Yintetho engenantsingiselo edla ngokujulwa ngokungathandekiyo kwingxoxo, kodwa inokuba ikwenzakalise ngaphezu kokulungileyo.
'Yile nto iyiyo' - ngubani obenokucinga ukuba la magama mahlanu mancinci anokuba nefuthe elinje ebomini bakho?
Kodwa bayayenza.
Eli binzana libe yingoma ye-siren yezigidi zabantu abaye bamkela indawo yabo ebomini ngaphandle kwesikhalazo.
Libiwe amandla kunye nethemba kwaba bantu kwaye labashiya kwinceba yezopolitiko, imibutho yabucala kunye noluntu ngokubanzi.
Ngexesha elizayo xa uziva la magama encamini yolwimi lwakho, yima uze ucinge ukuba ubufuna ukuwathetha na.
Umxholo othi 'Yile nto uyiyo'
Xa uhambisa la magama, kuhlala kukho umyalezo ofihlakeleyo ozama ukuwudlulisa-nokuba uthetha nabo okanye, ngokunganyanisekanga, kuwe.
Umyalezo ngulo:
ukuba wenzeni xa umntu exoka ngawe
Ndiyazinikela kwezi meko kwaye ndiyeke naliphi na ilizwi ebendinokuba nalo kulo. ”
Uyancama. Uyayamkela into eyiyo. Uyala uxanduva.
Ngokuqhwanyaza kweliso, ujike naluphina ulawulo onokuba ubenawo koothixo - okanye ukubanakho ngakumbi kwiminqweno kunye neminqweno yabanye abaneminqweno yabo entliziyweni, hayi eyakho.
Ingozi 'Yile nto iyiyo'
Esi sikhundla sengqondo sokunikezela kufanelekile kwezinye iimeko (esiya kuthi sizigubungele apha ngezantsi), kodwa kwezinye ezininzi akunjalo.
Imingcipheko yokubuyela emva koku njengoko impendulo yakho emiselweyo iphindwe kabini:
1. Uyayihoya into onokuyenza
'Yile nto iyiyo' inokuba sisizathu sokungenzi nto. Ayithethi kuphela ukuba le yinyani ojamelene nayo, kodwa awungekhe uyenze eyahlukileyo.
Oku kuhamba kwangaphambili kweziganeko kwaye ukulungele ukukhwela. Oko kukufikelwa lilishwa kwakho.
choppy choppy pee pee yakho
Kwiimeko ezininzi, nangona kunjalo, UNGENZA into ukutshintsha okanye ukuphembelela imicimbi. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba uhlale umkhweli ungathatha ivili kwaye ukhethe iindlela ozihambayo - ubuncinci ukuya kwinqanaba elithile.
Unokubakho ngaphakathi kuwe kwaye ungathatha isigqibo sokuba uza kuyiguqula nini ibe yintshukumo.
2. Uyakuhoya Ukungaphumeleli
Sinokubuyela kule ndlela yokucinga xa sifumana ukusilela, ukufihla ngasemva kokungaphepheki kwesiphumo kwaye sikuphephe ukwamkela ukusilela kwethu.
Ngelishwa, ngokwenza njalo, siphoswa ngamathuba amaninzi okufunda nokukhula kunye nokuziphucula thina.
Kananjalo, xa sijamelene nemeko efanayo, senza ngendlela efanayo kwaye sifumana iziphumo ezifanayo ezingathandekiyo.
ukungahoyi indoda ukumenza afune wena
3. Ulahlekelwa yiyo yonke indalo
Rhoqo, sizifumana sibuyele emva kule ngcinga ngenxa yokuba asinaso isineke sokuza nesisombululo, okanye inkolelo yokuba sinako.
Siyazixelela ukuba kunzima kakhulu kwaye yinkcitha xesha lethu ukuzama. Kungenxa yabanye abantu ukuba bavelise izinto ezintsha kwaye benze utshintsho, hayi umntu onje ngathi.
Ingxaki yile, uyilo yinto efuna ukuphuhliswa kwaye yondliwe, kwaye ke okukhona ungayisebenzisi, kokukhona iba buthathaka.
Ekugqibeleni awunakucinga nobomi obahlukileyo kuwe kwaye ulahlekelwe lithemba lokuba ungaze ubutshintshe.
4. Uyalibala Ngokuba Novelwano
Ngamanye amaxesha unokusebenzisa isimo sakho sengqondo sokuba 'Yile nto iyiyo' njengendlela yokuthuthuzela abanye.
Ungabaxelela oku ngethemba lokubonwabisa, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo iyakwenza ngokuchaseneyo.
Iyazichitha iimvakalelo zabo njengezingekho mthethweni kwaye zingenangqondo kuba akukho siphumo sinye sinokwenzeka. Kodwa xa amava abuhlungu ehlela umntu, into yokugqibela abafuna ukuyiva kukuba yayiyilishwa okanye akukho nto ibinokwenziwa ngokwahlukileyo.
Ukuxelela ixhoba lokuphathwa gadalala ekhaya, umzekelo, ukuba 'Yile nto iyiyo, ke qhubeka nayo uyeke ukukhalaza' yeyona nto ibuhlungu onokuyithetha.
