Ngewungazange ucinge ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu omthanda ngokwaneleyo ukuba ungatshata angajika ngequbuliso akuphathe njengenkomo yakhe yemali…
… Kodwa ukuba ufunda eli nqaku, kusenokwenzeka ukuba yile meko ujongene nayo ngoku.
Ukuba umyeni / inkosikazi yakho iyala ukusebenza ngaphandle kwesizathu esivakalayo, mhlawumbi uziva unomsindo, unxunguphalo, kunye nokudideka.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngaphandle kokuba uhlala kwindlela yokuphila eyoneleyo ngokupheleleyo kwenye indawo, kuyakufuneka wenze uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi ukuze ufumane imali yokutya, indawo yokuhlala, kunye nezinye izinto eziyimfuneko.
Ke kutheni, ukuba ubambisene nabo, ngaba ulindelwe (okanye unyanzelwe ukuba) uwuthwale wedwa umthwalo?
Ukuba umyeni okanye inkosikazi yakho ayizukusebenza ngaphandle kokukhetha, masiqwalasele indlela onokuthi ufike ngayo apha, kunye nento onokuyenza ngayo ngoku.
Yintoni “ukwala ukusebenza kwesifo”?
Ngamagama alula, ngaphandle kokuba umntu akanakusebenza ngenxa yokonakala kwekhonkrithi ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni, ukwala ukusebenza kwesifo kudla ngokubonakaliswa ngumntu ongafuni kusebenza.
Baya kufumana nasiphi na isizathu esinokubakho sokuphepha ukusebenza , ukungabinakho ukufumana umsebenzi owanelisayo kwicandelo labo, ukuya kunyanzelisa ukuba kufuneka bahlale ekhaya kuba umntwana wabo okanye ikati bayazidinga apho.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuba kwaye xa bejamelene nesiphelo, baya kukrokra banikezele kwaye bafumane umsebenzi… kuphela ukwenza into ukuze bagxothwe, okanye basebenze ixesha elide ngokwaneleyo ukuze bakwazi ukufumana izibonelelo zokungaqeshwa.
Bafuna wena, iqabane lakho, ukubaxhasa ngemali, kwaye kuko konke oko.
Ngaba basebenze ngaphambi kokuba utshate?
Umyeni okanye umfazi wakho wayezixhasa njani phambi kokuba ungene emfanekisweni?
Ngaba babehlala ekhaya nabazali babo? Okanye ngaba babenesibonelelo esivumela ukuba bahlawule ukutya / irente ngaphandle kokuyisebenzela?
Ukuba bayasebenza, kwenzeka ntoni kulo msebenzi? Ngaba badendwa? Ngaba bayeka?
Kuyaqondakala ukuba umzali unokufuna ukuhlala ekhaya nabantwana abancinci kakhulu, kodwa xa sele befunde ixesha elipheleleyo, akukho sizathu sokuba lo mzali angabuyeli emsebenzini, ubuncinci bexeshana.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba elinye iqabane kuye kwafuneka lithathe ikhefu ngenxa yokwenzakala okunxulumene nomsebenzi, kwaye khange bakhubazeke ngokusisigxina, kufanele ukuba bakwazi ukubuyela kulo bakube baphilile.
Abanye abantu bayayichasa imbono yokubuyela kwikhondo abalithiyileyo emva kokuthatha ikhefu kuyo, kwaye bazame ukunqanda ukubuyela kulaa ntsimi. Ukuba kunjalo, iqabane lakho kufuneka lichonge ukuba bafuna ukwenza ntoni na, kwaye baqhubeke noqeqesho lomsebenzi ukuze bakwazi ukusebenza kuloo ndawo endaweni yoko.
Banokuhlala behleli-ekusebenzeni kuphela uhlobo lomsebenzi abawuthandayo, kwaye ukuba abanako oko-mhlawumbi ngenxa yokuba kungekho mathuba emisebenzi, okanye abafanelekanga ngokwaneleyo-ke bayala ukusebenza ngokupheleleyo .
Kodwa ukwenza kuphela into esiyithandayo akusoloko kuyinto ekunokukhethwa kuyo, ngakumbi ngamaxesha obunzima bezezimali.
ukuba wenzeni xa ndikruqukile
Konke okuthethileyo, ukuba iqabane lakho alizukusebenza kuba abafuni, kulungile. Oko ngokwenene akunakukhetha, akunjalo?
Ke kwenzeka ntoni apha, ngokuchanekileyo?
Babunjani ubudlelwane babo bangaphambili?
Jonga imbali yokuthandana kwalo mntu. Oku kulula ngokubanzi ukuba uyazi enye ye exes zabo, okanye ukuba uyabazi abantu ebebengabahlobo kunye nabo iminyaka eliqela, njengoko benokukwazi ukunika ulwazi.
