Ubudlelwane, ngakumbi imitshato yexesha elide, kunokuba yinto enzima ukuhamba ngamanye amaxesha.
Kuza kuhlala kukho amahla ndenyuka, amaqhina kunye nokuhamba.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ubudlelwane buqukethe abantu ababini abakhoyo Ukutshintsha rhoqo njengoko sikhula, kwaye sifunda, kwaye sizama ukuqonda izinto - bobabini njengabantu ngabanye, kwaye njengenxalenye yesibini.
Xa kubonakala ngathi kukho amahla ndinyuka kunamahlahla, nangona kunjalo, kwaye ujongene nokucaphuka rhoqo kunye nokugqajukelana nawe, unokuziva ulahlekile ngokwenyani indlela yokubuyisela izinto emgceni .
Usenokucinga ukuba ngumyeni okanye ngumfazi wakho ngokupheleleyo ukuthiyile wena .
iimpawu amadoda khangela umfazi
Nayi eminye imibuzo yokukunceda ubone ukuba wenzeni.
Kutheni ucinga ukuba bakuthiyile?
Okokuqala nokuphambili: luhlobo olunjani lokuziphatha abalubonakalisayo ukwenza ukuba ucinge ukuba baziva intiyo ngakuwe?
Ngaba bathethile? Ngaba bakuxelele ebusweni bakho ukuba bakuthiyile?
Ngaba benze amagqabantshintshi ngokungathi banqwenela ukuba babengazange badibane nawe?
Okanye kunjalo indlela abaziphethe ngayo ngokubanzi loo nto ikwenza uzive ngathi abanakumelana nawe?
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha ezinokubonisa ukuba umntu othile akacingi kakhulu kuthi ngawo nawuphi na umzuzu. Oku kunokubandakanya:
Unyango olungenakuthula.
-Curt, uphendula iimpendulo kuyo yonke into oyithethayo.
- Ukuziphatha ngokungakhathali (njengokukubangela ngezinto ongazithandiyo).
- Ukuthukwa, ukugxeka okungapheliyo, kunye neembonakalo ezimdaka.
-Ukuhlala kude nekhaya kangangoko kunokwenzeka (ezinzulwini zobusuku emsebenzini, ukuphuma nabahlobo babo, njl.
Ubutshaba kunye nomsindo.
Ngaba ezinye zezi zinto zibonakala ziqhelekile? Ukuba kunjalo, kunokubakho izizathu ezahlukeneyo zokuba ziboniswe.
Ngaba ikho into eyenzekileyo phakathi kwakho eyabenzakalisa okanye yabacaphukisa kakhulu?
Masijongane nayo: sonke siyabenzakalisa abanye abantu ngamanye amaxesha, nokuba ngabom okanye ngempazamo. (Ndiyathemba ukuba le yokugqibela ingaphezulu kunangaphambili.)
Singabantu nje, baneziphene kakuhle njengoko sinjalo, kwaye siyamosha. Kubi kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha, nkqu.
Xa sibuhlungu xa sibathandayo, bahlala bexolela kuba bayaqonda ukuba okwenzekileyo ibiyinto nje yokwexeshana.
Bathatha ixesha lokuqonda ukuba yintoni le sihamba ngayo ngelo xesha, kwaye sizame ukungayicimi le hiccup.
Kwenzeka ntoni xa basixolela (okanye bakholelwa ukuba basixolele), kodwa ubuhlungu buhleli?
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa umntu esonzakala kakubi liqabane, kunzima ukuyikhulula loo ntlungu kwaye uqhubele phambili kunye.
Le nto inokuba yinto enzulu njengokuthandana okanye okunye ukungcatshwa, okanye into ebonakala ingabalulekanga njengotshintsho olungenanto malunga nokubonakala kwabo.
Ukuba kwaye xa oku kucaphuka kungabonakaliswa, kunokukhula kwaye kukhule.
Endaweni yokuba ukwazi ukuyiyeka idlule, banokuthi bengaqondanga bongeze ipetroli emlilweni.
Bayakucinga ngazo zonke ezinye izinto ozithethileyo nozenzileyo kule minyaka idlulileyo, kwaye baphinde batolike isimilo esimsulwa ngokunxulumene nento ebenzakalisayo.
Ngaba ukhe wathetha ngayo?
