Iqabane lakho likukhohlisile… kwaye liziva libi.
Kodwa ngandlela thile, entliziyweni yakho, ufuna ukubaxolela.
Ucinge ixesha elide kwaye kunzima nokuba ubaxolele ngokukopa kwabo…
… Kodwa into yokuba uzifumene ufunda eli nqaku kuthetha ukuba sele uwuphendulile loo mbuzo engqondweni yakho.
Umbuzo omkhulu olandelayo uthi njani.
Uxolela njani umntu okopayo?
Uhambisa njani ukungathembeki kwabo kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane bakho?
Eli nqaku liza kujonga kuzo zonke izinto oya kucinga ngazo kwaye wenze ukuze ekugqibeleni uxolele iqabane lakho.
Inyathelo lokuqala ku…
1. Zimisele ukubaxolela.
Ugqibe kwelokuba ubaxolele, kwaye ungakomeleza oku kuzinikela ngokunxibelelana nesigqibo neqabane lakho.
Kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba uxele ukuba uyabaxolela. Okwangoku, ubuncinci.
Okwangoku ukwinqanaba lokuqala lenkqubo elingenakwenzeka ngobusuku obunye.
Ke ungathetha into ecaleni kwemigca:
Ndigqibe ekubeni ndikuxolele, kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba kuzothatha ixesha ukuba ndifikelele kwelo nqanaba ngokweemvakalelo. ”
Unokwenza kwakhona kucace ukuba ayisiyiyo loo nto ubavumela ukuba bakhuphe ikhonkco:
'Izakuthatha amanyathelo amaninzi osana kwicala lam kwaye kuyakufuneka sobabini sisebenze nzima ukulungisa umonakalo odalekileyo.'
2. Yamkela ukuba ukuxolelwa kuphela kwendlela yokugcina ubudlelwane.
Ukuba uzimisele ngokwenza ulwalamano lwakho lusebenze, kuya kufuneka ufikelele kwinqanaba apho wamkela khona ukuba uxolelo luyinto ebalulekileyo kuloo nto.
Ukuba awukwazi ukufikelela kwinqanaba apho ukungaziva kakuhle kwiqabane lakho kungokunje kuncitshiswa phantse kwaba lilize, ubudlelwane abunalo ikamva elifanelekileyo.
Ayikho enye indlela.
Ngelixa uziva unomsindo okanye inzondo okanye nantoni na eyenye, ngekhe ubenakho ukubaphatha ngendlela elifanele ukuphathwa ngayo iqabane lakho.
Xa uqaphela ukuba ukuxolelwa kuphela kwendlela, okunokukhawulezisa yonke inkqubo.
3. Chitha ixesha elithile ngaphandle xa kunokwenzeka.
Ukuba umcimbi uvele nje ekukhanyeni, iimvakalelo zakho zisenokuluhlaza kwaye zinamandla.
Ezi mvakalelo zinokubangela uxinzelelo olukhulu kunye nokuxabana phakathi kwakho neqabane lakho.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ingumbono olungileyo ukuchitha ixesha ungahlukani kwaphela, ukuvumela ezo mvakalelo zingathandekiyo zinciphise amandla.
Ukucinga ukuba nihlala kunye, jonga ukuba omnye wenu unayo nayiphi na enye indawo abanokuhlala kuyo okwethutyana- indlu yomhlobo, nabazali, njl.
Ungakufumanisa kulula ukuba nguwe ohlala kwenye indawo kuba uyakuba nomntu wokukuxhasa, kunokuba ube wedwa ekhayeni lakho.
Ewe, ukuba unabantwana, kungcono ukuhlala nabo kwikhaya losapho ukugcina ukungaguquguquki ebomini babo.
Ukuba anikahlali kunye, aninakubonana nje ngesiqhelo.
Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba oku akuthethi ukuba 'usekhefini' - usesebudlelwaneni okwangoku kwaye akufuneki uziphathe ngokungathi awutshatanga.
4. Funa ukuqonda ukungathembeki kwabo.
Kutheni bekhohlisa nje?
Ngumbuzo osele ulwile nawo, kodwa kufanelekile ukuba uqwalaselwe.
