Ngaba uziva usilele ngoku?
Kulungile - besikho sonke.
Sonke sikhe saziva ngathi siyaphoxeka xa izinto zingahambi kakuhle.
Sonke siye salatha umnwe wecala ngokuthe ngqo kuthi.
Sonke sizibethile ngokungasebenzi ngcono.
Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, unokuphinda ucinge ngokuma kwakho kunye neziphumo ozifumeneyo.
Wena unako yeka le mvakalelo yokusilela kumkhondo wayo.
Kweli nqaku, siza kusebenza ngeendlela zokuchonga ukuba yintoni ebangela le mvakalelo, kunye namanyathelo onokuwathatha ukusukela kuwo.
Inyathelo lokuqala ku…
1. Thetha nabantu obathandayo
Ngamanye amaxesha, siziva singenamandla kangangokuba kubonakala ngathi akukho ndlela yokuphuma.
Ngeli xesha kufuneka simeme abanye ebomini bethu ukuba basincede. Oku kunokuba ngohlobo lwe ubahlobo abasenyongweni okanye amalungu osapho.
Ukuthetha nabantu obathembileyo yenye yeendlela ezilungileyo zokufumana nantoni na ohlangabezana nayo-kule meko, imeko yokungaphumeleli.
Nokuba le yidiphu yexesha elifutshane kumjikelo weemood osele uqhelene nawo, imvakalelo entsha ethe yavela ngenxa yokuqhawuka kobudlelwane okanye esinye isiganeko esiphazamisayo, okanye umba obusilwa nawo iminyaka, kuya kubakho umntu okhathalayo.
ukuba wenzeni xa udikiwe ekhaya
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ukhumbule ukuba xa uziva uphantsi - awuwedwa kwaye wena yenza umba.
Ngokufikelela kwabo bakungqongileyo, ungazama ukusebenza ngayo nantoni na eyenzekayo ekwenza uzive ngathi usilele.
Yintoni enokubonakala ingenakwenzeka kuwe xa uhleli ekhaya wedwa inokuqhekeka ibe yinto ephathekayo xa uthetha nabantu abasondele kuwe.
Ngamanye amaxesha, ukwamkela ezi mvakalelo lelona nyathelo likhulu, kwaye olo lwazi ludla ngokuthetha.
Qiniseka ukuba uthetha nomntu omthembileyo- iqabane, umhlobo osenyongweni, ilungu losapho, okanye umntu osebenza naye / umphathi ovana naye.
Kufuneka uzive ukhululekile ukunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo. Sukuba nexhala, kuya kuba lula kakhulu kunokuba ucinga kwaye uya kufumana amagama athulula nje xa usiya.
Ukuba ukuthetha ubuso ngobuso izandi zinzima kakhulu kuwe, ukuthumela imiyalezo ngohlobo oluthile okanye olunye ukhetho olulungileyo apha.
Iingcinga zakho kunye neemvakalelo zakho zinzima, kodwa ukwabelana ngendlela oziva ngayo kuya kuphakamisa obunye ubunzima engqondweni yakho.
Xa umema umntu ukuba aqonde indlela oziva ngayo, awusekho wedwa kule meko kwaye izinto ziya kuqala ukuziva zingengoyiki kwaye zibandakanya konke.
2. Gcina umkhondo weziphumo
Ukuziva ngathi 'ulahlekile' kunokubangela izinto ezininzi ezahlukeneyo, uninzi lwazo lujolise emsebenzini. Ukuba ucinga ukuba oku kunokuba njalo, lixesha lokuqala ukugcina umkhondo wento oyenzayo.
Kungenzeka ukuba ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla emsebenzini abonwabisi, nangona uhambisa iziphumo ezintle kakhulu. Oku kunokuba kungenxa yokuba uye wabambeka kumgangatho ophantsi, imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla kwaye ulahlekelwe ngumbono womfanekiso omkhulu.
Engqondweni yakho, uzivalela kude edesikeni yakho, ukubetha ngamanani okanye ukuphendula kwii-imeyile.
