Ngaba umyeni okanye umfazi wakho ubeka ityala ngayo yonke into?
Mamela ngokusondeleyo:awunatyala.
Ubuncinci, ukusola akuyiyo indlela efanelekileyo yokuchaza.
Ngokwendalo, kusenokubakho ezinye izinto eziyinxalenye yakho uxanduva . Ezinye iintshukumo ozithathileyo (okanye ongazithathanga), amanye amagama owathethileyo, unyango oluthile lweqabane lakho.
Ungumntu kaloku.
Kodwa ityala kunye noxanduva zizinto ezimbini ezahlukileyo.
Ukuba iqabane lakho likusola ngazo zonke izinto, ngalo lonke ixesha, ngumfanekiso ongachanekanga kakhulu wale meko.
Makhe sihlolisise ukuba kutheni banokuzama ukubeka ityala kuwe ngalo lonke ixesha, emva koko sixoxe ngento onokuyenza ngayo.
Okokuqala, bangakusola kuba…
1. Banoxinzelelo.
Ubomi bunoxinzelelo ngeendlela ezininzi: umsebenzi, ubudlelwane, usapho, impilo, kunye nemali ukubala kodwa zimbalwa.
Ukuba iqabane lakho belikhe laneengxaki ezininzi kutsha nje, okanye banokuxinezeleka ngokulula, banokujonga indlela yokubonisa unxunguphalo kunye nokudakumba.
Eli binzana linokuthatha ityala.
Ufe nini u-eddie guerro
Banokubona izinto ezingahambi kakuhle okanye imiceli mngeni ebonakala kunzima kakhulu ukujongana nayo, kwaye basenokukubek 'ityala ngazo.
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2. Banokuzithemba okuphantsi.
Umntu onokuzithemba akazithandi ngokukodwa.
Ngelishwa, oku kungathandi kunokuhlala kungena kulwalamano lwabo.
Banokuba besilwa neemvakalelo zabo kunye nobomi ngokubanzi, kodwa baziva bengenako ukucela uncedo.
Endaweni yoko, bakhomba umnwe wokusola kuye nabani na okhoyo. Njengamaqabane abo, oko kuthetha ukuba uninzi lwexesha.
Njengokuba kunjalo noxinzelelo, uba sisixhobo seengcinga neemvakalelo zabo ezinzima.
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3. Abafuni kutshintsha.
Ukwamkela uxanduva ngezenzo zabo kuthetha ukujongana nethuba lokuba kufuneka batshintshe.
Kwaye utshintsho luyothusa kubantu abaninzi, ngakumbi xa olo tshintsho lubandakanya indlela oziphethe ngayo.
Kulula kakhulu ukuba ungatshintshi. Ke ukwenza izizathu zokungajongani neziphene zabo, bazitshintshela kuwe.
Ngequbuliso, kuba yonke into iyimpazamo yakho, akusafuneki ukuba bafake umsebenzi onzima- kwaye ngumsebenzi onzima- ukutshintsha ukuba banjani kwaye bangobani.
4. Bayingcali yeembali.
Olunye uqikelelo ubeke inani labantu abaphethwe sisifo esiyiNarcissistic Personality Disorder kwi-6.2% yabemi.
Kwaye ii-narcissists zikufumanisa kunzima ukwamkela naluphi na uxanduva lwezinto ezingahambi kakuhle.
Abakwazi ukuvuma ukuba baphosisile kuba oko kungayichitha imbono yabo ethe-ethe abazibambe njengezizinto ezigqibeleleyo.
AbakwaNarcissists baya kuhlala befuna ukugxeka omnye umntu ngayo nantoni na abayenzileyo engalunganga okanye nantoni na engahambi kakuhle.
Ukuba utshatile, lowo uya kuba nguwe ixesha elininzi.
Funda iinkcazo zethu zeendidi ezintathu ze-narcissist- enobungozi , ukufihla , kunye ngcathu - ukubona ukuba iqabane lakho linokuba linye.
5. Balawula ukugqibelela.
Abanye abantu banombono ochanekileyo ngendlela izinto ekufuneka zenziwe ngayo.
Bangabantu abafezekileyo abangakwaziyo ukunyamezela xa kukho into eyenziweyo ngokwahlukileyo kwindlela abafuna ngayo.
