Bambalwa abantu abaziva bekhululekile ukwabelana ngokoyika kwabo impumelelo. Kwisikimu esikhulu sezinto, kubonakala ngathi yinto engekho nto ukuba woyike.
Emva kwakho konke, kutheni ungoyiki impumelelo? Ngaba ukufumana impumelelo yenye yezona zinto kugxilwe kuzo ebomini ngabantu abaninzi?
Kwabanye abantu, ayisiyiyo impumelelo abayoyikayo. Kungenxa yokuba boyika iimeko ezingqonge impumelelo.
Impumelelo izisa eminye imiba enzima nayo. Ayisiyiyo kuphela into elindelweyo ephezulu kuwe, kodwa unokufuna ukujongana nabantu abangenayo iminqweno yakho engqondweni kwaye abafuna ukusebenzisa impumelelo yakho ukuze bazuze.
Ngamanye amaxesha, umntu ophumeleleyo usenokuba unengxaki yokugula emzimbeni okanye azive ngathi unobuqhetseba. Umntu ophumeleleyo unokoyika abanye abantu ukufumanisa ukuba eneneni abalunganga njengoko bekholelwa ngaphambili kwaye iziphumo zoko zityhila.
Kodwa kwabanye abantu, uloyiko lwempumelelo luvela kwindawo enzulu kakhulu…
Umntu osindayo kwiimeko zokuphathwa gadalala unokuhlakulela ukuthanda impumelelo kuba befumene iziphumo ezibi kwimpumelelo yabo.
Umntwana uzisa ikhadi lengxelo elinamanqaku aphezulu, kwaye umzali uhlekisa kwaye abuze, 'Kutheni ungakhange wenze ngcono?'
Umntu omdala uya ekhaya kwiqabane lakhe ngempumelelo emsebenzini kwaye udibana nokudelelwa malunga nalo.
Ingqondo iza ukudibanisa impumelelo nokungakhathali njengoko besiva ngaloo ndlela kubantu abamele ukuba banothando kwaye baxhase.
Uloyiko lokuphumelela luyinto yokwenene, enzulu kakhulu ekufuneka iphathwe ngendlela efanayo yentlonipho esingayinika naluphi na uloyiko.
Inokukuthintela ukuba uphile ubomi obonelisayo ngokubangela ukuba uphephe ukuthatha umngcipheko kunye nokulandela iinjongo ofuna ukuzenza.
Makhe sijonge ukuba ungaqala njani ukusebenza ngenxa yokoyika impumelelo.
Inyathelo 1: Chonga imvelaphi yokoyika kwakho impumelelo.
Ukuyicombulula ngcono ingxaki, kufuneka uqale uqonde ukuba ivela phi le ngxaki.
Thatha ixesha lokujonga ukuba ukhe wehlelwa lixesha elingakanani uloyiko lwempumelelo.
Iqale phi wena?
Waqala nini ukuziva uyithiyile impumelelo?
Ngaba iqale emva kwamava amabi onawo? Ngaba ubudlelwane bokuhlukumeza umdala?
Ngaba ibuyela emva ebuntwaneni bakho kunye nobudlelwane obunzima kunye nabazali bakho?
Inyathelo 2: Chonga into oyoyikayo ngokukodwa.
Uya kufuna ukucacisa ukuba yintoni le woyikayo ngokuchanekileyo kangangoko unakho.
Uthini ngempumelelo ikwenza woyike?
Ngaba lulindelo oluza nayo?
Ngaba ngabanye abantu kwaye wazi njani ukuba ngubani onokumthemba?
Ngaba uziva ngathi awufanelanga okanye awufanelanga ngokwaneleyo ukuba uphumelele?
Ngaba woyika ukuba impumelelo inokukuzisa?
Ngaba ukhathazeka ngempumelelo inokuba nefuthe elibi kubudlelwane bakho bangoku?
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Yintoni kanye kanye eqhuba iimvakalelo zakho ezingalunganga malunga nempumelelo?
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Inyathelo 3: Chonga iindlela zakho zokuphepha.
Abantu aboyikayo impumelelo bahlala bengazi (okanye besazi) baphuhlise izicwangciso zokuphepha ukuba baphumelele kakhulu okanye babonakale.
Ukuthintela yindlela eqhelekileyo yokujongana nokusetyenziswa gwenxa kwabantu abayisebenzisayo ukuzigcina ekufumaneni ubunzima.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, uloyiko lwakho lwempumelelo alunakubangelwa ukuba awuphumelelanga okanye uthintela ngokubonakalayo naluphi na uhlobo lokukhanya.
Chonga iindlela onokuthi uziphephe uloyiko lwakho lokuphumelela.
Eyona ndlela yokuhamba malunga noku kukujonga iimeko ebomini bakho apho ubunokuphumelela kodwa ukhethe ukungabikho.