Akufuneki samkele into engamkelekanga njengengaphephekiyo.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Ukulinganisa indawo yangaphakathi yangaphakathi yokulawula: Ukufumana indawo emnandi
- Isiprofeto Esizalisekisayo: Eyona 'Imfihlelo' isemva komthetho wokutsala?
- Hlanganisa ixhala lakho ngokuthatha la manyathelo mahlanu
- Ubomi abulunganga - Yigqithise okanye Ukhathazeke. LuKhetho lwakho.
Xa Injalo Ngokwenene
Ezinye izinto zingaphaya kwamandla ethu. Yinyani leyo.
Kule meko, kulungile ukuba uthethe la mazwi ma-5 mncinci, unyuse amagxa akho, kwaye wamkele izinto kunokuba ulwe nazo.
Ngapha koko, kuhlala kuluncedo ukwenza oko.
Intaka ebhabha ngaphezulu iwisa ibhombu emhlophe, emanzi, encangathi entlokweni yakho. Ngelishwa - ewe. Into owawunolawulo kuyo - hayi.
Uloliwe wakho urhoxisiwe ngomzuzu wokugqibela ngenxa yeengxaki zobugcisa. Iyadika, kodwa akukho ndlela ubuya kuyibona kwangaphambili.
Iqela lakho lezemidlalo olithandayo liyenzeka nje ngokuba lixele ezantsi kwetafile yeligi. Kunzima ukuthatha, kodwa unokwenza ntoni?
kutheni imood umyeni wam itshintsha ngokukhawuleza
Kuzo zonke ezi meko, unokuba nomsindo, ubenomsindo kwabo bakungqongileyo, kwaye usebenze kwintloko yoxinzelelo olukhulu.
Okanye unokuqonda ukuba ezinye izinto zingaphaya kwamandla akho, uzamkele njengoko zinjalo, kwaye wenze uxolo nazo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukuba kukho into onokuyenza ukulungisa le meko, ngandlela zonke yenze, kodwa musa ukuzohlwaya wena kunye nabanye ngesiganeko sokuqala.
Ukujonga emva kwiXesha elidlulileyo
Ingqondo efanayo exhomekeke ku 'Yile nto iyiyo' njengendlela yokukhusela ukungasebenzi okwangoku yenye ejonga emva kwixesha elidlulileyo ngesimo sengqondo esifanayo.
Asinakukutshintsha okwadlulayo, oku kuqinisekile, kodwa ukubhengeza nje ukuba 'ibiyile nto ibiyiyo' kukwamkela ukuba ezo zinto zimbi / ezingekho sikweni ezenzeka kwixa elidlulileyo zamkelekile kwaye azinakuphepheka ngelo xesha.
Kuthetha ukuba imfazwe yayingenakuphepheka, ukuba ubukhoboka babungenakuphepheka, ukuba abafazi abafanelekanga ukuhlawulwa ngokulinganayo namadoda.
Kwaye ingxaki ngolu hlobo lokucinga kukuba iyopha kulo mhla kwaye ibangela imvakalelo yokungabi nathemba esithetha ngayo kweli nqaku.
Ukungabikho kokusesikweni kuxhaphakile kwihlabathi liphela kwaye okoko nje abantu beziva bengenako ukwenza utshintsho, oku kusetyenziswa gwenxa kwamandla kuya kuqhubeka.
Into oza kuyithetha / cinga endaweni yoko
Xa ujongene neemeko ezimbi, endaweni yokuba uvumele 'ukuba yintoni' umbono wakho, zibuze le mibuzo:
izinto ezibalulekileyo ekufuneka uzazi ebomini
- Ngaba esi siphumo yinto ebendinokuyiphepha?
- Ukuba kunjalo, zeziphi izifundo endinokuzifunda ukuthintela ukuba ingenzeki kwakhona?
- Ndingenza ntoni ngoku enokuphucula imeko?
- Ndingathini khuthaza abo bandingqongileyo ukuba benze kwaye benze utshintsho oluqinisekileyo?
Yithi ezi ziqinisekiso:
- Ndinamandla ngaphakathi kwam okuphucula ubomi bam.
- Ndiyakholelwa ukuba ubomi obungcono yinto ekufuneka ndinqwenela ukuyenza.
- Ndizakufunda kwilixa elidlulileyo ukuphucula ikamva lam.
- Ndizakwenza ngovelwano novelwano xa abanye befumana ubunzima.
UkuyiSonga phezulu
Akukho mntu uya kukunyanzela ukuba ubulawule ubomi bakho kwaye wamkele inyani yokuba izenzo zakho (okanye ukungasebenzi) lukhetho olwenzayo. Umdala kwaye uphila njani ubomi bakho lishishini lakho.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuba uyabona ukuba ubudlelwane bakho obuqhekekileyo, umsebenzi ongonelisiyo, impilo enkenenkene, okanye nantoni na enokuthi ukhale ngayo zizinto onazo ezinye ukulawula, ungathatha amanyathelo afanelekileyo ukulungisa le meko.
Yazi ukuba 'Yile nto uyiyo' de uthathe isigqibo sokuba ayisiyiyo.