Umzekelo, ngaba bakwenzile umkhwa wokuphila ngamaqabane angaphambili? Ngaba bahlala benqaba ukufumana umsebenzi?
Ngaba lo mntu unembali ye-serial monogamy apho kwenzeka nje ukuba baphulukane nomsebenzi ngokukhawuleza emva kokuba bekhuselekile kubudlelwane babo, oko ke kunyanzela iqabane labo ukuba libaxhase ngemali?
Okanye, kungenjalo, ngaba baxela amava amabi adlulileyo kuwe ukuze benze isiphumo esahlukileyo kunalesi babesifumene ngaphambili?
Le yimeko eyenzeka rhoqo kunokuba unokuqonda. Umntu angadinwa ngokupheleleyo kukuba ngumondli ophambili kubudlelwane, kwaye xa ephela kwaye bazibandakanya nomnye umntu, bathatha isigqibo sokuba le ixesha, baya kuvumela omnye umntu axhase kubo endaweni yoko.
Eyona nto ibalulekileyo, bacaphukisa ingqumbo yabo kunye nokwenzakala kulwalamano lwabo oludlulileyo ukuya kuwe, kwaye bohlwaya ngenxa yokuziphatha kwamanye amaqabane ngokwala ukusebenza.
Unyanzelekile ukuba ube lirhamncwa lomthwalo nangona ungakhange wenze nantoni na ukuze ulungele olo hlobo lokuziphatha gwenxa.
Sasiyintoni isivumelwano sakho somtshato?
Ngamagama alula, ngaba uye wakugubungela oku njengenxalenye yesivumelwano somtshato?
Ngaba ibikhona ingxoxo kunye nokuqondana apho uvumile ukuba kuphela komondli apha?
Okanye ngaba le yayiyinto nje abakumangalisileyo ngayo kwaye bayilahla kuwe?
Ukuba le yinto ovumelene ngayo ngaxa lithile, kwaye awunako ukuqhubeka usenza oko kuba ikophula, lixesha lokuba uphinde uthethathethane ngesivumelwano sobudlelwane.
Lo mntu uliqabane lakho lobomi, kwaye ukuba bayakuthanda kwaye bakuhloniphe njengoko bebanga njalo, baya kuphakama baphathe isabelo sabo sendleko zobomi.
Ngenye indlela, ukuba oku bekungavunyelwanga kwaphela kwaye bathathe isigqibo sokuba abafuni kusebenza, kuya kufuneka uyenze icace into yokuba ayamkelekanga.
Chaza ngokungathandabuzekiyo ukuba awuzange utyikitye ngale nto, kwaye bakuphatha njengekhoboka kunokuba ulingane.
Lungisa lo mbandela neqabane lakho ngqo, nangoko.
Ukuba ujonga indlela yokujongana neqabane elingazukusebenza, mhlawumbi uya ukhathazeka kwaye ucaphuke. Kwaye ndidiniwe.
Kunzima ngokwaneleyo ukusebenza ukuze uzixhase ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa ukuba nguwe wedwa oxhasa abantu abadala ababini - nabantwana, ukuba unabo- kuya kufuneka uzive uphuke mpela. Kwaye oko akulunganga nangaluphi na ulwazelelelo lweengcinga.
Oku akuyi kuba yincoko emnandi, kodwa kuyakufuneka uhlale phantsi neqabane lakho kwaye nithethe ngokunyanisekileyo ngokwala kwabo ukusebenza.
Imibongo emva kokuswelekelwa ngumntu omthandayo
Yenza kucace gca ukuba awukwazi, kwaye ngekhe, ube ngumondli yedwa. Ukuba kufuneka bafumane umsebenzi kwaye baqale ukunikela ngemali ngokukhawuleza.
Ngokuqinisekileyo baya kuza nezizathu zokuba kutheni bengakwazi, kodwa ngaphandle kokuba baphantsi komyalelo womboneleli wezempilo ukuba bangasebenzi, zonke ezo zinto zi-bullsh * t. Uxolo.
Ukuba babanga imiba yezempilo yengqondo njengesizathu sokungasebenzi, kwaye ucinga ukuba kukho ubunyani apho, ke qiniseka ukuba bafumane unyango kunye namayeza.
Ukuba ugqirha wabo wezifo zengqondo okanye ugqirha wengqondo ugqiba ukuba hayi, abanakho ukusebenza ngenxa yokukhubazeka kwengqondo, emva koko banokufaka isicelo seenzuzo zokukhubazeka. Ngale ndlela okungenani banikela ngemali.
Ungamkeli impendulo apha. Ukuba imiba yabo yengqondo / yeemvakalelo imbi kangangokuba ibagcina ekusebenzeni, ke bona babi ngokwaneleyo ukuba bafanele ukufumana iingcebiso.
