Kukho abanye phaya abakholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba naluphi na uhlobo lobuxoki alulunganga. Ukunyaniseka ngokugqibeleleyo, ndicinga ukuba bakhohlisiwe.
Ukuthetha ubuxoki yinxalenye yendalo yomntu, kwaye kuhlala kwenza ubomi bube lula kancinci kuye wonke umntu.
Ukuba ucinga emva kosuku lwakho namhlanje, ungatsho ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba yonke into ephume emlonyeni wakho yayinyani nge-100%?
Ngaba isidlo sangokuhlwa umntu okhethekileyo uphekelwe wena simnandi ngokwenene? Ngaba uyithandile inwele yomhlobo wakho osenyongweni?
Mhlawumbi akunjalo, kodwa ngekhe uphuphe ngokubaxelela inyani. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kwimeko enjalo, ibiya kuba yintoni ingongoma?
Sonke sixoka ubuxoki obuncinci yonke imihla ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba siyayenza. Sisoloko siyenza ngokungazi , ukwenza nokuba umntu esixokayo okanye nathi ngokwethu bazive bhetele ngemeko.
Obu buxoki bumhlophe sibuthetha yonke imihla yinxalenye enkulu yobomi, kodwa kukho amaxesha apho inyani kufuneka ivele phambili, kwaye kufuneka ulumke ukuba ukuxelela into ocinga ukuba ibubuxoki obungenabungozi akuthethi ukuba uyakufumana kwimeko ekhohlisayo.
Ukuba unengxaki yokufumanisa ukuba obu buxoki buvumelekile na kwaye nini, nantsi imizekelo embalwa ukukukhokela.
Balungile Xa…
1. Umntu akubuza ukuba unjani
Xa sibulisa umntu esiqhelene naye ngokubabuza ukuba banjani, ekuphela kwempendulo esiyiyo ngokwenene ulindele ukuba 'enkosi, wena?' Ukuba umntu uqalile ukuxelela ukuba banjani, ungothuka kakhulu.
Umntu obuzayo mhlawumbi unembeko, kwaye iingxaki kukuba abanalo ixesha okanye umdla wokumamela iingxaki zakho.
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Lo ngumzekelo wendlela ubuxoki obumhlophe obuyinxalenye yenkcubeko yethu.
2. Xa uncoma ukuba ujongeka njani uMhlobo
Xa ufumana iinwele eziqaphelekayo, uyakulindela ukuba abantu bagqabaze, ke ukuba umhlobo wakho unembonakalo entsha engaqhelekanga, banokukuthatha ukuthula njengokungavumi.
Kule meko, kulungile ukubaxelela ukuba uyayithanda, kuba, masijongane nayo, akukho nto banokuyenza ngayo.
Kukwanjalo nakwimpahla umntu ayinxibileyo. Zive ukhululekile ukwenza uluvo oluqinisekileyo nokuba ucinga ukuba lukhetho olungaqhelekanga.
Ixesha kunye nendawo yakho uluvo oluthembekileyo Impahla yomntu kuxa bethatha isigqibo sokuba bayayithenga na, okanye xa besenza isigqibo ngento oza kuyinxiba kumsitho.
Ngaphandle koko, kungcono ukuxoka, njengoko, umzekelo, ukuba sele besemsebenzini okanye ethekweni, abanakukwazi ukugoduka ngokuchanekileyo kwaye batshintshe.
3. Xa uFather Christmas evuka
Kukho amaxesha apho ukuthetha ubuxoki obungenabungozi kunokudala umlingo onokuthi ukuthetha inyani akuyi kuba yinto ekhohlakeleyo.
Uyalukhumbula uvuyo owawunalo ngeKrisimesi xa wawusengumntwana? Zonke iziphumo zobuxoki obuncinci ezimhlophe zixeliwe malunga nomdla wakho entliziyweni.
Ukukholelwa kwiFaith Izinyo okanye ngePasika Bunny kuya kwenza nabaphi na abantu abancinci ebomini bakho kungabikho kwenzakalisa, kwaye kuninzi kokulungileyo, ukukhuthaza iingcinga zabo.
Oku kusebenza nakwiincoko ezingakulungelanga ukukhusela ubumsulwa bazo, njengokuvela apho iintsana zivela khona okanye kutheni uMama noTata bengahlali kunye.
4. Xa Ufuna ukuRhoxisa
Ukuba ufuna ukukhansela izicwangciso kwaye awucingi ukuba abantu baya kuqonda ukuba ufuna nje ezinye ixesha lodwa kwaye ingayinkampani eyoyikekayo, emva koko uzive ukhululekile ukwenza into ukuze nizive nibhetele, niyibeka ityala emsebenzini okanye ekuguleni.
Abahlobo bakho abasenyongweni banokuqonda ezona zizathu zakho zokwenyani, kodwa abanye abantu basenokungaziqondi. Qiniseka nje ukuba urhoxisa i-ASAP ukuze bangashiywa bejinga.
5. Ukuba ufike emva kwexesha emsebenzini
Okanye yeklasi, okanye nayiphi na imeko apho ukufika kwakho emva kwexesha kunokubangela ingxaki.
Ukuba ukuthetha inyani- njenge-alam yakho ayikhange icime- ayizukuhla kakuhle kwaye into ebaluleke njengomsebenzi wakho isemngciphekweni, ubuxoki obenziwe ngobunono obumhlophe ngokuqinisekileyo kufanelekile ukuxelelwa ukugcina imeko.