Kwinyani, uyinxalenye yephulo elikhulu okanye ungasemva koyilo okanye ukuthengiswa kweprojekthi yokuphumelela amabhaso.
Xa uziva ubambekile kwaye ungazalisekanga, unomdla wokulibala ngazo zonke izinto ezinkulu ozenzileyo.
Ngokugcina umkhondo kwezi zinto ngoku, xa ujonga emva kwiinyanga ezimbalwa ezizayo, uya kuba nakho ukubona ukuba ubuyinxalenye yantoni.
Ngokurekhoda iiprojekthi osebenze kuzo, amacebo owaphuhlisileyo, kunye neenkcazo-ntetho ozihambisileyo, uya kuba nakho ukujonga ngasemva kwaye uqaphele ukuba ungakanani umsebenzi owufakayo kwaye uqhuba kakuhle kangakanani.
Ukugcina umkhondo wayo yonke into kuya kukukhumbuza amandla akho kunye noxanduva onikwe lona.
Ngalo lonke ixesha ubuyela kuluhlu lwakho, uyakukhunjuzwa ukuba ayizizo iimpawu okanye amava omntu ongaphumeleliyo.
Khumbula ukuqhubeka nokuhamba nayo ukuze uhlale unento onokubhenela kuyo.
Ezi mpu melelo azidingi ukuba zinxulumene nomsebenzi, kunjalo. Ungayibhala phantsi nantoni na oyenzayo.
Ukuba uhambe kwenye indawo entsha kutshanje okanye ubenomhla okokuqala kwiminyaka, yenza inqaku.
Isenokungabi lolona hambo luhle kwaye umhla awunakuba ukhokelele kwinto, kodwa la mava ayinto enkulu, ngakumbi ukuba uqhelene noxinzelelo kunye neemvakalelo zokungaphumeleli kunye nokuzithemba.
Isenokuvakala iyisidenge, kodwa le misebenzi ithatha amandla amaninzi kwaye kufanelekile ukuba ibhalwe phantsi - zizinto ezifezekisiweyo ngandlela thile kwaye kuya kufuneka uzingce ngabo .
Ngokugcina umkhondo kwezi ntlobo zezinto, uya kuziva ulunge ngakumbi kwaye ukhululekile ukuzenza kwakhona, kwaye kwakhona, kwaye kwakhona.
Ukungena kule patheni yokuziqhelanisa nendlela emnandi yokuqala usebenza ukuzithemba kwakho . Akukho xesha konke konke, uyakufumanisa ukuba ezo mvakalelo zokoyisakala zishenxisiwe.
3. Khumbula Iintsuku Good
Ukwenza amanqaku ezinto ezishiya ukuziva ulungile yenye indlela elungileyo yokwenza into onokubuyela kuyo ngamaxesha anzima ngakumbi.
Ezinye iintsuku zinokukubetha nzima kwaye ungaziva ngathi awusoze uphinde uzithembe okanye waneliseke kwakhona, kwaye uyakuhlala usilele kwaye uhlala unayo ukusilela.
Ngokufumana into yokujonga emva ekukhumbuza ngamaxesha amnandi ngakumbi, ungaqala ukulungisa iimvakalelo zakho ngakumbi.
Izinto zinokubonakala zingenathemba ngamanye amaxesha kwaye unokuziva ngathi awuzange ube nolonwabo ebomini bakho. Xa oku kusenzeka, jonga emva kuluhlu lwakho kwaye uzikhumbuze ukuba izinto bezilungile kwixa elidlulileyo kwaye uzisebenzise ukukugunyazisa ukuba uphinde ube ngcono.
Uluhlu alufanele lubandakanye nantoni na ekhethekileyo ukuba uziva utyhafile! Ungagcina inqaku lezinto ezincinci ezonyusa imood yakho kwaye zikonwabise xa uziva uphantsi.
Ungabhala phantsi izinto ozenzileyo ngeentsuku zakho zokungabikho emsebenzini ezikwenze waziva wonwabile kwaye unakho, kwaye unokujonga ukuba ingakanani inkqubela phambili oyenzayo kunye nomoya kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo.
