Buza abantu abayi-100 esitalatweni ukuba yintoni Psychology kwaye uza kufumana iimpendulo ezili-100 ezahlukeneyo.
Abanye banokuthi malunga ukufunda iingqondo kwaye uzama ukufumana iimfihlo zabantu. Abanye baya kucinga ukuba kubandakanya ukusebenza ngesizathu sokuba abantu baziphathe ngendlela abaziphatha ngayo.
Kodwa eneneni inzima kakhulu kunokuba abantu becinga. I-Psychology yisayensi kwaye kukho enye indlela kuyo kunokuthelekelela ukuba ziziphi iinjongo zabantu ezingalunganga!
Ngokwenene kukho imigaqo-siseko emine yesayikholoji ebonisa imephu yenjongo kunye neenjongo zayo. Siza kubaleka ukuba zeziphi ezi zinto kwaye ungazisebenzisi njani kubomi bakho kuphela, kodwa uzuze kuzo…
Zithini IINJONGO?
Ke, zeziphi ezi njongo zine zengqondo? Beka ngokulula: ukuya chaza, chaza, uqikelele kwaye ulawule.
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Ngaba kuvakala ngokungqalileyo?
Kukho ubunzulu obuninzi kwezi ngcamango kunokuba unokucinga, kwaye kukho iindlela ezithile ezilula kakhulu zokuziqhekeza nokuzisebenzisa ebomini bakho.
Makhe sijonge kubo nganye nganye.
Chaza
Ukuchaza izinto yinto esiyenzayo sonke usuku ngalunye, kodwa kwisayikholoji, yahluke kancinci.
Iingcali zengqondo zisebenza ukuchaza indlela yokuziphatha kwabantu, kunye neeseti kunye namaqela abantu, njengoko kuchaziwe zizinto ezahlukeneyo.
Ngokuchaza okwenzekayo, sinolwazi olukhulu kwaye indlela elula, efikelelekayo yokuyihlalutya.
Izandi zilungile ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, akunjalo?
Ngokuchaza izinto eziqhubeka ebomini bakho, ungaqala ukuziqonda.
Kwilizwe lengqondo, oku kunokujikeleza iiseshoni zokucebisa kunye neengcinga kunye nokuziphatha komntu.
Ungasebenzisa le nkqubo inye ukubhala iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho ngelixa usandisa ubungakanani ukubandakanya ubudlelwane bakho, iinjongo zakho kunye nenkqubela phambili, nazo zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho.
Oku kunokubandakanya ukwenza uluhlu, iimephu zengqondo, ukugcina ingxelo , okanye ukurekhoda iingcinga zakho kwiDictaphone okanye esinye isixhobo.
Xa uchaza into, kubalulekile ukuba ungene kwiinkcukacha kwaye ube yimbumba eninzi njengoko unako. Endaweni yokusebenzisa igama elinye ukuchaza ukuba uziva njani okanye ucinga ntoni, hlaba kancinci.
Nanku umzekelo:
Uziva uxhalabile malunga novavanyo oluzayo lobuchwephesha. Uxinzelelo lwakho lubangelwa lininzi lezinye izinto.
kwenzeka ntoni kwigqabi aphaNgaphandle kwamathandabuzo uloyiko ludlala indima enkulu. Inkqubo ye- uloyiko olungaziwayo malunga noviwo oluza kubandakanya ngqo. Uloyiko lokusilela . Uloyiko lweentloni kunye neentloni kufuneka usilele.
Ukuxhalaba ngokungathandabuzekiyo kuya kuba neempawu ezithile zomzimba nazo. Intliziyo yakho ingakhawuleza. Unokubila ngaphezu kwesiqhelo. Isisu sakho sinokuba ngamaqhina kwaye kungafuneka uye kwindlu yangasese rhoqo.
Unokuba namava okubaleka kwaye uphephe uviwo ngokupheleleyo.
Kodwa akufuneki uyeke kwiingcinga zakho okanye ekuziphatheni. Ubomi bakho, ngokuyinxenye, busekwe kubudlelwane obakha nabanye. Ungasebenzisa iinjongo ezi-4 zengqondo ukukunceda ukuba uphucule obu budlelwane.