6. Ukukuphepha ukuba nguPetroli kwiNdaba eFisini
Ngaba umntu osebenza naye ohlebayo uzama ukungena ebomini bakho bothando? Kuyo nayiphi na imeko xa ukhetha ukungabelani ngezinto zobuqu, kuhlala kungcono ukuza nobuxoki obumhlophe kunokuba ubaxelele ngokungqalileyo ukuba awucingi ukuba yeyiphi na ishishini labo.
Kukwanjalo kuyo nayiphi na imeko xa umntu ehleli.
7. Ukuyekisa uMdla ongafunekiyo
Laa mfo ebharini nje akasayi kukushiya wedwa? Ngelixa kuhlekisa ukuba ngokufuthi ithafa alinakukwamkelwa ngaphandle kwengcaciso engemva kwalo (kodwa NGABA UNGANAKHO ukuba nomdla kuye? ngokuxoka.
8. Xa Umntu efuna ukukhuthazwa
Ukuba umhlobo ebenexesha elinzima noxinzelelo okanye ukugula kwaye kubhaliwe ebusweni babo, ukubaxelela nje ukuba bajongeka ngcono kunokuba yile nto bayifunayo ukuze baqale bazive ngcono ngabo.
Ukuba bebesebenza ngaphandle kokutya kwaye awukwazi ukubona umohluko omkhulu, akukho mfuneko yokuba bayazi loo nto. Baxelele ukuba bajongeka ngathi bayathandeka.
9.Xa Umntu Wenze Into Emnandi Kuwe
Ukuba ubukhe waphekelwa isidlo okanye unikwe isipho ‘esinika umdla,’ ayisosikhumba ekhaleni lakho ukubaxelela ukuba simnandi, okanye uyasithanda.
Babonisa uthando lwabo kuwe kwaye bazama ukukonwabisa, yiyo ke le nto ingcinga ebalulweyo, kwaye ukungabi nathemba kunokubenzakalisa ngokwenene iimvakalelo zabo.
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Azilunganga Nini…
1. Ulibazisa nje Okungenakuphepheka
Ngaba yinto oza kuthi ucoce ngayo ekugqibeleni? Akukho nto imbi njengokuthetha ubuxoki obuncinci obunokuthi emva koko kukhokelele kuthotho lobuxoki, njengoko ekugqibeleni uza kubanjwa.
Nangona ndikhankanyile ngasentla ukuba kulungile ukuxoka ubuxoki obumhlophe xa urhoxisa izicwangciso, kufuneka ulumke.
Ukuba sisihlandlo esinye kuphela xa ungaziva ungonwabanga kwaye ungathanda ukwenza into enye ngelinye ixesha, ke zive ukhululekile ukujikeleza ubuxoki obumhlophe.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, yinto ongafuniyo ukuyenza okanye umntu ongathanda ukungamboni, kungcono ukuba uthembeke kwasekuqaleni ukuze ungaqhubeki ufumana isimemo esifanayo.
2. Xa ufuna Ukuphelisa ulwalamano
Ngokwezothando, ukuba awunamdla nje kumntu okubuzileyo okanye obukhe wambona, oko kufuna ukwaziswa (ngobubele) ASAP.
Awufuni ukuba bacinge ukuba kukho ithuba lokuba kwenzeke into phakathi kwakho njengoko oku kuya kurhuqela izinto ngaphandle kwaye kuyenze ibe nzima.
Nangona kungekho mfuneko yokuba nenkohlakalo, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba izinto zicacile.
Oku kusebenza kulo naluphi na uhlobo lobudlelwane, kwanezo zeshishini.
3. Umntu ufuna iinyaniso ezimbalwa zekhaya
Ukuba ucinga ukuba kukho into umntu ekufuneka ayive ngokwenyani njengoko izakubanceda ekuhambeni kwexesha, kuya kufuneka umxelele, nokuba ingabacaphukisa ekuqaleni okanye ikwenze ungakhululeki.
Ngelixa kufuneka ihlale yenziwe kakuhle, ukuba ucinga ukuba umntu uyazixokisa malunga nemeko ethile, isenokuba lixesha lokuba ufumane inyani kunye nabo.
4. Ukuba Inxulumene Nemali
Nantoni na oyenzayo ngemali kungcono ukuba usondele ngokunyaniseka ngokusemandleni, ngakumbi xa kufikwa kubudlelwane bakho neqabane lakho.
5. Kwigumbi lokulinganisa
Abakayithengi okwangoku, kwaye babuza ngokunyanisekileyo uluvo lwakho, ke sukuxoka xa umhlobo wakho okanye iqabane lakho lizama into kwaye ucinga ukuba likhangeleka libi.
Umntu othile ngexesha elithile uya kwenza uluvo olubi malunga nayo nayiphi na into yokunxiba, kwaye ke uya kujongeka ungalunganga.
Awuthethi kubo, ziimpahla kuphela. Qiniseka ukuba uyenza ngendlela elungileyo kwaye wenze iingcebiso ezakhayo.
Kutheni Ubuxoki?
Ukuba awuqinisekanga malunga nokuba ukunyaniseka ngowona mgaqo-nkqubo ubalaseleyo kwimeko ethile, zibuze ukuba yeyiphi inkuthazo yakho ekuxokeni, kwaye ukuba obo buxoki bunokubangela ingozi engaphezulu kunokulunga ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Qiniseka ukuba unezakho kunye nezinye iimfuno zomntu entliziyweni.
