Uthando aluboni, akunjalo?
Xa ukwinqanaba lokuqala lokubetha kwentliziyo yobudlelwane, umhle kakhulu ngokungakwazi ukubona nantoni na ngaphandle kombono wokugqibelela omi phambi kwakho.
Uluvo lokuba ungakhe ube nengxabano kubonakala ngathi alunakwenzeka kuba i-apile iliso lakho liyangqamanisa inyathelo ngenyathelo kuyo yonke ingcinga, isenzo ngasinye, nayo yonke into.
Ukuba babanga ukuba amanzi ahamba enyuka, utyekele ekukholelweni kubo kulwazi lwakho lwenzululwazi!
Lixesha lemilingo kwaye ukuba unethamsanqa ngokwenene (okanye uzimisele ngokukodwa ukubona kuphela izinto ezintle), elo nqanaba linokuzolula iiveki okanye iinyanga ezinyibilikayo entliziyweni.
Kodwa emva kwexesha elibuhlungu kodwa elingenakuphepheka lifika xa othandekayo wakho esithi okanye esenza into etyhala amaqhosha akho kwaye umahluko wokuqala ochazwe ngokucacileyo woluvo ubeka intloko yakhe…
Ngokwesiqhelo zizinto nje ezincinci ekuqaleni, xa nobabini nisenengqondo yokulalanisa, kodwa kancinci kancinci, ubudlelwane bakho buyavavanywa.
Kutheni ndinemicimbi yokuthemba
Icala elilungileyo kwezi mpikiswano kukuba kunqabile ukuba babi kakhulu kwaye bayinxalenye yenkqubo yokufunda.
Bavumela omabini amaqela ukuba aphuhlise ukuqonda okunzulu ngakumbi kweyona mikhuthazo inzulu yomnye nomnye.
Ngalo lonke ixesha ungavumelani, uya kufunda ngakumbi ngeqabane lakho, ke ungoyiki kule ntshintshiselwano yeembono njengoko ziya kutyhila kakhulu…
… Ukutyhila ngakumbi ngeendlela ezininzi kunayo yonke loo mihla kunye neeveki oyichithe unyathela kwiigobolondo zamaqanda uzama ukugcina umlingo omtsha (kwaye, masijongane nayo, engekho ngqiqweni thanda ixesha elide ngangokunokwenzeka ngaphandle kwelizwi eliphambeneyo phakathi kwakho.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kubakho amaxesha apho ungaboni ngasonye. Yindlela ovumayo ukulalanisa ngayo ngezo ntsuku zokuqala egudileyo nakweyiphi na intanda.
Uyakube unamehlo ombethe ngothando (okanye, endaweni yoko, intabatheko ) kwakhona ngaphandle kwexesha ngaphandle kokubonisa umohluko wakho wezimvo. Umlomo uhlala uziphu ngenxa yokuvumelana ngokugqibeleleyo.
Kodwa xa iingxoxo ezingenakuphepheka zingena, sukubaleka kuzo.
Ukuntywila iinzwane zakho kwingcinga yokungavumelani kuya kukuvumela ukuba uphonononge phantsi kwefadade egqibeleleyo yesithandwa sakho esitsha.
Oku kufuna ukwenzeka okanye uya kubambeka ngokungaphezulu ekuziphatheni okungathethi nto okunempilo okanye okuzinzileyo.
Kubalulekile ukukuqonda oko ubudlelwane obuphilileyo ayithethi ungquzulwano olungenanto.
Eyona nto ithethwayo kukuba uya kuphuhlisa izakhono zonxibelelwano ezingcono ukuze ukwazi ukusebenza kunye nokusombulula ukungqubana kwixa elizayo.
Uya kufunda ngamnye ukuxabisa omnye njengomntu oneembono ezahlukeneyo, nto leyo ebaluleke kakhulu kubudlelwane obuzinzileyo nobunothando.
Kwaye, ewe, masingakulibali ukuba ngamanye amaxesha iimpikiswano zizala inkanuko - ukonyusa zonke iingqondo emva kokutshintshiselana ngokungafihlisiyo kweembono kungakhokelela kweyona nto imnandi kakhulu, ukuphilisa ukusondelelana.
