Ucinga ukuba wenze impazamo. Ukwahlukana nomntu, kwaye ngoku uyazisola ngenene.
Kodwa, ukuba unyanisekile, ulahlekile kwaye awuqinisekanga kwaphela yinyani iimvakalelo.
Ngaba uyafuna ukuba babuye?
Ngaba ingahlala ngeli xesha ngoku?
Ngaba ungabafumana kwakhona ukuba uyazama?
Ufunda eli nqaku kuba uyazi le ayisiyonto omele uyithathe kancinci.
Ukuba uye wahlukana nomntu othile, kungenzeka ukuba umonzakalisile, kwaye ukuba uyamthanda, into yokugqibela onokufuna ukuyenza kukumvisa ubuhlungu nangakumbi.
Ke, esi sisigqibo ekufuneka usicingile ngaphambi kokuba wenze nantoni na.
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Inyathelo lokuqala ku…
Fikelela ezantsi kokuzisola kwakho.
Into yokuqala ekufuneka uyenzile kukuhlalutya ezi mvakalelo unazo. Ukwahlukana nomntu sisigqibo esikhulu, kwaye kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukuba ubenobunzima malunga naso emva koko.
Ukuba wohlukene nesoka lakho okanye intombi yakho ngesizathu sekhonkrithi, njengokungathembeki okanye ukungcatshwa kwalo naluphi na uhlobo kwicala labo, ubuncinci ubunokuyibamba xa uqala ukukhathazeka malunga nokuba uthathe isigqibo esifanelekileyo.
Kodwa ukuba uvele waphelelwa luthando ngabo okanye waba nemvakalelo enzulu yokuba into ayilunganga, kuya kuthatha ixesha elide ukuba uqine isibindi sokwahlukana nabo, kwaye kuyindalo ukuba neengcinga zesibini .
Isitshixo kukufunda ukwahlula phakathi kokuphosa nje umntu wakho wangaphambili kwaye xa wenze impazamo.
Zibuze ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ubakhumbula ngokwenene njengeqabane, okanye ukuba ubaphose nje njengomhlobo. Sichitha ixesha elininzi namaqabane ethu ukuze bashiye umngxunya omkhulu ebomini bethu xa bemkile, nokuba siyazi nzulu ukuba ubudlelwane bebungalunganga.
Musa ukuba neentloni kude nenyaniso apha. Ngaba ngenene ngabo olahlekileyo, okanye uyaphoswa kukuba kwi-relationship full stop? Ngaba bubuqabane, inkxaso, ii-cuddles?
Yintoni le uyiphose ngokwenene? Yintoni ebenza bahluke kubo bonke abanye abantu? Yintoni oyithandayo ngabo?
Ngaba ukufumana ukuvalwa okufunekayo xa izinto ziphelile? Ngaba ucinga ukuba inokuba yile nto uyikhangelayo? Ngaba ufuna iimpendulo?
Okanye ukoyiswa nje yinyani yakho entsha kwaye ufuna ubomi bakho obudala ubuye, nokuba, xa unyanisekile kwisiqu sakho, uyazi ukuba kwakungakulungelanga?
Thatha ixesha lokuvavanya iimvakalelo zakho kwaye ujongane nenyaniso, nokuba uyifumana nzima kangakanani.
Ungakufumana kungcono ukubhala phantsi yonke le nto, okanye kunokubakho umhlobo omthembileyo onokuthetha naye ngezinto oza kukunceda usebenze ngeengcinga zakho.
Okulandelayo, lixesha lokuba…
Cinga ngobuhlobo.
Ngoku ukuba ufumene isibambo kwiimvakalelo zakho, lixesha lokuba uthathe ubudlelwane ngaphandle kwebhokisi kwaye uyihlolisise.
Ngaphambi kokuba uzame ukuvuselela ubudlelwane obudlulileyo, kufuneka wazi ukuba kufanelekile ukugcina.
Ukuba nibuyelana, ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba nihlale kunye ixesha elide?
Okanye ngaba ugcina nje ukubandezeleka okungaphezulu ukuqhubela phambili emgceni?
Isitshixo apha kukucinga ngento eyenze ukwahlukana kwasekuqaleni.
Ngaba yayisisiphumo nje somlo osisidenge? Ngaba ubuyicombulule ingxaki? Ngaba izinto bezilungile de kube lelo xesha, okanye bekukho iingxaki phakathi kwenu bekusenziwa ixesha elide?
Ukuba ibisisigqibo ubusicinga ngaso okwethutyana kwaye ingeyiyo nje impazamo kubushushu bomzuzwana, zithini izizathu zakho zokuvalelisa?
Ngaba ngokwenene zazisekwe kwiingxaki zobudlelwane obuya kuzama ukuzisombulula, okanye ngaba zazimalunga nawe?
