Sonke besikwimeko apho umntu esimkhathaleleyo aziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo kuthi.
Ngamanye amaxesha kusisiphumo esithe ngqo semeko ebesikuyo (njengempikiswano), kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sinyanisekile ukuba asiyazi into enokuba ibangelwe yintoni.
Xa singazi ukuba kutheni umhlobo engasihoyi, okanye emfutshane nathi xa sithetha, kunzima ukwazi apho uqala khona ukulungisa izinto.
Nokuba uzama ukubabuyisela ebomini bakho, ubenze bakuxolele ngento oyenzileyo, okanye bathethe nje nawe malunga nento enokubakhathaza, nanga amanyathelo aqinileyo onokuwathatha.
1. Qiniseka ukuba banomsindo kuwe.
Ngaphambi kokuzama ukufumanisa ukuba ungazenza njani izinto ngokulungelelene nomntu, licebo elihle ukufumanisa ukuba ingaba bayakucaphukisa na.
Kukho izizathu ezizigidi zokuba kutheni umntu enokugcina umgama wabo, ezingenanto yakwenza nawe buqu.
Cinga ukuba mangaphi amaxesha umntu akubuze ukuba yintoni 'engalunganga' ngelahleko yokucinga, okanye ubuze ukuba kutheni usothuka kubo xa ufuna nje ixesha lokusebenza ngento yobuqu.
Abantu abaninzi babaleka bodwa xa bedlula kwiimeko ezinzima , kwaye ungaqondi ukuba izenzo zabo zingabachaphazela njani na abanye abantu.
Abahlobo babo kunye namalungu osapho banokuziva bengahoywanga, bengahoywanga, bekhutshiwe, njl.
Aba bantu bayazivalela nje kwaye balahleke kwiingcinga nakwiimvakalelo zabo de babe banokucaca malunga nomxholo.
Ngenxa yoko, ukuba uzibona ujikeleza phantsi umngxuma womvundla wokuzama ukuqonda into onokuthi uyenze ukukhathaza umhlobo wakho, Buza kubo kwenzekantoni.
2. Zama ukuba nencoko evulekileyo.
Oku kunokwenzeka buqu, ngefowuni, okanye nge-imeyile ukuba nobabini nikhululekile ngokubhala kunokuthetha.
Yintoni ebalulekileyo ukuxoxa ngezinto ngokucacileyo nangokuvulekileyo kangangoko, ukuze nobabini niqonde umfanekiso omkhulu.
Khumbula ukuba imeko ihlala inamacala amathathu: inguqu yomntu ngamnye, kwaye kwenzeka ntoni kanye kanye.
Kungenxa yokuba abantu bahlala behluza iimeko ngamava abo ngaphambi kokuba bacinge nangokubona umfanekiso omkhulu.
Sine-assortment ebanzi yeemvakalelo kunye nezinto ezibangela ukuba abanye bangade bazi.
Ngenxa yoko, amagqabantshintshi anokujongwa ngenye indlela sisithethi ngamanye amaxesha atolikwa ngokwahluke ngokupheleleyo ngulowo uvayo.
Oku ke kungaphephelwa ngaphandle komlinganiso, kwaye kukhokelele kwiimvakalelo ezibi kakhulu.
indlela yokujonga ishishini lam
Unxibelelwano lubaluleke kakhulu kuzo zonke iintlobo zobudlelwane, kodwa luyanzima kuba asinakukwazi ukungena kwiingcinga neemvakalelo zabanye.
Kuya kufuneka sithembele kunqakrazo olunamazwi kunye neebuzz ukuzama ukufikelela imiyalezo yethu, kwaye sithetha ntoni ayisiyiyo le nto ayivayo omnye umntu.
Ukuba ujongana nolu hlobo lweemeko, zama ukucacisa kangangoko malunga necala lakho lezinto.
Nje ukuba bakuxelele ukuba kutheni bekhathazekile, unethuba lokuchaza ukuba uvelaphi, kwaye kutheni uthethile okanye uziphethe ngale ndlela wenze ngayo.
Ngokunjalo, ibanika indawo efanayo yokuchaza ukuba bawachaze njani amagama / izenzo zakho, kunye nendlela abavakalelwa ngayo malunga nemeko yonke.
Ngayo nayiphi na ithamsanqa, unokuwucoca umoya ngokupheleleyo, kwaye uphephe ukuba nemicimbi efanayo kwixa elizayo.
3. Indlela yokujongana nazo ungakuhoyi.
Ewe. Kulungile, eli lirhamncwa elahlukileyo ukujongana nalo.