Kule njongo yokuqala, unokuchaza indlela iqabane, umhlobo, umntu osebenza naye, okanye ilungu losapho eliziphatha ngayo, kunye nendlela etshintshe ngayo indlela abaziphethe ngayo. Usenokuthetha nabo ukuze ufumane uluvo lokuba baziva njani.
Kodwa, khumbula, inkcukacha ongazifaka kwinkcazo yakho, kokukhona kuya kunceda ngexesha elilandelayo ...
Chaza
Ngokwazi ukuba kuqhubeka ntoni, ukwindawo engcono ukuba uyicacise.
Kwingqondo ngokubanzi, oku kunokujikeleza iziphumo zovavanyo kunye nobungqina obunzima. Emva kokuchaza isimilo sesigulana, umzekelo, abacebisi banokujonga iindlela zokukuchaza. Oku kunokuthetha ukuqhuba iimvavanyo ezithile, nokuba zezengqondo okanye ezomzimba, kunye nokufumana iziphumo ezinika inkcazo.
Isenokuthetha ukujongwa ngakumbi kwedatha esemgangathweni, njengokujonga ngakumbi ubuntwana bomntu ukuze uchaze imiba yabo yangoku.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kuyavakala kuhle, kodwa olu hlobo lophando olunzulu lomntu lunokukhokelela kwiinkcazo ezininzi zokuziphatha komntu.
Amanqaku kaTho owenzele injongo yokuChaza abalulekile ekuchazeni isimilo, nokuba kukuwe okanye kukwabanye.
Eyona nto iphambili kule njongo kukubuza imibuzo ‘kutheni?’ Kwaye uze nezimpendulo ezifanelekileyo.
Kutheni uziva ngalendlela uziva ngayo. Kutheni le nto umntu othile eziphatha ngendlela ethile?
imiqondiso yemicimbi yokuthembela kubudlelwane
Masibuyele kumzekelo woxinzelelo ukusuka kwinjongo echaziweyo.
Uloyiko lwakho olujikeleze uviwo lunokuba neengcambu kumava akho adlulileyo. Ngaba usilele kuvavanyo- kwanolu vavanyo- ngaphambili?
Ngaba oontanga bakho, abazali, okanye umphathi uvakalise ukuphoxeka kwabo okanye ukuhlekisa ngawe xa usilele?
Ngaba uyoyika into engaziwayo yoviwo kuba awukulungiselelanga kakuhle njengoko ubunakho?
Ngaba uziva ngokubanzi ngathi ungumkhohlisi oyimpazamo enye kude nokufunyanwa lihlabathi?
Ngaba ubaleka iingxaki zakho indlela yokulwa oyisebenzisayo kwezinye iinxalenye zobomi bakho? Ngaba uyaziphepha iingxoxo ezinzima nabanye? Ngaba ubuphelisa ubudlelwane ngokukhawuleza nje ukuba nantoni na iqale ukungahambi kakuhle?
Kutheni enye into onokuziva uxhalabile malunga noviwo? Ngaba ivakalelwa njengotshintsho olukhulu ebomini bakho oluya kuba nefuthe elikhulu kwikamva lakho? Ngaba kukho iziphumo zokusilela ekuya kuba nzima ukujongana nazo?
Okanye ukuba ujonga omnye umntu, cinga ngento echaphazela izenzo kunye neengcinga zabo. Ngaba indlela abaziphethe ngayo itshintshile kutshanje? Ngaba bavelise umkhwa omtsha (ombi okanye olungileyo)? Ba iimvakalelo ezingaphezulu kwexesha ?
Ngokusekele kwinto oyibonileyo kunye namanqaku onokuthi uwathathe, buza ukuba kutheni zisenzeka ezi zinto. Yintoni enokwenzeka ukuba ityhale iingcinga, iimvakalelo kunye nokuziphatha kwabo kwicala elithile?
Ba usentlungwini yelahleko ? Ngaba bohlukene neqabane labo? Ngaba bona Ngaba uviwo luza ukuba banestress?