Ukuba bayala, kwaye bafuna nje ukuba ubakhathalele ngelixa beziphethe njengama-parasites, emva koko kuya kufuneka uthathe amanyathelo aqatha.
Zilungiselele ukubasika kwaye uhambe ukuba abaqali ukusebenza NGOKU.
Ekuphandeni eli nqaku, ndithethile nomntu omnye onomlingane weminyaka eli-15 ogqibe kwelokuba abafuni kuphinda basebenze, kuba ukwenza njalo kubenza bazive ngathi likhoboka.
Elo qabane alikhange libonakale liqonda, okanye lingakhathali, ukuba ukhetho lwabo apha lubeka umthwalo onzima kwiqabane labo. Endaweni yokuba, kugxilwe kubo kukwezona mfuno kunye neemfuno zabo.
Akukho ndawo apho oku kulungile.
Ukuba ukwimeko apho umyeni okanye inkosikazi yakho inokuthi ingasebenzi okanye ishiye umsebenzi ngenjongo kuba bengawuthandi- kwaye ufuna ukuhlala kobu budlelwane-kuyakufuneka uthethe ungathandekiyo njengo okhankanywe ngaphambili.
Kuya kufuneka ulandele amanyathelo angqingqwa. Oku kunokubandakanya:
- Ukucima ii-akhawunti zebhanki ezidibeneyo kunye namakhadi etyala.
- Ukungabhataleli omnye umntu ukutya okanye iindleko zobuqu.
- Ukuyekisa ukusebenzisa kwabo isithuthi sosapho, kuba bengahlawuli irhasi okanye ulondolozo.
Ukubiza nje ezimbalwa.
Ukuba bayabhomboloza kwaye bakhalaza ukuba oku akulunganga, bacacise kubo ukuba indlela abaziphethe ngayo ayikhange ilunge, kwaye ngekhe uqhubeke ukuba yinxalenye yolu hlobo lolwalamano olungalinganiyo.
Kwaye ngaphandle kokuba ufuna ukuchitha amashumi eminyaka ezayo ukuxhasa aba nobabini ngesandla esinye, kuya kufuneka ubambe nkqi ukukholelwa kwakho, apha. Kuya kufuneka ulungele ukuhamba ukuba banyanzelisa ukuba bakuphathe njengekhoboka labo.
Ngaphandle koko, ukhetha ukuba mnye.
Abalingane bethu ngamaqabane alinganayo, abaxhomekekanga kubantwana.
Uninzi lwabantu olungakhange lusebenze ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zobuntwana zisenokuba nomnqweno wokuzingca, wobuntwana wokukhathalelwa.
Oku kunokuhambelana nomama okanye imiba katata, nokuba kungenxa yokuncamathisela ngaphezulu okanye ukushiya.
Endaweni yokwenza umsebenzi wokudlula kwezi ukuze bakwazi ukuzimela, basebenze njengabantu abadala, baphinde baziphathe njengabantwana xa beziva bekhululekile kwaye bekhuselekile kubudlelwane.
Ukutshata okanye ukuzibophelela kwimanyano yoluntu kungenza abantu abaninzi bazive bekhuselekile kwaye bekhululekile, ngelo xesha bayayeka ukuzenza izinto ezahlukeneyo ababezicingela ukuza kuthi ga ngelo xesha. Ngequbuliso, baveza ukuba abafuni kusebenza, kwaye ke ngekhe.
Bakhuselekile, ngoku. Baziva ngathi banokhuselo kunye nenkxaso enxitywe nge-iron, ke ngoko baqulathe ngokupheleleyo imfuno yabo yokuba nobudlelwane bobuzali nawe: ungoyena mzali, kwaye baxhomekeke kubo.
Kufana nohlobo nokuba loluphi uphuhliso olubanjiweyo, okanye ukuxhomekeka kwinqanaba lokufikisa abonwabe ngakumbi kwaye banelisekile.
Kodwa ngubani ofuna ukutshata nomntu abambona njengomntwana wabo?
Umntu angatsala njani ngokwesondo kumntu oxhomekeke kubo, kwaye angabahloniphi?
Ukuba bafuna ukuthandwa nokuhlonitshwa nguwe kwaye baphathwe njengolinganayo nawe, kuya kufuneka ke benyuke kwaye baqale ukuziphatha ngale ndlela.
Oku kunokubonakala kungqwabalala, kodwa amaxesha anzima afuna amanyathelo okuphelelwa.
Yenza oku kucace gca kumyeni / kwinkosikazi yakho, kwaye yazise ukuba ngaphandle kokuba bafumana umsebenzi bayeke ukuxhomekeka kuwe, baya kudinga ukufumana umsebenzi wokuzixhasa.
Awusayi kwenza njalo kwakhona.
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