Ubamba umntu exokeni… kwaye kubuhlungu.
Uziva ukhaphukhaphu lweemvakalelo eziqala ukubhobhoza ngaphakathi kwakho.
Umsindo, ukothuka, ingqumbo, ukudana, usizi.
Kwaye oko kuqala nje.
Yonke le nto ishiya incasa embi emlonyeni wakho. Awudelwanga, uthotyiwe… usenokude uhambe uye kuthiwe uziva unyhashiwe.
Kwaye kukwaphula ukuthembana kwakho. Ukulingana okusebenzayo kunye neemvakalelo okwakhiwe phakathi kwakho nomenzi wobubi kuthotyelwe phantsi.
Ulwalamano lwakho lonakele.
Kodwa wenza ntoni ngayo?
Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokuphendula ubuxoki?
Ufanele ujongane njani nomntu okuxokisileyo?
Yintoni onokuyithetha kubo?
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ungagqitha njani ekuxokisweni?
Le yimibuzo enzima ukuyiphendula. Iimpendulo 'ezilungileyo' ziya kwahluka kumntu kumntu.
Kodwa sinako, ubuncinci, ukukunika umbono wokuba unganjani unamandla phendula kwaye yintoni oyenzayo unakho yenza.
Ngaba kufuneka ndishiye imibuzo yam yolwalamano
Phambi kokuba uqale ukucwangcisa eyona ndlela yokujongana nobuxoki, kufuneka ujonge ngokubanzi izinto…
Vavanya imeko kunye nomxholo
Kukho okunye ukuxoka kunokuba kudibana neliso. Ibinzana elinomtsalane, ewe, kodwa liphethe inyani eninzi (qaphela isigqebelo kwinqaku malunga nokuxoka).
Uyabona, ubuxoki abuxelelwa bodwa bodwa. Umntu othile uya kuba nesizathu sokuxoka, nokuba ezo zizathu zisenokungabonakali zinjalo kusengqiqweni .
Kwaye, nangona singenakukuthanda ukuyamkela, sonke sixoka kakhulu mihla le yobomi bethu.
Obu buxoki bumhlophe abubi ngelishwa, kodwa bayinxalenye ngokubanzi yokunxibelelana kwezentlalo kwaye ukwazi umntu .
Ungabuphila ubomi bakho ngokuthembeka okuthe cwaka, kodwa ungayifumana le ndlela iphazamisa ezinye iintsiba kwaye igxotha abantu.
Kodwa emva kwinqanaba… obu buxoki ubuxelelwe bungaphezulu kunokuba bekulindelwe njengenxalenye yesivumelwano sentlalontle sonke sibambe sithi cwaka.
Obu buxoki abunakujongwa njengesiqhelo sentlalo. Kubaluleke ngakumbi kunoko.
Ukufumana eyona ndlela yokuphendula kuyo, kufuneka kuqala sibuze imibuzo eliqela.
Ngubani oxokileyo?
Ukuxokiswa ngumntu osebenza naye omaziyo kuya kukucaphukisa ngandlel 'ithile, kodwa ngekhe kunganqumi kwithambo.
Ubuxoki obuxelwe ngumhlobo buya kwenzakalisa ngakumbi, nangona ubuzaza benxeba elenziwe buya kuxhomekeka ekubeni ungumhlobo nje oqhelekileyo okanye ungumhlobo olungileyo.
Ubuxoki buxelwe kubudlelwane obusondeleyo Izokuhlaba kwaye iya kujongela phantsi i ukusondelelana kunye nonxibelelwano onalo neqabane lakho .
Kwangokunjalo, ubuxoki obuthethwe ngamalungu osapho kuya kuthi kubangele iintlungu, iintlungu kunye nokuphanda umphefumlo.
Kutheni bexoka nje?
Ngamanye amaxesha, abantu baxoka ngenxa yokungazithembi, uloyiko, okanye uloyiko ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba bayayenza. Yindlela yokuphila yeentlobo.
