Umbutho usikhokelela ekubeni sikholelwe ukuba kufuneka sifumane kwaye silandele ukuthanda kwethu ebomini.
Kodwa akusoloko kulula.
Umnqweno yimvakalelo abantu abaninzi abayiqondiyo. Kwaye oku kudideka kubakhokelela ekubeni bagqibe kwelokuba abanamdla wayo nantoni na.
Ukuba oku kuvakala ngathi nguwe, nazi ezinye izinto ekufuneka uzigcine engqondweni.
1. Yazi ukuba ukuthanda kunjani kuwe.
Mhlawumbi eyona ngxaki inkulu kwinkcubeko 'yokuphila ukuthanda kwakho' kukuba uthando luzive lwahlukile kubantu abohlukeneyo.
Umbono wendabuko wenkanuko ngowomntu ovuka kusasa ngentwasahlobo kwinyathelo labo, ebaleka kancinci, kwaye enqwenela ukuya.
Umntu oneengxowa zehlombe kunye nokuchwayita.
kutheni ndihlekwa ndingakhange ndizame
Umntu ongenakulinda enze nantoni na aza kuyenza.
Kodwa ayinguye wonke umntu.
Baninzi abantu abaziva kwaye babonisa uthando lwabo ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
Kuba ufunda eli nqaku, ungomnye wabo.
Kokwenu, uthando olungenakukugcwalisa ngomlilo omkhulu. Isenokuba ngaphezulu kokukhanya okuqaqambileyo.
Unokonwabela into ethile ngaphandle kokuziva unyanzelekile ukuba uyenze yonke iyure yokuvuka.
Kodwa ngenxa yokuba ukholelwa ukuba uthando kufuneka lube lukhulu, awuyikhathaleli nayiphi na into njengemvakalelo yokudlula.
Unokuba nobuntu obugciniweyo ngakumbi - obungafumani maqondo aphezulu aphezulu njengawabanye abantu.
Kokwenu, uthando lunokuziva lukhululekile, lufudumele, lumnandi, nokuba lukhululekile.
Ke sukuyibetha ngoyaba imvakalelo kuba ingafikeleli kwinkcazo yoluntu ukuba yintoni ukuthanda.
Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo sukujonga kwabanye ukuze ubone ukuba luthando lunjani ngaphandle. Eyakho mhlawumbi ayizukujongeka ngokufanayo.
2. Musa ukunciphisa oko kuthethwa yintando kuwe.
Kwakhona, inkolelo eqhelekileyo kukuba ukuthanda into enkulu kwaye inesibindi.
Xa umntu esithi banomdla wepiyano, unokucinga ukuba baqeqeshelwe kwinqanaba eliphezulu kwaye bahlala bekhumbula iingoma.
Kwinyani, unokuba nomnqweno wepiyano kwaye wonwabe ukuyidlala ngexesha lakho lasimahla, kwinqanaba lakho- nokuba yeyiphi na.
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Awudingi ukukholisa abanye ngeenkanuko zakho. Bangabakho, emva kwayo yonke loo nto. Ukuba ufumana uyolo okanye intsingiselo kubo, yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu leyo.
Unokuba nomdla kwiipuzzle zejigsaw ukuba yinto oqhele ukuyenza.
Khumbula, akufuneki utsibe ebhedini kusasa kwaye uzive unyanzelekile ukuba uqale iphazili entsha ukuze ube ngumnqweno.
Kodwa linda, ayisiyiyo nje into oyithandayo, usenokubuza?
Ngokuqinisekileyo, kukuzonwabisa, kodwa ukugcina umdlalo, kufuneka uzive ngokuqinisekileyo kuwo. Kwaye ukuba uziva uqinisekile ngayo, kutheni ingafanele ibalwe njengenkanuko?
Izinto endizithandayo zinokuza zidlule. Iinkanuko zinokuza zihambe.
Musa ukuyilahla into ngokungathi ayinantandabuzo kuba ingahambelani nembono engacacanga yenye.