Oku akunakuphindwa kaninzi ngokwaneleyo: ukuthetha ngemeko ozifumana ukuyo ibaluleke kakhulu .
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ukuba awuxubushi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, ungasifumana njani isisombululo?
Abantu abakhetha ukunqanda ungquzulwano bahlala beziva bekhululekile ngokugcina imeko yabo ngeenzame zoku 'kugcina uxolo.'
Kodwa kwiimeko ezinje, izinto ngokwenene azikho luxolweni kakhulu, andibi kunjalo?
Ukuqhuma, iingcango ezivaliweyo, amazwi ahlabayo… zonke ezi zinto zinokukwenza kunye namanye amalungu osapho uzive ngathi bahamba ngeqokobhe lamaqanda, engeyondawo ikhululekile ukuba kuyo.
Nabani na.
Okulusizi kukuba, abantu abaninzi bayaluvumela olu hlobo lokuziphatha ukuba luqhubeke lungakhange luqwalaselwe ixesha elide kuba ukuxoxa ngezifundo ezinokuba neemvakalelo okanye ezinzima kuyothusa.
Kukho umngcipheko wokuba baya kufumanisa ukuba uloyiko lwabo alunasiseko: ukuba iqabane labo yenza ungabathandi ukuba bona yenza ufuna uqhawulo mtshato, njl.
Kodwa ukwazi kungcono kakhulu kunexhala lokuhlala ubhinqelwe ukungabi nabubele okanye ukungahoywa, akunjalo?
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba bajongana nobunzima?
Ukongeza ekuvaleni ngenxa yokuba benzakele, uninzi lwabantu luyarhoxa kubo xa beqhuba amava anzima.
Oku kunokubenza babonakale 'bengafumaneki ngokwasemphefumlweni' kubantu ababangqongileyo, ngakumbi ukuba lo mntu uhlala evulekile kwaye enothando.
Banokuba nazo ukudubuleka ngokweemvakalelo okubonakala ngathi akuveli ndawo.
Oku kunokuba nzima ukulwa nako, njengoko abantu befuna ukuzikhusela xa abanye bebangxolisa.
Oku kuyaqondakala, kodwa kubalulekile ukuba zama ukuba nomonde kuyo yonke into elihamba nayo iqabane lakho.
Thatha ixesha lokujonga ukuba ingaba kunjalo na kwiqabane lakho.
Ngaba bajongene nemicimbi emsebenzini?
Okanye ixhala lempilo ngesiquphe?
Kuthekani ngonxunguphalo olunokubakho phakathi kwamalungu osapho awandisiweyo?
Ngaba bakhe bafumana ilahleko yohlobo oluthile?
Zama ukuseta iimvakalelo zakho zibambe okomzuzwana, kwaye ubuyele umva ukujonga umfanekiso omkhulu.
Abantu ngokwemvelo banentambo yokucinga ukuba sisiziko sezinto zonke, ke kunzima ukuqaphela ukuba isimilo somntu asinanto yakwenza nathi.
Ngapha koko, iqabane lakho linokuhamba ngento ethile ngokwenene kakhulu, kodwa abakwazi / abazimisele ukuxoxa ngazo nawe ngoku.
Umzekelo, ndandikhe ndazi umntu obhinqileyo umyeni wakhe esiya esiba krwada kuye. Wayehlala ecaphuka kwaye efuna ukuba yedwa, kwaye wayengasiqondi isizathu.
Kuthathe ungenelelo losapho ukuze avume ukuba wayemthanda kakhulu, kodwa wayefuna ngamandla ukutshintsha isini ukuze aphile ubomi obunyanisekileyo kuye.
Yayiyimeko enzima kubo bonke ababandakanyekayo, kodwa ibonisa indlela abanye abantu abanokuziphatha ngayo xa bejongana nengxwabangxwaba yomntu.
Ukuthatha ixesha lokujonga zonke izinto ezinokubakho kunokukunika ukuqonda okukhulu malunga nento eyenzekayo nesithandwa sakho.
Emva koko zama ukuthetha ngayo. Kwakhona, siphinda ukuba unxibelelwano lubaluleke kakhulu.
Oko kwathiwa, ukuba iqabane lakho alonwabanga ukuvula kuwe, banokuvulelwa ukuba bathethe nonyango okanye nomcebisi.
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Ngaba ababonisi uthando nje?
