I-narcissism enobungozi yinto efumene ukubonakala okukhulu kutshanje. Ngoku ixoxwa ngokubanzi kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kunye nenani elikhulu labantu, iinkqubo kunye neempapasho.
Xa amabali okuxhatshazwa gadalala kubudlelwane bazo zonke iintlobo eza kuvela, amathuba okuba lixhoba lijongana narcissist enobungozi.
Kuba iimpawu ezenza i-Narcissists Personality Disorder (NPD) zonke zihlala ecaleni kwembonakalo, ke i-narcissism nayo iza ngamanqanaba ahlukeneyo obukhali.
Kukho abo banokuchongwa ngokufanelekileyo ukuba bane-NPD abangazidluliyo, abangenasidima, abasweleyo, abanomona, kunye nabahlobo abakhulu, oogxa bakho, amalungu osapho kunye nabantu oqhelene nabo onokuhlala nabo.
Ngaphandle kokuba ucofe kwaye kunzima ukuthanda nangayiphi na indlela enzulu okanye enentsingiselo, banokuba njalo noko engenabungozi, enobungozi (nokuba lelona gama liphambili- banokubangela ingozi okanye babe sisiphazamiso).
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I-narcissist enobungozi ihleli kwelinye icala lesiphelo apho iimpawu ezingalunganga zityhilelwe khona.
Kunye neempawu ezibi kakhulu ze-narcissist, aba bantu banomdla wokwabelana ngeempawu zokuphazamiseka kubuntu (i-APD), isifo sengqondo kunye nezinye iindlela zokuphazamiseka kubuntu.
Ngelixa i-narcissism enobungozi ingathathelwa ngqalelo njengesiphazamiso esahlukileyo yingcali yengqondo, sinokuzama ukuyichaza nangona kunjalo.
Eli nqaku liza kuxubusha ngeempawu zobuntu ezinxulunyaniswa ngokusondeleyo ne-narcissist enobungozi.
Kufanelekile ukukhumbula ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba nganye yezi mpawu iya kuba nembonakalo yayo. Akukho bantu babini bayalingana kwaye ezinye iimpawu zinokubonakala zivelele ngakumbi kunezinye ngokwendlela umntu azijonga ngayo.
Ngelixa unganqweneli ukunika uphawu olunye ukubaluleka ngakumbi kunolunye, ezo zibonakala ziphezulu kolu luhlu zinxulunyaniswa ngokusondeleyo enobungozi I-narcissism sizama ukuyichaza. Ezo zisezantsi zifumaneka ngokubanzi kuzo zonke iintlobo ze-narcissism.
1. Ubundlobongela
Inkcazo yobubi, ngokweDikishona.com Kukuba: “kuthambekele ekwenzeni ingozi, ukubandezeleka, okanye uxinzelelo ukuziva ngabom okanye ukubonisa intiyo okanye intiyo.”
Oku kuchaza ngokugqibeleleyo olunye lweempawu eziphambili ze-narcissist enobungozi: usizi.
I-sadist ifumana ukonwaba kwintlungu, ukubandezeleka kunye nokuthotywa kwabanye. Bazisa ngokuzithandela le ntlungu ukuzanelisa kunye nokulawula abanye. Oku kunokubonakalisa njengokuhlukumeza ngamazwi, ngokweemvakalelo nangokwasemzimbeni.
Inokubonisa kwindlela abaziphatha ngayo izilwanyana kunye nokungakhathali kwabo kubundlobongela kwiimuvi, iinkqubo zeTV, nakwiindaba.
2. Ukusetyenziswa ngokukuko
Zonke ii-narcissists zisebenzisa inqanaba elithile yindlela yazo yokufumana oko bakufunayo.
Kodwa ubuqhetseba buza ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kukho abo bangosomathuba, abafuna ukungenisa kwimicimbi okanye baxhamle nakubani na okwimeko yokuba sesichengeni.
Kukho ke ezinye - iintlobo ezinobungozi - ezithi zisebenze ngobuqhophololo. Ngale nto, sithetha ukuba abalindi ukuba kwenzeke into kwaye emva koko bayiphendule, baya kulawula njengoko beziva isidingo.
Ngapha koko, bafumana ulonwabo phantse ekukhohliseni abanye njengoko benjalo ngokubenza babandezeleke. Oku, mhlawumbi, kuyothusa into enikiweyo yokuba ubuqhetseba kuhlala kukhokelela ekubandezelekeni.
Banamandla ngakumbi kwaye abanobuqili kwindlela abaxhaphaza ngayo abanye, ukanti bakwasebenzisa uluhlu olukhulu lweendlela ezivela kubo ukukhanyisa ngegesi ukuya thanda ibhombu .
Ezi zenzo zobuqhetseba zibaliwe, zicwangcisiwe, zaqaqanjiswa ngaphezulu kweminyaka yokusetyenziswa de zide zifikelele kwincopho yokusebenza kwazo. Le yenye yeengozi eziphambili ze-narcissism enobungozi-inkululeko yokuzikhethela yexhoba iyancipha kwaye baya bekhula bengenakuzinceda ukuzisusa kuloo meko.