Ngaba yayikukuncamisa ukunxila okanye ukuma ubusuku obunye xa imiqobo yabo iphantsi?
Okanye ngaba yayiyinto yokuhlangana nomntu asebenza naye ababesondele kuye emva kokusebenza kwiprojekthi enkulu efuna ukuhamba kunye?
Ngaba bahlakulele iimvakalelo ngomntu othile okanye ibingumzimba nje?
Yayinjani imeko ubudlelwane bakho ngaphambi kokuba ukukopela kwenzeke? Ngaba kwabakho ungquzulwano? Ngaba uye wahlukana? Ngaba ubudlelwane obusenyameni obubonisanayo bunyamalale?
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukugcina engqondweni ukuba lo msebenzi awenzelwanga ukuthethelela okanye ukuvumela isenzo sokukopela.
Akukho sizathu soko.
Yenzelwe ukuba ikuncede uvelane neqabane lakho kwaye uqonde indlela abanokufikelela ngayo kwinqanaba apho ukukopa kunokwenzeka khona.
Kuyanceda ukuba unga…
5. Bona iqabane lakho njengomntu oneziphene.
Akukhomntu ogqibelele.
Akunjalo. Sonke sinazo iimpazamo kunye nokusilela kwethu.
Oku akuthethi ukuba sonke sinako ukukopa, kodwa sonke sinemiba engaphantsi kunokunqweneleka.
Ukuzikhumbuza ukuba iqabane lakho ngumntu - nazo zonke iziphene kunye nokusilela okuza nako-kunokunceda ukuphendula umbuzo ongathandabuzekiyo ojikeleze ingqondo yakho kakhulu: bebenokuyenza njani loo nto?
Impendulo yile, ngebabekwenzile oko kuba abafezekanga.
Banemicimbi yabo ekufuneka basebenze kuyo.
Kwakhona, ukubamkela njengeziphosakeleyo akusithetheleli isenzo sokukopela, kwaye akunciphisi nentlungu oziva.
Yinxalenye nje yenkqubo eyilelwe ukunciphisa ubungqongqo beemvakalelo ezimbi onazo kubo kwaye uvumele uvelwano lukhule.
6. Khumbula iimpawu ezintle zeqabane lakho.
Uthandane nabo ngesizathu. Zininzi izizathu, ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo.
Kunokuba nzima ukukhumbula ukuba zeziphi izizathu ngoku, kodwa ukuba ungazama ukucinga ngazo, iyakunceda inkqubo yoxolelo.
Kwakhona, kuyehla ukunciphisa ukungakhathali onokuziva kubo ngalo mzuzu ngexesha.
Ngokucamngca ngeempawu zabo ezintle, uya kuzinika isizathu esikhulu sokulandela indlela yoxolelo ngokuzimisela nangomonde, kwanaxa uthe waqubeka endleleni.
Mhlawumbi banenkathalo enkulu, bayakuqonda, kwaye kukwenza uzive wonwabile malunga nesiqu sakho (nangona ingekho ngoku).
indlela yokuthemba umntu kwakhona emva kokuxoka
Mhlawumbi banesisa kwaye bayazithemba kwaye babelana ngamaxabiso afanayo nawe.
Nokuba yeyiphi eyona nto ibikutsala kubo, cinga ngayo.
7. Jonga ukuxolela njengesipho kuwe.
Ukungathembeki kweqabane lakho kunokuba kubenzakalise ngeendlela ezithile, kodwa kukukhathaze kakhulu ngakumbi.
Kwaye ngelixa uxolelo lujongwa njengento oyinika umntu owonileyo, yinto ozibonelayo yona.
Uxolelo sisipho ozipha sona. Yindlela yokuphelisa iintlungu kunye noxinzelelo oziva lulo.
Uxolelo yindlela yokubonisa amandla ophethe ezandleni zakho ukuze uziphilise.
Xa usazi ukuba uxolelo lungaphezulu kuwe kunokuba lunjalo kubo, iba yinkqubo otyalwe kakhulu kuyo.
8. Zama ukungaziphindezeli okanye ubambe ubuqhophololo ngakubo.
Isenokuvakala ingaqhelekanga into yokuba isenzo sokukopela sisoyikeka, kodwa kufanelekile hayi zama ukubenza bahlawulele oko bakwenzileyo.
