umama wam usweleke nje. Akukho nto iya kuphinda ifane kwakhona. ”
Kodwa, andikwazi, kuba kubo, yonke into yayifana. Ukuba ukhe wamthanda umntu kwaye ngelishwa, waphulukana nabo, ndiqinisekile ukuba ukhe wehlelwa yinto efana nale. Kunzima ukuthanda umntu ngentliziyo yakho yonke, kwaye ngenye imini, unyanzelwe ukuba uphile kwihlabathi ngaphandle kwabo.
Ngandlela thile, sisiphene sobomi: ukuthanda abantu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ukuphulukana nabo.
Ngelixa ubomi bam babuguqulwe ngonaphakade mhla wasweleka uMama wam, ubomi babantu abaninzi emhlabeni abuzange butshintshe ngala mini.
ukuba wenzeni isithandwa sakho ngomhla wokuzalwa kwakhe
Ubomi buqhubekile, kuba ubomi buqhubeka.
Sele kuyiminyaka elishumi elinesithandathu wasweleka, kwaye ndiyamkhumbula mihla le. Ndingatsho ukuba ixesha liyanceda: iintlungu ziyaphela kwaye ndifunde indlela yokuphila nelahleko yam. Iinkumbulo endinazo zokugula kwakhe ziye zancipha, kwaye okushiyekileyo ziinkumbulo ezilungileyo. Yile nto ndiyaziyo ukuba angathanda ukuba ndiyikhumbule.
ungaxela njani ukuba umfana usangena kuwe
Ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumntu omkhathaleleyo uyazi ukuba kunzima kangakanani. Ingaziva ilucelomngeni ngokwaneleyo ukuba uqhelane nokuphila ngaphandle kwazo, kodwa iintsuku 'ezikhethekileyo' zinzima ngokukodwa. Lezo ziintsuku ilahleko yethu ihlala iphakama. La ngamaxesha esiwalangazelela ngayo “izinto ezazikhona” kwaye siziva sidanile.
Ukubhiyozela iholide okokuqala ngaphandle komntu othandekayo kubuhlungu. Ucinga malunga neminyaka edlulileyo kwaye ubambe iinkumbulo zakho zisondele. Ndikhumbula iholide yokuqala endijongene nayo ngaphandle kukaMama. Ibingu mbulelo. Ndandisemanzini angaziwayo, kwihlabathi elididayo neliphazamisayo, kwaye ndandingazi ukuba ndijongane njani nalo. Bendingafuni ukujongana nayo.
Unyaka wokuqala weeholide zokuqala ngunyaka onzima. Ngelixa unokoyika iholide nganye ezayo kwaye ucinga malunga neminyaka edlulileyo, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kulungile ukuba uzive ulusizi, ukhumbule ixesha elidlulileyo, kwaye unqwenela ukuba izinto zahlukile.
Ngelixa ndiyazi ukuba akukho lula, nazi ezinye iingcebiso ezindincedileyo ukufikelela kwezi ntsuku zinzima:
Fumana indlela yokuzisa umntu omthandayo kumbhiyozo wakho weholide.
Ayizukukwenza ukuba ubaphose nakancinci, kodwa inokwenza izinto zive zilula kancinci.
ivela phi i-brooke simpson
Ngaba ikhona iresiphi ekhethekileyo ayiphekileyo uMakhulu wakho? Isidlo esikhethekileyo osapho lwakho uhlala usabelana ngaso rhoqo ngonyaka ngeholide ethile? Ukuqhubeka kwesi sithethe, nangona kufuneka uyenze ngaphandle kothandekayo wakho, yindlela yokuzigcina kunye nawe. Ngelixa ingazukufana, iyakwenza uzive usondele kubo.
Umakhulu wam wayesoloko esenza isuphu ekhethekileyo yeholide. Ivumba lesuphu lindikhumbuza ubuntwana bam, iminyaka eyadlulayo, kwaye indikhumbuza ngeenkumbulo. Ndinayo iresiphi, kwaye xa ndisenzela usapho lwam le suphu, ndiziva ngathi ndizisa uMakhulu wam ebomini bethu. Kuyandivuyisa ukukwazi ukuxelela abantwana bam, 'Le yile ndlela ndimkelwe ngayo nguMakhulu.'
Ukusebenzisa izitya neelinen zikaMama kum kundenza ndizive ngathi uyancuma. Ukuseta itafile yeholide njengoko wayeqhele ukuseta itafile yindlela yokuba ndimzise kumbhiyozo wethu. Ndiyazi ukuba angayikhaba, kwaye ndiyazi ukuba angonwaba ukuba usapho lwam lonwabela izinto zakhe.
Thatha umzuzu ngexesha lokubhiyozela iholide ukuthetha ngomntu omkhumbulayo.