3. Ukungahlali nabantu
Ngenxa yokuba i-narcissism enobungozi iwela kwi-Antisocial Personality Disorder, mhlawumbi ayizukufika isimanga ukuva ukuba bayazibandakanya kwiindidi ezahlukeneyo zokuziphatha okungafunekiyo.
Zihlala zikhona Ubuxoki besifo , bayakopa, bayeba, bathambekele ngakumbi Imo eziguqukayo , ubundlongondlongo, kunye nobutshaba obungavumelekanga.
Bakulungele ukulwa - nawuphi na umlo, nabani na, nangaliphi na ixesha. Oku kuyinxalenye yendlela eyonakalisayo yokuziphatha gwenxa.
4. Hypersensitivity to Criticism
Ugxeka i-narcissist enobungozi kwingozi yakho.
Abanye abanesifo se-NPD ukuya ezantsi kwinqanaba banokukwazi ukugxeka ukugxekwa kuba bakujonga kuyinto ehlekisayo kunye nokuhlekisa-bagqibelele emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
Abanye bafumana naluphi na uhlobo lokugxeka luyinto engathandekiyo kwisimilo sabo kwaye baya kuhlaselwa nakancinci.
kutheni ndihleli ndidikiwe nje
Uluvo lwabo ngesiqu lwabo lubuthathaka kangangokuba lonakele ngokulula, kwaye ukuziphindezela okanye ukunyuka kokutya kukuphela kwendlela abazi ngayo ukuba baziva ngcono ngabo.
5. IParanoia
I-narcissists enobubi ayithembi mntu. Ngokuchasene noko, enyanisweni. Banokrokra ngokugqithileyo kubo bonke abantu kwaye bakholelwa ukuba abanye bazimisele ukubafumana.
Oku kusenokwenzeka ukuba bafuna ukuphatha abanye ukuze bazenzele inzuzo, kwaye ke bakholelwa ukuba wonke umntu wenza ngendlela efanayo (okanye unawo amandla okwenza oko).
Le paranoia inokukhokelela kwimeko yokungakhathali apho bahlala bekhangele izoyikiso. Banokuxakeka yile nto bayenzayo abanye abantu ekhokelela ekulawuleni ukuhamba kwamaxhoba abo ngenxa yokoyika into abanokuyenza okanye abayithethayo.
6. Ukungabikho kovelwano
Zonke ii-narcissist ziswele uvelwano ukuya kuthi ga kwinqanaba elithile, kodwa njengazo zonke ezi mpawu, kukho ukubonwa.
Njengoko sele sithethile, uhlobo olubi luya kuvuyisa ukubangela intlungu kunye nokubandezeleka kwabanye. Bayazihoya kwaye basebenzise naziphi na iimvakalelo eziboniswe ngomnye umntu.
Inye into ephambili ekufuneka uyiqaphele kukuba i-narcissists engeyongozi inokuthi ikwazi ukuva uvelwano, kodwa bahlala-nangona bengahlali njalo-bengathandi ukuyivumela ukuba ibaphembelele. Banokude bazisole okanye bazisole kwinqanaba elithile.
I-narcissist enobungozi ayinakuziva uvelwano ngokupheleleyo. Abakwazi ukuzibeka ezicathulweni zomnye okanye banxibelelane neemvakalelo zabo. Ngumbono welinye ilizwe kubo. Baziva kwaye bengabonisi kuzisola nakuphi na ukubandezeleka abakubonisayo kwaye le yindlela abanokuthi baziphathe ngayo ngolunya.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Indlela yeGrey Rock yokujongana ne-Narcissist xa kungekho qhakamshelwano ayisiyiyo inketho
- Izinto ezi-8 i-Narcissist ayinakukwenza yona (okanye nabani na ongomnye)
- AbaLwimi beeNarcissist basebenzise ukuGweba kunye nokuKhathaza amaxhoba abo
- Indlela yokujongana neNarcissist: Ekuphela kwendlela eQinisekisiweyo yokuSebenza
- Uyiyeka njani iNarcissist + yokuKopa kwiindlela zokuya phambili
- I-Rollercoaster yokubuyisela kwimeko yesiqhelo kwi-Narcissistic Abuse
7. Ukusilela Ukwamkela uxanduva
Akusoloko kulula ukuthatha uxanduva ngezenzo zethu - oku akuyonyaniso kuphela kubaxhamli.
Nangona kunjalo bathatha izinto ukuya kwelinye inqanaba. Ngamanye amaxesha baya kwamkela ukuba benze ngendlela ethile, kodwa baya kuyinyanzela inyani ukuyenza ibonakale ngathi kufanelekile ukwenza njalo. Baza kulukhuphela ngaphandle uxanduva kwinto ethile okanye komnye umntu (ngamanye amagama, badlale umdlalo osolwayo).
Ngamanye amaxesha banokwala ukwamkela ukuba isenzo sabo besingalunganga okanye asamkelekanga. Baza kuliphika ityala lokulahla ukwenzakala kwabanye okanye ezinye iziphumo ezingathandekiyo abanokuthi bazibangele.