Oko ayikokuthethelela ukuxoka nakanye. Kwaye ayenzi ukuba yamkelwe kancinci okanye yenzakalise.
Uninzi lwexesha, nangona kunjalo, abantu bayaqonda ukuba bayaxoka kwaye bathathe isigqibo esifanelekileyo sokuhamba nayo.
Oko akutsho ukuba kuhlala kunenjongo enobungozi okanye isizathu.
Abo ubuxoki obuncinci obumhlophe sonke sonke sixelela ukuba zihlala zenzelwe ukuthomalalisa ukugxekwa, okanye ukugcina amaqela omabini kwingxoxo engathandekiyo engafuneki yenzeke.
Xa umama wakho ekuxelela ukuba uyonwabele intyatyambo elungiselela iklasi owamthumelela yona ngomhla wakhe wokuzalwa - nokuba wayifumana ikhutshiwe kwaye iyadinisa - uxoka ukuze asindise iimvakalelo zakho.
Ezi ntlobo zobuxoki zixhaphakile kwaye nokuba kamva ufumene inyani, ungayiqonda ukuba kutheni eyithethile.
Olunye uhlobo lobuxoki Nangona kunjalo, akukho lula ukungahoyi okanye ukuxolela.
Sithetha ngobuxoki obuxeliweyo ukufihla ingcinga engamkelekanga, uluvo, okanye indlela yokuziphatha.
Obu buxoki ngamakrele antlangothi-mbini. Zibangela iintlungu kungekuphela ngenxa yenkohliso ebandakanyekayo, kodwa nangenxa yokuba zifihla inyaniso eyenzakalisayo ngokulinganayo.
Kutheni le nto abantu bethetha ezi ntlobo zobuxoki?
Elula:ukuzikhusela.
Baxela ubuxoki obungenanto ukuze baphephe isohlwayo okanye ityala.
Baxoka ukuze basindise izikhumba zabo.
Umenzi wobubi usenokubanga ukuba bebengafuni ukukwenzakalisa iimvakalelo zakho. Ngelixa oko kunokuba yinyani, kuza umzuzwana okukude malunga nokuba kutheni bekhethe ukuxoka.
Leyo yinxalenye yesizathu sokuba obu buxoki buhlungu kakhulu. Abekho ngokwenene uxelelwe ngenzuzo yakho konke konke.
Ke ukuba iqabane lakho lixoka ngokusebenza kade eofisini xa, enyanisweni, besela nabalingane babo, kuluncedo lwabo ngokupheleleyo.
Kwaye ukuba umntakwenu uthi abanakuyibuyisa imali obaboleke yona, nokuba ibhalansi yebhanki yabo ibonisa ngenye indlela, kungenxa yokuba abafuni ukukubuyisela (kwaye mhlawumbi banethemba lokuba uyakulibala ngayo).
Uhlobo lwesithathu lobuxoki ihlala kwindawo engwevu kancinci. Bubuxoki obuxeliweyo ukuze ufumane uhlobo oluthile lwesibonelelo okanye umda ngaphezulu komntu oxelelweyo.
Ayinabungozi ngengqondo yokuba ayenzelwanga ukwenzakalisa okanye ukwenzakalisa umntu ngqo.
Ewe, ubuxoki busetyenziselwa ukufihla ulwazi oluthile olubalulekileyo, kodwa olo lwazi aluyi kuthi, ngokwalo, lubangele naziphi na iintlungu.
Yithi, umzekelo, ukuba isikhundla siyavula emsebenzini kwaye ubuze ugxa wakho ukuba uza kufaka isicelo. Banokuxoka kwaye bathi abekho kanti, enyanisweni, kunjalo.
Bubuxoki, ewe, kodwa basenokuba bakuxelele ukuba bafumane inzuzo ngaphezulu kwakho ngokwendlela yokufumana olo nyuselo.
