Ingqondo yeyona nto ingumqobo kwimpumelelo kunye nokuziphucula kubantu abaninzi…
Uloyiko esilugcinayo malunga nobomi obungaziwayo, ikamva, kunye nokukhetha kwethu kunokubangela ukuba singakwazi ukwenza.
Ingxaki kukuba ngaphandle kokuba sikhethe ukujongana noloyiko lwethu, banokudibanisa iingxaki ezikhoyo kunye nokwenza ezitsha ekuvukeni kwabo.
Iindaba ezimnandi zezokuba unokufumana ukuthuthuzela ngakumbi ukuqhubela phambili ngokuqonda ukuba uloyiko lwakho olungaziwayo luvela phi, ujongana nalo, kwaye uloyise.
Abantu abaninzi bayonwaba kwaye bakhe ukuzithemba njengoko besamkela kwaye bengena kwindawo engaziwayo, beqhubela phambili kwiindawo ezibenza bangonwabi.
Unokucinga ngayo njengomatiloshe osandula kuqalisa ukuhamba, elwandle okokuqala ngqa. Zininzi izinto ezingaziwayo apho izinto zinokungahambi kakuhle…
… Kodwa okukhona bephuma ngaphandle, kokukhona beya kuba nezakhono, banolwazi, kwaye baya kuhlala kamnandi kunye nabantu abangaziwayo.
Bakha ukuzithemba kumandla abo okuhamba ngendlela engaziwayo. Kwaye oko kudibana ngokucocekileyo kwesi sicatshulwa sithandwayo!
Inqanawa kwizibuko ikhuselekile, kodwa ayisiyiyo eyenzelwe iinqanawa. -UJohn A. Shedd
Awuzelanga kuhlala apha kwaye ubole kwizibuko elikhuselekileyo. Ulapha ukushiya uphawu kwihlabathi ekufuneka ulishiyile, kwaye oko kuyakufuna ukuphuma uye kwindawo engaziwayo.
wazi njani ukuba indoda iyazifihla iimvakalelo zayo
Umntu woyisa njani uloyiko lwawo olungaziwayo?
1. Buza ukuba uloyiko lwakho olungaziwayo luvelaphi?
Uloyiko lutyekelo lomntu lwendalo olukhoyo lokusigcina sengozini. Ngumntu onqabileyo ongoyikiyo kwaphela.
Abo banoloyiko oluncinci banokuthi bajongane nabo ngaphambili okanye bakhule bekhululekile kunye nabo ukuze badlule kubo.
Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, isibindi sikhetha ukujonga uloyiko ebusweni kwaye senze nantoni na.
Ukoyika into engaziwayo kunokubangelwa yimeko eyoyikisayo, imeko, okanye iinkumbulo zamalinge adlulileyo ahamba kakubi.
Olo hlobo loloyiko lunokulahlekisa kuba umntu usenokungabi nalo uluvo oluchanekileyo malunga nokuba yintoni kanye kanye esisongelo.
Ixhala kunye noloyiko zihlala zikhulu kakhulu ezingqondweni zethu kunakwinyani. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba into ingakhange ihambe kakuhle kwixa elidlulileyo kwaye saphela singaphazamiseki okanye senzakala, oko akuthethi ukuba into efanayo iya kuphinda yenzeke.
Ngamanye amaxesha, uloyiko lokungaziwa kunokuba sisiphumo sokuziva ungalawuleki.
Umntu unokuzithemba kwaye aqiniseke ngeziqu zakhe ukuba uziva ukuba unokuqikelela ukuba iza kwenzeka njani into.
Ukuphulukana nolawulo kunokubangela unxunguphalo, uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo malunga nazo zonke iindlela ezinokubakho zokuba kukho into engahambi kakuhle.
Akuqhelekanga kubantu abaneengxaki zokuxhalabisa ukuba ukulawula , njengoko bezama ukuqonda ukuba bafumane isiqabu kuxinzelelo lwabo malunga nayo yonke into enokuthi ihambe gwenxa.
Ukuziqhelanisa okanye ulindelo lokuba imeko inokuthi ihambe njani iyasinika intuthuzelo, njengoko siziva ngathi sinokuxhomekeka kwisizathu nakwimpembelelo yezenzo zethu.
Ngokwenene akukho sizathu sokuba nexhala ukuba siyazi ukuba iAction A iya kuba nesiphumo B. Kodwa, inyani kukuba ezona zicwangciso zibekiweyo zinokungahambi kakuhle.
Ngamanye amaxesha sijamelana neemeko zangaphandle ebesingazicingelanga kwaye kufuneka sithembe ukuba singazisingatha.