Impindezelo ayikuncedisi ukuxolelwa- ime endleleni yayo.
Ungacinga ukuba kuyakukwenza uzive ungcono, kodwa ekuphela kwento oyenzayo kukugcina imvakalelo yokungalunganga onayo kubo isezantsi engqondweni yakho.
Iya kuyolula ukubandezeleka kwakho.
Iya kubatyhalela kude kuwe kwaye ubeke ubudlelwane bakho kumhlaba onamatye angaphezulu kunokuba kunokuba kunjalo.
Kuya kufuneka ungabeki ukungathembeki kwabo naphakade.
Awunakho ukuzisa kamva emgceni njengesixhobo sokohlwaya ukuba bakucaphukisile, okanye basebenzise ukuthethelela isenzo senkohlakalo kubo.
Ukuba wenjenjalo, uvula nje inxeba ozama ukulinyanga.
9. Qaphela izinto ezibangela.
Nokuba ubuhlungu obuvayo ngoku buqala ukunciphisa, bunokuphinda buphathwe zizinto ezithile.
Ezi zinto zinokubangela ukuba ibe yiyo nantoni na ekukhumbuza ngokungcatsha kwabo.
Igama lomnye umntu, ewe, likhulu ekufuneka liphetshwe.
Okanye mhlawumbi inokuba ziindawo owaziyo ukuba bahamba neqabane labo.
Kungayinto elula njengelinen yelinen ekufuneka uyibuyisele kuba icala lomzimba lenzekile ebhedini yakho.
Kuya kufuneka uyicime nantoni na enokubangela iimvakalelo ezingalunganga zokuba usebenza nzima ukwenza kunye nokudlula okudlulileyo. Ubuncinci, ixesha elide kangangoko kunokwenzeka.
10. Qaphela ukuphucuka kweemvakalelo zakho.
Njengoko ixesha lihamba kwaye intlungu yakho nomsindo ziqala ukuphela, zama ukuqaphela oku kwaye uyikhumbule.
Xa uziva uvakalelo oluhle kwiqabane lakho, jonga njengenkqubela phambili oyenzayo.
Olu tshintsho lweemvakalelo ukusuka kwinto engentle ukuya kwinto elungileyo bubunye ubungqina bokuba uxolelo kuphela kwendlela eya phambili.
Ibonisa ukuba ukuxolelwa akunakwenzeka kuphela, kodwa kuphela kwendlela yokuba ubudlelwane bakho buqhubeke kwaye nolonwabo owabelana ngalo ukuba ubuye.
Oku kunika inkuthazo eqhubekayo yokusebenza nzima kwizinto njengesibini, nisazi ukuba loo msebenzi unomvuzo.
11. Lungisa nayiphi na imiba esisiseko kubudlelwane.
Ukukopa kunokwenzeka ngakumbi kubudlelwane obuneengxaki ezingasonjululwanga.
Kuyafaneleka ukuphindaphinda ukuba akukho ngxaki ikhe ithethelele ukukopela, nokuba yinto enegalelo kuyo.
Jonga ubudlelwane bakho kwaye ubuze ukuba zeziphi izinto ekufuneka ziphuculwe.
Emva koko beka isicwangciso endaweni sokusebenza kwezo zinto.
Ubudlelwane obunobunye obuhamba phambili buya kukhawulezisa inkqubo yoxolelo kwaye buvumele ukuthembela kwakho kubo ukuba bakhe kwakhona.
Ukuchonga nokusebenza kwimiba kubudlelwane akukho lula. Eyona nto ilungileyo kukufumana ingcebiso kumcebisi ngobuhlobo.
Sincoma kakhulu ulwalamano lweHorship olunika iiseshoni zonxibelelwano ezixabisekileyo kwi-intanethi-.
12. Yazi ukuba unxibelelwano ngundoqo.
Uya kuba sele unencoko malunga nokukopela kweqabane lakho, kodwa oku kuya kuba yeyokuqala kwabaninzi.
