'Ndiyanya ebomini.'
Yiloo nto ucinga.
Yiloo nto uzixelela yona.
Heck, yile nto uxelela abanye abantu.
Jeez, zinike ikhefu!
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubomi bakho bunokungabonakali ngendlela obufuna ngayo. Kwaye isenokungafani nobomi babanye abantu.
Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba uncanca kuyo yonke into.
Masijongane neli nyathelo libe linye ngexesha, akunjalo?
Okokuqala ...
1. Ukhe waya kwagqirha?
Ukuba awuzange uye kwagqirha malunga nendlela oziva ngayo, kufanele ukuba linyathelo lakho lokuqala elo.
Banokukunceda ekuchongeni nayiphi na into enokubakho ngokwasemzimbeni nangokwasengqondweni kwaye baqale ukuyiphatha.
Zininzi iingxaki zempilo ezinokukhokelela ekubeni uzive ungaphantsi kwe-chipper malunga nendlela obuhamba ngayo ubomi bakho.
Ukudakumba kungangunobangela. Oku kunokuba kukuzimelela okanye kunxulunyaniswe nokunye ukuphazamiseka emzimbeni nangokweemvakalelo.
Kufanelekile ukubonisana eli phepha (<– click the link) to give you a rough idea whether you may be depressed (though you ought to go to a doctor to get this confirmed).
2. Kufanele ukuba ubuphile njani ubomi bakho, phofu?
Lo ngumbuzo olayishiwe. Ilizwi ‘Kufanele’ kunokubangela abantu uxinzelelo olukhulu lwengqondo.
Ngaba kulindelekile.
Ngaba ngumyalelo.
Kuya kufuneka ubeke uxinzelelo olubi ebantwini.
Uyabona, xa kufikwa kubomi ngokubanzi, kulula ukungena kwingqondo yokukholelwa ukuba kukho indlela eyiyo yokuphila.
Kwaye nguwe kufanele kuba ujonge ukuphila obo bomi.
Kodwa ngubani isihogo esibhala imithetho malunga nobomi obulungileyo, obungafunekiyo obubonakala ngathi?
Akukho namnye. Akukho mithetho.
Kwaye ucinga ukuba zikhona. Uyibhalile eminye imigaqo yobomi bakho kwaye ucinga ukuba uyayaphula.
Kwaye ke ufikelela kwisigqibo sokuba uyanya ebomini.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ujonge ujonge abanye abantu kwaye uthathe isigqibo sokuba baphila ubomi ngendlela elungileyo, kwaye ke, ngokwenkcazo, kufuneka uphile ubomi ngendlela engalunganga.
3. Yintoni ngokwenene ofuna ukuyenza?
Endaweni yokucinga ngokwento wena kufanele Yenza ngobomi bakho, zibuze ukuba wenzeni Ndifuna ukwenza.
Masicinge ukuba unosuku olukhululekileyo lokwenza nantoni na oyithandayo.
Ngorhatya lwangaphambili, uhleli kwaye ucinga malunga nento oza kuyenza.
Kodwa mhlawumbi ucinga ngeezandla, awufuni.
Ucinga ukuba kufanelekile ukuba uvuke kwakusasa, uyokubaleka ujikeleze ipaki yendawo ngaphambi kokuba ufumane isidlo sakusasa esisempilweni.
Ke ucinga ukuba kuya kufuneka ucime imisebenzi embalwa kuluhlu lwezinto oza kuzenza ngaphambi kokuchitha loo mva kwemini usenza into ethile evuselelayo ngokwasengqondweni, mhlawumbi nabanye abantu.
Emva koko udle isidlo sangokuhlwa kunye neqabane lakho okanye usele nabahlobo bakho ukujikeleza usuku.
KODWA…
Awunayo ngokwenene Ndifuna ukwenza nantoni na kwezo zinto.
Kwaye ngenxa yokuba ungakholelwa, uyakholelwa ukuba kufuneka uphile ubomi ngendlela engalunganga.
Usuku lwakho olufanelekileyo lukhangeleka lwahluke kakhulu.