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Umntu makachonge into aboyikayo nokuba kutheni esoyika…
Ngaba kudlule ukoyisa? Ngaba ayaziwa? Ngaba yinto nje enkulu neyoyikisayo oyithathayo?
Olu lwazi lweengcambu luya kunceda ukukhokela izigqibo zakho zexesha elizayo ngendlela oqhubeka ngayo.
2. Phanda kwaye uqonde ubungozi bokwenyani obuhambelana noloyiko lwakho.
Ingqondo iyakwazi ukwandisa, ukujija, kunye ne-warp uloyiko lokungaziwa lube yinto enkulu ngakumbi kunoko kungenxa yento engabonakaliyo yolo loyiko oluthile.
Ukuba wenza okungaziwayo kwaziwa kwaye uyayiqonda imingcipheko enxulumene nayo, unako ziphinde zisebenze kwakhona kwaye ugcine ingqondo yakho ekujikelezeni uloyiko lube yinto enkulu kunaleyo iyiyo.
Olunye uloyiko lusekelwe kokungaziwayo, kwaye loo nto yenza ukuba uziqhelanise nokungaziwa ukuba kunamandla ngakumbi ekupheliseni uloyiko lwakho.
Yeyiphi into ofuna ukuyenza? Zithini iingozi ezinxulunyaniswa nayo?
Unokufumana ulwazi malunga nayo nayiphi na into nge-intanethi kubandakanya ulwazi oluxabisekileyo oluvela kubaqeqeshi, iingcali, iingcali, kunye nabantu esele bephumelele ukwenza nantoni na ozama ukuyifeza.
Uqala nini umlo weronda rousey
Qala ekugqibeleni kwaye usebenze ngasemva. Qinisa iinjongo zakho ngokubhala phantsi uze usebenze umva ukuya kwinqanaba ukuba ngoku.
Le ndlela iya kukugcina ungangeni kwi Uhlalutyo Ukukhubazeka umgibe, apho umntu echitha nje ixesha elininzi ngokuhlalutya kunye nokuphanda endaweni yokuphuhlisa isicwangciso sokusebenza kunye nokulandela oko.
Cwangcisa umngcipheko wokwenene kangangoko unako! Kwaye ukuba kukho into evelayo obungayazanga, phinda ungene kwakhona ufumane isisombululo esele sifunyenwe ngumntu. Akukho mfuneko yokuphinda uvuselele ivili.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Indlela yokujongana noloyiko lokufa kwaye wenze uxolo ngokufa
- Ungalunqoba njani uloyiko loTshintsho kwaye ujonge ngokuzithemba kwimiceli mngeni emitsha
- Uluguqula njani uloyiko lwakho lokungaphumeleli lube luKhuthazo ukuze uphumelele
- Ungayiyeka njani intlekele malunga neziganeko ebomini bakho
- Ungamisa njani ukuba nexhala elilindelekileyo ngaphambi kokuba likoyise
3. Vumela amanyathelo amancinci ajike abe ngamanqwanqwa amakhulu.
Iimeko ezahlukeneyo zifuna amanyathelo ahlukeneyo kwindlela ozifeza ngayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukuthatha utsibe lokholo kwaye uziphose kwindawo ongaziwayo.
Ngamanye amaxesha kungcono ukuthatha amanyathelo amancinci usiya kwinjongo enkulu ngakumbi ojonge ukuyifeza. Ngokwenza njalo, unokwakha amandla kunye nokuzithemba njengoko usakha izakhono zakho kunye nokukwazi ukujongana neemeko ezijikeleze loo nto woyikayo.
Ukuthetha esidlangalaleni ngumzekelo olungileyo. Awudingi ukuqala ngokuthetha kwiholo elikhulu labantu abaliwaka. Qala kancinci. Thetha ngombandela wakho wesifundo komnye obalulekileyo okanye umhlobo.
Emva koko yiya kwiqela elincinci, njengeqela labahlobo kunye nosapho. Ukusuka apho unokuhamba uye kumaqela amakhulu abantu de uziva ukhululekile ukuyalela imakrofoni phambi kwabaphulaphuli abaninzi.
Kwelinye icala, ukuthatha umtsi kwaye uthethe nje phambi kweqela elikhulu kunokuba kungaluncedo emva kwayo yonke loo nto. Ungazifumana usongelwe luloyiko kunye noxinzelelo lokuyiphazamisa, kuba kusenokwenzeka ukuba ukuthetha phambi kweqela ubungakanani buya kuba nohlobo oluthile lokubaluleka olubotshelelwe kuyo.