Ungatsho ukuba oku kukungcatsha-kwaye ukuba ukwimeko yobuhlobo nalo mntu, isazokuziva ngoluhlobo-kodwa banokuthi ayikenzanga nto imbi ke ibaluleke ngantoni?
Obunye ubuxoki buxelwa ngeenjongo ezintle, kwaye ungakuqonda ukuqiqa, kodwa usenokuziva ukhathazekile okanye ungcatshiwe.
Thatha umphathi ongakuxeleli ngeprojekthi entsha enkulu okanye ikhontrakthi kuba bayazi ukuba unamalini kwisitya sakho ngoku, kokubini emsebenzini nasekhaya.
Yi ubuxoki bokushiya kuba khange baxoke ngokuthe ngqo ebusweni bakho, kodwa basilele ukukuxelela nje ngento ethile.
awuyi kufumana omnye umntu onjengam
Kwaye banokucinga ukuba bakwenzela into elungileyo.
Ke, njengoko ubona, 'kutheni' emva kobuxoki bunokwahluka kakhulu. Ukuyifumanisa kunokukunceda uthathe isigqibo sokuba uza kuyiphendula njani.
Babungakanani ubuxoki?
Obunye ubuxoki buncinci kwaye abufanelanga ukuchitha amandla amaninzi kusetyenzwa ngawo.
Ukuba umhlobo wakho ukuxelela ukuba abaphilanga ngala mhla wawenzelwe ukuba udibane, kwaye kamva uwabona emakwe efotweni esenza enye into nabanye abantu, ngaba yinto enkulu leyo?
Mhlawumbi kunjalo. Okanye mhlawumbi kufuneka wamkele ukuba enye into inokuthi ivele ngomzuzu wokugqibela kwaye bafuna ukuya kuyo, kodwa abafuni ukukhathaza iimvakalelo zakho ngokukuvuma.
Kwelinye icala, ukuba ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho belikukopela, yinto enkulu kakhulu kwaye akukho ndlela unokuyixubha ngayo okanye ungayikhankanyi.
Ke ubukhulu bobuxoki-obuyinto ehambelana kakhulu- iya kuba nefuthe kwindlela ohamba ngayo xa usabela kuyo.
Ubuxoki obukhulu kufuneka buqwalaselwe. Ubuxoki obuncinci abunako.
Zithini iziphumo zobuxoki?
Bonke ubuxoki buneziphumo, kodwa ezinye zinkulu kwaye zikhawuleze kunabanye.
Ukuba umphathi wakho uxoka ngemeko yenkampani yezemali kuphela ukuba uvuke uye kusebenza ngenye intsasa ukuze unikwe izinto zakho ebhokisini kuba iphumile kwishishini, unokuninzi okucinga ngako.
Nokuba eli lelona xesha lilungileyo lokujongana nabo kwaye ubanike isiqwenga sengqondo yakho iyaxoxwa.
Okanye ukuba utata wakho ukugcinile ukugula okusongela ubomi kuwe (angakubona njengendlela yokukukhusela) kwaye ufumanise ngako, uya kuba nexhala kakhulu malunga nokulahleka kwakhe kunokuba umbeka ityala Ubuxoki.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ubuxoki budlala ifiddle yesibini kwimicimbi esebenzayo ebifihle yona.
Ke ngelixa ungafuna ukujongana nobuxoki nexoki, kungafuneka ulinde de ujongane nesiphumo soko.
Ngaba obu bubuxoki bokuqala, okanye kukuphindaphinda?
Ixesha lokuqala umntu oxoka kuwe, kunokuba buhlungu, kodwa wena unamandla ukwazi ukusebenza ngayo.
Njengoko la mntu uthetha ubuxoki obuninzi nangakumbi, ukukwazi kwakho ukuxolela kwaye ulibale kunokwenzeka ukuba kuphele.
Kwaye nokuba ubuxoki bobunye buncinci kwaye bukhangeleka bungabalulekanga, bakhawuleza bongeze ekutshatyalalisweni ngokuthembekileyo.
