Kubudlelwane obufanelekileyo, omabini amaqabane ngabantu abadibanayo ukuze babe ngabathathi-nxaxheba abalinganayo kule yunithi.
Ngelishwa, imeko efanelekileyo ayisoloko isenzeka.
Amandla anamandla anokungalingani ngendlela ejongela phantsi ubudlelwane okanye impilo yengqondo yabathathi-nxaxheba.
Umntu ophatha iqabane lakhe njengomntwana ungomnye onganampilo.
Ibeka amandla kubudlelwane kulowo usebenza ngendlela elawulayo.
Oko kunokuba nezinye iziphumo njengoko loo mntu enokwenza izigqibo malunga nokuba iqabane lakhe limele ukuqhuba njani ubomi babo, engangayi kuba yinzuzo kuloo mntu.
Omabini amaqabane kufuneka akwazi ukuzimela njengabathathi-nxaxheba kubudlelwane obunothando, obulinganayo.
Kutheni iqabane lam lindiphatha njengomntwana?
Sifundisa abanye abantu indlela yokusiphatha. ” Libinzana eliqhelekileyo eligqithisela kunxibelelwano lwentlalo kwaye alwenzi msebenzi mkhulu wokunxibelelana noluvo lungemva kwalo.
Isivakalisi sithetha ntoni umisela indlela abanye abantu abakuphatha ngayo ngokuvumela okanye ukungavumeli isimilo esithile.
Ukuvumela isimilo sixelela omnye umntu ukuba ulungile kuyo.
Kubudlelwane obusempilweni, oko kufanele kubandakanya isimilo esihle, yoluntu ungquzulwano, nokusombulula iingxaki.
Ukungavumeli isimilo sokuqaqambisa imida yakho kunxibelelana nomnye umntu ukuba awukulungelanga ukuphathwa ngendlela ethile.
Ibonisa ukuba indlela yokuziphatha ekuthethwa ngayo ayamkelekanga, ukuba awukulungelanga ukuyinyamezela, kwaye kuya kubakho iziphumo zelo nyathelo.
Ezo ziphumo zinokubakho kungquzulwano ukuya kude kunxibelelwano lwasentlalweni.
Xa umntu ephatha iqabane lakhe njengomntwana, kuhlala kungenxa yokuba iqabane libonakalisile ukuba lilungile kolo nyango.
Basenokungabinakho ukuzithemba okuqinisekileyo ngesiqu sabo, imida efanelekileyo, okanye bazive bekhuselekile ukungqubana nomnye umntu.
Ukuziphatha kunokuba nokuhamba kancinci kungabonakali de ekugqibeleni kubonakale.
Leyo yingxaki ekufuneka ijongiwe kuba ngekhe uxhomekeke kwabanye abantu ukuba bakunqwenelele okuhle, nkqu nabantu abathi bayakuthanda.
Uninzi lwexesha, baya kusilela kokufanelekileyo kubo kuba abantu bathambekele ekubeni ngabazithandayo ngakumbi kunayo nayiphi na enye into.
Ke, unokwenza ntoni ngayo?
Misela imida kunye nokulingana.
Kukho iindlela ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokumisela imida kunye nokusebenza kwindlela oziva ngayo.
Inokukunceda ukuqala ngendlela ethambileyo ngokuthetha neqabane lakho uxelele into enje:
'Ndiqaphele ukuba bendiyeke kakhulu kubudlelwane bethu, kwaye ndingathanda uncedo lwakho ekutshintsheni loo nto.'
Ukuthatha ukuba ubudlelwane abuphathi gadalala kwaye umntu akalawuli, oku kuya kuba ngokwaneleyo ukuba ufumane iqabane lakho ebhodini ngokukunceda kolu tshintsho.
Banethemba lokuba baya kuvuma, kwaye nobabini ninokwenza ngcono iindlela zokuba nithathe ukuma okulinganayo kubudlelwane xa kufikwa ekuthathweni kwezigqibo, ukwenza le nto ufuna ukuyenza, nendlela ofuna ukuyenza ngayo.
Kubudlelwane obungenampilo okanye obunokubaphatha gadalala, iqabane lakho liya kuthi lityhalele emva nzima kwimizamo yakho yokuqinisekisa ngakumbi ngobomi bakho.
Isizathu kukuba abaxhaphazi bafuna amaxhoba abo ukuba athobele. Ukwenza ukuthobela, umxhaphazi unokusebenzisa ubundlobongela, amazwi, okanye impatho gadalala ukukwenza ukuba uxhomekeke kubo kumanqanaba ohlukeneyo.
Abanye abantu bayazibaxa izinto kwabanye, kunokubonakala ngathi kukuziphatha okungacacanga.
Ukuba iinzame zakho zokuseka isazisi kunye nokulingana kubudlelwane zihlangatyezene nobutshaba kunye nomsindo, kungangcono ukuba ufune uncedo lonyango olunokukunceda uhambe ngendlela ngokukhuselekileyo (okt sukuzama iingcebiso kwicandelo. ngezantsi).