Musa ukuthandabuza ukuthatha amanyathelo amancinci ukuba uziva ukuba kuya kukunceda woyise uloyiko lwakho. Akukho zisombululo zininzi kakhulu ezilingana nesisombululo, kuxhomekeke kwimeko kunye nohlobo lomntu onguye.
4. Lutshintshe uloyiko lwakho lube yimincili.
Imincili noloyiko zivela kwindawo efanayo. Banikezela ngenani elithile lokukhuthaza kwaye beza neemvakalelo ezifanayo zomzimba.
Ukuguqula eyakho Ukoyika engaziwayo kwi uchulumanco lwe into engaziwayo ingayenye indlela yokuyichitha.
Uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo kuya kubangela ukuba umntu ajolise kuyo yonke into enokuthi ihambe gwenxa. Ukutshintsha ingxelo yangaphakathi kwinto elungileyo , apho ujolise khona kumathuba okukhula kunye nento enokuhamba ngokuchanekileyo inokubonelela ngokonyusa okongezelelekileyo ekufuneka ukufumene kuyo.
Olu hlobo lokugcina iingcinga zakho luyinto ethatha ukuzinikela kunye nokuziqhelanisa nokusebenza kakuhle. Okukhona usenza, kokukhona kulula ukwenza.
Ayizukukunqanda ekubeni uve uloyiko kwaphela, kodwa iluncedo ngokungaqhelekanga ekugcineni olo loyiko ekuphazamiseni ithemba lakho, amaphupha akho, kunye nezicwangciso zakho.
5. Balumkele abantu abahamba ecaleni kwakho kuhambo lwakho.
Uloyiko yinto enomdla kuba wonke umntu uziva kwinqanaba elithile. Abanye abantu babhetele ekusiphatheni kunabanye.
Kungangumbono olungileyo ukuthembela kubahlobo, kusapho, kumcebisi, okanye kumqeqeshi ukukunceda ukuba ufikelele kwiinjongo ofuna ukuzifikelela.
Oko kukuthi, becinga ukuba banembono esempilweni kwihlabathi kunye neenkolelo ezifanelekileyo.
Nangona kunjalo, unokufumanisa ukuba imbono yakho yehlabathi kunye nokulandela iinjongo zichaphazeleka kukuqonda kwabo.
andingowalapha kule planethi
Ukuba ujikelezwe ngu engalunganga okanye abantu abonakalisayo, bathanda ukusebenza njengoononkala ebhakedeni…
… Awudingi nokubeka isiciko kwibhakethi kuba bahlala betsalela abo bazama ukubaleka babuyele emabhakeni kunye nabo.
Le yingxaki xa kuziwa ekuphuculeni ngokwakho kunye nokungena kwindawo engaziwayo.
Ungafumanisa ukuba abantu abakungqongileyo abakuxhasi ukuphononongwa kwakho kwaye banqwenela ukuphazamisa imeko yakho.
Unokuva izinto ezinje:
'Yintoni engalunganga ngendlela izinto eziyiyo?'
“Awonwabanga kunye nam?”
kutheni kubuhlungu ukuthanda umntu
'Kutheni ungonwabi nje ngento onayo?'
Unokufumanisa ukuba iminqweno yakho ijongelwa phantsi kwaye ayixhaswanga. Ungafumanisa ukuba uloyiko lwabo lutyhefa iingcinga zakho, iminqweno yakho, okanye iimbono zakho ngenxa yokuba beziphindaphinda kwaye zikhetha ukuhlala kuzo.
Ayingowe, awunguye. Kwaye indlela yakho ayisiyiyo indlela yabo.
Ndiyathemba ukuba uyakujikelezwa ngabantu abakuxhasayo abafuna ukuba uphumelele. Abantu abaza kukukhuthaza ukuthatha amanyathelo ukoyisa uloyiko lwakho lwezinto ezingaziwayo kunye namava ezinto ezinokubunikwa bobu bomi.
Musa ukuvumela abanye abantu ukuba bayalele iinjongo zakho okanye indlela ebomini.
Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka uhambe umendo owaziyo ukuba kufuneka uhambe wedwa.
Kulungile. Ukukhula kuthetha ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka ushiye abantu ngasemva ukuba abasadibani nendlela ofuna ukuphila ngayo kunye nokuziphatha kwakho.
Ngenye indlela, banokufumana inkuthazo kumnqweno wakho wokujongana noloyiko kwaye uhambe nawe.
Zininzi iindlela uhambo lwakho lobomi olunokuthi luvele. Musa ukoyika into engaziwayo. Yamkele kwaye uya kukhula kwaye unamava kakhulu!
