Ungalujonga Njani Ishishini Lakho: Iingcebiso ezi-5 eziSebenzayo

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Kolu hambo lobomi lokukhangela uxolo oluncinci kunye nolonwabo, zimbalwa iindlela zokukhetha ezihlawula izabelo ezinkulu kunokufunda ngokujonga ishishini lakho.



Ukujonga ishishini lakho kunye nokuhlala ujonge kwinto yakho kususa ingxolo enkulu yemeko yomntu.

Abantu bangcolile. Baziva benesidingo sokulunga, ukuhleba, ukugweba, kunye nokuzibandakanya ekulweni ngokuziphatha ngalo lonke ixesha.



Ngamanye amaxesha kungenxa yesizathu esivakalayo kuba kukho into engalunganga ekufuneka ilungisiwe.

Ngamanye amaxesha, ayisosizathu esivakalayo. Banokudikwa nje kwaye banomdla wokubona umboniso, njengoko sihlala sibona kudumo lwenyani kumabonakude nakwinkcubeko yosaziwayo.

Umdlalo weqonga kunye nengxabano kunokuba mnandi. Akunakuphika oko. Kodwa ukuntywila kulo mdlalo kunye nembambano kuthetha ukukhetha ukuphazamisa uxolo lwakho lwengqondo.

Kutheni unxibelelwano ngamehlo kunzima kangaka

Ukubeka ingqalelo kwishishini lakho sisakhono ekufuneka sifundwe kwaye siziqhelanise nokuzisebenzisa ngokupheleleyo.

Makhe sijonge ezinye zezakhono eziza kukunceda ukufezekisa.

1. Kuphephe ukuhleba.

Abantu bathanda ukuhleba.

Ngubani ongathandi ukuva into emnandi ngomnye umntu?

Kuyachulumancisa ukuziva ngathi unolwazi ngedrama eqhubekayo.

Kodwa ikhona ingxaki ngalonto.

Ukuhleba kubangela ungquzulwano olungeyomfuneko kunye noxinzelelo ebomini bakho.

Ukuba uyahleba okanye ufumana intlebendwane, uzifaka ngabom kwishishini lomntu othile.

Abantu abayithandi loo nto. Ngokuqinisekileyo awuyithandi xa abanye abantu bebandakanyeka kwishishini lakho nokuba!

Kwaye kutheni ungayithandi?

Kukho isizathu esicacileyo sokuba akuyiyo ishishini lomnye umntu. Yeyakho.

umyeni wam akandithandi kodwa akazukuhamba

Esona sizathu singacacanga kukuba ukuhleba kuhlala kungabonakalisi ngokuchanekileyo imeko.

Ngokwesiqhelo kukho imingxunya ebalini, izizathu ezingaziwayo, okanye umntu osasaza intlebendwane ngokufefa incasa eyongezelelweyo ngaphezulu ukuze enze iscandal ibe sispicier.

Ukuhleba kunokubangelwa yinto enzulu kwaye ibuhlungu.

Owu, inencasa kwaye inika umdla kangangokuba uSharon wayenomlo wokuvutha nomyeni wakhe. Ayonwabisi kangako xa ufumanisa ukuba kutheni uSharon engakwazi ukukhulelwa, kwaye ikrazula ubudlelwane babo.

Kuphephe ukuhleba. Ayisiyonto intle.

Musa ukusasaza, musa ukuyifumana.

Ukuba umntu uzama ukusasaza kuwe, yithi kuye, “Kutheni undixelela le nto? Le asiyondaba yam. ”

Oko kuya kunxibelelana ngokucacileyo ukuba awunomdla kwintlebendwane.

2. Yamkela abanye abantu njengoko benjalo.

Sonke singabantu abaneziphene sizama ukwenza indlela yethu kwilizwe elinokudideka, elihlala lingenangqondo.

Abantu bahlala bexakanisekile kuba bezama ukusebenza ngokwenzakala kunye nentliziyo ebuhlungu abaye bayibona.

La mava eemvakalelo anokubangela ukungaziphathi kakuhle kunye nokukhetha okungathandabuzekiyo.

Eyona nto inkulu onokuyenza ukuze ufumane uxolo nabanye abantu kukuba ubamkele bangabo kwaye ungazami ukutshintsha okanye ukubalungisa.

Unokuthatha isigqibo sokuba ube nefuthe elihle kwaye ukhuthaze abantu abasendleleni yabo, kodwa awunakulungisa mntu ungomnye ngaphandle kwakho.

Ayikokwakho ukuba uyenze, hayi iqabane elithandanayo, hayi abantwana bakho, hayi nabani na ngaphandle kwakho.

Oko akuthethi ukuba kufuneka wamkele isimilo esibi okanye ungazami ukungenelela ukuba kusemandleni akho ukwenza njalo.

Kuphela kukuba kufuneka uqaphele kwaye wamkele ukuba kunqabile ngaphakathi kolawulo lwakho.

Ungaze unike iingcebiso ungazicelanga. Kwaye nokuba iyacelwa, ungafumanisa kungcono ukuba unganiki iingcebiso zokugcina uxolo lwakho ngokungazibandakanyi kwishishini labo.

3. Yamkela uxanduva lweengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zakho.

Silahlekelwa ngamandla ethu amaninzi kunye noxolo lwengqondo ngokunika iimvakalelo zethu kwabanye abantu.

Asikwazi ukulawula izenzo zabanye, kodwa sinokulawula indlela esabela ngayo kwezo zenzo.