Ukuba ibiyinto abayenzileyo ebizise ukwahlukana, ngokungathembeki, ngaba uqinisekile ukuba unokwenyani baxolele ngako ?
Ngaba waqhutywa kukwahlukana nexhala lakho, okanye eminye imiba enento yokwenza nawe, kwaye incinci kakhulu yokwenza naye?
Kuya kufuneka uzimisele kwaye ujonge ikamva: Ngaba ngokwenene ucinga ukuba nina nobabini ninokuhlala kunye ixesha elide?
Ngaba babelana ngeenjongo zakho zobomi? Uphi umfanekiso wakho wolwalamano lwakho kwiminyaka eyi-10?
Ukuba uyakholelwa emtshatweni kwaye / okanye ufuna abantwana, ngaba baziva ngendlela efanayo? Ngaba kukho naziphi na izaphuli-mthetho eziza kuthi, kungekudala okanye kamva, zigungqise iziseko zakho?
Ukubuyela kunye yinto enkulu kwaye kuthetha ukuba uzimisele ukuzibophelela kolu lwalamano.
Ukuba awuzimisele ukucinga malunga nexesha elide, oko kungumqondiso wokuba awufanele uzame ukugcina.
Ukuba ukuzisola kwakho akuyonyani: ukuvumela umntu wakudala ukuba ahambe.
Ke, uzibuze imibuzo enzima kakhulu, kwaye ngethemba lokuba uzifumene iimpendulo.
Ezi zinto zinokuba nzima ukujongana nazo, ke qiniseka ukuba uhamba lula kuwe kwaye uthathe ixesha elininzi lokucinga. Ukuba uyangxama ngesi sigqibo, ungazisola ngakumbi kamva.
Kodwa ukuba kuyacaca ukuba, ezantsi, awuboni ikamva nalo mntu, lixesha lokuba uvumele ukuzisola kwakho kuqhubeke.
Oku akuyi kuba lula, kuba mhlawumbi ukufumanisa kunzima ukuyeka ukucinga ngabo. Xa uqhawule umtshato nomntu, yonke into oyibonayo iyakukhumbuza, kwaye kunzima ukunqanda ingqondo yakho ukuba ihlale kuyo yonke into eyenzekileyo phakathi kwakho.
Yazi nje ukuba, cliché as it may sound, ixesha liya kunceda. Njengokuba iintsuku zihamba, amathandabuzo nokuzisola kwakho kuyakushiya kancinci, kwaye uyakubona ukuba ungcono njengokuba unjalo.
Uya kuqala ukuhlala kuwe, izizathu zokuba wahlukane nabo ziya kucaca ngakumbi, kwaye uya phambili.
Ukuba ukuzisola kwakho kuyinyani: ukubabuyisela.
Ufumanise ukuba wenze impazamo, kwaye ngoku uthathe isigqibo sokuba kufuneka okungenani uzame ukuzibuyisela.
Ewe uyazi, akukho ziqinisekiso kobu bomi, ngakumbi xa kufikwa kuthando. Into ebuhlungu kukuba ngenxa yokuba ugqibe kwelokuba ubuye lo mntu, oko akuthethi ukuba nabo bazakuva ngendlela efanayo.
Khumbula, wahlukana nabo, kwaye ukuba bekukho ubukho bokwenene nothando phakathi kwakho, ukwahlukana mhlawumbi kubanqumle nzulu.
Gcina izinto ozilindeleyo ziphantsi, kodwa ukuba ufuna ngokwenene emva koko zinike eyona nto ifanelekileyo. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, awunanto uzakuphulukana nayo, nayo yonke into oza kuyizuza.
Nazi iingcebiso ezimbalwa zendlela yokwenza ngayo.
1. Yijonge imeko.
Endaweni yokuntywila ungene ngaphakathi kwaye ubaringe, yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukufumana ubume bomhlaba. Ngena nabo, ukuba ngaba ninxibelelana nabo, kwaye nilinganise indlela abasabela ngayo ekuqaleni.
Ukuba nobabini ninabahlobo bobabini enibathemba ngokwenene, ninokubabuza ukuba iqhuba njani i ex yakho.
Banokukwazi ukukuxelela ukuba ngaba ucinga ukuba umntu wakho wakudala uyakukhumbula, okanye ukuba babonakala beqhuba kakuhle ngaphandle kwakho okanye begqithele komnye umntu omtsha.
Le ngqondo ivakala incinci, kodwa ukuba uyabathemba aba bahlobo kwaye awuzange umbone umntu wakho wangaphambili okwethutyana, usenokwazi nokubabuza ukuba bacinga ukuba unalo na ithuba lokuphumelela i-ex yakho.