Kuyakomeleza ngokwenyani ukubona ukuba ungcono kangakanani na ekulawuleni imeko yakho, kwaye iya kusebenza njengesikhumbuzo sokuba ungathatha ulawulo kwaye uthathe amanyathelo afanelekileyo.
4. Musa ukuzithelekisa nabanye
Sonke siyazi malunga nale, kunjalo, kodwa ke kufanelekile ukuba sikhankanye.
Uninzi lweemvakalelo zethu zokungazithembi zinxulumene nabanye abantu. Oku kuyindalo ngokupheleleyo, ke zama ukungazibethi ngaphezulu.
Njengabantu, siyilelwe ukuba sikhuphisane kwaye siziqhathanise nabanye. Ngokwenyani, oku kwenza ubomi bube nzima kakhulu kwaye kungakhokelela kwiimvakalelo zokungonwabi, umona, kunye nokungoneliseki, zinto ezo zihlala zikhokelela ekubeni sizive ngathi sisilele okanye siphulukene.
Ukuba uqaphela ukuba ezi mvakalelo ziyahluma ngakumbi xa uthetha nabantu abathile, isenokuba lixesha lokuba uzihlukanise kancinci.
Uninzi lwethu lunomntu ebomini bethu esijonge kuye kwaye simnqule ngokupheleleyo, kodwa ngempazamo usenza sizive sibi ngathi.
Sitsaleleke kwiintlobo ezithile zabantu, ngoko ke kuyinto eqhelekileyo ukufumanisa ukuba unabahlobo bakho abamele into oyifunayo-nokuba ingaba bajongeka kanjani, amaqabane abo, isicwangciso somsebenzi wabo, okanye indlela abonwabisa ngayo ukuba phakathi kwabo.
Olunye uvakalelo lomona luqhelekile, kodwa ukuba lukhokelela kuwe uziva ngathi usilele xa kuthelekiswa, kuya kufuneka ufumane indlela yokukuyeka oku isimilo esinetyhefu .
Ukuba uziva uzibi kakhulu ngesiqu sakho emva kokuba ukwijelo losasazo, awuwedwa. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba uninzi lwethu luziva lungonelanga emva kokubona iifoto ezihluziweyo zabantu abakwiholide okanye abanxibe iimpahla zomyili zakutsha okanye bebonisa imizimba yabo 'egqibeleleyo'.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba sizive ngale ndlela - sinegunya koko sikubonayo, nokuba siziva singenako ukulawula indlela esisabela ngayo.
Qala ngokungalandeli abanye abantu okanye amaphepha akwenze uzive ukhathazeke kakhulu ngawe.
Ukuba awukwazi ngesizathu esithile (bangabahlobo abasenyongweni okanye uyabazi ngomsebenzi), ungabathula kwiphepha lakho leendaba okanye iphepha lasekhaya-ngekhe bazi ukuba ukwenzile oku kwaye awuzukufumana kuqhushumbe iiposti okanye iifoto ezishiya uziva ungonelanga ngokungafanelekanga.
Khumbula - bondle ukutya kwakho.
5. Zama ukulungelelanisa iingcinga zakho
Oku kunokuba nzima kakhulu kwaye ayisiyonto eza kwenzeka nje ngobusuku obunye, siyazi.
Ngokuzama ukuseta iinkqubo zokucinga ezisempilweni, uya kuqala ukuzenzela ingqondo engcono kakhulu.
Kusenokwenzeka ukuba awulivanga eli binzana ‘Ii-neurons ezitshisa kunye, zibambene ngocingo kunye.
Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuba sineenkqubo ezifanayo zokucinga amaxesha ngamaxesha, iba yinto yendalo kuthi.
Ingcinga enye iyakusidibanisa ngokuzenzekelayo nenye ingcinga, eya kuthi inxibelelane nokuziphatha.
Ukuba sizifaka kumkhwa wokucinga iingcinga ezingenangqondo, ezinje ngokuba 'ndilahlekile' okanye 'Kutheni ndisilele kangaka?' emva kothintelo oluncinci, ezi ngcinga ziya kuba kukuphendula ngokuzenzekelayo kwaye iingqondo zethu ziya kutsiba ngqo kubo kwixa elizayo.