3. Awusayi kuhlala uziva ukulungele okanye ukwazi ukulandela inkanuko.
Enye inkolelo yokuba abantu bakholelwa malunga neenkanuko kukuba kufuneka uhlale ukulungele ukulandela.
Ukuba unomdla ngenene ngento ethile, awuyi kuvumela izinto zikunqande kwaye awuyi kulalanisa.
Bububhanxa obo.
Akukho mntu uya kuhlala ekwazi ukufumana amandla okanye inkuthazo yokugcina uluthando ngalo lonke ixesha.
Ubomi buyenzeka. Uyaxakeka. Ufumanisa ukuba uyasokola ukuzibophelela kwinto okholelwa ukuba yayingumnqweno.
Ke uyibhala uyicime njengenye into ekungafuneki ukuba uyithande emva kwayo yonke loo nto.
Musa ukungxama!
Iminqweno inokufakwa kwi-backburner ukuba kukho imfuneko. Zingagcinwa zifudumele de ube ukulungele ukuzilandela kwakhona.
Kungenxa yokuba ungakhange ube nakho ukunikezela yonke into esecaleni yesibini onayo kwinto ethile, oko akuthethi ukuba awungekhe uyithande.
Njengayo yonke enye into, ukuba ujonge ukugqibelela kwi-passion, ngekhe uyifumane.
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4. Ungalindeli 'iziphumo' kwiminqweno yakho.
Ukuba nomnqweno wento ethile akufuneki kuthetha ukuba kuya kufuneka ufumane uhlobo lwesiphumo kuyo.
Iminqweno, nangona inxulumene neenjongo, akufuneki ukuba ithathelwe ingqalelo kwiinjongo ngokwazo.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba awunamdla wento kuba ungafezekisi izinto ezithile kuyo, cinga kwakhona.
Akukho sidingo sokubeka uxinzelelo kulonwabo lwakho ngokunyanzelisa ukuba, ukuba ngenene luthando, uyakwenza u-X, Y, okanye u-Z.
Yonwabele inkqubo yokwenza, nokuba yeyiphi na. Khumbula umdlali wepiyano odlala ngokuzonwabisa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba badlala kakuhle kangakanani.
5. Unako ukusebenza ngenkanuko ejikeleze imiqobo yeemeko.
Ngaba uyasokola ukuba uzive unomdla ngento ethile kuba ungenalo ixesha okanye izixhobo zokuzibandakanya kuyo ngokupheleleyo?
Mhlawumbi uyayithanda imekobume, kodwa awunalo ixesha lokuvolontiya ekucoceni ulwandle okanye imali yokuthenga ukutya okuphilayo.
Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba awungekhe ube naloo mdla?
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Akunjalongo noko.
Kufuneka ufumane iindlela zokwenza ukuba inkanuko ilingane kwiindlela onazo.
Ke, kumzekelo wendalo esingqongileyo, unokugxila ekunciphiseni inkunkuma okanye ukuhlafuna iivenkile ezithengisa izinto ezizezesibini endaweni yokuthenga ezintsha.
Ukuba ucinga unganomdla wokufundisa, kodwa ungaziva ukwazi ukutshintshela kwikhondo lomsebenzi wokufundisa ngoku, usenokwabelana ngobulumko nolwazi lwakho nabanye ngebhlog, vlog, podcast, okanye ngokwenza intetho uluntu.
Ngamanye amagama, sukuzenza umntwana ukuba ucinge ukuba awuyithandi into kuba ungenako ukutshintsha yonke imeko yobomi bakho ukuze uyamkele.
Fumana iindlela zokuzizisa ebomini bakho ngaphandle kokwenza utshintsho olukhulu.
6. Umsebenzi wakho awunakuhlala ungqamana neenkanuko zakho.
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba xa unomdla wokwenyani wento ethile, kuya kufuneka uzame ukufumana indlela yokuguqula loo nto ibe yindlela yokuziphilisa.