Ufuna ukuvuka ujikeleze i-10, ube nepitsa eseleyo phezolo yesidlo sakusasa, ulounge ujikeleze ii-PJs zakho kude kube semini ngelixa umamele umculo okanye umdlalo.
Emva koko, yiza emva kwemini, ufuna ukuqhubeka nokwenza okufanayo, okanye uhlale nje kunye nabahlobo epakini, ungathethi nganto ngokukodwa.
Okokugqibela, ufuna ukuthatha indawo yokubukela kwaye ubukele umabonwakude okanye imovie kude kufike ixesha lokubetha ingxowa.
Ingxaki kukuba, kukho ilizwi entlokweni yakho elikuxelela ukuba iidosi ezisuka kusuku lokuqala zichanekile kwaye izinto ozifuna kusuku lwesibini azilunganga.
Ke wenza izicwangciso zokwenza iilensi, kodwa usilele ukulandela ezi zicwangciso kwaye ugqibele ngokwenza izinto ozifunayo endaweni yoko.
Ngalo lonke elixesha, uziva uxhalabile yile nto udlala ngobomi bakho kwaye iyakugqiba ukusilela okulusizi.
Kodwa nanku umkhabi ...
4. Ngaba uwuthiyile umsebenzi wakho kwaye uwubona njengongamampunge?
Esi sesona sizathu siphambili sokuba kutheni abantu abaninzi becinga ukuba bayanyanga ebomini.
Masijongane nayo, ukuba unomsebenzi, kuthatha ixesha lakho elininzi lokuvuka.
Kwaye ukuba konke okubonayo xa ujonga umsebenzi wakho kukungakhathali okungenantsingiselo kumatshini ongenantsingiselo nangakumbi, akumangalisi ukuba ungabuboni ubomi bakho ngendlela elungileyo.
Masithi uflger burger ukuze uphile kwaye ufumane umvuzo ophantsi kakhulu ngayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo ayisiyiyo le nto wawucinga ukuba uyenza xa wawusemncinci, akunjalo?
Kodwa mhlawumbi awuzange ufumane amabanga okuya ekholejini okanye uyeke isikolo ngenxa yeemeko ezithile ebomini bakho.
Kwaye ke ugqibezele ukuthatha lo msebenzi kuba uhlawula amatyala kwaye ubeka ukutya etafileni.
Kodwa nangoku Zibone usilele kwaye uwubona umsebenzi wakho ungenasiphumo kuye nabani na.
Le yiphutha loluntu. Kuba sihlawula imisebenzi ephantsi kakhulu, oko kuthetha ukuba igalelo labo kwihlabathi lincinci kwaye abantu abenza loo misebenzi baxabisa kancinci.
Kwaye abantu 'abaxabiseke kancinci' ngokomvuzo banokukhawuleza babe ngabantu abacinga ukuba 'abaxabisekanga' ngokwesiqu sabo.
Kodwa nantsi i-switcheroo yengqondo onokuyenza…
Uyabona, nangona bengaqondi, umntu oluma kwi-burger kwisidlo sasemini kufuneka ubulele ngayo.
Njengomntu othenga iivenkile zakhe evenkileni unabo bantu abagcwalisa iishelfu kwaye bahlole ezokuthenga ukuze babulele.
Kwaye abantu (okt wonke umntu) abafumana inkunkuma yabo isuswe endlwini yabo veki nganye banabaqokeleli benkunkuma ukuba babulele.
Iindawo onokuya kuzo xa ukruqukile
Le misebenzi yile unokuyijonga njengecogs ezincinci kumatshini, kodwa kunjalo uninzi lwemisebenzi xa ucinga ngayo.
Kwaye oomatshini basebenza kunye neecogs ezingaphakathi kubo. Nokuba i-cog encinci iyaqhekeka, wonke umatshini uyeza usila ume.
Ke, ngokuqinisekileyo, unokucinga ukuba uyanya ebomini kuba umsebenzi wakho uhlawulwa kancinci kwaye awubonakali ngathi unikela konke oko kwihlabathi, kodwa umntu kufuneka ayenze.