Uluvo olunyanisekileyo oluvela kumntu owaziyo nobabini lunokukunceda ubone ukuba likhona na ithemba.
2. Babuze ukuba uyakwazi ukuthetha ubuso ngobuso.
Kwezi meko, kungcono kakhulu ukuba phambili kwizinto.
Endaweni yokuqala ukuthumela umyalezo kwi-ex yakho rhoqo ukuze ubone indlela abaphendula ngayo, ukudlala ngothando nabo kwaye, ngokunokwenzeka, ukubadida, xa sele wenze unxibelelwano, kungcono uye ngqo kwinqanaba kwaye ubeke amakhadi akho etafileni.
Babuze ukuba nobabini ninokudibana na ukuze nithethe ubuso ngobuso. Ukuba bathi hayi, sele uyifumene impendulo yakho. Ukuba bathi ewe, ke vuma ukudibana kumhlaba ongathathi cala.
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3. Shiya ibhongo lakho emnyango.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungavumeli i-ego yakho ingene endleleni xa uzama ukuphumelela umntu. Ukuba wenze impazamo ngokwahlukana nabo, thembeka malunga naloo nto. Ungazami ukugcina ubuso.
Ukuba unako ukususa ikratshi lakho kwi-equation, kunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba ubuyise intombazana okanye umfana.
4. Kodwa hayi ukuzihlonipha kwakho.
Ukushiya ikratshi lakho kuyo akuthethi ukuba kufuneka ushiye ukuzihlonela kwakho kuyo nayo.
Kufuneka ube nokwamkela ukuba wenze impazamo, kodwa akufuneki ukuba ugrave okanye ubacenge ukuba bakubuyise.
Kuya kufuneka uyenze icace imvakalelo yakho, ngaphandle kokuvumela nayiphi na imiqondiso yokuphelelwa lithemba ukuba ibonise ngoba, masinyaniseke, ukuphelelwa lithemba akunakuze kube nomtsalane, kwaye unexabiso elingaphezulu koko.
5. Yiba nomonde.
Kubalulekile ukwamkela ukuba i-ex yakho ayinakho ukukunika impendulo ngokukhawuleza.
Ukuba wohlukene nesoka lakho okanye intombi yakho, oku kungenzeka ukuba kuphume kwaphela, kwaye njengokuba uthathe ixesha lokucinga, kuya kufuneka benze njalo.
Musa ukubanyanzela ukuba bakunike impendulo kwaye ubanike lonke ixesha elifunekayo lokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ingaba ukubuyelana yeyona nto ilungileyo kubo nakuni nobabini.
Banokwazi ukukuxelela kwangoko, kodwa banokufuna iintsuku ezimbalwa zokulinganisa izinto kumlinganiso. Sele unalo ixesha lakho lokucinga nokubonisa ngoku bafuna ezabo.
6. Sihlonele isigqibo sabo.
Into ebuhlungu kukuba banokuthi hayi, kwaye kufuneka uyilungele loo nto.
Awuyazi into eyenzekileyo ukusukela oko kwahlukana, kwaye basenokuba baye baqonda ukuba anilunganga omnye komnye, okanye banokuqonda ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba baphinde bakuthembe.
Ukuba bathatha isigqibo sokuba kuphelile kube kanye, qiniseka ukuba uyahlonipha kwaye uyamkela, kwaye ubanqwenelele okuhle.
Ngubani owaziyo, nobabini ninokwazi ukuba ngabahlobo kwixa elizayo xa iimvakalelo zakho zitshintshile, kodwa okwangoku, kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba ayingombono mhle ukuba unxibelelane unikwe indlela oziva ngayo .
Ukuqhubela phambili.
Ukuba bathatha isigqibo sokunika ubudlelwane olunye udubulo, kuyamangalisa. Ngamana unokuba nayo yonke inhlanhla kwihlabathi ngeli xesha. Qinisekisa ukuba awuyithathi kancinci kwaye ufunde kwiimpazamo zakho.
Kwaye ukuba bathatha isigqibo ngenye indlela, lixesha lokuba ugxile kuwe. Ukuba ungubani ngaphandle komlingane wakho ebomini bakho, kunye nabo bonke abanye abantu abathandekayo kunye nezinto ozingqonge.
Ukufumana ngaphezulu komntu akukaze kube lula, kodwa uya kufika apho. Kwaye xa uthando olulandelayo luza kubiza, uya kuba ufundile kwinto ehambe gwenxa okokugqibela kwaye ungaze ubayeke bahambe.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga nokuba uzisola nyhani ngokwahlukana, okanye ufuna uncedo ekubuyiseleni umntu wakudala? Thetha kwi-Intanethi kwingcali yobudlelwane kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane izinto. Ngokulula.
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