Kwaye ke bahlala belawula indlela abaziphethe ngayo, belindele ukuba abanye abantu ababangqongileyo bathobele ukuthanda kwabo.
Kuphela, akunakwenzeka ukuba baphile ngokwemigangatho yabo.
Iziphumo: ityala.
Bayakugxeka ngokungabi ngumntu ogqibeleleyo abanqwenela ukuba ube nguye. Umntu ogqibeleleyo ukuba.
Ngalo lonke ixesha usuka kulindelo lwabo lokugqibelela, uyagxekwa.
ungamnceda njani umhlobo wakho emva kokuba nahlukene
6. Abonwabanga emtshatweni.
Ukuba ityala yinto ethe chu ukungena kulwalamano lwakho kwaye ngoku efikelele encotsheni, kusenokwenzeka ukuba iqabane lakho alonwabanga emtshatweni.
Kwaye banokubona njengesizathu esingunobangela wokuba bangonwabi.
Kwaye ke baqala ukukusola ngayo yonke into. Uba yinto ekugxilwe kuyo.
Endaweni yokuzama ukuthetha nawe ukulungisa iingxaki zomtshato wakho, bajonge indlela elula yokuphuma.
Bafumba ityala ngethemba lokuba liyakutyhalela kude kwaye liphelise umtshato.
Ngale ndlela, ukuba ugqiba ekubeni uqhawule umtshato, yimpazamo yakho, hayi eyabo.
7. Bayakucaphukisa ngento ethile.
Inxalenye eyahlukileyo yokungonwabi kubudlelwane imvakalelo yokuba nenzondo kwiqabane lakho .
Bakholelwa ukuba wenze into eyenze ubomi babo okanye ubudlelwane bakho baba mandundu.
Nokuba nobabini nivumelene ngayo, banibona njengoyena mphembeleli wayo nantoni na.
Mhlawumbi yayikukufudukela kwisixeko esitsha, ukuba nabantwana, okanye nokutshata kwasekuqaleni.
Ukuba baziva ngathi olu tshintsho alubenzelanga nto, okanye ukuba bayasokola ukujongana nemeko yabo entsha, banokukubeka ityala ngayo.
Izinto wonke umntu ekufuneka ezazi ngobomi
Kwaye abakugxeki nje ngotshintsho olukhulu olwenzekileyo, kodwa ngayo yonke enye into eza nayo-kubandakanya ukungonwabi kwabo.
8. Bafunda ukutyhola abazali babo.
Abantwana bafana neziponji - bathambisa yonke into abayibonayo nabayivayo.
Kwimeko yeepatheni zobudlelwane obungenampilo, umntwana angakhula ekholelwa ekubeni le yinto eqhelekileyo.
Ukuba konke abakhe bakubona, yayingumzali omnye otyhola omnye - okanye bobabini abazali begxeka omnye nomnye- banokuyiphinda le ndlela yokuziphatha kubudlelwane babo.
Iqala njengotyekelo olusekwe kubuntwana babo, kwaye ikhula ngokukhawuleza ibe ngumkhwa abawenzayo ngaphandle kokucinga ngokwenyani.
9. Bayazisola ngento abayenzileyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, xa umntu esenza into angazingci ngayo okanye azisole ngayo, ngandlela thile projekthi ezo mvakalelo kwabanye .
Ngamanye amagama, endaweni yokujongana nokuzisola okanye ityala, benza kubonakale ngathi omnye umntu unesizathu sokuziva ezisola endaweni yakhe.
Oku kubonakalisa ukuba netyala.
Endaweni yokuba uthathe ityala ngento ethile bona Ngaba, bafumene indlela yokukusola ngento ethile wena uyenzile.
Ezi zinto zinokunxulumana, okanye zisenokungabi njalo.
10. Baziva besindwa luxanduva.
Abanye abantu banokuziva ngathi bathabatha uxanduva oluninzi-ngaphezulu kwesabelo sabo esifanelekileyo kubudlelwane.
Oku kunokuba okanye kungabonakali kakuhle imeko. Ayinamsebenzi kangako babona ukuba kunjalo.
Ke, xa kukho into engahambi kakuhle - kwaye izinto zingahambi kakuhle ebomini - baziva ngathi abanankxaso yaneleyo kwaye yiyo loo nto kungahambi kakuhle.
Umlingane wakho angakusola ngeempazamo zabo ngenxa yokuba 'bekufanele' ukuba uyeke ukuzenza.