Kuhle, ngexesha lokubhiyozela usapho, ukuthatha ixesha lokukhumbula abo bantu baswelekileyo. Kusapho lwam, ngexesha lesidlo seholide, siza kubiza amagama abantu abangasenathi. Ngamanye amaxesha, sithatha umzuzwana sithi cwaka ukubakhumbula. Ukujikeleza itafile kunye nokwabelana ngememori ehlekisayo yenye indlela yokuzisa abantu obathandayo kumbhiyozo wangoku. Chaza into esebenzayo kuwe kunye nosapho lwakho, kwaye uzame. Ngelixa kungayi kwenza ukuba ubaphose nakancinci, kuya kukwenza uzive ngathi bakunye nawe.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
indlela yokuxelela ukuba umhla wokuqala uhambe kakuhle
- Ukuqonda amanqanaba osizi kunye nendlela yokubuhlungu ngokulahleka kwakho
- Endaweni yokuba 'Uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho,' Yitsho amazwi ovelwano ngala magama
- Ungayifumana njani intsingiselo yokuzibulala komntu omthandayo
- Indlela yokujongana noloyiko lokufa kwaye wenze uxolo ngokufa
- Iingcaphuno ezi-3 malunga noMandla kunye neNkalipho xa uziva ukuba awunakuqhubeka
Misela isithethe esitsha.
Umama wam wayehlala ekuthanda ukutya ifudge sundaes. Ngomhla wokuzalwa kwakhe, unyaka nonyaka, usapho lwam lunama-ice cream sundaes. Yindlela yokuba sibhiyozele usuku lokuzalwa kwakhe ngokwenza into ngewayenze ngokwakhe. Iyenza ikhetheke kwaye ivumela abantwana bam ukuba bakhumbule uMama wam ngendlela eyonwabisayo. Saqala eli siko abantwana bam besebancinci, kwaye andiqondi ukuba siyakuze siyeke.
Cinga ngento emnandi, onokuyonwabela nosapho lwakho ukuyenza kunye, ekunceda ukuba ukhumbule umntu omthandayo.
Iziganeko ezinkulu zinzima.
Andizukuxoka kuwe, iziganeko zomjikelo wobomi zinzima. Ukuba kukho umsitho omkhulu, onje ngomtshato okanye ubhaptizo, ukushicilela igama lomntu omthandayo kule nkqubo yindlela entle yokubazisa kumbhiyozo. Ndikubonile oku kusenziwa amaxesha amaninzi kumnandi ukumazi umntu kwaye kunceda ukubenza babe yinxalenye yokubhiyozela. Ngaba kukho ingoma ekhethekileyo ababehlala beyithanda? Dlala loo ngoma ethekweni. Ngaba babekonwabele ukutya okuthile? Khonza loo nto ethekweni. Yenza ubuchule.
Zisoloko zikho iindlela ezikhethekileyo onokumkhumbula ngazo umntu omkhumbulayo.
Zijikeleze nabantu abakuthandayo nabakhathalelayo, kwaye uhambe ngokulula kuwe.
Sukuzigweba ngokuziva 'uluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka,' kwaye zinike ixesha kunye nendawo yokuziva ulusizi. Kunzima ukuphulukana nomntu omthandayo, kwaye ukuzama ukuyifihla okanye ukufihla usizi lwakho akunakunceda. Intlungu inokuba yinkqubo enzima, kodwa ixesha liyanceda ngokwenene. Ukuphulukana nomntu yinxalenye yobomi enzima, kodwa ngelishwa, yinxalenye eyimfuneko. Zinike ixesha kunye nomonde, zivumele ukuba uzive ukhathazekile kwaye uziphose, emva koko uzame ukukhumbula amaxesha amnandi.
ukwakha ukuthembana kwakhona kubudlelwane emva kokuxoka
Kuya kufuneka uqale amasiko amatsha kwaye wenze iinkumbulo ezintsha. Ukuzama ukuqonda indlela yokwenza oku akukho lula. Ngelixa ndikhumbula uMama wam yonke imihla, ndinombulelo ngento endandinayo. Andijongi kwilahleko, kodwa endaweni yokuba ndibenethamsanqa lokuba yintombi yakhe. Ndiyazi ukuba uyakundifuna ukuba ndilisebenzise kakuhle usuku ngalunye lobomi bam, kwaye akafuni ndichithe ixesha lam ndilila kwaye ndihlala kulahleko lwam. Unetyala kuwe ukuba ulisebenzise kakuhle usuku ngalunye lobomi bakho, nokuba oko kuthetha ukuhlala ngaphandle komntu omthandayo.
Ngaba ukhe wasokola emva kokuswelekelwa ngumntu omthandayo? Ukhuphe njani kuyo? Shiya iikhomenti ezingezantsi ukuze wabelane ngeengcinga zakho kunye namava.