Ngokucacileyo kulula kakhulu ukucoca umoya nomntu onxibelelana nawe.
Ukwenza izinto nomntu ongakuhoyiyo kunzima kakhulu.
Ngaba wenze iinzame ezininzi zokubafumana kumajelo ahlukeneyo , kwaye bayala nje ukuthetha nawe?
Sithetha ngezinto ezinje ngokushiya imiyalezo yakho ekwi-intanethi ku- 'funda,' kodwa ungaphenduli, kunye nokungabuyisi iifowuni, ii-imeyile, iileta ezibhaliweyo, njl.
Ukuba kunjalo, licebo elihle fikelela kwabanye kwisangqa sakho ekwabelwana ngaso.
Thetha nabahlobo kunye namalungu osapho, kwaye ubazise ukuba uzama ukufikelela kulo mntu kodwa awunalo ithamsanqa. Uya kufumana enye yezi mpendulo zilandelayo:
-Bazokwazisa ukuba / xa kusithiwa umhlobo uhamba ngexesha elinzima kwaye ufuna nje indawo ukuze asebenze ngayo, ngeloxesha unokufikelela kubo kwaye ubazise ukuba ulapha xa bekhona ' sikulungele ukuthetha.
-Bangakunika ukuqonda malunga nokuba kutheni umhlobo wakho engakuhoyi, njengokukuxelela ukuba uyamkhathaza, kwaye banike iingcebiso malunga nendlela onokuzilungisa ngayo.
-Ungazifumana usisiporho ngabahlobo bakho bobabini, ucebisa ukuba wenze into eyoyikekayo kwaye kuyakufuneka wenze izilungiso ezinzulu ukuba ufuna ukubuyisela lo mntu ebomini bakho.
-Basenokukungxolisa okanye babande kuwe, kwaye bakwazise ngaphandle kwamathandabuzo ukuba indlela oziphethe ngayo ibisoyikeka.
Nangona kunjalo bayaphendula (kwaye ukuthula kuyimpendulo kuyo yonke eyayo), uya kuba nakho ukufumanisa ngakumbi ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umntu omkhathaleleyo engakuniki ixesha losuku.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Indlela yokucela uxolo ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ngokuchanekileyo kwaye uyithetha
- Ungayibonisa njani intlonipho kwabanye (+ Kutheni ibalulekile ebomini)
- Ukuba Ungcatshwe Ngumhlobo, Nantsi Into Ofanele Uyenze
4. Yiba ngowakho ukuba yijerkface.
Siyamosha ngamanye amaxesha.
Ngapha koko, sinokuphazamisa kakhulu ngamanye amaxesha, senzakalise abanye abantu kakhulu kwinkqubo.
Oku kuziphatha kuhlala kungenanjongo, kwaye kuhlala kuvela xa sixinaniswe zizinto zethu ukuze siziqonde kakuhle izinto esizenzayo, okanye ukuba sinxilile kwaye siziphethe njengezidenge.
Ukuba yeyokugqibela, usenokungakhumbuli nokuba ubutheni okanye wenze ntoni. Asizizo ngqo xa siphantsi kwempembelelo zeziyobisi ezinxilisayo, kodwa oko akuthetheleli sh * tty yokuziphatha. Iyayicacisa, kodwa ayiyithetheleli.
Ngaba kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba wenzeni, ungumnikazi wokuziphatha-nokuba uziva uneentloni ngayo.
Unokuhendeka ukuba uthi awukhumbuli uziphatha ngale ndlela kuba uneentloni, kodwa ukuba ufuna ngenene ukulungisa izinto nalo mntu, kuya kufuneka utye ipayi yakho ethobekileyo kwaye thatha uxanduva ngezenzo zakho .
Ukuba ngokunyanisekileyo awukhumbuli okwenzekileyo, babuze ukuba ubutheni okanye wenze ntoni. Kunganzima ukukuva, kodwa ikwabalulekile.
5. Yamkela indlela amazwi okanye izenzo zakho ezibachaphazele ngayo.
Kunokuba nzima ukwamkela ukuba senzakalise omnye umntu, ngakumbi ukuba into ebenzakalisileyo ayisiyonto ingasiphazamisa.
Abanye abantu bade babhenele ekukhanyiseni igesi ukuze baphelise ityala labo ngezenzo zabo zokungakhathali.
Impendulo yokuqala inokuba kukuqhwanyaza: Ukunyanzelisa ukuba into oyithethileyo okanye oyenzileyo ayiyonto imbi, okanye ayinakuba / bekungafanele ukuba ibacaphukisile wena .
Into kukuba, asinguwe ocaphukileyo, apha. Ngabo.
