Sonke sikhe sahlukana nomhlobo ngaphambili, ngamanye amaxesha singaqondanga.
Ubomi buye bufike nje ngendlela, kwaye ubuhlobo bunokuchaphazeleka- ngakumbi abo banokuba bebekade bekude okanye benamatye kancinci ukuqala.
Ukufikelela kumhlobo ongakhange uthethe naye ixesha elide kunokuba nzima kakhulu, yiyo loo nto ke sidibanise iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokwenza ...
Thatha amanyathelo omntwana.
Ukuba ufikelela emntwini ongakhange umbone okwethutyana, kunokuba nzima ukwazi ukuba uthini kwaye ungayenza njani.
Kubalulekile ukuqala kancinci, nokuba ukhe wasondela kakhulu!
Kungakho izizathu zokuba kutheni ukhukulisiwe, ngenxa yoko kunokuba yimeko ebuthathaka oya kuthi ufune ukusondela ngobunono.
Qala ngokuthanda ifoto okanye ubeke izimvo ngento abayithumeleyo. Isenokuvakala iyisidenge, kodwa yindlela elula yokubonisa umdla ukude ngaphandle kokuba omnye umntu azibophelele kuyo nantoni na.
Unokwenza oku amatyeli ambalwa, wenze ubukho bakho bwaziwe kwakhona kumhlobo wakho. Ukuba khange uthethe okwethutyana, banokuthi bathathwe kancinci ngumyalezo ophuma kuluhlaza okwesibhakabhaka, ke kulungile ukunciphisa indlela yakho yokubuyela ebomini babo.
Ngexesha elizayo, shiya uluvo malunga nokuzilahleka, okanye ukudibana, okanye ukufuna ukwazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni ngabo.
Jonga indlela abaphendula ngayo-banokuthi babuyise uluvo, kwimeko leyo, bashiye umyalezo.
Akudingeki ukuba ube phambili malunga nento yokuba uye wakhukuliseka ngokwahlukeneyo njengoko nina nobabini niya kuba nazi ngokupheleleyo!
Kungaba nzima ukubonakalisa okucacileyo kwaye kunokwenza ukuba nobabini nizive ningonwabanga.
Endaweni yoko, yitsho into malunga nokuba ungathanda ukubamba kwaye uve iindaba zabo, kwaye ubuze ukuba bafuna ukuthatha ikofu okanye ukusela.
Jonga indlela abaphendula ngayo-iyakucaca gca ukuba bayakuphoxa ngempendulo eqhelekileyo, kwaye (kwaye sinengcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana nale ingezantsi), kodwa uya kuba nakho baxelele ukuba banomdla wokukubona.
Indlela yokwenza ukuhlangana.
Ke… le yinto eyoyikisayo kubantu abaninzi!
Ingaphantse ibe ngathi uya kudliwanondlebe nomsebenzi, kwaye unokuziva unovalo kwaye ungaqinisekanga ngendlela omele wenze ngayo.
uyeke njani ukuziva unetyala ngokukopela
Kuyamangalisa ukubona umntu obukhululekile kuye kwaye ngoku akasondelanga kuye, ke zilungiselele ukuba uzive ungaqhelekanga.
Yinto eqhelekileyo ukuba uzive ukhathazekile, nokuba, xa ubona umntu okokuqala kwixesha elide- inokuqaqambisa ukuba zingakanani izinto eziguqukileyo phakathi kwakho kwaye kunokuba lusizi ukuziqonda.
Zinike intetho encinci okanye uthethe nabanye abahlobo ebomini bakho - banokudlula kwinto efanayo kwaye baya kuba nakho ukukunceda ukuba usebenze ngendlela oziva ngayo kunye nendlela yokulungela.
Ngokwentlanganiso eyiyo, jonga ukuba loluphi uhlobo lwe-vibe oyifumanayo. Iglasi yewayini (okanye enye into) inokunceda! Ayisiyo ngoba ufuna ukunxila ukuze uchithe ixesha nabo, kodwa kuba inokukunceda uphumle kwaye ukhuthaze isimilo sendalo.
