Uthando nentabatheko ziyafana ngeendlela ezithile, kodwa xa uzihluba umva, zizinto ezahluke kakhulu.
Zombini ziimvakalelo ezinamandla oziva komnye umntu, kwaye kunokuba lula ukubaphambanisa…
… Kodwa indalo yezi mvakalelo ayifani kwaphela.
Ukubeka nje, ukuba nentabatheko kukuba kwimeko yethutyana uninzi lwethu oluqhelene nayo xa sikhukuliswe ngokupheleleyo ziimvakalelo zethu.
Sihlala sithandana nomntu xa ubudlelwane buqala, kwaye ikhemesti yesini yinxalenye enkulu yayo.
uyeke njani ukuziva unetyala ngokukopela
Ukuthabatheka kunokuthetha ukuba siphulukana namandla okwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo, ke thina simfanyekisiwe sisiphango samahomoni esijikeleza iingqondo nemizimba yethu.
Unokuba nomdla kumntu ongenalo ubudlelwane bezesondo kunye naye.
Khawufane ucinge ngazo zonke ezo crushes ziphambeneyo ubuzenza xa wawukwishumi elivisayo ezenzeka ngokupheleleyo entlokweni yakho.
Kwelinye icala, uthando kuxa uziva unothando oluqinileyo kakhulu komnye umntu, oluhlala lubuyiswa.
Ngoku, ungandivi kakubi, intabatheko ngokuqinisekileyo ayisoloko iyinto embi.
Ukuba uyayamkela into eyiyo kwaye ungaziqinisekisi ukuba uyathandana, emva koko kunokuba yinto entle, echulumancisayo, namava abukhali oya kuthi ujonge emva ungakholelwa nje ukuba kugqityiwe.
Kuphela kuxa umgca phakathi kothando nentabatheko ungacacanga apho izinto zinokuba nzima.
Nangona intabatheko ihlala iphela kwaye yexeshana, kwaye amaxesha ngamaxesha ingatshi, inokukhula ibe luthando ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Ngelishwa, abanye abantu bayangxama ukuya kubudlelwane okanye nasemtshatweni ngaphandle kokunika ubudlelwane ixesha elifunekayo lokukhula.
Kuphela kuxa benzulu kakhulu apho baqonda khona ukuba babengazange bathandane ngokwenene, kodwa babanjwa ziimvakalelo zabo, bengakwazi ukubona ngokucacileyo.
Kwaye khumbula, olu phuhliso alukho kwinkqubo yeendlela ezimbini. Uthando alunakukhula lube yintabatheko.
Ngaphezu, intabatheko ayisiyonyathelo lokunyathela eluthandweni.
Ukuba abantu ababini badibana kwaye ekuqaleni bakhe ubuhlobo kunokuba baqale ubudlelwane bezesondo kwangoko, banokutsiba kwangoko kudlula kwinqanaba lokuthabatheka kwaye bakhulise uthando lokwenene omnye komnye.
Ukuba usasokola ukufumana intloko yakho apho umgca phakathi kothando kunye nentabatheko ilele khona, lo mahluko ungundoqo phakathi kwezi zimbini kufuneka uncede ekucaciseni izinto kuwe.
1. Intabatheko ingxamisekile, uthando luyanyamezela.
Intabatheko imalunga nomzuzu wangoku.
Ufuna ukulungiswa kwakho kuloo mntu ngoku. Zizonke onokucinga ngazo.
Uba nexhala xa bengayiphenduli imiyalezo yakho ngoko nangoko.
Konke kakhulu kakhulu.
Uthando, kwelinye icala, luthetha ukuba uyathemba, kwaye ungakhululeka, usazi ukuba ubusuku okanye iveki bucala ngaphandle ayisosiphelo sehlabathi.
Awudingi ngqwalaselo yabo ngalo mzuzu. Awujolisanga apha nangoku, kodwa ujonge kwikamva kunye.