Unxibelelwano olulungileyo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo, indlela abavakalelwa ngayo, kunye nento eninokuyenza nobabini ukunceda ukuhambisa utshintsho kubudlelwane obungcono kubalulekile.
Ezi ntetho aziyi kuhlala zilula kwaye ukungqubana akunakwenzeka kuphela, kodwa kunokwenzeka.
Kodwa ukuvuleka komnye nomnye kunyanzelekile.
Awunakudlula koku kwaye ubaxolele ngokupheleleyo ngezenzo zabo ngaphandle kokuba nabelana.
Kwakhona, inkonzo yokucebisa ubudlelwane enje yinto ebaluleke kakhulu.
Unxibelelwano phakathi kwabantu abatshatileyo lulula kakhulu xa umntu wesithathu ekhona ekhokela incoko kunye nokuthintela ukuqhuma.
13. Yenza izinto ezintle kwiqabane lakho.
Ingangathi iyaphikisana nokuvuza ukungathembeki kweqabane lakho ngezimbo zomzimba, kodwa inokukunceda ukuba ubaxolele.
Xa ubenzela izinto ezintle, uzikhumbuza ngothando oziva ngalo kwaye ngethemba lokuba usaziva ngathi.
Uthando lubonakaliswa zizinto ozenzayo nozithethayo, kwaye ngokubonisa uthando lwakho, ungoyisa iimvakalelo ezingalunganga onokuthi uzive ngabo nakwimeko yonke.
Yinxalenye encinci yenkqubo, kodwa hayi enye ekufuneka uyijongile.
14. Dibana nomlingane wakho kwakhona.
Emva kokuba ukukopela kwenzekile kubudlelwane, kunokunceda ukubuyela apho kwaqala khona konke.
Ukuqala kwakho ukudibana neqabane lakho, kusenokwenzeka ukuba wakha wadibana nabo okwethutyana ngaphambi kokuba izinto zibe mandundu.
Kwaye ukunceda ukuqala ngokutsha kobudlelwane bakho, kuya kufuneka uhambe nemihla nabo kwakhona ngoku.
Ukuthandana kufutshane. Ukuthandana kumnandi. Ukuthandana lithuba lokuphinda ufumane omnye komnye.
Ngokubanzi, ukuthandana kunokuvuselela iimvakalelo onazo omnye komnye-iimvakalelo ezinokuthi ziye zancipha ekuhambeni kweminyaka okanye nangaphezulu.
Phinda usebenzise eminye imihla yakho yokuqala. Yitya kwiivenkile zokutyela ezifanayo, uye kwiindawo ezifanayo, wenze izinto ezifanayo.
Oku kuyakuzivusa kwakhona iinkumbulo ezindala kwaye ninokubambana omnye nomnye phezu kwempumlo oziva ngayo.
15. Ungangxami.
Awunakho ukuxolela umntu okopayo ngobusuku obunye.
Kuya kuthatha ixesha ukuba uqhubekeke nazo zonke iimvakalelo oza kuziva.
Yiba nomonde nesiqu sakho kwaye ube sengqiqweni malunga nokuba ungaziva buhlungu kangakanani ngabo kunye nezenzo zabo.
Xa usokola ukubona ukukhanya ekugqibeleni kwetonela, kunokuba kukuhenda ukunikezela kwaye uthi ayisebenzi.
Uyakwazi ukuziqinisekisa ngokukhawuleza ukuba awusoze ukwazi ukubaxolela ngento abayenzileyo.
xa ungakhange umbone umhlobo wakho osenyongweni ixesha elide
Kwaye, oku kunokuba yinyani ...
… Kodwa ude ulinike lonke ithuba kwaye wenze yonke imizamo, awunakukutsho oku ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ke sukungxama kwisigqibo sokuphelisa ubudlelwane ukuba uyafuna ngokwenene ukuba busebenze.
Hlala unomonde, qhubeka uzama, kwaye ubone indlela oziva ngayo ngexesha.
16. Zixolele.
Njengokuba ukukopela kweqabane lakho kwavela, kwaye kwangoko emva, mhlawumbi ucinga ngezinto ezininzi ezoyikisayo ngabo, kwaye kunokwenzeka ngawe.