Iya kulahla imithambo-luvo onokuziva kwaye ungaziva kamnandi kwaye uqhelekile ukuba yinto eniyenzileyo nobabini.
Ukuba awuseli, khetha ivenkile yekofu entle, ethuleyo. Awufuni nto ingxola kwaye iphazamise ukuba usokole ukugxila komnye nomnye, kodwa uya kufuna ingxolo encinci yengxolo yangasemva kunye nomsebenzi ukuze kungabikho xinzelelo kuncinci kuni nobabini.
Ungayenza njani kwaye uqhagamshele njani kwakhona.
Ukwenza njani?
Kuqhelekile!
Ingabonakala njengeengcebiso ezingenangqondo, kodwa abantu abaninzi abazi ukuba benze njani phambi kwabantu abangabonanga ixesha elide.
Yiba nguwe ngokwakho - babekwazi ngaphambili kwaye bakuthanda, ngenxa yoko akukho mfuneko yokuba uzive uneentloni okanye ngathi kufuneka ubenze ngendlela ethile.
Ukuba ivela kwincoko, ungalivuma ixesha kunye nomgama. Awudingi ukwenza into enkulu ngayo, njengoko nobabini niza kuyazi kakuhle phofu.
Akufuneki nawe uvakalelwe kukuba kufuneka ucele uxolo -Ukuba uziva ungokwemvelo, yiya kuyo, kodwa musa ukuyinyanzela okanye wenze izizathu ezingeyonyani, njengoko iya kubonakala ngokucacileyo kwaye ingonwabisi.
Yiba ngumntu wakho othandekayo-ubukufuphi ngexesha elithile ngaphambili, ukuze uyazi into enifana ngayo nento abayithandayo / abangayithandiyo.
Yigcine iyinyani, kodwa kananjalo zama ukuphosa iinkumbulo ezithile ezihlekisayo onokuzikhumbuza kunye kunye nokulahla izinto ezimbalwa owaziyo ukuba baya kuphendula kuzo!
Ukuba uyazi ukuba bayamthanda umdlali othile, yiza nefilimu yabo yamva nje - isenokubonakala ngathi iyabhanxa okanye ithi thaa ‘lithemba,’ kodwa iya kunibuyisela kumhlaba ofanayo kwaye niyonwaba nobabini.
Khumbula ukuba nabo banokuziva benovalo, ke baya kukuxabisa ngokuzama ukuvula incoko kwaye wenze kube lula kubo.
Zama ukungazifaki uxinzelelo olukhulu kuwe okanye kubo - kukho isilingo kuthi sonke sokujonga umfanekiso 'ogqibeleleyo' waso nasiphi na isiganeko, kwaye inokusenza sizive sidanile xa ubomi bokwenyani bungaphili ngokuvisisana nayo.
Endaweni yokunyanzela nantoni na ukuba ‘igqibelele,’ yamkele ukuba le asiyondawo ifanelekileyo!
Uye wahlukana kwaye usenokuba ulahlekelwe bubuhlobo obuninzi nothando kwinkqubo-ke le ntlanganiso iluhlobo lokuqala ukusuka kwindawo esezantsi kunjalo (hayi ngendlela engalunganga!), Oko kuthetha ukuba inokunyuka kuphela.
Unethuba lokonwabela into enkulu kwakhona, ke zama ukukhululeka kwaye ungalindeli kakhulu - uyakumangaliswa.
Nyaniseka ngayo nayiphi na imithambo-luvo.
Oku kunxibelelana nokubuyela kule ndawo ingentla, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu, ke besifuna ukuba necandelo layo!
Yi-100% yendalo kwaye kulungile ukuziva unovalo-kwaye kulungile ukuba uthethe malunga noku.
Ukuba ukhe wazama ukuqhagamshela kwakhona ngeendlela esele sizidwelisile apha ngasentla, kodwa ayisebenzi, yinyani.
Yamkela ukuba uziva unovalo okanye ungonwabanga, okanye ungaqinisekanga ngendlela omele wenze ngayo. Le ayisiyonto imbi kwaphela-eneneni, ibonisa ukuba uyakhathala kwaye ufuna ukuba izinto zihambe kakuhle.