Ukuba ungumdlali we-tennis onomdla, kuya kufuneka ujike pro.
Ukuba unomdla wokubhaka, kuya kufuneka uvule indawo ekubhakwa kuyo.
Kodwa nantsi inyani: ayisiyonto ixhaphakileyo ukuba uthando lungene kakuhle kwikhondo lomsebenzi okanye kwishishini.
Amaxesha amaninzi, umsebenzi wakho uyinto nje ekufuneka uyenzile ukuhlawula amatyala akho kwaye ubeke ukutya etafileni.
Nangona kunzima ukuva, ngamanye amaxesha kuya kufuneka uyamkele into yokuba umsebenzi wakho-into oyichitha kwisiqwenga esikhulu sobomi bakho usenza-ayisiyonto uyithandayo.
Khumbula inqaku # 4 elingasentla, kwaye ungalindeli umphumo womvuzo okanye umvuzo ovela kuthando lwakho.
Endaweni yoko, khangela iindlela zokufezekisa ukuthanda kwakho ngexesha lakho lasimahla.
7. Sukuba nexhala malunga nokufaka inkanuko kwimfundo yakho.
Xa umncinci kwaye ujonge ukhetho lwekhosi kwikholeji okanye eyunivesithi, ingcebiso onokuthi uyive kukukhetha into oyithandayo.
Kodwa kuthekani ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba zithini iinkanuko zakho?
Kuthekani ukuba awuyazi ukuba yeyiphi intsimi ofuna ukungena kuyo?
Khumbula ukuba awuwedwa kule nto.
Kunqabile ukuba umntu abe nemephu yobomi bakhe bonke esemncinci kangaka.
Uninzi lwabantu lukhetha ikhosi okanye isidanga abavakalelwa kukuba banokuhlala benomdla ngokufanelekileyo kwaye baqhuba kakuhle.
Kwaye yiyo yonke into onokuyenza ukuba awuqinisekanga ukuba ufuna ukwenza ntoni kwikhondo lakho lomsebenzi.
8. Unokuba neenkanuko ezininzi endaweni yenye enkulu.
Abanye abantu banomdla kunye nezinto ezithandwayo kwaye basazibona ngathi abanamdla wokwenene wayo nayiphi na into.
Oku kubuyela kwindawo yethu yokuqala ngokwazi ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuthanda kwakho.
Unokuba yingxowa yalo lonke urhwebo lweendawo zokuzonwabisa, uzonwabisa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo zokuzonwabisa.
Kodwa ungacinga ukuba, ingaba enye yezi zinto inokuba ngumnqweno xa unezinye izinto onwabela zona?
Ziinkanuko kuba unqwenela ukuqhubeka uzenza. Uya kuphuma uye kubo, uzenze.
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Usenokuthi ukuthanda kwakho okunene kukwahluka. Uyakonwabela ukwenza isampulu ngezinto ezininzi ezahlukileyo kunokuba unokuthi ujonge kwinto enye.
Okanye mhlawumbi uthanda umngeni wokuzama izinto ezintsha. Oko kunokuba kukuthanda kwakho.
9. Cinga ukuba ngaba unokudandatheka.
Ukuba akukho nanye kwezi ingentla yenza ingqiqo kuwe, lixesha lokuba uqwalasele ukubakho koxinzelelo.
Olunye uphawu oluqhelekileyo loxinzelelo yinto ebizwa ngokuba yi-anhedonia. Kulapho uphulukana nawo wonke umdla kwizinto owawukhe wazonwabela.
Ukuba ucinga ukuba likho elona thuba lincinci lokuba unokudakumba, lixesha lokuba uthethe nomntu othile-ugqirha, umsebenzi oxhasayo, okanye umhlobo osenyongweni okanye ilungu losapho.
Ngaba awuqinisekanga ukuba ungayifumana njani inkanuko yento? Thetha kumqeqeshi wobomi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukudibanisa nenye.