Oko kunokujongeka njengokungafaki isicelo sonyuselo ubufuna ngokwenene, hayi ukudala isiqwenga sobugcisa oziva ukuba ufuna ukusenza, okanye sokungazibeki emngciphekweni wento ofuna ukuyenza.
Khangela iimeko ezikwenze woyike okanye ungonwabi kwaye ujonge indlela oziphephe ngayo.
Inyathelo 4: Jongana nezi meko zimbi kunye noloyiko.
Ukujongana noloyiko ukujongana nqo ayiyona ndlela ilungileyo yokwenza malunga noloyiko. Ewe ungazama ukutsiba entloko kwaye uzame ukoyisa uloyiko, kodwa oko akunakukunceda kwixesha elide.
Injongo yokoyisa uloyiko lwakho lwempumelelo kukukhupha uloyiko, ngenxa yoko akuyomfuneko ukuba uzigcine uzikhuphela phezulu ukuze utsibe kwindawo yokuqala.
Ufuna ukuba uloyiko luthothe ukuze kungabi yinto ekubambezelayo.
Ukufezekisa loo njongo kuqala ngokujongana nokungahambi kakuhle. Ukukhetha iindawo ezithile zoloyiko kukuvumela ukuba uthathe iziqwenga ezilumkileyo ngaphandle kwengxaki endaweni yokuzama ukugwinya yonke loo nto ngaxeshanye.
Kulapho ukwazi khona iindlela zakho zokuphepha.
Xa uqala ukuziva ungonwabanga, uyakufuna ukukhangela uhlobo lwesicwangciso onokuthi usisebenzise ngokuqhelekileyo ukunqanda ingxaki, emva koko uye kwisisombululo esithile.
Makhe sijonge kumzekelo ukubonisa ngcono inqaku.
Esinye seziqwenga zoloyiko lukaSusan lokuphumelela kukuba akaziva ngathi ulungile ngokwaneleyo ukuba angaphumelela. USusan udlala imbande kwaye ufuna ukujoyina iokhestra.
Into yokuqala anokuyenza kukujonga ukuba yintoni emnika umda kwinto ayenzayo. Mhlawumbi kudala edlala imbande iminyaka engama-20. Elo lixesha elininzi elichithwe ekufundeni ubugcisa, ixesha elinokuthi abanye abantu bangabinamali.
Into yesibini anokuyijonga kukuqiqa kwembono yakhe. Eyona nto imbi inokwenzeka kukuba uyasebenza kwaye akangeni.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, oko kuya kubetha, kodwa akufani nokuba akanako ukufaka isicelo kwakhona okanye kwi-okhestra eyahlukileyo. Isenokungabi nanto yakwenza nokuba ulunge kangakanani na. Mhlawumbi uvele wafaka isicelo xa uninzi lwamanye amacwecwe afaka isicelo, ke olu khuphiswano lwalunobukrakra.
USusan unokuphinda ayenze imeko ngokutsha ngokujolisa kuzo zonke izinto ezinokuhamba ngokukuko, kunokuba ibe zizinto ezinokungahambi kakuhle.
Mhlawumbi uyafaka isicelo, bayamthanda, kwaye wamkelwa kwangoko. Mhlawumbi lelona xesha lilungileyo ebomini bakhe. Mhlawumbi yonke into ihamba ngokumangalisayo, kwaye yenza ifuthe elihle ebomini bakhe.
Le yinkqubo eya kudinga ukuphindwa kwisiqwenga soloyiko lwakho de ezo mvakalelo zimbi zihambe.
Okukhona usondela kwizinto ezingonwabisiyo zoloyiko lwakho kunye noxinzelelo, uxinzelelo olukhulu kwengqondo yakho luya kwakha kubo. Kwaye ngokuhamba kwexesha, baya kuncipha kubungakanani kwaye baphele.
Musa ukulindela ukuba ibe yinkqubo yobusuku bonke. Ukuba uchithe iminyaka yobomi bakho uphepha impumelelo ngenxa yokungaphatheki kakuhle ekubangela, kuya kuthatha ixesha elide ukubuyisa ingqondo yakho ukuze ube nemikhwa engcono.
Funa uncedo lweengcali ukuba uyalufuna.
Ukoyika impumelelo yinto enzulu enokuba neengcambu ezinzulu kwezinye iinkalo zobomi bakho nakwixesha elidlulileyo.
Ukuba uloyiko lwakho lokuphumelela luyaphazamisana nokukwazi kwakho ukuqhuba ubomi bakho, ingayinto elungileyo ukufuna uncedo kwingcali yezempilo yengqondo.
Ungadinga inkxaso enkulu kunaleyo inokukubonelela ngeendlela zokuzinceda ukuze wenze kwaye woyise uloyiko olukubambayo kuhlobo lobomi ofuna ukuhlala kulo.
Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uphile ubomi obuncinci, uphephe uloyiko lwakho. Thatha amanyathelo wokujongana nabo, uthathe umngcipheko, kwaye ubone apho amabhongo akho anokukukhokelela khona!