Kuya kufuneka ubancede bathathe isigqibo esingcono okanye bathwale umthwalo womsebenzi.
Ewe akunamsebenzi ukuba sele uthabathe uxanduva, basalindele ukuba ubancede.
Oku kuqhelekile kubantu abangakhulanga ngokweemvakalelo kunye / okanye abangakwaziyo ukuzijonga sele bekhulile.
Ungajongana njani neqabane elikutyhola ngento yonke
Ngelixa kunokuba luncedo ukufumanisa ezona zizathu ziphambili zokuba kutheni iqabane lakho likutyhola ngezinto, eyona nto uyifunayo yingcebiso malunga nendlela yokujongana nemeko.
Makhe sijonge amanye amanyathelo oza kuwathatha.
1. Yiba nomonde.
Nokuba injongo yakho kukufikelela kwinqanaba apho iqabane lakho lingakusoli ngalo lonke ixesha, awunakulindela ukufika apho ngokukhawuleza.
Qonda ukuba, kubo, ukutyhola sisixhobo abasisebenzisayo ukujongana nemiceli mngeni abajongana nayo kokubini kubudlelwane bakho nakwimeko ebanzi.
Ibe yindlela yokujongana nemeko- nokuba uphila njani.
Ukuba uzama ukuba bathathe i-turkey ebandayo ngetyala, ususa indlela abayisebenzisayo ukuzonwabisa.
Ngenxa yoko, banokujikela kwezinye izixhobo ezinje ngomsindo okanye ukurhoxa okunokwenzakalisa nangakumbi.
Thatha izinto kancinci, ngolunye usuku ngexesha, kwaye ujonge kuphuculo abalwenzileyo, nokuba ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi bathabatha amanyathelo amabini ukuya phambili, inyathelo elinye ukubuyela umva.
2. Musa ukulwa netyala.
Xa ukholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba into obekek ’ityala ayilotyala lakho, kungaziva kulungile ukubuyisela ityala komnye umntu.
Kodwa ukunyuka kolu hlobo kunqabile ukuba kube sisenzo esihle.
Umlingane wakho akazukuma ngesiquphe athi, 'Ngokwenyani, unyanisile, ndim obekek 'ityala.'
Endaweni yokuba bazikhusele kwaye bacaphuke.
Bayakukutyhola ngokuzama ukuphuma ngaphandle kwayo, ukuphepha uxanduva- nokuba yile nto bayenzayo kwasekuqaleni.
3. Sebenzisa ulwimi olungathath 'icala xa ubekwa ityala.
Endaweni yokugxeka iqabane lakho emva, jolisa kuphela kwindlela izityholo zabo ezikwenza uzive ngayo.
ukuba wenze ntoni xa ur ekhaya wedwa
Kulumkele ukuthi 'wena' kuso nasiphi na isivakalisi.
Endaweni yoko, sebenzisa 'mna' iingxelo ezibonisa ngezenzo zabo ngaphandle kokukhankanya ngokuthe ngqo.
'Ndiyakhathazeka kwaye iyandicaphukisa loo nto,' ngomnye wemizekelo yendlela onokuchaza ngayo izinto.
Kwaye kangangoko unqwenela ukuphikisana netyala lakho, kuhlala kungcono ukushiya kuloo nto.
Oku ayikokungeniswa kwempazamo. Yindlela elula yokuba uziveze ngaphandle kokukhokelela kwimpikiswano engenantsingiselo.
Owu, kwaye ungaxolisi ngezinto ezingezizo ezakho. Awudingi ukwamkela isityholo ngokuthi uxolo xa ingekho nyhani into yokuba uzisole ngayo.
4. Yiya ngononophelo kwiingcebiso ngomtshato.
Xa umtshato ubetha ezingxondorheni, kunokubonakala kungokwemvelo ukubhenela ekucebiseni njengesibini.
Kodwa kufuneka ulumke malunga nendlela owenza ngayo.
Okokuqala, xa ucebisa ngokucebisa, thetha malunga nendlela onqwenela ukwakha ngayo ubudlelwane bakho kunye nezinto ezintle ezinokubakho.
Chaza indlela onqwenela ukufunda ngayo iindlela ezingcono zonxibelelwano kwaye ufumanise ukuba ikhona enye into onokuyenza ukuze umtshato uphumelele.
