INYANISO: Sonke sikhalaza ngezinto ngoku…
Umntu esisebenza naye unokusicutha, abantwana banokuba zizidenge ngokupheleleyo, okanye ngayo yonke into inokubonakala ihamba gwenxa.
Ngenxa yoko, sinokuba nomonde kunye nemfesane xa abo basondeleyo kuthi bekhalaza malunga nokuqhubeka ebomini babo.
Kodwa kwenzeka ntoni xa kufuneka uphikisane neqabane elikhala ngokungapheliyo?
Endaweni yokuba kube kanye, imeko ibabandakanya ukukhalaza rhoqo, ukusukela ekuziphatheni kwabamelwane ukuya kwimozulu okanye ukuhonjiswa kwekhaya.
Kunokuba ngumceli mngeni omkhulu ukujongana nayo, ngakumbi ukuba uzama ukugcina umbono oqinisekileyo ebomini.
Ke yintoni enokwenziwa ngayo?
1. Musa ukuthatha nantoni na ubuqu
Ukuba awukaqhelani Izivumelwano ezine - yenziwa nguDon Miguel Ruiz - kufanelekile ukuba bajonge.
Okwesibini kubo ayikuko ukuthatha nantoni na buqu, kodwa endaweni yoko qaphela ukuba nantoni na ethethwa ngumntu kubonakalisa okwenzeka ngaphakathi kubo , kwaye ayithethi wena .
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kunokuba nzima ukungabinampendulo yamadolo xa umntu egxeka, ke isitshixo kukuba nakho ukuthatha inyathelo ubuye umva, kwaye ujonge imeko yonke.
Xa thina mamela umntu ngaphandle kokuzikhusela ngokuzenzekelayo, Singazama ukujonga eyona nto ibakhathazayo kwaye sibuze ukuba oku kuvela phi.
Oku kusizisa kwinqaku lethu elilandelayo:
2. Kwenzeka Ntoni Ngabo?
Ukuba iqabane lakho belisoloko liziphethe kakuhle kwaye liqinisekile, kwaye ngequbuliso ligcwele ukungakhathali kunye nezikhalazo, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo bazabalaza ngento ethile.
Inyaniso, abantu abakuphephayo ukungqubana kwaye bayathandabuza ukuxoxa ngezihloko ezibacaphukisayo zingaphuma ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo… ezinje ngokukhalaza ngayo yonke into ngaphandle kwento ebenzakalisayo okanye ebacaphukisayo.
Umzekelo, ukuba iqabane lakho livakalelwa kakubi ngobuhlobo bakho, linokukhalaza ngobubi bendlu.
Ngenye indlela, ukuba baziva bedandatheke ngokunzulu malunga nento ethile, kwaye abanako ukuthetha ukuba yintoni eyona nto ibakhathazayo, banokungxola ngokukhalaza ngezinye izinto.
indlela yokuxelela ukuba intombazana iyathanda
Ngaba iqabane lakho liziva ngathi 'livalelekile' ekhaya, lilodwa linakekela abantwana?
Bangaziva beqhekekile phakathi kwenzondo abaziva ngayo, kwaye nendlela ababathanda ngayo abantwana.
Ke bayakukhalaza malunga nendlela indlu ebubundlobongela ngayo, okanye ukuba abamelwane bayangxola kakhulu, okanye ingca engceni ayihlaza ngokwaneleyo, njl.
Ukuziphatha kuhlala kuvela kwindawo ethile, ke yinto yokuzama ukufumanisa umba osisiseko oyibangelayo.
Landela indlela ebuyela kumthombo, kwaye unganceda ukuyicoca, akunjalo?
Zama ukuqaphela ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo isukela kwinto yokuba abonwabanga kakhulu kwaye abayazi indlela yokuyichaza ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye abazi ukuba mabenze ntoni ukuzinceda.
Ungoyena mhlobo wabo usenyongweni, ke banokukusebenzisa njengebhodi enesandi, okanye ngokungazi baphalaze ukungonwabi kwabo kwicala elingalunganga.