Kuvakala kuyinto eyoyikisayo, kodwa kuya kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba oku kuyazisebenza zombini ezi ndlela.
Ukuba singazama ukulungelelanisa iingcinga zethu kwaye siphinde sizilungelelanise iingqondo zethu, sinokuzilungisa ukuze zikwazi ukuya kwenye ingcinga.
Izitayile ze-aj zasebukhosini zangxola 2016
Endaweni yokuya ngqo ku- “Kutheni ndilahlekile?” singaqala ukufundisa iingqondo zethu ukucinga, “Kulungile, ingaba kubi kakhulu? Ndingafunda ntoni koku? ”
Okukhona sizama ngamandla ukuba nezi ngcinga zilungileyo, nezikhuthazayo, kokukhona baya kuba yimvelo yesibini.
Kungekudala, siza kulungelelanisa iingcinga zethu phantse ngokungazi.
6. Buza abanye ukuba baziva ngale ndlela inye- BAYA KUVELA!
Oku kunxibelelana nokubuyela kwinqanaba lethu langaphambili malunga nokuthetha nabantu obathandayo malunga nendlela oziva ngayo.
Kulungile ukuba bazive ngaloo ndlela ngaxa lithile. Banokuziva ngokufanayo nawe ngoku.
Ngokubabuza malunga nezi ntlobo zemicimbi kunye nokuthetha nje ngayo, ungaqala ukwenza ingqondo ngakumbi malunga nokuqhubekayo.
Inxalenye yokuziva ngathi 'siphulukene' nathi kukuzithelekisa nawo wonke umntu obonakala ngathi ubethwa ngumoya ebomini kwaye angaze abe nangxaki.
Okukhona sisazi ukuba nabanye abantu bayasokola, kokukhona kuya kuncipha kwaye kube kukhulu ukuziva kwethu.
Kwakhona, thetha nabantu obathembayo ukuba ufuna ukuvuleka ngokupheleleyo, okanye uzame ukuba ngumntu oqhelekileyo ukuba uthetha nabo ungabazi kakuhle.
Uninzi lwabantu osebenza nabo baya kuba nenkululeko malunga nokuba boyike emsebenzini wabo ngaxa lithile.
Umhlobo wakho onendoda kunye nosana usenokuba lusizi kancinane ezantsi kwaye anokucaphukisa ngokungatshati.
Ngokulinganayo, umhlobo wakho ongatshatanga unokuziva esilele kuba utshatile kwaye akatshatanga.
Ngolu hlobo lweencoko, uya kuqala ukuqonda ukuba wonke umntu unento ebenza bazive bengalunganga malunga nabo.
Sonke sinento esirhuqayo kuthi xa silele ebhedini ebusuku, kunye nento ethi gqi ezingqondweni zethu xa sinosuku oluphantsi.
Kodwa asitsho ukuba iingxaki zakho azinyani.
Sithetha nje ukuba nje ukuba uqonde ukuba wonke umntu okujikelezile unento eyenzekayo ebomini nasezingqondweni zakhe, uya kuziva ungonwabi kwaye ukwazi ukujongana nabo.
Sonke sisabela ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwizinto kwaye impendulo yakho kwinto efanayo inokwahluka kakhulu komnye umntu.
Ngokufunda ngakumbi ngendlela abanye abantu abavakalelwa ngayo kunye nendlela abajongana ngayo neemvakalelo zabo, unokufumana iindlela zokujongana nemicimbi yakho.
Umzekelo, ukwahlukana komhlobo wakho kusenokwenzeka ukuba kwahlala iinyanga ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba aye kudibana nomntu. Lo mhla usenokuba wamenza waziva kamnandi ngaye kwakhona.
Wena, nangona kunjalo, uziqinisekisile ukuba usilele kwaye akukho mntu uya kuze akufune. Ke sekuphantse ukuba ngunyaka oko nathandana.