Kwesinye, ungaqala ukuzibuza ukuba ingaba obu buxoki buncinci busisiphelo nje seqhwa kwaye kukho okubi kakhulu ongakwaziyo.
Indlela onokuthi uphendule ngayo xa uxoka okokuqala iya kwahluka kwindlela osabela ngayo kubuxoki obulandelayo.
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Budala kangakanani ubuxoki?
Isenokungawenzi umohluko konke konke, kodwa ukuba ubuxoki buxelwe kwakudala kwaye ngoku buza ukukhanya, unokuziva ngokwahlukileyo malunga noku.
Okokuqala, abantu bayalitshintsha lonke ixesha kwaye badla ngokuqola njengoko iminyaka idlula.
Ke, ukuba umhlobo ukuxokisile xa benineminyaka eyi-18 kwaye ngoku sele ufumene ubuxoki xa uneminyaka engama-30, usenokuyithatha njengamanzi phantsi kwebhulorho kwaye uyixhome ngokungakhuli.
Unokwazi ukuxolela umhlobo wanamhlanje ngezenzo zomhlobo wayizolo.
Ewe ubuya ubuye ubungakanani bobuxoki. Obu buxoki abuxolelwa ngokulula, nokuba sele kudlule ixesha elingakanani.
Ukuba umntwana weqabane lakho kubudlelwane obudlulileyo uvela emnyango wakho uneminyaka eyi-15 kwaye ubungazi nokuba bakhona, ukothuka kokungabikho okukhulu kunokugungqisa iziseko zothando lwakho kwiqabane lakho.
Uxabise kangakanani ubudlelwane?
Oku yeyona nto iphambili ekumiseleni indlela oqhubana ngayo nomntu okuxokisileyo.
Ubuhlobo bakho buthetha ntoni kuwe?
Ukuba liqabane lakho lobomi kwaye ninabantwana kunye, ngekhe ufune ukwenza naziphi na izigqibo zokungxama ozisolayo ngazo kamva.
Unokuba nomsindo kwaye ujongane nabo, kodwa kunokuba kufanelekile ukuvumela uthuli ukuba luzinzise okwethutyana ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo malunga nokuba uyazama okanye cha ukugcina ubudlelwane.
Ngokufanayo, ukuba ilungu losapho libanjwe kubuxoki obukukhathaza ngokwenene emphefumlweni, kuya kuba nzima ukuba ungaze uphinde uthethe nabo, ngakumbi ukuba niyakubonana kwiminyhadala yosapho.
Okanye ukuba ufumanisa ukuba umntu osebenza naye ukuxokisile, lingakanani ixesha namandla oza kuwachitha kumntu ongabalulekanga ebomini bakho?
Ngokubanzi, okukhona umntu ekubalulekile kuwe, kokukhona kufanelekile ukuba ujonge indlela ohlangabezana ngayo nobuxoki.
Chonga eyona ndlela yokuPhendula
Nje ukuba uthathe yonke le mibuzo ingentla, ulungele ukwenza impendulo.
Zithini izinto onokukhetha kuzo?
Wazi njani ukuba intombi inomdla
Ungathethi Nanye, Kodwa Mka
Ndiphulaphule phambi kokuba ulahle lo mbono.
Ewe, ubuxoki buyinto ecekisekayo kuwe njengomntu, kodwa ngaba impendulo yindlela efanelekileyo yokusebenzisa ixesha namandla akho?
Ayizizo zonke iimfazwe ekufanele ukuba uzilwile.
…ndikholelwe.
Kukho amazwi amaninzi phaya ashumayela ukuba kufuneka uzimele! Ukuba abantu bakuphathe ngendlela obavumela bakuphathe ngayo!
Kwaye kuyinyani ngokupheleleyo.
Abantu, ubukhulu becala, baya kukuphatha ngendlela obavumela ngayo.
Kodwa ukuzimela ngokwakho akuthethi ukuba uyangxola kwaye uphikisane nomntu. Ikwanokuthetha ukusuka nje kubantu abangakuhloniphiyo.