Oku kunokukhathaza ngendlela emangalisayo (kwaye kudandathekise) kuwe, kodwa ngethemba lokuba ungabanceda bahlele ukuba yintoni ebangela zonke ezi zikhalazo kunye nokungakhathali.
Ukuba iqabane lakho alikhululekanga ukuthetha nawe malunga nokuqhubeka nabo, ungacebisa uhlobo oluthile lokucebisa okanye unyango ukuzama ukubanceda.
3. Mamela kwinto abakhalaza ngayo, ubone ukuba izisombululo zinokwenzeka na
Xa bekhalaza ngento ethile, zama ukunqanda ukungaqiniseki ngento abazama ukuyibonisa, kwaye uzame ukumamela eyona nto iqhubekayo endaweni yoko.
Into enokubonakala ingabalulekanga kuwe inokuba ikrazula kubo ngaphandle ngaphakathi.
Ngenxa yoko, zama ukubuyela umva kancinci ukuze ubone izinto ngokwembono yazo, kwaye uyamkele into abayithethayo.
Umzekelo:
Iqabane lakho: “Ikhitshi lingcolile ngokupheleleyo. NDICoca nje le ndawo kwaye kukhangeleka ngathi kuqhushumbe ibhombu apha! ”
Impendulo engancediyo: 'Ingaba uthetha ngantoni? Ayisiyonto imbi kangako - ijongeka ngathi ihlala nje. Sinabantwana, ulindele ntoni? ”
Impendulo eluncedo: “Ndiyazi ukuba usebenza nzima kangakanani ukuzama ukugcina le ndawo icocekile, kwaye kufanele ukuba kuyakhathaza ukubona imizamo yakho isingelwa phantsi ngalo lonke ixesha. Masithethe nabantwana malunga nokukunceda ugcine le ndawo icocekile. '
Ngokuqinisekisa oko bakuthethayo endaweni yokuyixubha ngathi ayiyonto, baya kuziva beviwe, kwaye baqonde.
Kwaye ngokubazisa ukuba amanyathelo aza kuthathwa ukubanceda baphume, kunokuthatha isikhalazo eso.
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4. Gxila kwiiNkalo zabo eziNcomekayo (kwaye ubakhumbuze ezi zinto nazo!)
Jonga umzekelo ongentla, apho impendulo yayikukuqinisa into elungileyo kubuntu beqabane lakho, ngaphambi kokuba unikeze uhlobo lwesisombululo kwinto eyenzekayo.
Uthandane nalo mntu ngezizathu ezininzi, akunjalo? Ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo zininzi izinto ezintle nezimangalisayo malunga nokuwa kwakho, kwaye nangoku ziyinxalenye yobuntu babo.
Zama ukugxila kwezi.
Zixabise izinto ezintle ngabo, izinto ezincinci abazithethayo nabazenzayo, kwaye uvakalise umbulelo wakho xa kunokwenzeka… nokuba yinto malunga nento ebonakala ngathi ayibalulekanga.
Uya kumangaliswa kukuba lungakanani utshintsho olunokubakho ngokushiya amanqaku akhuthazayo apha naphaya.
Slip inqaku engxoweni yabo, ubaxelele ukuba bajongeka ngathi bahle namhlanje njengosuku owadibana ngalo.
Ngaba zicocekile? Hlanganisa inowuthi encangathi kwenye indawo ethi uyayixabisa indlela abalungelelaniswe ngayo.
Ukuqiniswa okuqinisekileyo kunye nokubonga ngokunyanisekileyo kuhamba indlela ende. Yizame!
5. Zikhathalele
Ngelixa kungalunganga ukubanga ukuba umntu atshintshe ngokupheleleyo isimilo esendeleyo ukusenza sonwabe ngakumbi, kulungile ngokupheleleyo ukwenza imida esempilweni.
Kuhle ukuba wenza konke okusemandleni ukunqanda ukungakhathali kweqabane lakho, kodwa awungekhe uzenzele ngokwakho.
Kwaye ukuba izikhalazo zabo ezingagungqiyo kunye / okanye ukukhalaza kuyakuthoba, unelungelo lokuzibonakalisa kubo.