Oku kunokuba luncedo ngokwenene kwiimeko ezininzi zobomi bokwenyani, ukusuka kubuhlobo kunye nobudlelwane kwimicimbi emsebenzini. Unokufumana rhoqo iinkcazo zezenzo zomntu kunye nokuphendula kwakhe ukuba ubeka ingqondo yakho kuyo!
Jonga izizathu zokuziphatha kwaye uya kuba nakho ukufumana iipateni, oko kuthetha ukuba ungaqala ukuziqikelela…
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Qikelela
Uqikelelo luhlala lusekwe kubungqina obunzima, kodwa, kwihlabathi leengqondo, zinokusekwa kwidatha esemgangathweni.
Ungeke usebenze uvavanyo ukufumanisa ukuba ubudlelwane bomntu nonina buya kuchaphazela njani ubudlelwane babo obusondeleyo kwixesha elizayo, kodwa unokuhlalutya ingqondo yomntu kwaye wenze isigqibo.
Kuhlalutyo lwakho, unganakho ukusebenzisa amanqaku avela kwiinjongo ezimbini zokuqala ukuqikelela ukuba ungaziva nini okanye uziphathe njani, kwaye ngoba.
Kumzekelo wethu, uya kuba nakho ukuqikelela kwangaphambili ukuba uya kuziva unexhala kangakanani kuviwo. Kwimeko ebanzi yobomi bakho, unokufumanisa ukuba ungazichonga izinto kuxhokonxa impendulo ethile ngokweemvakalelo okanye ngokwasemzimbeni .
Mhlawumbi wena uzive uxinzelelo lobudlelwane nje ukuba ufikelele kwinqanaba leenyanga ezintandathu kunye neqabane elitsha. Unokubona ukuba ukudibana nomhlobo othile kukwenza ube nomsindo. Okanye mhlawumbi ungxola abanye xa ulele kakubi.
Ewe, unokukwazi ukuqikelela indlela abanye abaziphatha ngayo ngokusekele kwinto oyibonileyo kunye nohlalutyo lwakho.
Unokwazi ukuchaza indlela iqabane lakho Uba nomona xa usenza into, uya kuba nakho ukuyicacisa (uthumela umyalezo kwi-ex, umzekelo!) Kwaye unokuqikelela ukuba bayakukhathazeka ukuba uyaphinda uyenze.
Okanye, kwinqaku elincomekayo, unokuchaza kwaye ucacise xa umntu othile emnandi ngokukhethekileyo ukuba phakathi kwaye uxele kwangaphambili ukuba imeko elungileyo inokubuya nini.
Le yimizekelo esisiseko yokwenene, kodwa ibonisa ukuba ungayisebenzisa njani le migaqo.
menze akukhumbule ungathi uyaphambana
Oku kusebenza ngokubanzi, ukuze ucinge ngendlela yokusebenzisa oku emsebenzini okanye kolunye ubudlelwane. Ngokuxela kwangaphambili ukuba kuya kwenzeka ntoni xa usenza, okanye usabela, ngeendlela ezithile, unokuphucula ubudlelwane bakho.
Oko kusizisa kwinjongo yokugqibela yengqondo ...
Ulawulo
Ulawulo yinto uninzi lwethu oluzabalazela yona, kwaye inokuba yintuthuzelo enkulu. Inxalenye yesayikholoji kukufunda ukuba ungazitshintsha njani iimeko kwaye uzilawule.
Oku kunokuhluka kulawulo lokuhlaselwa kukothuka ngokusebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuchaphazela indlela yokuziphatha ukukhuthaza ukuzithemba.
Ngokujonga iindlela ezinokuthi ezinye iindlela zokuziphatha zidibane kunye neepateni zefom, isayikholojisti ifumana indlela yokutshintsha ezi ndlela.
Umzekelo, ukusebenzisa ukuphefumla ukuze uphinde ufumane ulawulo ngexesha le uxinzelelo , okanye ukusebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zonyango ukujongana neemeko zempilo yengqondo.
Oku kunokusetyenziswa kubomi bakho bobuqu, kunye nakwimpilo yobungcali.
Okokuqala, masibuyele kumzekelo wethu woxinzelelo loviwo.