Njengoko kukhankanyiwe, mhlawumbi baziva ngendlela efanayo. Ngelixa ungadingi kungena kumanqanaba amakhulu eenkcukacha, kuya kufuneka uzive ukhululekile ukuthi unovalo.
Kwaye, ngenxa yokuba ubuqhele ukusondela kubo, ngokuqinisekileyo sele besazi kakade!
Lo mntu wayekhe wangumhlobo wakho osenyongweni kwaye wakwazi kakuhle- oko kuthetha ukuba abazokukugweba ngokuziva ukhathazekile okanye ungakhululekanga oko kuthetha ukuba bakhathalele kwaye basakhathala.
Khumbula ukuba ukunyaniseka kuyinto elungileyo, nokuba kuyothusa, kwaye ngekhe babekhona ukuba abafuni kubakho.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
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- Iimpawu ezingama-25 zoMhlobo olungileyo
Musa ukulindela ukwazi yonke into.
Enye yezinto uninzi lwabantu oluyifumanayo iyothusa okanye inzima xa unxibelelana kwakhona nomhlobo wakudala isithuba.
Umsantsa lixesha lokuba uye waqhekeka apho kwenzeka khona izinto ezininzi- izinto obungazi nto ngazo.
Ukudibana nomntu ongakhange uthethe naye kunokuba yinto entle, kodwa kunokuba nzima ukuphendula 'Ke, ubusenza ntoni?' xa ungakhange uzibone iminyaka embalwa!
Yamkela ukuba ngekhe wazi yonke into eyenzekileyo ebomini babo , Nokuba ubalandela kwi-Instagram.
Zilungiselele ukuva ezinye izinto ubungazi nto ngazo-kwaye uzilungiselele ukungalungi kuloo nto.
Ingaziva ingonwabanga, okanye ibuhlungu nokuba, ukuva izinto ezenzekileyo ongakhange uxelelwe ngazo ngelo xesha.
Basenokuba batshatile, okanye baqhawula umtshato, baphulukana nomsebenzi wabo okanye banyuselwa- nokuba ziindaba ezilungileyo okanye ezimbi, inokuziva ngathi yinto encinci yokutya ukwazi ukuba awungomnye wabantu ababethethile ngelo xesha .
Zama ukukhumbula ukuba oku kulungile. Ayisiyonto yobuqu ukuba wawungekho kufutshane ngelo xesha.
Kulula ukuziva ngesiquphe ushiywe ngaphandle okanye ushiywe ngasemva, kodwa zama ukugqitha koko.
Usenokuba wabelane ngazo zonke iindaba zakho kunye nabo njengoko kwenzekileyo okanye ngekhe babe ngabokuqala, okanye nkqu Isithathu , umntu obucinga ukumfowunela xa ufumana umsebenzi wakho omtsha.
Musa ukukhathazeka ngokuba wawungekho 'kwisangqa sangaphakathi' ngelo xesha, kwaye jolisa nje ukuba uyafuna ukubuyela kuyo kwaye ungayenza njani loo nto.
Qiniseka ukuba uyalandelela.
Nokuba nobabini nibe nexesha elimnandi ekubambeni, kusenokubakho uxinzelelo okanye ukudideka kumanyathelo alandelayo.
Nikonwabele ukubonana, kodwa ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba niphinde nabahlobo?
Ngaba niyaya kwenye ikofu kunye kwiveki ezayo okanye ngaba ikwayinto entle, yokuvala-ikofu?
Yiyo loo nto ukulandela kubaluleke kangaka!
Musa ukuba neemvakalelo kakhulu kwisicatshulwa sokulandela, kodwa khankanya ukuba ubuthandile ukubabona kwaye ufuna ukuyenza kwakhona ngelinye ixesha.
Sonke siyazi ukuba, njengabantu abadala, 'ukuyenza kwakhona ngelinye ixesha' kunokuba yinto ephucukileyo yokuxubha kwaye awusoze uphinde uthethe.