2. Intabatheko intsha, uthando luza nobudala.
Le yinto eqhelekileyo, kwaye umntu angathabatheka nangaliphi na ixesha, kodwa iimvakalelo ezoyikisayo esizivayo njengolutsha azisoloko zikhula zibe luthando lwenene.
Sithanda kakhulu umntu kwaye baba liziko lehlabathi lethu.
Ukuba uyathandana nomntu ebomini kamva, kunokuziva ngathi ubuyele kwisikolo samabanga aphakamileyo, ungazi ukuba wenzeni okanye uthini, kwaye ungabi nakho ukucinga ngenye into.
Kodwa, njengokuba sikhula, kunokwenzeka ukuba, ukuba kunjalo umntu ofanelekileyo intabatheko iya kukhula ibe luthando, kunokuba iphele.
3. Intabatheko ayinantsingiselo, kwaye uthando luyazibophelela.
Ukuba uthanda umntu nje, loo mvakalelo inokucima ukusuka kusuku olunye okanye umzuzu omnye uye kolandelayo.
Into abayenzayo okanye abayithethayo inokubulala ngesiquphe umnqweno oziva kubo.
Uthando alunakuphulwa ngokulula.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, iya kuhlala ikhona imiba yokusebenza, kodwa uzibophelele ukubeka umzamo ofunekayo, kwaye iimvakalelo zakho azinakucinywa njengempompo.
4. Intabatheko ayinankathalo, uthando luthathelwa ingqalelo.
Ukuthabatheka kunokukhokelela ekubeni uziphathe ngeendlela, ezingqondweni zakho ezilungileyo, ezingasokuze zenzeke nakuwe.
Wenza ukungakhathali, ukukhawuleza kwezigqibo zomzuzu, kwaye yonke into ingabonakala ngathi iyenziwa okanye iyaphuka.
Uthando luzolile. Ayithathi sigqibo sezinto ngokuthanda. Kuthatha ixesha ukwenza izigqibo, kwaye ukulungele ukusebenza kancinci ukuya kwisisombululo.
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5. Intabatheko kukuzingca, uthando alunabugovu.
Xa uthabatheka ngumntu othile, nangona kusenokubonakala ngathi uyaphazamiseka kubo , okunene konke malunga wena .
Ufuna ukuba bazalisekise iimfuno zakho kunye neminqweno.
Xa uthanda umntu, iimfuno zakhe zibalulekile njengeyakho.
Uziqwalasele iimvakalelo zabo ngaphambi kokuba wenze.
6. Intabatheko yirollercoaster, uthando luzinzile.
Ukuthandana nomntu kunokuba nemincili.
Kuhlala kusisigxina seemvakalelo, kwaye ngekhe wazi ukuba iindawo eziphakamileyo kunye nezisezantsi ziza nini.
xa umntu exoka ebusweni bakho
Unokuziva wonwabe ngokupheleleyo, emva koko, emva kwemizuzu emihlanu, ungabinanto kwaphela.
Uthando, kwelinye icala, alufanele lube malunga nokuphakama kunye nokuhla.
Abanye abantu bayalukhumbula uvuyo lokuthatheka xa bekubudlelwane obuzinzileyo, kodwa uninzi lwethu lufunda ukuxabisa ukwaneliseka okumangalisayo kunye nokuzinza kothando lokwenene.
7. Intabatheko yeyokwexeshana, kwaye uthando lunokuhlala ngonaphakade
Intabatheko inokukubetha ungabikho ndawo kwaye ngokukhawuleza itye yonke into. Inokuhlala okwethutyana, kodwa ayisiyonto onokuyixhasa ngonaphakade.
Uthando akufuneki luhlale ngonaphakade ukuze lube lolokwenene. Abantu banokutshintsha.
Kodwa ukuba niyakhula kunye, unokufumanisa ukuba niyathandana ngakumbi nangakumbi njengoko iminyaka iqhubeka.
8. Intabatheko inomona, kwaye uthando luyathemba.
Oku akuyi kuhlala kuyinyani, kodwa ngokubanzi, abantu abahlangabezana nentabatheko baya kuthi Ziva inimba yomona .