Thobeka, vuma ukuba uneentsilelo, kwaye uthi ufuna ukuzilungisa.
Sukufaka iingcebiso njengendlela yokwabela ityala - oku kuthetha ukuba banetyala kwezinye zeengxaki ojamelana nazo.
Abayi kuyithatha ngobubele le nto kwaye banokuyinqaba ingcebiso kwaphela.
Okwesibini, ngexesha lokunika iingcebiso, kufuneka uqhubeke nokuba nobuchule kwindlela othetha ngayo.
Nangona ukholelwa ukuba izenzo zabo ziyinxalenye enkulu yengxaki, kungcono ukugcina indlela yakho 'Mna' hayi 'wena'.
Ndiziva ndinyanzelekile ukuba ndilungise izinto. ”
Ndiziva ndonganyelwe zizo zonke izinto endizenzileyo. ”
'Andiqinisekanga ngezona ndlela zingcono zokumnceda ngoxinzelelo ebomini bakhe.'
'Andiziva ndikwazi ukufikelela kulindelo olubekwe kum.'
Ndingathanda ukufunda indlela yokulawula ungquzulwano ngcono.
Ngokuzimisela ukubonisa ukuba semngciphekweni kunye nokusilela, uya kuthi ngethemba ukhuthaze iqabane lakho ukuba liyeke ukugada kancinci nalo.
Umcebisi olungileyo unokujonga ngononophelo nangokuzolileyo imiba- hayi ityala kuphela- kwaye akuncede usebenzele kuyo.
5. Qwalasela nokufumana iingcebiso ngokwahlukeneyo.
Ukuba kunokwenzeka, kungakuhle ukuba ujonge ukucebisa umntu ngamnye ukukunceda nobabini nibe nobudlelwane kunye nemicimbi yenu.
Iqabane lakho linokuziva likwazi ukuphonononga utyekelo lwabo lokugxeka abanye (okt wena) ngengcali yezempilo yengqondo kunokuba nawe okanye ingcali yezonyango.
Kwaye unokuxhamla kuhlobo oluthile lonyango ngokubhekisele kukuzithemba kwakho, ukuseta umda, ukuzithemba, okanye enye into.
Inokunceda ukubacenga ukuba bafune uncedo ukuba wenza okufanayo. Abayi kuziva ngathi ngabo kuphela ekufuneka benze utshintsho-oko kuthintela ukuthathela ingqalelo ukuba banetyala.
6. Babonise imbeko kwaye baphinda bayihloniphe.
Intlonipho ibalulekile kulo naluphi na ulwalamano, kwaye ngokukugxeka ngayo yonke into, iqabane lakho liyasilela ukukubonisa nantoni na.
Kodwa eso ayisosizathu sokuba uyeke ukubahlonipha ngokubuyisela. Olo hlobo lwengqondo ye-tit-for-tat lukhokelela kuphela kungxabano enkulu kunye neemvakalelo ezimbi.
Ngokuqhubeka uliphatha ngembeko iqabane lakho, ubabonisa uhlobo lomntu olulo. Awuveli kumgangatho wabo.
Kwaye, enyanisweni, ukuba nembeko kubo kunokubangela ukuba bafumane imbeko kubo.
Yenye yeendlela ezininzi onokuthi ubuyise ngayo imbeko owawukhe wanayo kubo.
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7. Ziqaphele iimpawu zokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo.
Ukuqhubeka nokugxeka iqabane lakho luphawu olunye lokuxhatshazwa ngokweemvakalelo, kodwa kukude kweyona inobungozi.
Kufanelekile ukukhangela ezinye iimpawu ezinokubonisa ityala elibi kakhulu lokuxhatshazwa.
Endaweni yokuba udwelise apha, sicebisa ukuba ufunde eli nqaku Iindaba zezoNyango namhlanje ethetha ngazo zonke izikhombisi eziphambili.
Apho uxhatshazo ngokwasemphefumlweni lukho ngeendlela ezohlukeneyo, kuya kufuneka unyaniseke kwisiqu sakho malunga nokuba kufanelekile na ukulwela lo mtshato.
Njengokuba ungazithatha kakhulu izibhambathiso zakho zomtshato, kukho iimeko apho ukwahlukana kwaye uqhawulo-mtshato kufanelekile kwaye kufanelekile.
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