Ngapha koko, ngokushiya imeko kunye nomntu ngasemva, ubonisa wena imbeko abangakwaziyo.
Kwaye awubaniki thuba lokukuphatha ngale ndlela kwakhona.
Ngaphezulu, ukukhwaza nokumemeza kunye nokufumana uhlobo oluthile lokuziphindezela ngomntu kulindeleke ukuba likwenze uzive ungcono.
Ngokuchasene noko, uya kuziva ungcono.
Ke, ihlala isisenzo sokuzithanda ukuphepha ukujongana ngomsindo.
Inyani yalonto kukuba, ukuba ukwimeko apho uziva ufuna 'ukuqeqesha' abantu abakungqongileyo malunga nendlela abanokuphatha ngayo, ingangumbono ongcono kakhulu kuwe ukufumana iqela elitsha labantu endaweni yoko.
Abantu abaninzi unakho batshintshe ukuba bafuna uku-kodwa uninzi alufuni.
Uninzi alukhathali nangayiphi na indlela.
Bazama nje ukufikelela kwimini yabo ihleli ukuze baqhubeke nayo nantoni na abafuna ukuyenza.
Kutheni uchitha iinyanga okanye iminyaka yobomi bakho uzama ukufaka inqanaba elisisiseko lentlonipho emntwini ongenakubona ixabiso elaneleyo kuwe lokwenza oko ekuqaleni?
Ayivakali kakhulu, ngokwenene.
Amaxesha amaninzi, eyona mpendulo ilungileyo kumntu oxokayo ayikho mpendulo kwaphela.
Gcina nje kude engqondweni yakho kwaye uqhubeke uye phambili. Akukho sizathu sokuchaza yonke into oyaziyo.
Ukujongana rhoqo kuhlala kukhokelela kubuxoki obuninzi kunye nokuphathwa.
Kodwa Ndimele Ndijongane Naye!
Kulungile.
Nokuba kungasiphi na isizathu, kuya kufuneka ujongane naloo mntu.
Mhlawumbi bayathandwa okanye umntu oyinxalenye ebalulekileyo yobomi bakho.
Iyenzeka.
Ayizizo zonke izinto ebomini ezinokuthi zicace gca kwaye zibe lula.
Eyona ndlela yokujongana nomntu kukusuka ungathathi cala.
Awufuni ukuba nomsindo. Ukuba unomsindo, ibanika iimbumbulu ukuba zikubuyisele kuwe, ezizakucaphukisa, eziza kubanika iimbumbulu ezininzi, kuqhubeke njalo.
Indlela ezolileyo ikunika amandla okunceda ukufumanisa inyani iyonke. Ukuzola kwakho kuya kubanceda bangabenzeli izixhobo kunye nokuzikhusela.
Ukuba bayabona ukuba awuzukuba nomsindo ngakubo, banokukulungela ngakumbi ukunyaniseka kuwe.
Buza imibuzo ethe ngqo, ethe ngqo, kwaye ujonge indlela abaphendula ngayo.
Abanye abantu abathetha ubuxoki bayazisola xa kudlule imilebe yomlomo wabo. Aba bantu baya kuthi bakhululeke xa kunye nalapho kuphuma ubuxoki.
Bayakuguquka ngokwenyani kwaye banokufuna ukucacisa ukuba ubuxoki buvele njani. Oku kubonisa, kwinqanaba elithile, ukuba bayakuhlonipha kwaye bayabuxabisa ubudlelwane bakho.
Ke kufanelekile ukukugcina oku engqondweni ukuba udibene nolu hlobo lwempendulo.
Kodwa izinto zinokungahambi ngale ndlela, ngakumbi ukuba ujongana nesiphatho.
Kuqhelekile ukuba i-manipulator ilahle ngaphandle umsindo kwaye izame ukuphembelela umlo, kuba ihambisa incoko kwimigaqo yabo.
