Ukutshintsha kwendalo kuyindalo. Sonke sinamaxesha apho sikhona caphuka , ngomsindo, okanye ngokungakhathali kunye nehlabathi ngaphandle kwesizathu esivakalayo. Ngamanye amaxesha ezo mvakalelo zibangelwa kukungalali, indlala, iihomoni, okanye kungenxa yokuba besinako usuku olubi .
Ngelixa kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba wonke umntu abe nomoya omncinci maxa wambi, abanye abantu banezinto ezihlala zikhona kwaye eziguquguqukayo xa kuthelekiswa noJoe. Ukuba iqabane lakho ngomnye wabo bantu, ubomi bunokudina kwaye bube mbi. Unokuzibona uhamba phezu kwamaqokobhe amaqanda kwaye uhlala uzibuza ukuba olo dubulo luza kwenzeka nini. Usenokuzibuza ukuba ukuphatha njani ukuhlala phantsi kophahla olunye no 'Jekyll kunye noHyde.'
Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zakho xa kufikwa ekusondeleni kweemvakalelo zeqabane lakho.
1. Misela ukuba iqabane lakho lifuna uncedo lwezakhono
Iqabane eliguquguqukayo ngokweemvakalelo linokuba nengxaki engxamisekileyo enje ngokudakumba, ixhala okanye ukuphazamiseka kubuntu okufuna uncedo lobungcali. Zininzi iindlela onokukhetha kuzo xa kufikwa kunyango lokuphazamiseka koxinzelelo kunye noxinzelelo.
Ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba iqabane lakho linomcimbi ongenakuphathwa wedwa, qalisa incoko malunga nokufuna uncedo kumcebisi, ngonyango, okanye kugqirha. Ingathatha ingxoxo engaphezulu kwesinye ukukholisa iqabane lakho ukuba lifune uncedo, kodwa ungayeki. Kukho iindlela kunye nemigqaliselo ekhoyo enokuthi iphucule ngokumangalisayo eyakho kunye nomgangatho wobomi weqabane lakho.
2.Thatha uxanduva ngeempendulo zakho kwiMood Part's Mood yakho
Ngaba wakha wanyusa imo yeqabane lakho ngempendulo yakho kuyo? Ukuba udlala ngokweemvakalelo kukutshintsha kweemvakalelo zeqabane lakho, uya kuyenza mandundu imeko embi. Umzekelo, ngaba wakhe wanomsindo kwiqabane lakho ngenxa yokuba babecaphuka? Kuyindalo yomntu ukuziva unjalo, kodwa kuya kufuneka uthathe uxanduva lokuphendula kwakho.
Usenokungakwazi ukulawula imo yeqabane lakho, kodwa unganempembelelo kuyo ukuba awulawuli eyakho. Ukuzibandakanya ekuphenduleni ngokweemvakalelo kunokuziva kuyinto efanelekileyo ukuyenza, ngakumbi kubushushu bomzuzwana. Nangona kunjalo, zama ukukhumbula ukuba impendulo yakho yenza umahluko omkhulu kubude kunye nokuqina kokutshintsha kwemood yeqabane lakho.
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3. Musa ukudlala imidlalo yabo
Awunakho ukulawula isimilo seqabane lakho ukuze ungazami nokuzama. Gxila kulawulo lwakho kwaye uhlale uzolile. Musa ukuthatha utshintsho lweemvakalelo ngokobuqu . Iqabane lakho liyakukhahlela, kodwa isizathu sokutshintsha kwemood akunanto yakwenza nawe.
Rhoqo, abantu abonwabileyo baqala ukufumana unyango olukhethekileyo kumaqabane abo. Ngamanye amaxesha kulula nje “ukunikezela” okanye wenze nantoni na ukuze kupheliswe imeko. Ukuba uthatha inxaxheba umdlalo weqonga , Uya kuba ukhuthaza ukuba nomsindo ngakumbi okanye ulingane kwixesha elizayo. Amathuba kukuba, iqabane lakho likhangela indlela ephawuleka kakhulu yokuphendula evela kuwe. Ukuba uzahlule kwidrama iqabane lakho elizama ukuyila, ekugqibeleni kuya kubakho umnqweno ongxamisekileyo wokuziphatha okungathandekiyo kwasekuqaleni. Abantu abanakulindela ukuba batshintshe ukuba 'bayawongwa' ngokuziphatha gwenxa.