Ewe, umntu othile angenza into embi kuwe, kwaye wena uya kuziva ulungile ukuba wenzakaliswe.

Intlungu yakho inokulunga kwaye ibe sengqiqweni. Kodwa ngaba bacinga njalo? Ngaba bayakhathala?

Basenokungakwazi. Ungonzakala, uzimele, kwaye ufumanise ukuba akuyi ndawo kuba omnye umntu uziva elungile kwizenzo zakhe.

Wenza ntoni ngale meko?

Ewe, uzikhumbuze ukuba izimvo zabo malunga nawe nendlela ophila ngayo azifanelekanga.

Ulawulo lwaseRoma kunye ne-usos

Ayilo shishini labo ngaphezu kokuba ubomi babo bili shishini lakho.

Bayeke bacinge ngayo nayiphi na inkunkuma abayifunayo kwaye baqhubeke nobomi bakho kunye neshishini lakho.

Oko akuthethi ukungahoyi konke ukungqubana ngokupheleleyo.

Ungquzulwano yinxalenye eyimfuneko yokunxibelelana kwabantu, ubuhlobo kunye nokwakha ubudlelwane. Uya kuba nokungavumelani nabantu osondele kubo, kwaye kulungile.

Ezo ngongoma zongquzulwano zisebenza njengeebhloko zokwakha ukomeleza ubudlelwane njengoko usebenza naloo mntu ukufumana izigqibo.

Kodwa, xa kufikwa kwabanye abantu abakugwebayo kunye nento oyenzayo, unokukhetha ukungakhathali.

Kunzima ukuyenza ekuqaleni, kodwa iba lula kokukhona uyenza.

ungayiphelisa njani into yokuthandana xa uphinde wathandana

Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):

4. Sukubumba izimvo ezingeyomfuneko.

'Ndidinga ukuba nombono malunga noku?'

Lo mbuzo ulula unokukugcina usizi oluninzi ekuhambeni kwexesha.

Njengabantu, siyathanda ukuba nezimvo malunga nezinto. Kodwa zingaphi izimvo ekufuneka sizenzile?

Impendulo ayininzi kwaphela.

Ukuba imeko okanye isenzo somnye umntu asikuchaphazeli, awunyanzelekanga ukuba ube noluvo ngayo, ngaphandle kokuba uzimisele ukubandakanyeka.

Kwakhona kunzima ukuba nombono onolwazi kuzo zonke izinto abantu abathanda ukuba nezimvo ngazo.

Kuhlala kukho isiqwenga solwazi esinokutshintsha imeko yemeko, ukuveza ukuba uluvo lwakho belungalunganga ngalo lonke elixesha.

Kwaye yintoni?

ndizimela njani

Akukho nto unokuyizuza ngokuba nemibono engeyomfuneko.

Banokukunceda ekubumbeni ukuqonda kwakho kunye nokunxibelelana nabanye, rhoqo ngendlela engalunganga. Oku kubangela ukugwetywa ngokungafanelekanga kunye nokungavisisani.

Bakuhlutha amandla emvakalelo ukuze uthele kwizinto ezibaluleke kakhulu, njengesizathu onokukholelwa kuso, usebenze ngokwakho, okanye ulungise ubomi bakho.

Gcina loo mandla kunye noxolo lwengqondo ngokubuza izimvo zakho.

5. Buza iimvakalelo zakho.

Imini yonke, yonke imihla sigutyungelwa ziimvakalelo malunga nezinto ezahlukeneyo.

Into ebalulekileyo ekufuneka uyikhumbule kukuba ayizizo zonke iimvakalelo ezilifanele ixesha lethu nengqwalaselo.

Sinokuziva ngathi kufuneka siphume kwindlela yethu kuba umoya othile usixelela ukuba kufuneka.

Kwaye uyazi ntoni? Inokuba kunjalo. Ngamanye amaxesha kuye kufuneke siphume ngaphandle kwendlela yethu.

Into ekufuneka siyibuze yona kukuba ingaba ezi mvakalelo ziyimfuneko na ukuze sisebenze ngazo.

Unokufumanisa ukuba ukungxamiseka, ukuphendula ngokweemvakalelo akukuncedisi kakuhle. Ukuzibandakanya kwishishini labanye kunokuba lolukhetho oluphosakeleyo ngenxa yokuba ungenalo ulwazi olwaneleyo lokusebenza.

Ekuphela kwendlela yokuthintela ezo mvakalelo kukuyeka ukubuza imvakalelo. Nje ukuba wenze njalo, unokuthatha isigqibo sokuphuma ngaphandle kwendlela yakho ukuba imeko ifuna ukuba uqwalaselwe.

Ukuzinononga kwenza ugqibelele.

Inkqubo yokukhokela ngokubonakalayo iingcinga kunye nezenzo zakho kwindlela yakho ifuna ukuziqhelanisa rhoqo.

Isenokungabi lula kuwe ekuqaleni, kodwa okukhona usenza, kokukhona kuya kuba lula.

Emva kwethutyana, uyakufumanisa ukuba unokuchonga ngokulula oko kwenzelwe wena kwaye uzilahle ngokulula ezinye.

Ukujonga ishishini lakho kuya kunciphisa amandla weemvakalelo owathululela kwihlabathi liphela, kukushiye ngakumbi ukuba usebenze ngoxolo lwengqondo kunye nemvisiswano.

Ubomi bunzima kakhulu kwaye bonwabile xa ungalwi amadabi angengawo awakho ukuba ulwe.