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5. Yeka ukucinga ngombala omnyama nomhlophe.
Ngaba ukhe ujonge abanye abantu kwaye ucinge ukuba bayancanca ebomini?
Mhlawumbi akunjalo.
kutheni umama elawula kangaka
Kwaye oku kuveza enye i-chink kuwe 'ndiyanya ebomini'.
Amathuba kukuba, ucinga ngombala omnyama nomhlophe.
Ngamanye amagama, ucinga ukuba uyanya yonke into , ngexa kwangaxeshanye ucinga ukuba abanye abantu bakufuphi ngokwaneleyo.
Ngumgangatho omnye wakho kunye nawo wonke umntu.
Kodwa akukho nanye kwezi zinto iyinyani. Ngokwenene unezinto ezininzi olunge ngazo kwaye wonke umntu unezinto ezininzi asokolayo nazo.
Ke ayimnyama okanye mhlophe - ihlala ingumthunzi ongwevu.
Konke okufuneka ukwenze kukuvula amehlo akho kwinyani yemeko. Yeka ukubeka wonke umntu kwisiseko kwaye uyeke ukuzingxengxezela ngokuba awunamsebenzi kwaye awunantsingiselo.
Funda ukuba ungazifumana njani iitalente zakho kwaye ugcine ezi ziphambili kwingqondo yakho xa uqala ukubuyela emva kwiingcinga zokuzicekisa.
6. Yahlukana nentetho yokuqinisekisa.
Uyakholelwa ngokwenyani ukuba uyanya kwaye ubona ubungqina bokuxhasa le nkolelo ikujikelezile.
Uwile lixhoba lokukhetha.
Ngeli xesha thina, 'Khangela, utolike, uthandaze, kwaye ukhumbule ulwazi ngendlela eqinisekisa iinkolelo okanye iingcamango zangaphambili.' (nge I-Wikipedia )
Masiphinde ezi zinto zine ...
Wena khangela i ulwazi olubonisa ukuba uncanca kangakanani.
Wena ukutolika ulwazi olubonisa ukuba uyanya, nokuba alwenzi njalo.
Wena ubabalo ulwazi olungqina ukuba ulunxile ulwazi olubonisa ukuba awunalo.
Wena khumbula ulwazi oluvela kwixesha elidlulileyo-iinkumbulo zeziganeko-eziqinisekisa ukuba uyanya ngokwenene ngelixa ungazihoyi iinkumbulo ezibonisa ngenye indlela.
Oku kunxibelelana kwakhona nenqaku langaphambili malunga nokucinga okumnyama nokumhlophe.
Awunakububona ubungqina obukujongileyo ebusweni obungqina ukuba awumunci ebomini kuba uxakeke kakhulu uyakholelwa.
Ke yenza umzamo obonakalayo- kwaye iya kuba ngumzamo omkhulu ukuqala -ukuqaphela zonke izinto ozenzayo ezilungileyo nezilungileyo.
7. Khulula uxinzelelo ozibeka kulo.
Uyakhumbula onke loo ‘ma-shoulds’ ebesithethe ngawo ngaphambili? Izinto okholelwa ukuba kufuneka uzenze ebomini bakho zithetha nantoni na.
Ezo kufuneka zinobunzima kakhulu, kwaye kokukhona uzifumba ngaphezulu, kokukhona ziya kuba noxinzelelo ngakumbi.
Lowo mbono wobomi obugqibeleleyo onawo entlokweni yakho - awukho.
Kwaye kuba ayikho, akunantsingiselo ukuzama ukuphila ngokuvisisana nayo.
Xa uziva uxinzelelo lonyuka, zxelele:'Konele konele!'
Oku kuneentsingiselo ezimbini…
… Okokuqala, uyazikhupha engqondweni yakho kwaye uthi lixesha lokuba uyeke nako konke ukunganaki.
… Okwesibini, sisikhumbuzo sokuba uninzi alusoloko lungcono. Ngamanye amaxesha, into eyoneleyo yanele.