Mhlawumbi uye waziva unomsindo nenzondo nentiyo.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukhe wathetha kwaye wenza ezinye izinto ongazingci ngazo.
Kubalulekile ukuba uzixolele ngezi ngcinga, iimvakalelo kunye nezenzo.
Ubu (kwaye usenjalo) kwiintlungu ezininzi zeemvakalelo kwaye kuyaqondakala ukuba usenokucinga izinto okanye wenze izinto ngendlela obungayi kwenza ngenye indlela.
Unokukhetha ukubambelela koku kuzisola, okanye ungakhetha ukuzixolela njengenxalenye yenkqubo yokuxolela iqabane lakho.
17. Ukulibala akuyomfuneko.
Ngelixa kungafanelekanga ukuba ubambe ingcinga yokuba iqabane lakho liyakukhohlisa engqondweni yakho, akufuneki ulibale kwaphela.
Ukuxolela umntu akuthethi ukulibala ngento ayenzileyo.
Nokuba lihamba ixesha elingakanani, uya kuhlala ucinga ngamanye amaxesha ngokungathembeki kwabo.
Awuyi kuthi uqondise iingcinga zakho kuyo, kodwa iinkumbulo zinendlela yokuvela kumphezulu wolwazi lwethu amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Ezi nkumbulo zinokuhamba kunye neemvakalelo zabo ezinxulumene noko.
Into ephambili ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba ukuxolela kuninzi malunga nendlela ocinga ngayo, oziva ngayo, kunye nokwenza izinto phambili kwaye hayi kakhulu malunga neengcinga okanye iimvakalelo ezinokuvela.
Izinto ezi-4 ekufuneka zenziwe liqabane lakho ukuvumela ukuba ubaxolele
Ngoku xa sihambile kuzo zonke izinto oya kuthi uzithathele ingqalelo xa uxolela iqabane lakho eliqhathayo, masijonge into abanokuyenza ukuxhasa inkqubo.
1. Mabathathe uxanduva olupheleleyo Njengoko sele kutshiwo, akukho sizathu sakukopela.
Akukho tyala ngakulo.
Benze ngendlela abayenzileyo kwaye kusemagxeni abo bodwa.
Iqabane lakho kufuneka likwamkele oku kwaye, apho kufanelekileyo, lixolise ngayo nayiphi na imizamo abayenzileyo yokukubeka ityala xa inyani iqala ukuvela.
2. Kuya kufuneka banqumle onke amaqhina namaqabane abo - nokuba kunokuba nzima kangakanani oku, akufuneki babone okanye bathethe nomntu abakuqhathe naye.
Ukuba lo mntu ungugxa wabo, kufuneka benze konke okusemandleni abo ukunqanda ukunxibelelana nabo.
Ukuba oku kuthetha ukucela ukuba ugqithiselwe kwindawo eyahlukileyo, iofisi, okanye iqela, kufuneka bayenze, nokuba kungangumngeni kangakanani.
Banokude baqwalasele imisebenzi yokuhamba ukuba oku kunokwenzeka. Lutshintsho ekufanele ukuba bakulungele ukulwenza ukulungisa ubudlelwane bakho.
3. Mababonise ukuzisola okwenyani - ukuba ababonakali ngathi baziva kabuhlungu ngento abayenzileyo, awusoze ukwazi ukubaxolela.
Kuya kufuneka bathethe ngokuzisola kwabo ngokucacileyo, kwaye kufuneka basebenze nzima ukulungisa izinto.
Oku kuyakubonisa ukuba bazimisele ukugcina ulwalamano lwakho kunye nokwenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo.
4. Kumele bavumelane neengcebiso kwizibini ukuba yiloo nto oyifunayo -Ungalindela ngokufanelekileyo ukuba bavumelane nomnqweno wakho.
Banokuxhathisa okanye baqhankqalaze, kodwa abekho kwimeko yokwala into ocinga ukuba iyimfuneko ukuze ulwalamano lwakho lusebenze.
Kwakhona, ukuba le yinto onomdla kuyo, sicebisa kakhulu ngenkonzo ye-Intanethi enikezelwa apho unokunxibelelana nomcebisi oyingcali kwikhaya lakho kunye nexesha elifanelekileyo kuwe.
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