Azikho ezininzi izibini ezinokuphika ukuba ukwakheka ngesondo kuhlala kuyinto efanelekileyo kwaye iyanelisa kwaye iyonwabisa.
Ngezinto ezininzi ezintle ezinokubakho, kuyamangalisa ukuba abantu abaninzi baya kubude obugqithisileyo ukuphepha impikiswano.
Isizathu sinokuba kukunxibelelana okungathandekiyo kwegama ngokwalo.
Ngokwenyani, nangona kunjalo, impikiswano inokuba kukutshintshiselana ngeembono ezinganyanzelekanga ukuba zikhokelele kwimivimbo egos ngalo lonke ixesha.
Iqela ngalinye kufanelekile ukuba livakalise uluvo lwalo ngaphandle kokoyika iziphumo.
Ngokwenene akukho sidingo samazwi aphakanyisiweyo kunye ne-acrimony.
Izibonelelo zokuxambulisana kubudlelwane
Ke, kubonakala ngathi ukutshintshana ngokuphandle kwezimvo kunokuba yimpilo kubudlelwane.
Makhe sijonge nzulu kwezinye zezizathu zokuba izibini eziphikisanayo zinokonwaba kunoko zibalekela nakuphi na ukungqubana.
1. Yenza ukuba kuhloniphane.
Kulungile ngokupheleleyo ukuba izimvo zakho zahlukile.
Ukubetha ezi zinto ziphikisanayo kuthetha ukuba ufumana ukuqonda okungcono kwimbono yomnye nomnye. Oku kwandisa ububanzi bakho.
Ndifuna ukubaleka iingxaki zam
Uthando luya kutyatyamba ukuba ngamnye wenu uyakwazi ukumamela uluvo olwahlukileyo ngaphandle kokucaphuka okanye ukuba nomsindo okanye anyanzelise ukuba afumane eyakhe imbambano.
Uthando lumalunga nayo yonke into ukuhloniphana nendlela eniphathana ngayo.
2. Kwenza ubuhlobo bakho bomelele.
Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buzabalazela ukusinda kwiimpikiswano, izikhombisi zonke zikhomba kukungabikho kothando lokwenene.
Uxolo, kodwa yinyani.
Kuya kufuneka ukuba uvule ngokupheleleyo neqabane lakho kwaye utsho ngokuchanekileyo okusengqondweni yakho.
Ukuba uyakwazi ukwenza oko, ubudlelwane bakho buya kuba nakho ukuma uvavanyo lwexesha kunye nawo onke amahla ndenyuka endleleni.
Ukuba, kwelinye icala, ugcina ukubambelela ngokuqinileyo kwiingcinga zakho zokwenyani ngenxa yokoyika ukucaphukisa iqabane lakho, kungekudala okanye kamva uxinzelelo luya kukhokelela ekonakaleni kobambiswano.
3. Idala intuthuzelo kumandla obambiswano lwakho.
Inyani yokuba ukhululeke ngokupheleleyo neqabane lakho ikunika ukuzithemba kokwazi ukuba kulungile ukubamba umbono ochasene nomhlaba.
Ayizukuqhuba ngokuzenzekelayo umda phakathi kwakho.
Akukho namnye kuni ekufuneka azenze into ongeyiyo nina nobabini ninokuba nenyani kuni.
Oku kunika imvakalelo yokuthuthuzela okukhulu kwaye kwenza ubudlelwane buzinze ngokwenene.
Nobabini niyathemba ukuba ukuvakalisa umahluko wezimvo akuyi kuphazamisa intsebenziswano yenu.
4. Inika inkululeko kuloyiko.
Inyani yokuba uphikisana sisalathiso senqanaba lokuthembana phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho.
Apho kukho uloyiko, alunakuze lubekho uthando lokwenene.
Ukuba uyeka ukuvakalisa uluvo lwakho oluyinyani kuba uyazi ukuba oko kuya kubangela impikiswano, kwaye oku kwenziwa noloyiko okanye uloyiko lwesiphumo, kukho into engalunganga ngokusisiseko kulwalamano lwakho.