Makhe sandise kweli nqaku lesibini kancinci.
Uyabona, abantu abaninzi baphila ngengqondo enqabileyo. Le yeyona nto ithi izixhobo zigqityiwe kwaye kufuneka sizigcinele kangangoko sinako ukuze siphile.
Xa usithi uyanya ebomini, uveza umbono wokuba awunalo uhlobo oluthile lwezixhobo.
Awunayo imali eyaneleyo okanye izinto onazo, awunabahlobo baneleyo, okanye awunalo ulonwabo olwaneleyo.
Kodwa nyaniseka, unezinto ezininzi kunokuba ucinga. Mhlawumbi hayi kwizixhobo oxabisa kakhulu, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba uninzi lwazo izinto ozithathela ingqalelo .
Endaweni yokuba ukhulisa ubuninzi beengqondo, uyabuqonda ubutyebi onabo. Inkululeko onayo, ixesha loxolo nokuzola, ukhuseleko kophahla phezu kwentloko yakho.
Kwaye umntu angancanca njani ebomini xa enazo zonke ezi zinto-nangaphezulu! - ukuba nombulelo?
Thatha uxinzelelo kuwe ngokulawula kulindelo lwakho kunye neminqweno kwaye ube nombulelo ngokwenyani kwezo zinto unokuzibala njengezakho.
Kwanele ngenene kwanele xa kufikwa kwizinto ozenzayo okanye ongazenziyo ebomini.
8. Jongana noxinzelelo ebomini bakho.
Uyazi ukuba uxinzelelo lunokuthini? Inokukwenza ukuba ucinge kwaye ukholelwe ukuba izinto zimbi kakhulu kunokuba zinjalo.
Ukuba mininzi imithombo yoxinzelelo ebomini bakho, zama ukufumana iindlela zokuzikhupha kwezinye zezo zinto.
Qalisa kancinci uze uwenze into ibe nye ngexesha. Awuyi kuba nakho ukuhlala ngaphandle koxinzelelo- bambalwa kakhulu abantu abenza- kodwa ungalwenza kancinci uxinzelelo lwakho.
Kwaye njengoko usenza, uyakuqala ukubona ukuba awumunci ngokupheleleyo ebomini kwaye unamandla ngakumbi kunokuba ucinga.
Uxinzelelo kunye neemeko zoxinzelelo ziyinxalenye yobomi. Isitshixo kukugcina ngaphezulu kwezi zinto ukuze ungangcwatywa phantsi kwazo.
9. Ukuba ufuna ukutshintsha, thatha amanyathelo amancinci, azinzileyo.
Nokuba uphi na ebomini, ayonzakalisi ukujonga iindlela onokuthi ukwazi ukutshintsha izinto ukuzisa ukuzixabisa okukhulu noxolo lwangaphakathi.
Kwimeko yakho yangoku - ngengqondo onayo - kungcono usondele kutshintsho kwaye ujolise.
Ungazami ukutshintsha yonke into ongayithandiyo ngobomi bakho.
Zama nje ukutshintsha NYE into… a Kancinci into.
Uyabona, umfutho yinto enamandla, kodwa kuthatha ixesha ukwakha. Ke kuya kufuneka uqale encinci ukwenza ukuba iivili zotshintsho zihambe.
Kwaye ukugxila kwinto enye kuthintela ukugqithisa kunye nokuphazamiseka ekungeneni ngaphakathi.
Nje ukuba ukwazile ukutshintsha into encinci kwaye olo tshintsho luziva ngathi luza kunamathela, yiya kwenye.
Zigcine zincinci ekuqaleni kwaye usebenze indlela yakho ukusuka apho.
Ngaba usakholelwa ukuba uyanya ebomini kwaye ufuna ukwenza okuthile ngayo? Andiqinisekanga ukuba uqale ngaphi? Thetha kumqeqeshi wobomi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukunxibelelana nenye.
Unokuthanda:
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- Ukoyisa njani Ukuziva Ungento Yanto
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- 'Andilunganga Nantoni na' - Kutheni Le Yenye BIG Lie
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