Banokuphelisa amabinzana anje, 'Andikholelwa ukuba awundithembi!' Kwaye “kutheni uzakundityhola nje?” njengoko bezama ukubuyisela ityala kuwe.
Kwakhona, khetha iimfazwe zakho. Ayizizo zonke iimfazwe ezifanelekileyo zokulwa. Kwaye ukuba umntu uhlala engathembekanga, ngekhe wenze inkqubela phambili yokwenyani.
Into eqhele ukwenzeka lixoki liyakucela uxolo kuwe (nokuba alixolanga), likuqinisekise ukuba alisokuze liphinde lenzeke (elinokuba liyakwenzeka), kwaye uphinda-phinda umjikelo iminyaka nangaphezulu ukuba abazukutshintsha.
Ke ,jongana nomntu ukuba kunyanzelekile, kodwa nikela ingqalelo kwiimpendulo zabo. Oku kunokukuxelela kakhulu malunga neenjongo kunye neemvakalelo zabo.
Ukuhamba ngaphaya koBuxoki
Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuba awufuni ukuhamba kude nobuxoki kunye nexoki (okanye awukwazi ngezizathu ezibonakalayo), kufuneka uye njani phambili?
indlela yokuyeka ukuhamba kwexesha elidlulileyo
Ewe, kuqala kwinto yonke, nyanzelisa ukuba bathembeke ngokupheleleyo malunga nobuxoki. Mhlawumbi uyazi kuphela inxenye yawo, kodwa kukho enye engakuxeleli yona.
Banike ithuba lokuba beze bacoceke ngokupheleleyo. Baxelele ukuba ukwindawo ngoku apho unokukwazi ukuqhubekeka, nokuba kukho enye ongayaziyo.
Kodwa baxelele ukuba oku akunakuba njalo ukuba ubuxoki obuninzi buza kuvela kamva.
Kodwa musa ukuthi, 'Ngaba ikhona enye into ongathanda ukundixelela yona?' Oku kunokwenzeka ukuba kuhlangatyezwane kuthe cwaka.
Yitsho into efana nale:
Jonga, wenze impazamo. Sonke siyazenza iimpazamo. Ndikulungele ukukuxolela kwaye ndigqithe kule, kodwa ukuze ndikwazi ukwenza loo nto, kufuneka ndazi yonke into eyenzekileyo.
Ngoku lelona xesha lilungileyo lokuba ndive ezo nkcukacha kuba ndiyamkele imeko ukuba injani. Ndiyayibona indlela yoku kuthi. Ukuba iinkcukacha ezithe kratya ziyavela kamva, andiqinisekanga ukuba ndiza kuba nakho ukuthetha ngokufanayo.
Ngoku, ukuba batyhila enye into kwaye mbi nangakumbi kunokuba ubucinga, awubotshiwe ngamazwi akho. Into oyithethileyo ayenzi isivumelwano somlomo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubaxolele kwaye uqhubeke. Ezinye izinto azixoleleki.
Uthe likho ithuba lokuba ukwazi ukudlulela phambili. Khange uyiqinisekise.
Kodwa uya kuba ngcono xa uzazi ezi zinto ukuze wenze isigqibo esifanelekileyo malunga nekamva lakho.
Ewe banokuveza iinkcukacha ezingakumbi ezingatshintshi imeko. Kule meko, kuya kufuneka ubabonge ngokunyaniseka kwabo kwaye nixoxe ngendlela eningaqhubela phambili ngayo kunye.
Ngayo nayiphi na ithamsanqa, impendulo yakho iya kubabonisa ukuba banokunyaniseka kuwe ngaphandle koloyiko lokuba inokuba yintoni na imiphumo.
Njengokuba besesitshilo, abanye abantu bayaxoka kuba bexhalabile ukuba kungathetha ntoni ukuthetha inyani. Banokungakhuseleki kwabo ukuba bajongane nako.