Akukho nto igwenxa kuloo nto, ewe, ukuba ukhululekile kuyo. Kodwa, ngokujonga indlela abanye abantu abaye bajongana ngayo namava afanayo, ungaqala ukuzama ukutshintsha indlela oziphethe ngayo.
7. Fumana i-Trigger (s)
Xa siziva silusizi kwaye singonelanga, imeko zethu zihlala zithatha indawo kwaye siziva sinethemba elingenathemba ngayo yonke into yobomi bethu.
Kunganzima ukuphawula eyona nto isenza sizive ngale ndlela, enokwenza kube nzima ngakumbi ukujongana nokusuka kuyo.
Yenza konke okusemandleni akho ukufumana nantoni na zibangela ezi mvakalelo . Ukugcina uxwebhu yeemvakalelo zakho kunokuba luncedo ngenene- unokurekhoda iinxalenye ezilula zosuku ngalunye uze ugcwalise ukuba zeziphi iimvakalelo ezikhulayo kwaye nini.
Ngokwenza olu hlobo lwento, uya kuba nakho ukuqonda ukuba kukho iphethini (umzekelo, iintsuku zakho zokungabikho emsebenzini uzive ungonelisekanga kwaye uziva ulusizi) okanye ukuba ezi mvakalelo zivelisa nje ngokungacwangciswanga.
Ngokusebenza ukuba yintoni ebangela ezi mvakalelo, uya kuba kwindawo engcono kakhulu yokujongana nazo kwaye, ngethemba, ukumelana nazo okanye ukuzisusa.
Ukuba uziva ngathi akukho sizathu sokwenyani okanye ipateni emva kokutshintsha kwemozulu okanye amaxesha aphantsi, kunokuba kufanelekile ukuba uthethe nogqirha wakho kuba kunokuba kukho into eyenzekayo emzimbeni.
Oku akoyiki njengoko kuvakala, ungakhathazeki!
Isenokuba kukungalingani kancinci kwehomoni okanye ukunganyamezelani kwinto oyityayo eyenza ukuba umzimba wakho usabele ngokweemvakalelo zakho.
Khumbula ngelixa usenza konke oku ukuba ungumntu-wakhiwe ukuba usabele kwizinto ezikungqongileyo kwaye akukho nto iphosakeleyo kuloo nto.
Ukuziva ngathi ungoyinto 'yokuphulukana' ngamaxesha ngamaxesha kuyindalo kwaye yinto abantu abaninzi abanamava ayo.
Kulapho iqala khona ukuthatha ubomi bakho ekufuneka ucinge ngokufikelela kwingcali.
8. Funa isikhokelo kwaye uzibekele iinjongo
Inxalenye yokuziva usilele kukuziva unamathele apho ukhona ebomini. Xa uziva ungakwazi ukuqhubela phambili ebomini bakho, uqala ukugxila kukungabikho kwamava onawo.
Oku ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kukhokelela kwiimvakalelo zokungoneliseki, kulapho “Kutheni ndilahlekile kangaka?” iimvakalelo zihlala zivela.
Enye indlela yokujongana ngqo nale mvakalelo kukucela isikhokelo.
Thetha kumphathi wakho malunga nokuseta iinjongo. Ukuba nenjongo ekujoliswe kuyo kulungele uninzi lwethu - uxinzelelo oluncinci lunokuba luncedo njengoko sizinyanzela ukuba nzima ngakumbi…
… Kwaye uya kuziva ungakholeki xa ufikelela kwezi njongo.
Unokucela iithagethi ezithile zomfanekiso ukuba ukhuthazwa ziibalo kunye namanani. Okanye, ukuba uyila ngakumbi okanye unamagama, cela umphathi wakho ngeenjongo ezibonisa eli cala lakho ukuze uzive ukhuthazekile kwaye utyale imali.
Ngokufanayo, cela kwindawo yokuzivocavoca uluhlu lweenjongo oza kusebenza kuzo, okanye uzibekele ngokwakho. Izinto ezinjengokutyhala kwakho ukubaleka iikhilomitha ezimbalwa ezongezelelweyo kwinyanga ezayo okanye ukunyusa inkqubo yokulinganisa ziindlela ezilungileyo zokuzixhobisa.