Ukuba woyika ukusilela ngaphezulu kwako konke, unokuchitha iiyure ngaphambi koviwo ugxile kwezona ndawo zibalulekileyo kuhlaziyo lwakho kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba wazi njani konke.
Ukuba uviwo ngumzuzu obaluleke kakhulu ebomini bakho, unokufumana iindlela zokususa uxinzelelo. Mhlawumbi uyaziphinda ukuba ungaphinda uviwo ukuba uyasilela kwaye nokuba kwenzeka ntoni, ngomso lolunye usuku lokuzabalazela amaphupha akho.
Okanye ukuba uxhalabile ngokungafiki kuvavanyo ngexesha, ungenza amalungiselelo okuhamba ukuze ufike iyure kwangethuba ukunciphisa ezo nkxalabo.
Mhlawumbi uchaza ukungoneliseki ngomsebenzi wakho-nokuba uhlawula kakuhle-kwaye uchaza oku njengomnqweno wokuzimela ngakumbi kunye nokuguquguquka. Uqikelela ukuba ukuhlala kulo msebenzi kuya kukugcina ungonwabanga.
Enye indlela yokulawula imeko iya kuba kukushiya umsebenzi wakho kwaye uqale ishishini lakho okanye ube ngumsebenzi osebenza yedwa.
Kubudlelwane bakho, ukuba uyazi ukuba kutheni kwaye kutheni umntu eza kuphendula kwimeko ethile, unokwenza enye yezinto ezimbini. Okokuqala, unokuziphepha iimeko ezibangela iimvakalelo ezingalunganga kunye nokuziphatha naphina apho kunokwenzeka. Okwesibini, ungabanceda bakwazi ukumelana neemeko ezingenakuphepheka.
Okanye ukuba ufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho likwimeko yoxolo ngeempelaveki, ungagcina iingxoxo ezibalulekileyo zokwenza oko kube lula kangangoko kunokwenzeka (nobabini).
Okanye, cinga ukuba ungumphathi ofuna ukufumana uninzi kwiqela labo. Ngokujonga indlela ilungu ngalinye eliziphethe ngayo kunye nendlela abanxibelelana ngayo, emva koko uchaze oku, uchaze, kwaye usebenzise oko ukuqikelela indlela oza kuziphatha ngayo kwixesha elizayo, unokufumana iindlela ezifanelekileyo zokubakhuthaza.
Ilungu ngalinye linokuphendula kakuhle kwizinto ezahlukeneyo kwaye amanye amalungu anokusebenza ngokuvisisanayo kunamanye. Olu lulwazi oluxabisekileyo lokulawula imeko kunye nokwandisa imveliso.
Ngaba u-lisa kudrow umhlobo okhulelweyo
Kukho umgca ococekileyo, ewe, phakathi kokusebenzisa ulawulo kwabanye ukwenza isiphumo esihle kubo bonke abantu, nokukhohlisa abantu ukuze uxhamle kwiindleko zabo. Ngalo lonke ixesha gcinani engqondweni ukuba izinto enizenzayo kufuneka zibe zezilungele bonke.
Ke, ezo ziintsika ezine eziphambili zengqondo. Ngelixa ungenakuba ngumcebisi okanye ugqirha, ungazithatha ezi ngcinga kwaye uzisebenzise kubomi bakho.
Ungachaza iimvakalelo okanye iingcinga ozifuna ngaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi. Ungacacisa ukuba kutheni le mvakalelo kunye neengcinga zenzeka. Ungaqikelela ukuba ezi mvakalelo neengcinga zinokwenzeka nini na kwixa elizayo.
Kwaye, xa usizisa ndawonye, ungazama ukulawula iimeko ezithile ukhulule ezingalunganga okanye ukhuthaze ezilungileyo
Khumbula, okukhona ukwazi ukumba nzulu kwizinto kunye nezizathu kwaye unike iinkcukacha zokwenyani, kokukhona uya kubekwa ngcono ekuqikeleleni nasekulawuleni ikamva lakho.
Ngokujonga kule nkqubo, uya kuba nakho ukufumana iindlela zokwenza izinto zibe lula, kwaye zingcono, ngokwakho nakwabo bakungqongileyo.