Ukuba iqabane lakho lirhoxile kuthando lwasemzimbeni, kodwa ngolunye uhlobo lunobubele kwaye lunesidima kuwe, banokuba besilwa nobume bezesondo kubudlelwane bakho.
Ukuba benikunye ixesha elide, iimvakalelo zabo kuwe zisenokuba zitshintshile ukusuka kwezothando ukuya kwiplatonic.
Oku akuthethi ukuba bayakuthanda naphantsi, kodwa kunoko bakuthanda ngendlela eyahlukileyo kunaleyo benisenza ngayo xa naniqala ukudibana.
Uthando iza ngeendlela ezininzi , kwaye i Shiya onamava kwangoko kwintsebenziswano yakho kusenokwenzeka ukuba iguqukele kuyo IPragma .
Uninzi lwabantu luyathanda ukucinga ukuba intyatyambo yokuqala yothando abaye baziva xa beqala ukuthandana iya kuhlala ngonaphakade, kodwa loo nto ayifane yenzeke.
Zonke izinto ziyaguquka kwaye ziyatshintsha, kodwa ulindelo lokugcina izinto zothando nezesondo zinokubeka uxinzelelo olukhulu emntwini (okanye kwisibini).
Kwakhona, impendulo yoku kukunxibelelana ngokukhululekileyo, ngothando. Ngokuqinisekileyo, inokulimaza i-ego yakho ukuba ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho alisenamdla kwisondo, kodwa kwabanye abantu, eneneni oko kuyisiqabu.
Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi xa abantu befikelela kubudala obuphakathi. Kwabaninzi, ubudlelwane obutofotofo nomntu abamthandayo njengomhlobo olungileyo kuko konke abakudingayo.
Abanye abanokonwaba yile meko, kwaye banokukhetha ukwahlukana okanye ubudlelwane obuvulekileyo endaweni yoko.
Lonke ulwalamano luyinkimbinkimbi, kodwa luya luba mbi kakhulu xa ungathetha ngokungafihlisiyo nangokunyaniseka (nangobulali) naye wonke umntu obandakanyekayo.
*Phawula: Kukho esinye isizathu sokuba amaqabane angamadoda ngamanye amaxesha oyike uthando lomzimba: ukungasebenzi ngokwesondo.
Inokuhlazisa indoda ukuba ingakwazi ukwenza ngokwesondo. Ukuba ujongana nolu hlobo lokukhathazeka, unokungavumi ukuxoxa nawe, kwaye unokukhetha ukuyiphepha le meko ngokupheleleyo.
Kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukujongana nale ukuba uyanyanzelisa ukuba akafuni kuthetha ngayo. Nobabini ninokuphela nizahlukanisile, kwaye ubudlelwane bunokuwohloka ngenxa yoko.
Ukuba ufile-usete ukuba angathethi nawe ngezinto, ungazama ukucebisa ukululekwa kwezibini, okanye unyango lomntu ngamnye.
Zilungiselele ukuba uxhathise, ukuba akunjalo.
Ngaba bazama ukukutyhalela kude?
Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu bayangxolana namaqabane abo okanye babaphathe kakubi ngabom ngethemba lokuba bazakubuphelisa ubudlelwane.
Kukuhamba nje okukhoyo apho baziva bekhululekile ekubeni 'ngumntu ombi' ekupheliseni intsebenziswano.
Ngapha koko, ihlala isetyenziswa ngabantu aboyikayo ungquzulwano, okanye ngabantu-abakholisa abantu.
Ukuba umtshato wakho / ubambiswano aluzange lube lolungileyo okwethutyana , kwaye iqabane lakho liqalisile ukukukroba kunye / okanye ukukhahlela kuwe rhoqo, oku kunokuba sisizathu.
Banokuziva bengonwabanga kunye / okanye ndiziva ndibanjisiwe , kwaye baziva ukuba le kuphela kwendlela yokubaleka: ngokukutyhalela kude kwaye bakwenze ungakhululeki kwaye ucaphuke kangangokuba uza kuphelisa izinto kwaye uzikhulule.
Ngale ndlela, ababambeki ekubeni yilaa ndoda icele uqhawulo mtshato.
Into kukuba, abantu abatsala olu hlobo lokuziphatha kunqabile ukuba baziqonde iziphumo ezide ezithatha isenzo sabo, ngaphaya 'kwenkululeko' yabo engenakuphepheka.