8. Isidingo sokuqwalaselwa
Zonke ii-narcissists zifuna ifom yokubonelela. Oko kukuthi, bafuna ukuhoywa rhoqo, ukuhlonitshwa, kunye nothando lwabanye ukuze bazive bonwabile kwaye babuyisele amanqanaba abo amandla.
Bayayondla.
Inqanaba eliphantsi okanye i-narcissist emodareyithayo banokufuna uninzi lweendlela ezintle zoqwalaselo ukomeleza ukuzithemba kwabo. I-narcissist enobungozi inokufumana ulwaneliseko olwaneleyo kukuqwalaselwa okungalunganga nayo.
Banokonwabela ukudlala umntu okhohlakeleyo kwaye, njengoko besitshilo apha ngasentla, aboyiki ukujongana nokulwa ngokuziphatha, ngokwasengqondweni, okanye ngokwasemzimbeni.
Olu phawu yeyona ndawo apho kukho ukuhlangana okungaphantsi komntu onesifo seAntisocial Personality Disorder okanye isifo sengqondo.
Ngokwesiqhelo abakhathali nokuba abanye abantu bacinga ntoni ngabo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bakhetha ukuba bodwa kunesazulu sokuqwalaselwa.
9. Ukulahlekwa kobuGcisa
AbakwaNarcissists banomoya wokuzivavanya kokubaluleka kwabo. Bakholelwa ukuba bangcono kunabanye ngazo zonke iindlela: zinomtsalane ngakumbi, zikrelekrele ngakumbi, ziphumelele kwaye zibaluleke ngakumbi.
Le grandiosity ngoyena nobangela wabo imvo yelungelo . Kuba bekholelwa ukuba bangaphezulu kunaye wonke umntu, bakubona kufanelekile ukuphathwa ngoluhlobo.
Kwakhona, oku akuqhelekanga kwabo bane-APD.
10. Umona
Kungenxa yokuba baziphethe ngendlela encomekayo, ukuba badibana nomntu onomkhwa okanye indlela yokuphila okanye into abanqwenela yona, batyiwa ngumona.
Bayakucaphukela ukubona abanye benento abangenayo. Xa besenza njalo, baya kubathobela kwaye babeke ubunini babo kuloo nto kwithamsanqa elimsulwa. Rhoqo bayavuma ukuba umntu uyifanele loo nto.
Ukuba ithuba livela, aboyiki ukonakalisa impumelelo yomntu ngokunika iingcebiso ezimbi okanye ngenjongo yokungcolisa igama lomntu lowo.
Kwaye bayonwaba kukusilela kwabanye - mhlawumbi hayi ngokugqithileyo (nangona oku kunokwenzeka), kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphakathi baya kuba benza umdaniso owonwabileyo.
11. Ubungqongqo
Njenge-narcissist, konke malunga nam, mna, kunye nam. Bazenzela inzuzo yabo hayi omnye umntu.
Ngubani jake paul ukuthandana
Bayathetha ngeziqu zabo, uninzi luyakonwabela ukubekwa esweni, babeka abanye phantsi, kwaye baxhalabise kakhulu inkangeleko yabo kunye nokuba abanye abantu bacinga ntoni ngabo.
Babona iinkolelo zabo njengezinyani, banembono emfutshane kwaye banengqondo emxinwa, kwaye bathambekele ekwenzeni lula imeko enzima ukuze ilungele izimvo zabo.
12. Umtsalane
Uninzi lwee-narcissists zinesakhono sokuvula umtsalane xa zifuna njalo. Ngapha koko, xa uqala ukudibana nomnye, banokubonakala ngathi ngabantu abanobuhlobo.
Yile ndlela abakwazi ngayo ukubambisa amaxhoba abo. Bona nxiba imaski kwaye balumke bangayivumeli ityibilike de oko bekujolise kuko kwenziwe ngokufanelekileyo kwaye kwaphulwe.
Nokuba awuyiyo eyona nto bajolise kuyo, baya kuzama ukusebenzisa ikhubalo elihlaselayo ukwenza ukuba wenze ngendlela ethile okanye unoluvo oluthile ngabo
Yonke into ibubuxoki kwaye iyinyani abayithethi okanye bayenze izinto ezintle nangayiphi na inyani.
Ke, i-narcissist enobungozi ithathwa njengomntu ohamba ngeNarcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) kunye neAntisocial Personality Disorder (APD).
Ngelixa kunokwenzeka ukuba baqulathe zonke iimpawu zesiko lobuchwephesha, baya kwahluka ngeendlela ezithile kumntu one-APD okanye i-psychopath.
Kananjalo baya kuba notyekelo lokuzibaxa izinto kunezinye i-narcissists, ngakumbi kwimimandla ebandakanya ukonzakalisa abanye, ubundlongondlongo kunye nokukhohlisa.
Luhlobo olugqithisileyo, oluhlukumezayo, noluyingozi lwe-narcissist kwaye kufuneka ithintelwe ngazo zonke iindleko.