Ngokufezekisa into, nokuba yeyiphi na, uya kubona kwangoko ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwakho Kwaye uya kuziva uzithembile ngokuya nakweminye imisebenzi, nayo.
9. Ziqhelise ukuba nengqiqo
Ukutshintsha ingqondo yakho kunokubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka ngamanye amaxesha, kodwa kukho amanyathelo athile onokuwathatha.
Abayi kuba nefuthe kwangoko ngendlela ocinga ngayo, kodwa utshintsho luya kwenzeka kwinqanaba elithile.
Ingqondo idibanisa nombono 'weeuron ezitshisa kunye, iingcingo kunye' esikhankanye ngaphambili. Ngokubeka ingqondo yakho ukuba ilandele iindlela ezithile, ungaqala ukushenxa kwiimvakalelo zokungoneliseki kunye nokuzithoba.
Ingqondo iza ngeendlela ezininzi, ezinye kukucamngca okanye iyoga kwaye ezinye kukuziqhelanisa nombulelo okanye ezinye izithethe zemihla ngemihla.
Ukuqiqa kubalulekile egxile kubukho ngalo mzuzu . Olu qheliselo lujolise ekuphumezeni ingqondo kwaye ikugcine ugxile kwinto eyenzekayo ngoku.
utshate nini u-ed sheeran
Ukuziva ngathi usilele kuhlala kuvela kwixesha elidlulileyo (iimpazamo oziva uzenzile, ungazifezekisi izinto ebekufanele ukuba uzenzile, njlnjl.) Okanye kwikamva (ngekhe ndizifezekise iinjongo zam, andizukuyenza. isixa sayo nantoni na, njl.
Iingqondo zethu ziziingcibi zokutsiba phakathi kwezi zimbini ngaphandle kokugcina ingcinga eninzi malunga noku kwaye ngoku.
Ngokukhuthaza ingqondo yakho ukuba ihlale ikhona, ungaqala ukuxabisa okwenzekayo okukujikelezile.
Uya kuqala ukuphuhlisa ukuqonda kunye nokonwaba kwalapho ukhoyo ebomini bakho ngoku, nto leyo eya kuthi incede ngokwenene kwezo mvakalelo zokungoneliseki.
Ukuba umtsha kukucamngca, intloko kwiYouTube ngezifundo ezithile eziluncedo, okanye ukhuphele iiapps ezinjengeHeapspace kunye neCalm - ezi zombini zibonelela ngokucamngca okukhokelwayo ukuze ube nomntu othetha ngayo.
I-Yoga yenye indlela elungileyo yokuziqhelanisa nokukhumbula, njengoko amandla akho achithwa egxila ekuphefumlweni nasemzimbeni ukuze iingcinga ezimbi zithambekele ekunyibilikeni.
Kwakhona, iYouTube lukhetho olukhulu ukuba awukuthandi ukujoyina iklabhu (nangona singacebisa ukujoyina iklasi ngaxa lithile ukuze sonwabe!).
Ukuba ukhetha ukuyinyusa kancinci, ezinye iindlela zokuzilolonga zinokusebenza njengesango eliya kwingqondo - konke malunga nokuzigcina ugxile kwinto eyenzekayo ngoku.
Ukubaleka kugqibelele njengoko unokugcina ulwazi lwakho ngokubeka inyawo elinye phambi kwelinye, kunye nokuphefumla kwakho.
10. Zama Into Entsha Kwaye Wenze Into Engathandekiyo
Ukuziva ngathi usilele kunokuba yinto encinci kwaye ingaqala ukosulela zonke iinkalo zobomi bakho. Nje ukuba uyingenise, kunokuba nzima kakhulu ukusuka kwiimvakalelo ezingathandekiyo kunye nokuzithemba.
Ngokuzama into entsha ngokupheleleyo, uya kuzifumana ukwimeko eyahlukileyo kwaye uza kunyanzelwa ngaphandle kwendawo yokuthuthuzela uzakhele ngeenxa zonke.
