'Uhambo lweekhilomitha eziliwaka luqala ngenyathelo elinye.' Satsho njalo isithandi sobulumko samandulo samaTshayina, uLao Tzu.
Inyaniso elusizi kuninzi lwethu kukuba sikhubazeke kakhulu ngumthwalo wokuthintela iinkolelo esizikhulisayo kubomi bethu, ukuba asinakho ukuzithemba kokuthatha inyathelo lokuqala nelibaluleke kakhulu.
Mangaphi amathuba amakhulu kwaye anokutshintsha ubomi obudlulisileyo ngenxa yokuba uqinisekile ukuba awukho kulo msebenzi?
'Andikho krelekrele ngokwaneleyo, hayi isini esifanelekileyo, okanye andinazimpawu zomzimba zilungileyo okanye inkcubeko ...'
Kwaye i-monologue yethu yangaphakathi iyaqhubeka. Kwaye inyani kukuba, nokuba ayiyonyani, iyinyani kuwe.
Inyani: Ayisiyiyo le nto ikubambezelayo, yiyo ucinga ukuba awunguye .
Umjelo wokungakhathaleli esijolise kuwo awupheli kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukungahoyi. Ukuqhubeka, ukuthandabuza ukusebeza kwangaphakathi…
Owu, akwaba nje besifanele ukukholelwa izinto ezintle ngathi njengokuba sikholelwa izinto ezingakhiyo! Singaba asinqandeki!
Ngumntu Kuphela
Enye into eqhelekileyo yokusilela komntu kuku woyiswe ngengcinga yokhuphiswano ngaphambi kokuba uqalise.
'Kuza kubakho amakhulu abafaki-zicelo kulowo msebenzi' 'iziqinisekiso zam kunye nezakhono zam azilunganga ngokwaneleyo' 'Andinawo amava afanelekileyo' njalo njalo.
izinto ekufuneka uzenzile xa udikwe kakhulu
Inyani yile, ekuphela kwendlela onokuthi uqiniseke ngayo ukuba awuyi kuphumelela ukuba awuyibeki iminqwazi yakho eringini kwasekuqaleni.
Ewe, zizo ezo zikhohlisayo kunye nezikhohlakeleyo zokukhohlisa iinkolelo ezijongene nokusimisa kwimikhondo yethu.
Ezinye zezi nkolelo zivela ngaphakathi kwaye zisisiphumo sokwehluleka kwangaphambili nokudana.
Abanye bayinki ngokungacimekiyo kwi-psyche yethu ngamalungu osapho aluncedo kakhulu okanye ootitshala abanyathela kulo lonke ulangazelelo lwendalo kunye nokuzithemba ngokushicilela umbono wokuba ayonelanga ngokwaneleyo okanye uhlakaniphe ngokwaneleyo okanye kufanelekile ngokwaneleyo .
Xa ezi mpembelelo zangaphakathi nangaphandle zidityanisiwe, zivelisa imeko ngokubanzi kunye nobunzima bokungayihoyi yokuzithemba.
Ukucinga okungalunganga kuyazalisekisa
Inyani yile yokuba enye yezona zinto zikhohlakeleyo nezona zonakalisayo kubo bonke ubuntu kukuzithemba.
Ukungabaza ubuchule bethu okanye ukufaneleka kwethu ngokukhawuleza kukhokelela ekubulaweni kweenkolelo ezinomda ekugqibeleni ezizalisekisayo.
Njengoko uHenry Ford wathi: 'Nokuba ucinga ukuba uyakwazi, okanye ucinga ukuba awukwazi, ulungile.' Vumela ukuba ukholelwe ukuba awunakwenza nto kwaye yinto efileyo ukuba uya kusilela okanye awuyi kuphuma kwiibhloko zokuqala.
Ke, singaziphelisa njani ezi nkolelo zokuzikhawulela kwimfumba yexesha lethu elidlulileyo elingaphumelelanga kwaye siye phambili kwikamva eliqaqambileyo apho isibhakabhaka sinomda khona?
Amanyathelo ama-7 oKoyisa iinkolelo zakho ezisikelwe umda
Ngethamsanqa, uthungelwano lweenkolelo ezingalunganga ezikhulayo kwiminyaka edlulileyo zisentloko zethu kwaye kunqabile ukuba zisekwe kuyo nayiphi na inyani.
Kukho amanyathelo onokuwathatha ukuwatshintsha ngokuthi uphinde wenze iinkqubo zakho zokucinga.
Ukuba awukholelwa ukuba unokwenza into, uya kuzifumanisa ubuza lo mbuzo: 'Ngaba ndingayenza le nto?' Oku kuvumela impendulo engaphephekiyo: 'Hayi! '' - kunye neyakho Amabhongo atshonile engenamkhondo ngaphambi kokuba uqale.
Ke, kuya kufuneka uzame uku…
1. Guqula Umbuzo
Ukuba uzibuza lo mbuzo: 'Ndingaphulukana neepawundi ezingama-20?' inyani yokuba usilele ngaphambili iya kufuna impendulo engeyiyo.
