I-telepathy ihlala ibekelwe uhlobo lwenzululwazi, kodwa kuthekani ukuba singazifunda ezinye iingcinga zabantu? Yintoni esinokuyifumana?
Ungamnika njani umntu wakho isithuba
Xa kubonisiwe ezincwadini, kwifilimu, okanye kumabonwakude, ukukwazi ukufunda iingqondo kuhlala kuyinto ecocekileyo nenamatheleneyo apho i-telepath idibana nombalisi wangaphakathi 'othetha' isivakalisi esinye ngexesha. Oku kuyavakala kwiinjongo zokujonga kuba ukumelwa ngokuchanekileyo kwengqondo kunokuba nzima ukuvelisa kwaye kungasebenzi njengendlela yokubalisa amabali.
Ke masime nje okomzuzwana kwaye siqwalasele ukuba kunjani ngokwenene ukufunda iingcinga zomnye umntu. Siza kubona ntoni kwaye sive ntoni? Yintoni esinokuyifunda ngathi?
Iingqondo zethu zinokuphazamiseka
Ewe, into yokuqala endicinga ukuba siyakuyiqonda kukuba iingcinga azikho emgceni oko kukuthi iingcinga azihlali zisenzeka ngexesha elinye, kwaye azisoloko zenzeka ngolandelelwano ebesilindele ukuba zenzeke ngalo. Endaweni yoko, siza kujongana nokuqhuma kweengcinga ezingena ngaphakathi nangaphandle njengemisonto kwilaphu elingapheliyo nelintsokothileyo.
Ingcinga inokuba yenye yezinto ezininzi esinokuthi siqaphele ilizwi elingaphakathi elithetha ngathi kunye nathi, 'izinto' ezivela kwiliso lengqondo (iinkumbulo, ukucinga, njalo njalo), kunye nezandi ezijikeleza iintloko zethu. Ukuba ubunokufunda ingqondo yomnye umntu, ubunokuyenza Yothuka ngenani elipheleleyo leengcinga ezahlukileyo ezijikeleza nangaliphi na ixesha.
Iingcinga Zethu Zingangqinelani
Into yesibini eza kubonakala ngokukhawuleza kukuba ayizizo zonke iingcinga ezisengqiqweni. Sonke sifumana isabelo sethu esifanelekileyo semibono engekho ngqiqweni nengavakaliyo, kodwa asizithethi ngokuvakalayo kuba iingqondo zethu ziyazi ukuba oku akulunganga.
Ngamanye amaxesha, umzekelo, siba nengcinga yempendulo emsulwa yamadolo kwinto eyenzekayo ebomini bethu. Rhoqo ezi ziqhutywa ziimvakalelo zethu, ezinxulunyaniswe ngokungalinganiyo kwi-egos yethu. Banobunzima obungenangqondo, kwaye ngelixa iimvakalelo zihlala, ingcinga iya kuthi gabalala ezingqondweni zethu. Kuze kube yilapho iimvakalelo zethu zokuqala ziye zaxhaswa ukuba inkqubo yokucinga eqiqayo inokuthi yenzeke kwaye sinokucinga ngokungahambi kakuhle kwethu ngokucacileyo kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuhleka.
Njengomntu wangaphandle ojonge ngaphakathi, ngekhe sive ezi mvakalelo ezifanayo kwaye ke ubunyulu obucocekileyo beengcinga buza kubonakala kwangoko.
I-Ego idlala indima enkulu
Enye into esiza kuyibona, kwaye oku kudityaniswa nenqaku langaphambili, kukuba inani elikhulu leengcinga zomntu zijikeleza ngokwabo. Unokucinga ukuba oku kuyavakala ngokupheleleyo, kwaye xa kuziwa kwiingcinga ezisebenzayo malunga nendlela umntu aza kuyenza ngayo into, uya kuba ulungile.
Kodwa xa ingengqondo yakho, uqala ukuqonda ukuba iingcinga ezishiyekileyo zibonisa ukuzingca, amampunge, kwaye narcissism . Ngokujonga ingqondo isebenza, uya kuba nakho ukuyiqonda ngcono impembelelo ye-ego njengoko izama ukukhusela nokomeleza indawo yayo.
I-ego ikwanoxanduva lwalo lonke unxunguphalo noxinzelelo esiluvayo kunye nenani elipheleleyo leengcinga ezinikezela kwezi mvakalelo ziya kubonakala.
Asizizo Zonke Iingcinga Ezimnandi
Siza kuqonda ukuba zingaphi iingcinga ezinokuba mnyama kwaye ziphazamise ngandlela ithile. Kwabona bantu baqhelekileyo baya kufumana izimvo ezingafunekiyo ezivela ezingqondweni zabo rhoqo.
Yaziwa ziingcali njenge iingcinga ezingenayo , banokusiphinda basigxothe ngokungathandeki kwabo. Zihlala zibandakanya nokuba loluphi uhlobo lobundlobongela okanye ukubhekisa kwimisebenzi yesondo, kodwa, nokuba ngowuphi umxholo, umntu ophilileyo uyazi ukuba ngekhe enze kubo.
Oko akutsho ukuba awuyi kubafumana xa ufunda ingqondo yomnye umntu.
Ithetha Ntoni Yonke Le Nto?
Emva kokunyuka ngaphakathi kwengqondo yomnye umntu ukuba ubukele, ufunde, kwaye umamele iingcinga zabo, uyakuqonda ukuba ingqondo yakho ifana nabanye abaninzi phaya. Awukahlukanga kuthi sonke, ngoko akukho mfuneko yokuba uzive uneentloni ngeengcinga zakho akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngawe.
Unokufumana ukuqonda okungcono kokuziphatha kwabanye abantu. Uyazi ukuba indlela yokuziphatha engenangqondo iqhutywa ziingcinga ezingenangqondo, kodwa ezi azichazi umntu ozicingayo. Inokukunceda phuhlisa indlela enovelwano ngakumbi komnye umntu, usazi ukuba uyafana ngakumbi kunokuba ubucinga.
I-Conscious Rethink: awuzizo iingcinga zakho kwaye ayingabo. Ingqondo yomntu yindawo ehlala isiphithiphithi kwaye iyafana kuninzi lwabantu. Irrationality, i-ego, uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo akufuneki uzikhathaze kangako ngazo emva kokuba uziqwalasele kwaye uziqonde. Ukubona ngaphakathi kwengqondo yomnye umntu kunokuba yeyona nto ivula amehlo kubo bonke.