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4. Ukuphuhlisa isiCwangciso-qhinga ngaphambi kwexesha
Unokuhlala uchonga iipateni kukutshintsha kweemvakalelo zeqabane lakho. Ungaqaphela izinto ezithile ezibangela ezizizisa okanye ezenza ukuba zibengcono okanye zibi. Umzekelo, xa ndinomsindo komnye umntu, ndifuna ukuqonda komyeni wam kodwa hayi uncedo lwakhe. Ukufundile oku ngokuhamba kwexesha, ke endaweni yokuba anike izisombululo (endicaphukisayo), uya kumamela kwaye andazise ukuba uyasiqonda isizathu sokuba ndizive ngale ndlela ndiziva ngayo. Uphuhlise isicwangciso ngaphambi kwexesha. Ungayenza nawe.
Mhlawumbi iqabane lakho lifuna ukushiywa lodwa okwethutyana okanye ukuphazanyiswa ngumboniso kamabonwakude owuthandayo xa kuvela imeko. Ngethuba nje unganiki okanye ungavuzi uvakalelo, ngandlela zonke ubanike into abayifunayo. Ngokwenza oku, uya kuhlala unciphisa ubungakanani kunye nexesha leemowudi ezimbi.
5. Cinga ngokhetho lwakho
Kukho amaxesha anzima kulo lonke ubudlelwane. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala linemvakalelo yokungabi namonde, uvelwano okanye uthando lubonakala lubanceda, kwaye ubomi bakho buhlupheka ngenxa yokutshintsha kwemozulu, kuya kufuneka uzibuze ukuba uyamfuna na lo mntu ebomini bakho.
Emva kokuba kubudlelwane nomntu ongaguquguqukiyo okomzuzwana okwethutyana, uyazi ukuba ubomi buza kujongeka kanjani. Ukuba iqabane lakho lihlukumeza ngokwasemoyeni okanye ngokwasemzimbeni, isenokuba lixesha lokuba uhambe. Ngokukhawuleza eso sigqibo sithathiwe, kulunge ngakumbi kuwo onke amaqela. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba ukhetha ukuhlala, khetha ukuthanda ngexesha lokutshintsha kwemood. Zama ukubona kwaye ukhumbule umntu owathandana naye kwaye ukhumbule izizathu zokuba nobabini niyenzile ukuza kuthi ga ngoku.
6. Khumbula ukuba i-Mood iya kudlula
Zonke iinguqu zemood zezokwexeshana. Yiyo loo nto ibizwa ngokuba 'ziijingi'. Zama ukukhumbula ukuba nokuba ivakalelwa ngathi iza kuhlala ngonaphakade. Isitshixo kukufumana indawo yakho eyonwabileyo ngelixa iqabane lakho likwimeko embi. Kuya kufuneka ufumane umgama ukuze wenze oku. Kungekudala imeko iya kuvuthuza, kwaye ubomi buya kubuyela esiqhelweni. Nale iza kudlula!
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Umntu onoburharha unokuhamba ngexesha elinzima ebomini bakhe, ngakumbi ukuba imeko yeemvakalelo ayiqhelekanga. Iqabane lakho linokudinwa, ligule, likhathazeke, okanye andonwabanga . Ukuba kunjalo, nje ukuba unobangela wengxaki usonjululwe, imeko yesiqhelo inokubuyela umva. Iqabane lakho linokufuna nje ukuba libekho mamela kwaye ixhaswe. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala linemvakalelo yokuhamba kancinci kwaye lingenasizathu ngaphandle kwesizathu, kunokubakho okungakumbi.
Khumbula ukuba ngelixa ufuna bonisani imfesane ngokubhekisele kwiqabane lakho, iimvakalelo zakho nazo zibalulekile. Ukuba iqabane lakho lingumntu okuxhaphazayo, awunakuzivumela ukuba uxhatshazwe. Sebenzisa ezi ngcebiso zintandathu ukumisela elona nyathelo lilungileyo lokukhetha imeko yakho eyahlukileyo kunye neqabane lakho.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba uza kuyisingatha njani imeko yeqabane lakho? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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