Kukho izinto ezinokupela ukuphela kobudlelwane.
Ke kubalulekile ukuba uthathe isigqibo sokuba loluphi ulwalamano lwakho lokugqibela.
Ngaba uyazibuza ukuba ikhona into eyenzekileyo okanye eyenzekayo kubudlelwane bakho ekufuneka iyeyaphula isivumelwano?
Ngelixa singekho apha ukwenza izigqibo zakho, ukuba uzibona unqwala intloko amaxesha amaninzi xa ufunda uluhlu olungezantsi, lixesha lokuba uqhubeke…
… Noko uthandabuza usenokuyamkela loo nto.
1. Bayazingca.
Ukuba eyona nto iphambili kubo lulonwabo nolonwabo kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi, ngumqondiso omkhulu wesilumkiso.
Xa sithanda umntu, simxabisile kwaye sizibona iimfuno zakhe ukuba zibaluleke ngokufanayo nezethu.
Ukuba akukho kunikwa, akukho ntlonipho, kwaye ukuba akukho ntlonipho, ke akukho siseko sobudlelwane bakho.
Akukho mntu uthanda Ndiziva ngathi ndinokhetho kwaye ayisiyiyo eyona iphambili kumaqabane abo.
2. Abayi kukwazisa kubahlobo okanye kusapho lwabo.
Akukho ndoda okanye mfazi uyisiqithi, kwaye iintsapho zethu kunye nabahlobo ziyinxalenye enkulu yobomi bethu. Ukuba sithanda umntu, kufuneka sifune ukuba abanye esibathandayo bazi ngayo.
Akufanele ulindele isimemo kwisidlo sasemini sangeCawa kunye nabazali babo ngqo emva komhla wokuqala, kwaye kuya kufuneka uzame ukuqonda ukuba banobunzima bentsapho.
Nangona kunjalo, njengoko ubudlelwane bukhula, amathuba okuhlangana nabantu abalulekileyo kubomi bomnye nomnye kufuneka aqale ukuza ngokwendalo.
Ukuba bazimisele ukukugcina kwibhokisi eyahlukileyo kuye wonke umntu ebomini babo, kuya kufuneka ulumkele izizathu zabo zokwenza njalo.
3. Azikho xa uzifuna.
Ukuba ukhe wehlelwa lixesha elinzima okanye ufuna nje uncedo lwabo, kwaye ufumanise ukuba bebengekho ngenxa yakho, akunakulindeleka ukuba babekhona xa ukufuna ngexesha elizayo.
Ufuna umntu onokuthembela kuye kwaye kulungile ukulindela uncedo kunye nentuthuzelo kwiqabane.
4. Abaluxabisi uluvo lwakho.
Ukuba bayawagxotha amagqabantshintshi akho ngesandla kwaye kuyacaca ukuba abanantlonelo ngembono yakho, emva koko abakujongi njengolingana nabo.
Iingxoxo kufuneka zisonjululwe ngokulalanisa, ke ukuba uzibona sele uqhutywa ngumoya ukuba unikezele, isenokuba lixesha lokuba uyeke.
5. Banemicimbi yomsindo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho linemicimbi yomsindo kwaye ayikulungelanga ukusebenza kuzo , kwaye ukuba ukhe uziva usoyika kubo okanye indlela abanokuthi baphendule ngayo kwinto ethile, iintsimbi ezinkulu zealam kufuneka zihambe entlokweni yakho.
Uthando lwenene alufuni ukuba wamkele uloyiko okanye ukoyikisa njengesiqhelo nangayiphi na indlela.
6. Abazikhathaleli.
Akukho mntu kufuneka afune ukuba iqabane lakhe lihlale lityabeke kumaleko okuzithambisa okanye lichithe iyure nganye ejimini ukugcina umzimba 'ogqibeleleyo'…
… Kodwa kukho imigangatho esisiseko yococeko kunye nenkcazo-ntetho esengqiqweni onokuyilindela kubo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho liyayityeshela impilo yalo kwaye alizange lenze naziphi na iinzame ngenkangeleko yalo, babonisa ukungazihloniphi kunye nokuswela imbeko kuwe.
7. Zilondolozo oluphezulu kakhulu.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba akukho nto bayenzayo ngaphandle kokukhathazeka nge-tan yabo kunye nemeko yeenwele zomzimba wabo, luphawu lokuba azikho nzulu. Kukho okungakumbi ebomini kuneenzipho ezingezizo kunye neenwele ezigqibeleleyo.