I-finn balor kunye nobudlelwane be-bayley
Kwaye iimpendulo zabo ngokweemvakalelo kufuneka zivunywe, zihlonitshwe, kwaye ziqondwe, nokuba asivumelani nabo.
Kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba sahlukile, kwaye asinakulindela ukuba abanye basabele kwizinto ngendlela esenza ngayo. Inokuba ilunge ngakumbi kuthi ukuba benzile, kodwa ayiyonyani.
Ngapha koko, ayisebenzi kumava obomi bomnye umntu xa umntu ebazisa ukuba bacinge, bazive, okanye baziphathe ngendlela ethile.
Ukuba ngenene uziva ngathi khange wenze nto imbi, ungabaphendula ngokuthi awusiqondi isizathu sokuba bonzakale, kodwa uyaqonda ukuba uyabacaphukisa, kwaye uyazisola.
Oku kuyawavuma kwaye kuyawaqinisekisa amava abo ngaphandle kokukuxhobisa.
6. Buza ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba ungalungisa njani.
Njengaye wonke umntu unamabala abo abuthathaka, banazo neendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuqonda kunye xolela omnye ngokuziphatha kwabo.
andikuthandi ukuba phakathi kwabantu
Uyazi ukuba zintlanu kanjani “iilwimi zothando”? Ezi zinxulumene nendlela esibaqonda ngayo okanye esibaxolela ngayo abanye abantu.
Ukuba awuqhelekanga kwezi lwimi, ungafunda ngakumbi ngazo Apha .
Ngokusisiseko, xa kufikwa kwintetho evakalayo yemvakalelo kunye nonxibelelwano, abantu baziphatha ngeendlela ezintlanu ezahlukeneyo:
- Amagama
Ixesha lomgangatho kunye
- Uthando lomzimba
- Imisebenzi yenkonzo
-Ukupha izipho
Abantu abohlukeneyo baya kubeka phezulu okanye ezantsi iphambili kwezi zintlanu, kuxhomekeke kubuntu babo.
Umzekelo, umntu obonakalisa uthando ngokunikela ngezipho uyakuyijonga eyona nto iphambili ngokubhekisele ekunikeni nasekufumaneni uthando.
Ngenxa yoko, baya kuphendula ngcono kumntu obanika isipho, kuba yile nto bayithatha njengeyona ibaluleke kakhulu.
Kuyafana nakumntu oxabise amagama kakhulu: uxolo olusuka entliziyweni (ngakumbi ileta ebhaliweyo abanokuyifunda kaninzi) kunokuthetha lukhulu kubo kunesipha okanye itrinket.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba uphendula njani umhlobo wakho, uya kuyazi indlela yokwenza nabo.
Ukuba akunjalo, cela iingcebiso kwabo basondeleyo kubo.
Eyona nto ilunge kakhulu, buza umhlobo wakho ukuba ungalungisa njani.
Zama ukuba ungakhathali malunga nayo, kodwa ke nyaniseka kakhulu kwaye uthembeke kwaye ubuze ukuba ungazilungisa njani izinto.
Ukuba bakukhathalele njengokuba ubakhathalele, kwaye bafuna wena ebomini babo, baya kukulungela ukudibana nawe ngenye indlela kwaye bakwazise ukuba ungasebenzisana njani ukulungisa umsantsa ophakathi kwakho.
Musa nje ukulalanisa ngokwakho ukuze uhambelane neemfuno zomnye umntu okanye okulindelweyo.
Ngoku, konke oku 'kwenza' izinto kuya kusiba nzima ngakumbi ukuba umhlobo wakho uziphethe ngokungekho ngqiqweni.
Ukuba uthethile okanye wenze into abangayithandiyo, kwaye bakucaphukisile kuba awuguquli indlela oziphethe ngayo ukuze ihambelane neemfuno zabo, emva koko ngabo abafuna ukwenza uphando olunzulu lomphefumlo.
Ukuthatha amanyathelo okwenza umhlobo ophambene kuwe ngumzamo oncomekayo, kodwa ukugcuma ingqalelo yomntu xa engenangqiqo akunjalo.
Unesimo sokuziphatha gwenxa, kwaye wenze konke onako ukulungisa.
Banokuvuma kwaye bayixabise imizamo yakho, okanye banokuphefumla. Konke kuxhomekeke kulomonakalo wenziwe, zeziphi izilungiso ezizanywayo, kwaye nokuba bayafuna na yamkele uxolo lwakho .
Nokuba yeyiphi indlela, eyakho isimilo esidibeneyo iya kuxela ikamva lobuhlobo bakho.