Kuninzi lwethu, nokuba siyithiyile kangakanani, ukungakhathali kunokusithuthuzela ngeendlela ezithile.
Uninzi lwethu luyazibhijabhija ngenxa yosizi lwethu - sizonwabisa ngokuziva sibi kuba kulula kwaye siqhelekile.
Ewe kunjalo, kwabanye abantu, ayisiyonyani kwaye siza kuza kuyo kungekudala.
Ukuba, ukunyaniseka ngokupheleleyo kuwe, unalo ulawulo malunga nento oyenzayo ngobomi bakho ngalo mzuzu ungqo, lixesha lokuba urhoxise elo qela lisizela.
Ukuba kwimeko entsha nabantu esingabaziyo phantse kusinyanzela ukuba senze ngendlela ethile. Ngelixa unokukhululeka ukulila kwaye ube ne-strop phambi komhlobo osenyongweni, uya kukhawuleza uqaphele ukuba kufuneka uyifunxe kwaye uqhubeke nayo xa usegumbini eligcwele abantu ongabaziyo!
Oku kunokukhulula ngokumangalisayo kwaye kunokusebenza njengesikhumbuzo sokuba ungaziva 'uqhelekileyo' kwaye ukhululekile.
Uyakufumana ukuzithemba ngokuzama izinto ezintsha. Oku kunokuba ngenxa yokuba unetalente emfihlekweni ngokufihlakeleyo kwi-X, Y, okanye ku-Z, okanye ngenxa nje yokuba unebhongo ngokuzenza uzame.
Nokuba yeyiphi na indlela, uya kuza uziva ngathi wenze into yokuphucula imeko yakho, kwaye ukusebenza kuyindlela elungileyo yokuqala ukuziva ukhululekile kulawulo, ukuzithemba, kunye nokukwazi.
11. Ukutshintshwa kwegama kunye noMvuzo
Uninzi lwethu luyabambeka kwiindlela zethu kwaye ezinye zeendlela zethu zokuziphatha ziimpendulo zamadolo.
Sithetha kwaye senze izinto ngaphandle kokucinga ngazo, kwaye ngaphandle kokucinga ngempembelelo yazo.
Okukhona umkhuba owenzayo wokuba uthi “Ndiyinkunkuma kule nto” ungakhange uyicinge nokuyicinga, kokukhona ingqondo yakho iqala ukuyikholelwa kwaye kokukhona uziva kakubi.
yeka ukuthi "yile nto iyiyo"
Ubukhulu becala, ukucinga kukhokelela ekubonakalisweni. Oku ngokusisiseko kuthetha ukuba okukhona ugxila kwizinto ezithile, kokukhona zinokubakho. Uyila ukuzalisekisa iziprofeto .
Umzekelo, ukuba uya kumhla wokuqala okhe waba kuwo kwiminyaka kwaye uhlala uzixelela ukuba awonwabanga kwaye uyadika kwaye uza kuwonakalisa, uya kuqiniseka ngezi 'nyaniso' Uya kuba nakho ukwenza ezo ndlela ngenxa yoloyiko kunye noxinzelelo.
Lo ngumkhwa onzima kakhulu ukwahlukana nawo, kodwa ngowona kufuneka wophulwe- kwakamsinyane nje.
Okukhona uzixelela ukuba awunamsebenzi / uthandabuzekayo, kokukhona oku kusilela kwakho, yiya kwingcinga.
Okukhona ezi mvakalelo zikhula, kokukhona uzikholelwa, kwaye kokukhona kunokwenzeka ukuba ubone izinto ebomini bakho ngokungalunganga-buyela kwezo neurons!
Ngokuphinda wenze kwakhona kwaye uphinde uzibhale iimvakalelo zakho, ungaqala ukushenxa ushiye ezo ngcinga zonakalisayo.
Endaweni yokuba 'ndilahlekile, laa mhla wawubi,' zama ukuthi kuwe, 'Kulungile, ibingelilo elona thuba lihle, kodwa yintoni endiyifundileyo?'