Abacingi ngokuba ezi ndlela zokuziphatha ziya kukuchaphazela njani kwixesha elide, o.k.t. umonakalo onokwenziwa zizenzo zabo kunye namazwi abo kukuzithemba kwakho, okanye amandla akho okuthemba.
… Okanye abakhathali.
Ngaba ikhona indlela 'yokulungisa' izinto kwaye uzenze zisebenze ngokuqinisekileyo kuwe kwakhona?
Ewe, xa ucinga ukuba kukho izizathu ezizigidi ezilishumi zokuba kutheni iqabane lakho linokuba kude okanye lingabinabubele kuwe, akukho sisombululo 'silingana konke' apha.
Ekugqibeleni-kwaye mhlawumbi awufuni kuyiva le nto-YONKE yehla kunxibelelwano.
Bacele ukuba bakwazise ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba uthethile okanye wenze into ebacaphukisayo, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, yintoni onokuyenza ukulungisa izinto.
Unokwenza konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ulunge, ube nomonde, unothando, kwaye ukhathalele, kodwa ukuba konke okubuyayo kubo kukude kwaye kukungabi namdla, loo nto ayisiyiyo impilo, ukulingana ngokulingana.
Ukuthetha nayo ubuncinci kunivumela nobabini ukuba nichaze uziva njani, ufike njani apho, kunye namanyathelo alandelayo anokuthathwa.
Kuba asizizo iintlobo ze-telepathic ngokupheleleyo, akunakwenzeka ukuba sazi ukuba omnye umntu ucinga ntoni kunye / okanye uziva ngaphandle kokuba basixelele.
Kwaye ngokuchaseneyo. Okunye kokungaqondani okubi kwenzeka xa omabini la maqela ecinga ukuba ayazi ukuba omnye umntu ucinga ntoni, emva koko azikhusele kwaye enze iprojekthi kwiimvakalelo macala onke.
Hlala ubekhona kwaye ugxile, kwaye uthethe izinto-nokuba uwedwa, okanye nomcebisi ngobuhlobo, ukuba kufuneka njalo.
Unokumangaliswa kukufumanisa ukuba kukho indlela ecacileyo yoku: kufuneka usebenze kunye, ngokukhululekileyo nangokunyaniseka, ukuze ufike apho.
Ngenye indlela, unokufumanisa ukuba iindlela zakho ziyaphambuka ngoku, kwaye kulungile futhi. Ubudlelwane obuphelayo ayisiyiyo 'ukusilela' nangayiphi na indlela efikelele esiphelweni saloo mjikelo.
Ukuba nobabini nilusizi kwaye akukho ndlela yokulungisa izinto ukuze nonwabe nobabini kwakhona, kungangcono ke ukuqala ngokutsha.
Khumbula: Ukuphathwa gadalala akukaze kulunge.
Oku akufuneki ukuba kuthethwe, kodwa ukuxhatshazwa kwiqabane lakho akwamkelekanga, kwaye akufuneki kunyamezeleke.
Ukuba iqabane lakho lithetha rhabaxa kuwe, ngokwasemoyeni, ngokwasengqondweni, okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, nceda ufune uncedo.
Ukubazisa ukuba le ndlela yokuziphatha kufuneka iyekwe linyathelo lokuqala, kodwa ukuba ayiyeki, okanye ukuba iyenyuka, Phuma . Unokufuna noncedo lobuchwephesha ukuyiphelisa.
Tsalela amapolisa xa kukho imfuneko, uzifumanele ugqirha ophambili, kunye negqwetha (ukuba liyafuneka) ukuze likuncede uqhubele phambili ngezicwangciso ezinokukugcina ukhuselekile.
Akukho namnye oya emtshatweni okanye kubambiswano ngenjongo yokwahlukana, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha yeyona ndlela ilungileyo kubo bonke abachaphazelekayo.
Ewe, abantu bayakhula bodwa kwaye bayatshintsha, kwaye akusoloko kwicala elinye, kodwa ayisokuze ibe sisizathu senkohlakalo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuhamba yeyona ndlela ilungileyo, kwaye akukho lihlazo kuloo nto.
Ngaba ufuna ukusebenza ngeengxaki zakho zomtshato kunye nomqeqeshi wobudlelwane bobuchwephesha? Thetha kwi-Intanethi ukuya kwi-Relationship Hero onokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