Ke, kuthekani ngokutshintsha umbuzo uye kufikeleleka ngakumbi: Ndizokwenza njani yehla ngeeponti ezingama-20? ”
Indlela yesibini ikuxhobisa ukuba ufumane indlela eya phambili, uyenze, kwaye wenze isiphumo esitsha nesahlukileyo kunokuba Ukuphindaphinda ukusilela kwangaphambili .
Kukho elinye inyathelo, eliza kubuza: 'Yeyiphi indlela ebalaseleyo yokuba ndi…?' Ngale ndlela uvula ingxoxo yakho yokujonga iindlela ezininzi kunye neyona ndlela ihamba phambili.
Phambi kokuba wenze nayiphi na le nto, kufuneka…
2. Yahlula phakathi kwenyani kunye nenkolelo
Ezi ngqondo zingalunganga zingene nzulu kwi-psyche yethu kangangokuba ngamanye amaxesha singaqondi nokuba zisithintela kangakanani ekufezekiseni amandla ethu okwenyani. Ngokuqhelekileyo asibazi nokuba ‘ziinkolelo’ kwaye sihlala sizibona ‘njengezinyani.’
Isikhumbuzo esikhawulezileyo ngomahluko siluncedo apha: Iinyani zichaza inyani- 'ndilambile kuba andityanga.' Iinkolelo kukubona kwethu ubunyani- “ Ndililolo kuba akukho mntu undithandayo. ”
Kwaye, nantsi into, 'akukho mntu undithandayo' ayichazi inyani (nangona idideka ngokulula nenye).
Akukho mntu? Ngokwenene? Bangaphezulu kweebhiliyoni ezisixhenxe abantu kwiplanethi yethu encinci kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuthi ' Akukho mntu uyandithanda ”phakathi kwaleyo miphefumlo ingaka.
Oku, ke, akukho nyaniso kukukholelwa nje okanye umbono malunga nenyani umbono. Kodwa ‘sisizathu’ esisuka apho simi khona.
Ke, sixelela njani ukuba 'isizathu' siyinyani okanye yinkolelo? Yiphathe njengenkolelo kwaye uhambe nayo. Ukuba yinyani, kunokwenzeka ukuba ayizukutshintsha, kodwa ukuba iyinkolelo, inokwenzeka.
Inyathelo elilandelayo kuku…
3. Chonga iinkolelo zakho ezisikelwe umda
Yiba nexesha elide, ucinga nzima kwaye uchonge enye yakho namhlanje. Cinga ngengxaki ethile efana nale: 'Ulwalamano lwam lusengxakini' 'Andifumani ngokwaneleyo' okanye nantoni na efanelekileyo kuwe.
Ngoku kongeza igama 'kuba' kwaye ulibhale phantsi. Emva koko, yitsho ngokuvakalayo kwaye ubhale phantsi impendulo yakho yendalo ukugqibezela isivakalisi.
Zama ukwenza oku ngokukhawuleza kwaye ungazigwebi- kubalulekile ukuvumela izimvo zibaleke ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngaphandle komgwebo okanye naliphi na ilinge lokuvavanya okwangoku.
Emva koko phinda ude ungabinanto intsha uyithethayo ngalo mbandela.
Xela isivakalisi ngasinye ngokuvakalayo uze uwavavanye usebenzisa amanqaku ayi-1-10 (ubuxoki = 1, yinyani = 10). 'Kuyinyani', yile ndlela iyinyani evakalelwa ngayo ukuba inengqiqo okanye hayi.
Uyakuphela noluhlu lweenkolelo ezisikelwe umda ebezenza ngathi 'zizizathu' zabo nabuphi na ubunzima obuqwalasele.
Inkqubo yokubhala phantsi emva koko uvume ubukho benkolelo ekubambezelayo ngoku, kwaye inokuba kudala isenza njalo, ikuvumela ukuba uyinike igama kwaye ulihlaze.
Emva kokuba uyichongile kwaye uyamkele ukuba iyintoni, ungaqala ukuzikhupha kuyo kwaye ubeke indawo yeemvakalelo phakathi kwakho nayo-uyikhumbule loo nto anizizo iinkolelo zenu!
Ukusuka kolu luvo luhlukanisiweyo, ubekwe ngcono ukuba uzibuze ukuba ivelaphi inkolelo kwaye ubone ukuba ingaba inefuthe elibi njani kubomi bakho.
Emva koko sebenzisa u “Ndiza….” umbuzo ukuyichasa, usenza ukuba kubonakale kungenakwenzeka ukuba kufezekiswe.
Nje ukuba uvule umnyango wokungena, ungangena kuwo kwaye ujonge amathuba amatsha alinde kwelinye icala.