8. Zilungile ngokuhlala ixesha elide ubudlelwane bomgama omde .
Ngamanye amaxesha, iimeko ezingaphaya kwamandla ethu zinokuphelisa ubudlelwane.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abanye abantu balungile ngokupheleleyo kunye nobudlelwane obude obungapheliyo kwaye bayifumene isebenza kakuhle kubo.
Kodwa uninzi lwabantu alucwangcisi ukuhlala kwilungiselelo lomgama omde ngonaphakade.
Abanye abantu bayathandana ngaphandle kokuhlala kude kude ngelixa abanye bohlulwe ngesiquphe omnye komnye ngenxa yeemeko.
Ezo zibini zibophelele omnye komnye zihlala zinesicwangciso sokuba ziya kudibana nini kwaye zakha ubomi kunye.
Ukuba iqabane lakho lomgama omde liyala ukuxoxa ngeendlela onokuthi ube kunye okanye uqhubeke ufumana izizathu zokukubeka, lixesha lokucinga nzulu malunga nokuba ubudlelwane bunekamva na.
9. Awudibanisi kwinqanaba lomzimba.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela ojonga ngayo, isini siyinto ebalulekileyo kubudlelwane obuninzi. Iyasibopha kunye ngendlela ezinye izinto ezimbalwa ezinokuyenza.
Ngoku, awufanelanga ukuba ulindele ukuba lonke ulwabelwano ngesondo neqabane lakho liza kutshabalalisa umhlaba…
… ikhefu lakho.
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10. Awuziva ngendlela efanayo ngabantwana.
Ngelixa amaphupha akho ngekamva anokutshintsha, ukuba uqinisekile ukuba awubafuni abantwana mhlawumbi ngekhe ubenobudlelwane nomntu oqinisekileyo ukuba bafuna abantwana.
Nobabini nizama ukutshintsha iingqondo zabanye, okanye umntu omnye anikezele kwaye aqhubeke nje nokufunwa yenye indlela yeresiphi yentlekele.
Iimbono ezichaseneyo ezinamandla kwinto esisiseko njengokuzisa abantu emhlabeni azinakuze zincedisane.
11. Awuziva ngendlela efanayo malunga nenkolo.
Ayizizo zonke izibini ezinemibono eyahlukeneyo yenkolo ezigwetyiweyo, kodwa ukuba elinye okanye omabini amaqabane aneembono zonqulo ezomeleleyo ezingatshati kunye nezinye, oko kunokubangela ukungavisisani okuninzi emgceni, ngakumbi xa kufikwa emtshatweni okanye abantwana.
12. Uzifumanisa uzincama iinjongo zakho zobungcali.
Ulwalamano olwenziweyo zihlala zihlala zibandakanya ukulalanisa ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile.
Umzekelo, elinye iqabane linokuvuma ukufuduka xa elinye linikwa umsebenzi omangalisayo.
Kodwa ukuba loo msebenzi ungakholelekiyo apho elinye iqabane liza kuthi liphele ngokusonta oobhontsi babo kwaye bazityeshele iinjongo zabo zobungcali, inzondo inokungena.
Nobabini kufuneka nibe nokuxhasa ngokulinganayo amakhondo omsebenzi omnye komnye kwaye nizimisele ukulalanisa kulwazi lokuba, kwixa elizayo, iqabane lakho liya kubuyisa inceba.
13. Zoyikeka ngemali.
Njengokuba kungamangalisa ukuba imali ibingeyonto inkulu, akukho ukubalekela ukubaluleka kwayo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho lihlala libi ngokulawula imali kwaye liyala ukutshintsha imikhwa okanye lifunde ukuba nobulumko ngakumbi, oko kuya kukhokelela kwiingxaki ezingachazwanga.
Ukuba umbono wakho ngekamva kunye neqabane lakho ubandakanya ityala kunye nokuxhalaba kwemali, zenzele inceba kwaye uphume ngelixa usenakho.
Kwicala elisezantsi, ngelixa uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali lunendawo yalo, ukungaxabisi kakhulu kwaye ukungazithembi kungazicima neentsimbi.
14. Abazihloniphi.
Banokuba mnandi kuwe, kodwa ngaba banembeko kwabanye?
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba abaphatha kakubi abasebenzi abalindileyo, ungaze ukwazise ebantwini, sukuthi ndiyacela kwaye enkosi, kwaye ungaziphathi njengelungu elisebenzayo loluntu, ke luphawu olo abalixabisanga abantu ababangqongileyo.
Akufanele ukhathazeke ngokuzisa esinye isiqingatha sakho kumntu, uqinisekile ukuba baya kukuhlazisa.