Musa ukukhohlakala okanye ukungabi nabubele: njengoko sele simisile, oku kungakhathali kusenokwenzeka ukuba kubangelwa yinto ebaphazamisayo.
Kodwa yenza imida eqinile.
Zama into efana nale:
Ndiyazi ukuba kuninzi okunzima kuwe ngoku, kwaye ndiyaqonda ukuba kufuneka ukhuphe. Nceda uncede uqaphele ukuba ndenza nezinto ezininzi zam. Andikuceli ukuba uzinyanzele ukuba wenze ubumnandi xa undijikelezile, kodwa ukuba uziva ungonwabanga, ndicela ukuba undinike indawo kum iiyure ezimbalwa.
Oku kuyabaqinisekisa ukuba uyayiqonda into yokuba bayenzakala, kodwa ikwanceda ukuba baqonde ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo iyanichaphazela.
Oko kukodwa kunokubenza bacinge ngokuziphatha kwabo, kunye neziphumo zayo.
6. Zama ukubanceda bahlaziye ukukhanya kwabo
Nje ukuba uqale ukumamela izikhalazo zabo endaweni yokuzilungisa, unokufumanisa ukuba zonke zinxulumene.
Ngapha koko, kukho ithuba lokuba zivela kumthombo omnye, kwaye ngenxa yoko, zinokulungiswa.
Ukuba iqabane lakho likhalaza ngokungabikho kwento elungileyo kumabonwakude, babuze ukuba ngaba ikhona into abangathanda ukuyenza endaweni yoko.
Mhlawumbi endaweni yokubukela ngokungakhathali, ninokudlala umdlalo kunye. Okanye yenza iprojekthi yoyilo.
Ngaba bayakhalaza malunga nendlela ebukeka ngayo indlu? Ewe, uthini ngokupeyinta igumbi lokuhlala umbala owahlukileyo, kunye nokulungisa kwakhona ifanitshala?
Uninzi lotshintsho oluncinci lunokuqokelela ukwenza utshintsho olukhulu, olulungileyo, akunjalo?
Okona kuncinci, akulimazi ukuzama.
7. Ngaba Basoloko Bechasile?
Ngaba lo mntu uhlala enesiphatho esibi, kwaye awusayi kuphinda usebenze?
Oku kuyenzeka. Umntu okhalaza ngokungaguquguqukiyo ngayo yonke into, ngalo lonke ixesha, angahlekisa ekuqaleni, ngakumbi ukuba benza njalo ngendlela edlalayo.
Oko kwathethi, olu hlobo lokungakhathaleli rhoqo lungaqala ukubamba emva kwethutyana, ngakumbi ukuba lungena kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho.
Ukuba kudala nikunye, kwaye lo mntu ebengenanto ukusukela kusuku lokuqala, leyo inokuba yinto eyendeleyo kubuntu babo.
Abantu bayatshintsha ngokuhamba kwexesha, kwaye indlela ocinga ngayo ukuba iyathandeka ngoku inokukucaphukisa.
Kodwa ukuba yinxalenye yokuba bangoobani, abazukutshintsha naliphi na ixesha kungekudala.
Kananjalo, ukubuza ukuba batshintshe indlela abaziphethe ngayo ukuze ihambelane nezinto ozikhethayo ngoku ayisiyonto intle.
Kwimeko enje, kukuwe ukuba ufunde indlela yokujongana nesikhalazo esinganyangekiyo, nokuba ungasombulula okanye udlale ngokuchasene nokuzithemba, ukuze nidibane embindini.
Kodwa ukuba iphelela ekubeni ininzi kakhulu ukuba ungajongana nayo, ukuthetha ngeqabane lakho ngokuqinisekileyo kulungile.
Mhlawumbi unokujongana neengcambu zokungakhathali kwaye ubone ukuba ungasebenzisana njani ukwenza ubomi buqaqambe ukusukela ngoku.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni ngeqabane lakho kunye nokuhlala bekhalaza? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