Ukuba babona ukuba inyani ihlangatyeziwe ngempendulo eyakhayo, banokuba nomdla ngakumbi wokuthetha ngokukhululekileyo kunye nawe kwixa elizayo.
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Amaxoki kunye nabaGuquli kwindawo yokuSebenza
Umhlaba omangalisayo wengqesho unokusibeka kufutshane nabantu abahlukeneyo. Abanye baya kuba mkhulu, abanye abayi kuba baninzi.
Kwaye unokuba kwisikhundla ebomini bakho apho ungenakho ukutshintsha nje imisebenzi okanye uyeke ukuthanda. Akusoloko kulula njalo.
Kukho iindlela ezilungileyo zokuphatha ukusebenza kunye nomntu oxokayo okanye umntu oxhaphazayo.
Suku ziveze iinkcukacha ezibuthathaka ngobomi bakho okanye zomsebenzi wakho ngaphandle kokuba ufuna njalo. Akukho sizathu sokunika iimbumbulu kumntu onetyhefu ukuba akwenzakalise kamva.
Ungamvumeli umntu ukuba akuyekise ngengqondo engeyonyani yokhuseleko ngobuhlobo bobuxoki okanye inkxalabo.
Yenza uxwebhu kangangoko unakho malunga nomsebenzi wakho nomntu. Kuya kufuneka ucwangcise ukuba umntu lowo unokuphosa kwiingcuka ukuba into eniyenzayo nobabini ihamba kakubi.
Amaxwebhu yiyo eya kuthi ibonise ukuba ubusenza izinto ngendlela obefanele ukuba uzenza ngayo, njengoko ubuziwe.
Kwaye ukuba ngumphathi wakho? Ewe, loo nto iyinto eyahlukileyo yeentshulube.
Ngamanye amaxesha unokufumana iziphumo ngokunyathela umphathi kwaye uhambe ngaphezulu. Ngamanye amaxesha anokukugxotha okanye agxothwe.
Uninzi lwexesha, ukhetho olungcono kukuqala ukukhangela omnye umsebenzi ukuba bebekhona okwexeshana, kuba baya kuba sele bewenzile ulawulo ukuze babathande.
Ukhetho Lolwakho
Indlela okhetha ukujongana ngayo nobuxoki kunye namaxoki izakuxhomekeka kwimilinganiselo yakho kunye neenkolelo zakho.
Ukuba ukunyaniseka kubaluleke kakhulu kubuntu bakho kwaye uyaziqhenya ngokuthetha inyani, usenokukufumanisa kunzima ukudibanisa oku nobuxoki obuthethiweyo.
Kodwa ukuba uyayamkela into yokuba sizizidalwa ezinesiphene kwaye mhlawumbi wenze iimpazamo kwaye wenzakalisa abantu kwixa elidlulileyo (nokuba bekungekho buxoki obubandakanyekayo), umi ithuba elingcono lokuqhubeka nobudlelwane.
Kuya kufuneka ukuba ugwebe ubuxoki ngalunye ngokukodwa njengoko kungekho zimbini ziyafana. Ingcebiso apha inokukwazi ukusebenza njengesikhokelo, kodwa iimvakalelo zakho zezona zikhokelo zibalaseleyo onokuzithemba.
Nangona kunjalo ungathanda ukubalalisa ubuxoki obuxeliweyo, ukuba iimvakalelo zakho azingqinelani neengcinga zakho, kufuneka uzithembe iimvakalelo zakho ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba wenzeni ngalomntu ukuxokisileyo?Le yimeko enzima kwaye intekenteke, kodwa ayisiyiyo ekufuneka ujongane nayo wedwa. Ukuthetha nomcebisi ngobuhlobo, nokuba nguwe okanye nalo mntu, kunokukunceda ufikelele kwisisombululo.Ke kutheni ungancokoli kwi-Intanethi ukuya kulwalamano lobuchwephesha kwi-Relationship Hero enokukunceda ufumane indlela yokuya phambili. Ngokulula.
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