Kuya kufuneka uzingce ngokuma ecaleni kweqabane lakho, usazi ukuba baya kwenza konke okusemandleni abo ukuba bangaze bakudanise kwaye bazakubonisa isimilo esiqhelekileyo kubo bonke abantu abawela nabo.
15. Abanawo umsebenzi.
Sonke siwela kumaxesha anzima amaxesha ngamaxesha, ke iqabane lakho ngoku alisebenzi kodwa lijongana ngenkuthalo okanye lisebenza kwiprojekthi, nesicwangciso somdlalo esibekiweyo, ayisiyiyo into yokukhathazeka.
Kodwa ukuba kubonakala ngathi abanakubamba umsebenzi okanye bazabalaze ukufumana umntu oza kubaqesha, unokufuna ukubuza ukuba ngaba sisaphuli-mthetho esi sakho.
wenza umboniso omkhulu wasweleka
Ukuba uzimisele ngomntu othile, kufuneka wazi ukuba uya kuhlala ekwazi ukuzixhasa ngokwasemalini.
Kwaye, masijongane nayo, amabhongo ngumgangatho onomtsalane kakhulu.
16. Bathe phithi ngumsebenzi wabo.
Kwelinye icala, ngelixa ukonwabela into oyenzayo ukuze ufumane umvuzo kuyinto entle, kukho umgca oqinisekileyo.
Ngelixa umntu enekamva eliqaqambileyo lobuchwephesha phambi kwabo anokuba nomtsalane kakhulu, ukuba abakwazi ukushiya umsebenzi eofisini kwaye bahlala bejonga iifowuni zabo zomsebenzi Ngelixa ukwimini, kuya kufuneka ubuze ukuba ithini indawo yakho kuluhlu lwabo oluphambili.
17. Banobubi.
Sonke sinelungelo lokuncwina ngokufuthi, kodwa ukuba umntu uzingisa ephikisanayo, akangomntu usempilweni ukuba ubekho.
Ukuba asikwazi ukujonga kwicala eliqaqambileyo okanye sibone i-lining yesilivere, okanye nayiphi na into oyikhethayo, ngoko ubomi buya kubonakala bungwevu kakhulu.
18. Abathathi mdla ebomini bakho.
Ilizwe labo liyabajikeleza. Bayakuvuyela ukuthetha ngendlebe yakho malunga nokuqhubekayo ebomini babo, kodwa abakubuzi imibuzo ngawe.
Nguwe ogcina iincoko zakho ziqhubeka, ubuza rhoqo malunga nosuku lwabo okanye ufuna ukubazi ngcono, kwaye ababuyisi ubabalo.
Olu luphawu lokuba eyona nto iphambili kubo yeyabo, kwaye, nokuba kunzima ukwamkela, abakufumani wena okanye ubomi bakho konke okunomdla.
19. Bayakopa, okanye bayaqhatha.
Isibini ngasinye sibeka eyaso imida. Kubalulekile ukuba uxoxe ngento enokubakho ukukopela kubudlelwane bakho, kwaye yintoni ebaluleke njengokuziphatha okwamkelekileyo kunokuba kukungcatsha abanye.
Kodwa ukuba umntu uwela umgca ovumelene ngawo, kunokuba nzima kuwe phinda wakhe ukuthembana kwaye uqiniseke ukuba ayinakuphinda yenzeke.
Ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umntu unayo ukuthembela kwintembeko kubudlelwane obudlulileyo, oko kunokuba zizizathu zokuba ungathandabuzi ukuba ngekhe benze okufanayo kuwe.
Abaswele buburharha.
Ukuba anenzi omnye nomnye ahleke, ngoko usenokungalungelani omnye nomnye.
Ukuba abakwazi ukubona icala lezinto ezihlekisayo okanye uburharha obungena kwimithambo-luvo yakho, ujonge ikamva elilukruqisayo okanye elicaphukisayo nabo.
Mamela kwisisu sakho
Yintoni enokuba sisaphuli-mthetho esikhulu kuwe isenokungabi yinto enkulu komnye umntu…
… Ke ngeli lixa kuhlala kumnandi ukuthetha ngezi zinto kunye nomhlobo olungileyo othembela kuwe, ekupheleni kosuku nguwe kuphela onokwenza ezi zigqibo.
Uthando alusoloko lwanele ukugcina ubudlelwane buqhubeka , ke ukuba ezantsi unamathandabuzo malunga nobudlelwane bakho, kuya kufuneka uthembeke kwisiqu sakho kwaye ujongane nemicimbi ngqo.
Ayizukuba lula, kodwa ngenye imini uyakuzibulela ngayo.
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