Akukho mathandabuzo ngayo, amazwi ovelwano anokuba nzima kakhulu.
Umnqweno kukuba wabelane ngentlungu yakho nomnye osentlungwini nangakumbi, kodwa oko kungaziva kulungile, andibi kunjalo?
Nokuba kulo mzuzu, wena zive ngu: Ubukrakra bokuqunjelwa kunokuba bufumane ukuthuthuzelwa.
Into yokugqibela ofuna ukuyenza kukongeza kwiintlungu zabo, nokuba kungangcwatywayo okanye ngexesha abafelweyo bebuyile kuluntu ngokubanzi.
Ke sithi 'Uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho.'
Kodwa ngaba akhona amagama amane ahlaba ngaphakathi anzima kwaye anzima kunala manani mane ngamanani akhombisayo ukungonwabi?
Eli binzana lisetyenziswe kakhulu akukho ndlela yokuba iviwe njengayo nayiphi na into ngaphandle kokunyanzelwa - uphawu lomqondiso - kwaye nangona lithetha kakuhle, lonke igama liyi-barb.
'Uxolo' ubeka umntu ofelweyo kwindawo enetyala. Naxa sisentlungwini yentlungu, asifuni abanye babandezeleke endaweni yethu.
Uxolo ligama esilivayo kumntu osonileyo, kodwa kwimeko yosizi, iba yinto yokuba sikonile ngomthwalo weemvakalelo ozama ukuwutyeshela.
'Ye' iba ngumgca othe ngqo odibanisa abafelweyo kukungaphatheki kakuhle kwakho.
“Yakho” iyababeka abo bafelweyo, isitsho ngokukuko nangona unga yiva imfesane kubo, ilahleko yokwenyani yeyabo ukuba bajongane nayo, hayi eyakho.
“Ilahleko.” Njengokuba umntu ofelweyo ebenokuqhubeka nokubamba. Njengokuba bengakwazi ukugcina ubomi bethandwa ngumntu wabo.
Ilahleko. Umntu othile akasekho, kwaye lowo ufelweyo akanakubafumana.
Nokuba bajonge phi abayi kubafumana.
Yonke into ebeyiyo lomntu akasekho.
Yonke imisonto yokunxibelelana kubo? Ikhethiwe.
Olahlekelweyo, njengosindileyo, uyedwa.
Indalo iphela yokwenzakala kwithuba lomphefumlo omnye. “Uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho.”
Kodwa kunikezelo lwakho lwentuthuzelo, awuyazi le nto kuba umntu ofelweyo kufuneka ancume, akhawuleze, kwaye-mhlawumbi kwelinye lamatyeli amaninzi phambi kwakho - uphumelele ukulwa iinyembezi ukuze athi, “Enkosi. ”
Ngaba sinokwenza ngcono? Ndicinga ukuba sinako.
Sinayo kuthi ukuba sibe nobubele ngovelwano lwethu, sinyaniseke ngoncedo lwethu, kwaye singoyiki ngokwenene ukuba sibekho emntwini.
Yintoni onokuyithetha kwiimeko apho amagama angonelanga?
1. Ndilapha Kuwe
Le inokuba yenye yezona zinto zinamandla ukutsho emntwini osentlungwini. 'Ndilapha kuwe.'
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ibe kukuphalaza okukhulu kwemfesane yeemvakalelo akufani nomdlalo wecarnival wokufikelela kwinqanaba elithile ukukhala intsimbi.
Kuya kufuneka iphuhlise ukwazisa ukuba uya kubamba indawo yomnye, nangona beyidinga kwaye ngexesha labo, bevumela abafelweyo ukuba bazigalele kuwe ukuze baphumle, bachache, kwaye baphinde bafumane unxibelelwano emva kwengozi yomdlalo wokugqibela Sala kakuhle.
Kukhatshwa kukuphathaphatha- mhlawumbi ukugona (iihug ngokubanzi zisebenza kakuhle) , mhlawumbi ukuthatha kancinci isandla, okwangoku kuya kuthi - eli binzana lixelela abafelweyo ukuba ababodwa…
… Ayedwa kwintlungu, hayi kwimvakalelo yokuba wedwa, hayi ekubambeni ngesiquphe kunye nesixa esikhulu sokungaqiniseki.
Umyeni wam ukhalaza ngayo yonke into endiyenzayo
Xa sidlula kwizilingo, nokuba (okanye ngakumbi) ezona zixhaphakileyo, ezona zingenakuphepheka kwizilingo, ezihambela amazwe angenakubalwa ngosuku, ukufa, ezona zinto zintle esizifumanayo kukuqinisekiswa ukuba asisodwa.
2. Uxolo Uze Uphile
Ukufa kukhwele nzima kwaye kukhawuleze xa kusizisa iindaba zokufa, kusishiya sibhidekile kwaye singaqinisekanga ngeebhere zethu njengoko sihamba ngaphakathi eluthulini lokudlula kwalo. Yonke into eyaziwayo iyaqhathwa kwaye yoyikeka.
Ukunqwenela umntu 'Uxolo kwaye uphile' nakweyiphi na into eyahlukileyo yeli binzana evakalelwa kukuba ikhululekile elwimini, yinto enamandla, ezinzisayo.
Ivumela abo bafelweyo ukuba bayazi loo nto uxolo lunokwenzeka , kwaye isixa samandla kweso siqinisekiso sinokubakho kwi-godsend kumntu ofumana ibhalansi.
'Phila' kuvuma isigulo esijijekileyo abanokuziva.
Ngokudibeneyo, uxolo kunye nokuba sempilweni kwenza umnqweno ukusuka kwelinye kwindawo yokufumana amandla ukuya kulowo ngoku ufuna ithemba, ukubonelela ngengcaciso yokuza okuzayo.