Kungenxa yoko le nto ingumbono olungileyo ukucebisa umhla - 'Ukuthanda ukukubona, bekumnandi ukufumana! Ukhangeleka njani -iglasi yewayini elandelayo ngoLwesine olandelayo? '
Oku kuyenza icace gca into yokuba uneenjongo zokwenyani emva kwesiphakamiso- kubonisa ukuba ufuna ukuzibophelela ekubaboneni kwaye uwaxabise.
uyeke njani ukuba nzulu malunga nembonakalo
Oku kuya kubanceda baqonde ukuba uzimisele (banokucinga wena bebeza kuxubha kubo off!) Kwaye ibanika ukuphuma ukuba abazi ukuba bangathi hayi.
Banokuthi baxakekile ngalo mhla kwaye bangacebisi omnye umhla-kwimeko leyo, ngelishwa, uyazi ukuba ume phi.
Okanye banokuthi ewe okanye bacebise omnye umhla ukuba baxakekile.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, ukuthumela umyalezo emva kokubona umhlobo okokuqala kwixesha elide kuyindlela elungileyo yokulinganisa i-vibe kwaye ubone ukuba ngawaphi amanyathelo alandelayo.
Indlela yokujongana nokwaliwa.
Ke, ukubuyela umva kwinqanaba lokuqala apho ucebisa ukuxhonywa, kuthekani ukuba bathi hayi?
Oku kuyakuziva kungqubana ngenene- kwelinye icala, khange uthethe ixesha elide nokuba kunjalo. Kwelinye icala, inokuziva ingamkelwa, kwaye akukho mntu uthanda ukwaliwa.
Unokhetho oluninzi apha:
1. Buza kwakhona.
Sukutyhala kakhulu, kodwa ungacebisa ngolunye usuku okanye into yokwenza.
Ukuba bathe hayi kwikofu ngolwesiHlanu, babuze ukuba bafuna ukuthatha isiselo kunye nawe kunye nabahlobo bakho kwiveki elandelayo.
Jonga ukuba bayayithanda na imovie (akukho ukuthetha, uxinzelelo oluncinci!) Endaweni yesidlo sangokuhlwa (ukuzibophelela okukhulu!) Okanye iklasi yeyoga endaweni yosuku kunye nabantwana bakho.
2. Yiyeke ihambe.
Yamkela ukuba abafuni ukuphinda banxibelelane kwaye wenze konke okusemandleni akho ukuba uqhubeke. Yenye nje yezo zinto kwaye akukho nto ingako ungayenzayo.
Zikhumbuze ukuba awuphoswa nyhani, njengoko bebengekho ebomini bakho okwethutyana.
Unabanye abahlobo abakuxabisileyo kwaye babona ukubaluleka kokuchitha ixesha kunye nawe. Uye wemka kulo mhlobo ngesizathu, ke, ngaphandle kokukrakra, yiyeke ihambe.
3. Fumana ukuvalwa.
Ukuba awusiqondi isizathu sokuba bengakuphendulanga okanye bathe nje hayi / benze isingxengxezo-sokukhala, unokufuna ukuvalwa.
Cinga kakuhle malunga nokuba kutheni benokuba madolw 'anzima, okanye badelele, ngokungakuboni.
Ngaba izinto zaphela kakubi? Ngaba ukonile kubo ngandlel 'ithile? Ngaba bathumele kutshanje malunga noqhawulo mtshato kwaye mhlawumbi ixesha lilibi nje?
Ukuba awukwazi ukwenza into enokuba uzibekela ecaleni, ungabuza. Awunanto ilahlekileyo okwangoku, kungoko unokufumana kwaye ufumane indlela yokuqhubela phambili.
Kungenzeka ukuba izinto aziphelelanga kakuhle phakathi kwenu okanye izinto zitshintshile okoko nanibonana, kodwa kulungile ukuba uqonde ukuba kutheni kwaye emva koko ube nokuvalwa ukuze ukwazi ukuqhubeka.
Ke, apho unayo - ezinye iingcebiso ngendlela yokudibana kwakhona nomhlobo ongakhange umbone ixesha elide. Ingangxola okanye ibe mbi okanye iphazamise, kodwa isenokuba sesona sigqibo sihle osenzayo.