Kufuneka uzive uqiniseke ngokupheleleyo ukuba impikiswano ayizukukhokelela kumlo.
Iimpikiswano ezisempilweni ngaphandle koloyiko lweziphumo zenza ubudlelwane obunempilo.
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5. Kukunceda ufunde ngakumbi ngomnye nomnye.
Ngaba ukhe wacinga ukuba ingxoxo nganye nganye inika ukuqonda okunzulu kokusebenza kwangaphakathi kwengqondo yeqabane lakho?
Ezi zityhilelo zinika ithuba elihle lokuba ufunde into entsha kwaye ungade utshintshe olwakho uluvo ekudala lubanjwa ngesihloko ekukhanyeni kokufumanisa oko.
Ukuba ayenzeki- kwaye ngekhe yenzeke rhoqo! - ke ubuncinci ubuncinci ufunde ngakumbi malunga nomnye kwaye ngamnye unethuba lokuchaza okanye ukukhusela umbono wakho, onokuthi ukhanyise ngokwenyani.
6. Kuthetha ukuba akukho mfuneko yokufihla.
Eyona nto iphambili kukuba xa uphikisana ngakumbi, mancinci amathuba okuba ulwazi lugcinwe kwaye elinye okanye elinye iqela lineemfihlo.
Ubunzulu bempikiswano buya, kwaye ngakumbi ukuvavanya ingxoxo, kokukhona uya kuqonda ubunzima beempawu zomlingane wakho.
Ukuqondana okunzulu nokucokisekileyo kubalulekile xa niza kuthetha-thethana ngamahla ndinyuka obomi kunye.
7. Inceda ekuthinteleni isithukuthezi kunye nokungoneliseki.
Inye into eqinisekileyo: ubudlelwane obulungeleleneyo apho omabini amaqela azive ekwazi ukuveza ezona mvakalelo zawo zihamba indlela ende ekuthinteleni isithukuthezi 'sokuhlala mdala, efanayo-endala'.
Kukwanjalo ukuba ubudlelwane obunjalo buvumela izimvo ezintsha-nokuba ziphume kangakanani eludongeni kwaye 'kungenye indlela' - ukuba idlalwe ngaphandle koloyiko lokugculelwa okanye ukwaliwa.
Oku kunempilo kwaye nantoni na ayifani. Iimpikiswano zizala inkanuko kwaye ayisoze, iyadika!
Ke, ngaba ukuphikisana kuyimpilo…?
Lilonke, izibini ezingangcwabi ukungavisisani kwazo, kodwa zijongane nazo kwaye zisebenze ngazo, kunokwenzeka ukuba zomelele kunezibini ezingazenziyo.
Nangona kunjalo, ayisiyiyo eyona nto iphikisanayo eyonyusa ukomelela kwe bond yabo - nangona ngokucacileyo iyinxalenye yayo - yiyo ukuqamba emveni koko.
Kukho ukuqonda kwangaphambili ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bubaluleke ngaphezu kweyantlukwano yakho.
Isisombululo sokungavisisani kubandakanya ukwamkelwa kweempazamo kunye nokuxolelwa.
Ngalo lonke ixesha usilwa, ufumana ukuqonda okutsha kwiqabane lakho, usenza unxibelelwano olomeleleyo kunye nokuqonda okunzulu.
Yintoni ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba awukho ukulwa kodwa ephikisana .
Akukho mlo ubandakanyekileyo ekuphikisaneni- omabini la maqela afika asasaze izimvo zawo ngaphandle kwamazwi aphakanyiswayo kwaye ngaphandle kokubizwa ngamagama nokwalatha ngomnwe.
Njengokuba umakhulu wam wayedla ngokutsho, 'Sukuliphakamisa ilizwi lakho. Phucula ingxoxo yakho. ”
Esi sesona siluleko silungileyo endakha ndasifumana xa kufikwa ekusombululeni iyantlukwano yezimvo, nokuba ngowona ukufutshane nesithandwa sam okanye nabani na othandekayo.