Kungenzeka ukuba ubukunye nomntu ongekho kwinqanaba elifanayo nawe, ngoko ke yinto entle ukuba uyicinge kakuhle kwaye kwangoko.
Endaweni yokuzixelela ukuba uyasilela ekwenzeni impazamo emsebenzini, yibone njengethuba lokwenza ngcono kwixesha elizayo kwaye woyise imicimbi oyenze ngengozi.
Akukho mntu unengxaki nabantu abenza impazamo, bahlala benengxaki nabantu abenza impazamo kwaye abanazinjongo zokusombulula iingxaki ezisandula ukwenziwa.
Ngu ukusebenza ngakumbi kwaye ujonge indlela yokujikeleza iimeko zibe ngamava aqinisekileyo, uya kuqala ukubona yonke into ngokwahlukileyo…
12. Funa Uncedo Lobuchwephesha
Ewe kunjalo, ukuba kubonakala ngathi ezi mvakalelo ziqala ukuthatha kwaye zichaphazela ubomi bakho bemihla ngemihla, singacebisa ukuba sifune uncedo lobungcali.
Oku akuthethi ukuba kukho nantoni na 'engalunganga' nawe, ungakhathazeki. Ithetha nje ukuba ufuna uncedo ekufumaneni iindlela zokusebenzela ezikusebenzelayo.
Kungenzeka ukuba iihomoni zakho azilingani, ngakumbi ukuba ungumfazi. Kungenzeka ukuba umzimba wakho uphendule kakubi kwinto ethile kwaye uphosa iimvakalelo zakho ngaphandle.
Ugqirha wakho uya kuba nakho ukukunceda ufumane isisombululo esifanelekileyo kubo nabuphi na ubunzima ojamelana nabo, ukusuka kunyango ukuya ekucebiseni nasekuzincedeni nasekutshintsheni indlela ophila ngayo.
Khumbula ukuba ezinye zezinto ezisisiseko zingenza umohluko omkhulu kwindlela oziva ngayo imihla ngemihla.
Usenokuba ukhe wayiva yonke le nto ngaphambili, kodwa ukutya okunesondlo, amanzi amaninzi, kunye nokuzilolonga rhoqo kuya kuyonyusa imeko yakho.
Ukuba ezi zinto ziziva zinzima kakhulu ukuba zingatshintsha ngokwakho, ugqirha wakho uya kuba nakho ukubonelela ngesikhokelo esifanelekileyo ekuphuculeni impilo yakho ngokubanzi.
Kukwafanelekile ukukhumbula ukuba awuwedwa ngokupheleleyo kwezi mvakalelo. Thatha loo nto njengentuthuzelo kwaye ungazohlwayi ngenxa yokuziva usilele okanye uneemood eziphantsi amaxesha ngamaxesha.
Kungokwemvelo ukuba neempendulo ngokweemvakalelo, ke awenzanga nto imbi ngokuba nezi mvakalelo.
Into ebalulekileyo kukugxila kwikamva apho ezi mvakalelo zincinci khona kwaye zinqabile rhoqo, kwaye siyathemba ukuba ezi ngcebiso zezokuqala kumanqanaba amaninzi aloo ndlela.
Usakholelwa ukuba uyilahleko ebomini kwaye ufuna ukwenza okuthile ngayo? Andiqinisekanga ukuba uqale ngaphi? Thetha kumqeqeshi wobomi namhlanje onokuhamba kwinkqubo. Cofa nje apha ukunxibelelana nenye.
Unokuthanda:
- Ungakholelwa Njani Kuwe Kwaye Woyike Ukungaqiniseki
- Ungoyisa njani i-Imposter Syndrome kwaye uzive uqinisekile ngamandla akho
- Fumanisa ukuba i 'Self-Concept' yakho ilawula njani yonke into oyenzayo noyicingayo
- Uyenza Njani Isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwingqondo yakho
- Ungazoyisa njani iiNkolelo eziKhawulezayo ezikubambezela ebomini
- Ukuba ukhe uzive usisidenge, oku kuyakuqinisekisa ukuba awunguye