Umlawuli ophethe gadalala angayandisa indlela yokuziphatha kwabo ukuba baziva ngathi uyaphuma phantsi kolawulo lwabo, olunokukubeka engozini.
Ucinga ukuba kukhuselekile ukuba wenze njalo, ungaqala ukuthatha uxanduva ngakumbi kunye neenkqubo zokwenza izigqibo zobudlelwane.
Ukuba iqabane lakho liyakuxhasa, oku kunokuba lula. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ubange apho imida yakho ihleli khona.
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Ukuba oko akuphumeleli, thatha indlela eqinileyo.
Ayingabo bonke abantu abalawulayo abahlukumezayo, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kumlawuli ukuyicima.
Umntu oya emsebenzini ekhokela iqela elikhulu unokufuna ukugcina ulawulo kwelo qela ngeentsuku ezili-12 zomsebenzi kwaye emva koko abe nexesha elinzima lokucima xa befika ekhaya.
Banokuba ngumntu ozimeleyo oqhele ukwenza izigqibo rhoqo kwaye enze nje into ekufuneka eyenzile.
Kwelinye icala, kwaye yintoni enokwenzeka, yile umntu akakakhuli ngokweemvakalelo kwaye akaluqondi kakuhle uvelwano.
Basenokungaqondi ukuba izenzo zabo zinobungozi okanye azinampilo kuba kuphela kwento abayaziyo.
Abazange babe nethuba okanye ixesha lokukhula kunye nokuphucula njengomntu okanye ukuqonda ukuba kuthatha ntoni ukuba liqabane elisemgangathweni kubudlelwane obuphilileyo, obunothando.
Akukho nanye kwezi zinto ingxaki 'kuwe'. Leyo yingxaki 'yabo' ekuya kufuneka basebenze kuyo kwaye bazame ukuphucula ukuba banethemba lokuba nobudlelwane obusempilweni.
Kwimeko apho iqabane lilawula, kodwa kunganyanzelekanga ukuba uphathe gadalala, ungafumanisa ukuba kufuneka ubakhumbuze ngemida yakho njengoko beqhela olu tshintsho kubudlelwane.
Sebenzisa ulwimi oluqinileyo nolungqalileyo malunga nemeko enje:
“Ndizuza eyam imali. Ndinokugqiba ukuba ndiza kuyisebenzisa njani. ”
'Andidingi kuxelelwa ukuba ndizozihlamba nini okanye nini izitya.'
“Ndimdala. Andiyifuni imvume yakho yokwenza into yeXYZ. '
ukuqala njani ubomi obutsha
Kuya kufuneka ulindele ukubuya umva kunye naphambili njengoko iqabane lakho lizama ukuqonda ukuba yeyiphi imigca emitsha kunye nendlela yokuqhubeka.
Kwaye baya kuyenza ngokubanzi ngokutyhala kancinci ukubona ukuba ungakanani umda wokuchasana.
Ngethemba, baya kuyifumana ngokukhawuleza le mida mitsha kwaye bayamkele njengenxalenye yobudlelwane.
Zilungiselele ukuqhekeka ukuba kuye kwafika oko.
Kwilizwe elifanelekileyo, umnqweno wakho wokuthatha inxaxheba elinganayo kubudlelwane bakho uya kudibana nothando kunye nokuqonda.
Kodwa asihlali kwihlabathi elifanelekileyo. Siphila kwihlabathi elinobunzima, elonakeleyo apho abantu benza izigqibo ezimbi okanye zokuzingca ngalo lonke ixesha.
Inyani yento yile, ukuba ungumntu othobelayo kubahlobo bakho okanye iqabane onothando, obo budlelwane bunokutshintsha kakhulu xa uyeka ukuba nochuku.
Bayatshintsha kuba umntu ebengakuthandi okanye engakhathali ngawe bakhathalele kuphela indlela abanokukusebenzisa ngayo ukuthobela kwakho kwisibonelelo sabo.
Ekumiseleni imida yakho, unokufumanisa ukuba iqabane lakho liphela liyaphuma ngenxa yokuba ubudlelwane butshintshile ngendlela abangafuni ukuba yinxalenye yayo.
Oko kunokuba yinto esempilweni okanye engenampilo, nangona ingenampilo rhoqo kunangoku.
Awufuni kuxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane lakho. Ufuna ukuba nenkululeko yokwenza ukhetho olukufaneleyo.
Sebenza ukuba unako, ube nolondolozo oluthile, kwaye ujonge ukhetho xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle.
Kwaye ukuba, nangasiphi na isizathu, uziva usoyika okanye imeko iqala ukunyuka xa uzama ukwenza utshintsho, khangela uncedo lobuchwephesha ngaphambi kokwenza enye into!
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