Elona cebiso lilungileyo ndinokukunika ngendlela yokuqukumbela kukuba ubudlelwane bokwenyani abugqibekanga kwaye ubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo abuyonyani.
Ukuhlala kunye ngaphandle kokwahluka kwezimvo akunakwenzeka.
Abacebisi abaninzi bayavuma ukuba ukuba isibini sithi asixabani, ngokuqinisekileyo into ayilunganga kubudlelwane.
Kukho ithuba lokuba omnye wabo (okanye bobabini) afake nje ibhotile yonke into, kwaye oko kuya kukhokelela kukungonwabi.
Kwaye impendulo yombuzo wokuqala, 'Ngaba ukuphikisana kunempilo kubudlelwane?'
Ewe, nangona ingeyona ndlela inemveliso kakhulu yokwabelana ngeengxaki, ukuphikisana kubudlelwane ngokuqinisekileyo ingayi usempilweni kuzo zonke izizathu ezichazwe apha ngasentla.
Ngaba Abantu Ababini Balwa Ngokufuthi?
Njengoko besesitshilo, phantse zonke izibini ziyaphikisana, kwaye ezo zingafuniyo, kodwa ziyayicinezela imbambano ngenxa yenkolelo engeyiyo yokuba ayinampilo.
Kodwa ukuphindaphinda kweempikiswano kuyahluka kakhulu. Abanye abantu abatshatileyo banokuphikisana kube kanye ngeveki, abanye kube kanye ngenyanga, abanye banokuphikisana amaxesha ambalwa ngonyaka.
Inani lempikiswano ayisiyo, iyodwa, ayisiyongxaki ukuba ziimeko ezizolileyo ezilandelwa sisisombululo noxolelwaniso…
… Kodwa inokuba yingxaki njengoko siza kuxoxa ngoku.
Ngaba Ugqithise Kangakanani?
Masicinge ukuba iimpikiswano kubudlelwane bakho ziye zenzeka rhoqo kwaye zadibana kakhulu…
… Kwaye uzifumanisa ubuyela kumhlaba ofanayo kaninzi ngaphandle kwenkqubela phambili okanye isisombululo.
Akukho namnye kuni uzimisele ukuva uluvo lomnye kwaye uhlala ulahlekelwe ngumsindo, uthetha izinto ezonakalisayo ozisolayo ngazo emva koko.
Ubonakala ubambekile kumlo wokungqubana-uphinda-phinda iindlela ezifanayo zokuziphatha ezingalunganga.
Ngaba konke oku kubonisa ukuba ubudlelwane bakho abuzukuma ukuvavanywa kwexesha?
Ewe, imilo ingafana nemozulu yesaqhwithi….
Ngexesha elingaphezulu kwexesha, ukuphindaphinda kwabo kunye nobundlobongela obunobundlobongela bunokuzigqogqa zonke izibonelelo ezilungileyo, baveze ibhedi ethambileyo, nesesichengeni.
Xa ivolumu inyuka, ulwimi olunomsindo okanye olunolunya lomzimba luqala, kwaye iipleyiti ziqala ukubhabha, umgca ugqityiwe kwaye naziphi na izibonelelo ezisempilweni kudala zadlula.
Ukucaphula amazwi obulumko embongi yamandulo, uRumi:
Phakamisa amagama akho, hayi ilizwi lakho. Yimvula ekhulisa iintyatyambo, hayi iindudumo.
Azikho iintyatyambo eziza kukhula kwindawo enetyhefu. Ngokunjalo nothando alunakho.
Ukuze ubudlelwane bube sempilweni kufuneka kuhloniphane, kunye nokukhathalelana nokukhathalelana.
Naluphi na uhlobo lokuxhatshazwa, nokuba kungokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo, okanye ngamazwi, kubonisa ukungabikho kwezi zinto ziphambili.
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Ukuba ubudlelwane abuphilanga, akunakulindeleka ukuba buzinze.
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… Nokuba lixesha lokwenza ukuphuma okukhawulezayo kwaye uye emadlelweni amatsha.
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