Unokuthanda (inqaku liyaqhubeka ngezantsi):
- Iinkolelo eziyi-8 ezikuthintela ukuba uphile ubomi bamaphupha akho
- Ungakholelwa Njani Kuwe Kwaye Woyise Ukuthandabuza
- Ungayeka njani ukubaleka kude neengxaki zakho kwaye ujongane nesisombululo esinesibindi
4. Ngaba iNzululwazi yezeMidlalo ingabamba isiTshixo?
Kumaxesha akutshanje, isayensi yezemidlalo yezengqondo ibonakalisile ukuba uloyiko lokusilela inokuba namandla kangangokuba inokukuthintela ekufikeleleni kwisakhono sokwenene.
Ukuba uyakholelwa ukuba uyakusilela, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphumelela. Iimbaleki eziphumeleleyo ziya kuba namandla engqondo nawomzimba ukuzisunduza zikhuphe kwindawo yazo kwaye zikulungele ukuthatha umngcipheko, nokuba ezo ngozi zinokuphela zisilele.
Ngokucacileyo, umngcipheko awusoloko uhlawula. Into ebalulekileyo, nangona kunjalo, kukuba ukuthatha umngcipheko yinto ebalulekileyo yokuba yimbaleki ephumelelayo.
Masijongane nayo, kuyafana nokuba nempumelelo kunye nokuzaliseka kobomi bobuchwephesha kunye nobuntu. Ukunyathela indlela yakho ngononophelo ebomini, ungathathi mathuba kwaye ungatyhaleli mida ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kukhokelela kukungoneliseki, ukuphoxeka kunye nokudana.
Ngaba leyo yindlela ngokwenene obubona ngayo ubomi bakho buphaphazela? Ngaba uza kuvumela ezo nkolelo ziphosakeleyo zikukhanyele uvuyo lokuzanelisa?
Ke, inyathelo elilandelayo kuku…
5. Lwamkele Uloyiko Lokungaphumeleli
Xa siziqinisekisa ukuba asizukuphumelela, ayiluloyiko lokwehluleka kwethu kuphela oludlala indima.
Into eyomeleleyo yokoyika isigwebo sabanye kukwayinto ebalulekileyo. Isiphumo kukuba sihlala kwindawo yethu yokuthuthuzela. Ngale ndlela siwuphepha umngcipheko iintloni .
Singalithatha igqabi kwincwadi yesazi ngengqondo yezemidlalo ngokuqala sivume olu loyiko lokungaphumeleli kwaye emva koko siqaphele ifuthe lazo kwizenzo zethu.
Nje ukuba kwenziwe oku, inyathelo elilandelayo kukwakha ukuzithemba ngokwakha umbono wethemba. Oku kunokufezekiswa ngokuyithetha ngokwakho okanye ukubonwa kweziqhamo zempumelelo, kodwa nangokukhuthaza kunye nokudumisa okuvela kumqeqeshi.
Zama ukuzibona uphumelela kunye nezibonelelo ezingenamda oza kuzifumana kuloo mpumelelo.
Zifunele ngokwakho 'umqeqeshi' phakathi kwabathandekayo bakho. Umsebenzi wabo uya kuba kukukhumbuza iitalente zakho ezizodwa kunye neenkanuko nanini na xa iidemon ezingathandabuzekiyo ziphakamisa iintloko zazo ezimbi.
6. Tshintshiselana ngeenkolelo ezindala
Nje ukuba ukwazile ukufumanisa kunye nokugxotha inkolelo ethintelayo kwaye wenze ngokuqinisekileyo ngendlela ephikisana nethuku lakho langaphambili, uya kuzikhulula.
Kuba i-psyche yomntu ilawulwa yinethiwekhi yeenkolelo, kwakamsinya uyakufumanisa ukuba uneenkolelo ezintsha ezixhobisayo endaweni apho ukhoyo malunga nento onokuyenza hayi le ungenako ukuyenza.
Ingamkholisa kakhulu uMnu.
7. Thatha umtsi wokholo namhlanje
Zingaphi iziphiwo zomntu ezinikelwe kuye ezibingelelwe esibingelelweni kwezi nkolelo zikhohlakeleyo kodwa ezixineneyo? Amanani angenakulinganiswa!
Landela ezinye zeengcebiso zethu kwaye mhlawumbi uyakufumana indlela yokushiya ezi gremlins zengqondo zimbi ngasemva kwaye uzalisekise amandla akho okwenyani, awodwa, kwaye angenamda.
Sukuyenza impazamo, ukuthatha loo ntsika yokholo kukungazithembi kuye ngokwakho akukho lula. Oko kwathethi, ukuba nokuzisola okungathandekiyo ngobomi obungaphiliyo ngokwenyani akukho lula ukuhlala nako.
Njengombhali othengisa kakhulu, usomashishini kunye nomqeqeshi wobomi uTony Robbins ucebisa:
Sonke sikufumana oko sikunyamezelayo. Ke yeka ukunyamezelana nokuzithethelela ngaphakathi kwakho, umda kwinkolelo yexesha elidlulileyo, okanye i-half-assed okanye ilizwe eliyoyikisayo.
Zikhulule kwintolongo yengqondo yemida yokuzibophelela ngokuba nesibindi sokuthatha inyathelo lokuqala elibaluleke kakhulu kuhambo lwengqokelela kaLao Tzu.
Umnqweno omhle!