Nokuba asiziva ngathi uxolo lukufuphi naphi na, sifuna ukwazi ukuba lunokuba njalo.
3. Unentliziyo Yam Nenkxaso
Njengokuba 'ndilapha ngenxa yakho,' 'Unentliziyo yam kunye nenkxaso' ivala umsantsa ngesiquphe ukusuka ekuhlaleni uyekodwa ukufa kunokudala engqondweni yomntu ojamelene nelahleko enjalo.
'Intliziyo yam' ithomalalisa umda onzima wentlungu ekwabelwana ngayo ngendlela ethi 'uxolo,' 'usizi,' okanye nakuphi na ukwahluka kwelo grey, igama elilusizi konke kusilele ekufezekiseni.
'Unentliziyo yam kunye nenkxaso' ayisosikhumbuzo sokulahleka ngendlela 'Uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho, kodwa a isithembiso sobumbano akukhathaleki nokuba usizi luzama njani ukukrazula uluvo lomntu lwesiqhelo.
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ekubambeni umntu ngexesha lesiphithiphithi.
4. Ndiyazi ukuba Kunzima…
Ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka uthethe into, yitsho ngengqiniba. Akukho mntu uve 'ndiyazi ukuba kunzima…' ofuna ukuba ugqibezele eso sivakalisi.
Ukuzenza umntu owomeleleyo ngumqobo wokuqala wofelweyo. Ukuvumela nje kubo yazi lonto wena bayazi iintlambo, iinduli, nobunzima abaza kukunyamezela- kwaye baya kunyamezela- bakukhuphe kuhlobo lwolohanahaniso.
Ngandlela-thile, ibavuyela kwangaphambili ngokufikelela esiphelweni kohambo olomeleleyo, bomelezwe, kwaye bazilungiselela ityala elilandelayo elingenakuphepheka.
5. Ndivumele Ndincede
Mhlawumbi le ayifuni kuthethwa.
Ngaphandle kwako konke esikwenzayo, amagama athuthuzelayo aya kuhlala evakala ngathi yimbewu kwikhonkrithi phantsi kwesibhakabhaka esirhabaxa nesingwevu.
Sifuna ukudibanisa iintliziyo neengqondo zethu nenye ukuze sinciphise iintlungu zabo, kodwa amagama okwangoku, nokuba ziimbongi, awusoze waziva uwanele kulo msebenzi.
Xa abafelweyo benethuba lokucingisisa, mhlawumbi iimbongi ziya kwenza njalo. Imibongo ingathetha ngeendlela umphefumlo oziqondayo nokuba ingqondo ayiqondi.
Kodwa kukho amaxesha apho umzuzu ubiza ukuthula okucocekileyo kwaye kulula engathethwanga Ndincenga: mandincede ndihlale kabuhlungu nawe hlala phantsi, uphumle, ubekhona.
Oku kunokunxulunyaniswa ngokuwolana ngokuqinileyo ngokunikela ngebhokisi yezicubu xa kufuneka ngaphandle kokucelwa ngokunceda abafelweyo baphume esihlalweni okanye nokuba ubonelele igxalaba lakho ukuze libeke nazi iindlela ezizigidi ukubonisa ukuba ukhona umntu.
Amagama abopha umsantsa. 'Uvelwano olunzulu ngokulahleka kwakho,' 'uvelwano ngokulahleka kwakho,' 'uxolo ngokulahleka kwakho' zizithunzi nje zento esentliziyweni yakho.
Nokuba uthatha isigqibo sokuthini emntwini, qiniseka ukuba uluncedo.
Baphakamise, ubenabo, babazise ukuba awuyiyo enye into ebonakalayo kukhuphiswano lweentlungu, oluqala ukunyamalala kubo nangaphambi kokuba zonke izibophelelo zentlalo zenziwe.
Abafelweyo baya kuba nemimoya eyaneleyo yokulwa nayo Imfesane kufuneka ikhokelele ekubeni ubaluleke.
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Akuzange kube lula ukufumana amagama 'afanelekileyo'. Ukuba bekulula, ngekhe ibe nantsingiselo.
Kuyatshiwo ukuba sikobona bantu bethu xa sibuhlungu okanye sonwabile yonke into ephakathi ididekile. Amagama ovelwano kufuneka abonakalise ubuntu bethu.
Ezi ngcebiso zinokunceda okanye zingasebenzi. Ayenzelwanga ukuba ibe zizitampu zerabha ezintsha endaweni yamagagasi, aqhekekileyo uninzi lwethu olusebenzisa ngoku, zizikhokelo kuphela.
Ubomi bulunge ngakumbi xa sivumela ubuntu, uvelwano, kunye nokuzimisela ukuphakamisa iintlungu zabanye emagxeni abo zisikhokele, nokuba kungomzuzwana nje.
Kuninzi okunokwenziwa kwaye kuthethwe kwithuba lokuphefumla.
Thetha intuthuzelo kwaye uthethe kakuhle.
Unokuthanda:
- Iindlela ezili-9 onokuNceda ngazo xa Umntu Omthandayo Esentlungwini
- Iingcaphuno ezi-3 malunga noMandla kunye neNkalipho xa uziva ukuba awunakuqhubeka
- Ukuqonda amanqanaba osizi kunye nendlela yokubuhlungu ngokulahlekelwa kwakho
- Ukufumana Ngeentsuku Zokukhumbula Umntu Olahlekileyo
- Ungayifumana njani intsingiselo yokuzibulala komntu omthandayo
- Indlela yokujongana noloyiko lokufa kwaye wenze uxolo ngokufa