Uthando kufuneka lusekelwe kukuthembana, okuthetha ukuba akufuneki kubekho indawo yomona phakathi kwabantu ababini abathandana ngokunyanisekileyo.
9. Intabatheko idla ngokuba yeyomzimba, kwaye uthando lukhulu ngakumbi.
Ngamanye amaxesha, awunakucacisa ukuba kutheni uwela umntu. Kodwa, ngokubanzi, intabatheko iya kuqala njengomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni, kwaye ayinakuphuhla ngaphaya koko.
Uthando, kwelinye icala, luya kubandakanya inqanaba elithile lomtsalane ngokwasemzimbeni, kodwa kukuhambelana ngokweemvakalelo nangokwengqondo phakathi kwakho okuya kubangela ukuba ubudlelwane bakho bukhule.
10. Ukungabikho kwenza ukuba intabatheko iphele, nothando lukhule.
Ukuba wohlukene nomntu othandana naye, ukuchitha ixesha ungahlali kunye nokuba ngumgama omde omnye komnye kunokuthetha ukuba ezo mvakalelo ziyadodobala, okanye zife kwaphela.
Inokucaphukisa kakhulu xa uqala ukuvalelisa, kodwa ngokuthe ngcembe ulibale ngayo kwaye nengqondo yakho iqhubela phambili kwezinye izinto.
Ngokwahlukileyo koko, ukuba luthando lokwenene, ukungabikho ngokwenene kuyenza intliziyo ikhule ithande. Iimvakalelo azizukuphela ziya komeleza kwaye zikhule.
11. Ngokwahlukileyo kwintabatheko, uthando luzisa eyona nto intle kuwe.
Cinga ngamaxesha owawukhe wathandwa ngawo ngaphambili. Ngaba wakha wenza into ongazingci ngayo?
Ngaba uyifundile imiyalezo ebhaliweyo okanye ii-imeyile?
Ngaba ubalahlile bonke abahlobo bakho ukuze uchithe lonke ixesha lakho nomntu?
Ngaba uqale ukuwutyeshela umsebenzi wakho?
Ngelixa intabatheko inokukwenza ukuba wenze izinto ezichasene nokuqonda okungcono, ukuba uyathandana, ke loo mntu uvelisa ezona zibalaseleyo kuwe.
Ucinga ukuba ziyamangalisa kwaye ufuna ukuba zilufanele uthando lwazo, kwaye zikunika amandla owadingayo ukuze ube yeyona nguqulelo yakho.
Ngaba luthando?
Ukuba kukho umntu okhethekileyo ebomini bakho ngoku kwaye uzama ukubeka umnwe wakho kanye kule nto uziva ngayo kubo, uqinisekile ukuba ulubonile ulwalamano lwakho kwamanye amanqaku angentla.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo kukunyaniseka kwisiqu sakho. Mamela emathunjini akho, kwaye uwuthembe.
Ungonwaba kakhulu xa uthabatheka ngumntu othile, kwaye ungafunda okuninzi ngawe…
… Kodwa ukuba yile nto uziva ngayo, akufuneki ufumane ithemba lakho kakhulu malunga nolwalamano okanye wenze izicwangciso ezinkulu ngekamva.
Yonwabele ngelixa ihlala.
Awusoze wazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ukuba thatha izinto kancinci . Ingakhula ibe nothando, ubudlelwane obuphilileyo , kodwa isenokungabi njalo.
Kuhlala kulunge ngakumbi ukuzikhusela kwintlungu enokubakho de ube uyakholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba inokuba iya ndawo.
Ukuba akukwazi ukuqonda ukuba uziva njani, ixesha elincinci ngaphandle kwento oyithandayo kufuneka likuxelele yonke into ekufuneka uyazi.
Awukaqiniseki ukuba luthando okanye yintabatheko uziva? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
Eli phepha linamalungu onxibelelwano. Ndifumana ikhomishini encinci ukuba ukhetha ukuthenga nantoni na emva kokucofa kuyo.
